<!DOCTYPE html>


15 Steps to Sexual Mastery for men: The Ultimate Guide

Hot Sex

Table of Contents

Sexual mastery is something that many men strive for, but few will ever achieve

And that’s OK.

But what’s not okay is that not only do most men not attain sexual mastery, but they never even achieve low-level sexual competency.

In a recent survey of 100 women, only 11% reported that they consistently orgasm during sex with their partners. As a collective of men, we have become lazy lovers. We are certainly orgasming ourselves, but can you say for sure that the women you are with are doing the same?

Enough is enough.

We may never become masters, as there is always something to learn – but we can as men become amazing in bed and master our own sexuality while knowing how to pleasure women better than anyone they have ever been with.

In this article, I am going to break down 15 steps you can take to get as close to sexual mastery as you possibly can. You’ll learn everything from where to touch her to get her in the mood – to how to give her a full-body orgasm without having to touch her at all.

It’s a very long guide, so feel free to use the table of contents below to jump to your desired section.

But if you’re truly on the path to reach sexual mastery, join me for them all. Let’s get into it – your sexual potential awaits.

Key Takeaways

  • The more comfortable you can feel in your body, the more you will be able to express yourself sexually.
  • With the right training and techniques, you can learn how to bring any woman to multiple orgasms.
  • Sexual mastery is not just about making her orgasm. It’s about reaching a new level of consciousness and connection through the sexual process.

Step 1: Be Ready & Able

reaching sexual mastery

There is no point knowing everything you could ever know about sex if you have no desire or drive to express it. As we age, we are faced with more and more external influences from our modern society that negatively impact our sex drive and sexual desire.

On top of that, many men lose the ability to get an erection at all – so when the moment comes, not only do you not go the distance, but you don’t even get started.

This often leads to avoidance of sex and even your partner.

The first step to attain sexual mastery is to get your sex drive humming like an 18-year-old college kid on his first trip to spring break. You may not be 18 years old anymore, but this is feasible at any age with the proper lifestyle, the correct diet, and the help of herbal supplements.

Optimizing Libido

Let’s dive into the fascinating world of increasing libido naturally. Now, before we get started, it’s important to understand that a decrease in sexual desire can have various causes, including hormonal imbalances, stress, relationship issues, or underlying health conditions. It’s always a good idea to consult a healthcare professional if you’re concerned about your libido. 

With that said, here are some scientifically backed tips to spice things up:

Sean’s Advice

It’s important when looking to optimize things like libido or erection strength to take a top down approach. Focus on building overall wellness and vitality in your body and the libido will follow. Then you can use herbs & supplements to take it to the next level.

Get Physical

Regular exercise has been shown to boost libido. Engaging in physical activities helps improve blood flow, increase testosterone levels, and enhance overall well-being. So, hit the gym, go for a jog, or try out a new sport. Exercise can be a fun way to boost your libido while keeping you fit and healthy.

Eat Sensibly

A healthy diet can work wonders for your libido. Include plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats in your meals. Basically, just stay away from the junk. Certain foods like oysters, dark chocolate, avocados, and nuts have been associated with increased libido. And hey, who doesn’t love the idea of indulging in some aphrodisiacs?

Manage Stress

Stress can put a serious damper on your libido. Find effective ways to manage stress, like practicing relaxation techniques, yoga, meditation, or even engaging in hobbies you enjoy. Remember, less stress equals more fun in the bedroom. And if you’re having fun in the bedroom who’s to say you haven’t reached sexual mastery already.

Spice Up the Bedroom

Revamp your sexual routine. Experiment with new positions, role-playing, or try introducing sex toys or erotic literature. Communication with your partner is key, so don’t be shy to discuss your fantasies and desires. Remember, the brain is the biggest sexual organ, so let your imagination run wild

Prioritize Sleep

A good night’s sleep is essential for a healthy libido. Lack of sleep can disrupt hormone levels and leave you feeling drained. Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night to recharge your body and revitalize your sexual desire.

Start with these, then move onto herbs, supplements and more advanced tactics. If your wife is the one who is not interested in sex, then there are many things you can do for that as well.

Supplements For Increasing Libido

After you’ve incorporated the above techniques, look into some supplements to supercharge that engine of yours. Here are some of my favorites.

  • Maca Root – In 2002, a study published in “Andrologia” found that men who consumed maca root for 12 weeks experienced a significant increase in sexual desire.
  • Ginseng – Ginseng, a popular herbal remedy, may potentially increase libido in men through various mechanisms. It is believed to enhance sexual desire by modulating neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, improving blood flow to the genital area, and supporting hormone levels, including testosterone.
  • Tongkat Ali Extract – In this study, middle-aged retired breeder mice were dosed with Tongkat Ali extract for 10 days. The group being dosed with the Tongkat Ali extract showed a large increase in mounting frequency with female rats. We’re not rats, but anecdotally many men report amazing libido-enhancing effects while taking Tongkat Ali Extract.
Pro Level Tip

If you want to take it to an even higher level, certain peptides like Melanotan-2 & PT141 are known to shoot your sex drive through the roof. Just listen to the last 25 minutes of the podcast below to hear some great stories on just how powerful these two peptides are!

If you want even more advice on increasing your libido, check out these 7 sexual health supplements that will shoot your libido through the roof.

Curing Erectile Dysfunction

When heading for sexual mastery, erectile dysfunction is like a giant pothole in the road.

Luckily, it’s most often easily reversible with the same principles we spoke about above for increasing your sex drive and libido. Let’s recap:

  • Pump Iron and Sweat It Out
  • Slash the Sugar and Conquer Your Diet
  • Unleash Your Mind & cut the stress
  • Improve Your Sleep Quality

Then, Harness the Power of Nature:

Certain natural supplements have shown promising results in combating erectile dysfunction. Look into supplements like L-arginine, ginseng, maca root, tongkat ali extract and horny goat weed. These natural warriors might give you the edge you need in the bedroom.

More Advanced Erectile Dysfunction Treatment

If lifestyle changes or herbal supplements are not enough to heal your erectile dysfunction and catapult you toward sexual mastery, then consider the latest in ED technologies.

Created after the huge success of Gains Wave technology, The Pheonix is an at-home low-intensity shockwave therapy device for your penis. Sounds scary, but don’t worry it’s actually quite awesome.

So, how does it claim to work its magic?

The Phoenix Device incorporates a combination of low-intensity shockwave therapy (LiSWT) and vibration therapy. LiSWT is a non-invasive technique that uses low-energy shockwaves to stimulate blood vessel growth and improve blood flow to the penile tissues. Vibration therapy, on the other hand, aims to enhance tissue health and sensitivity. These technological warriors work in harmony to potentially revive your manhood.

Scientific Studies:

Now, while The Phoenix Device’s website mentions clinical studies, it’s important to critically evaluate the evidence. To truly determine its effectiveness, we need to dig deeper into independent, peer-reviewed studies on LiSWT for erectile dysfunction.

One study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine examined the effects of LiSWT on men with erectile dysfunction. The researchers found that LiSWT had a positive impact on erectile function, with a significant improvement in International Index of Erectile Function (IIEF) scores.


Remember, always consult your doctor when dealing with ED. It could be something more serious like Peyronie’s Disease and it’s important to rule everything out.

Beyond what we spoke about above, the single biggest contributor to erectile dysfunction and poor sexual performance is sexual anxiety. Luckily, we’re going to blow that out of the water with step 2 on our path to sexual mastery.

But if you want to learn more about taking your sex life to the highest level possible, check out our HD video course Sex Drive Secrets which is a part of our Ultimate Sex Life Package on Menprovement X.

sex drive secrets

Step 2: Get Out of Your Head

a man who reached sexual mastery because he loves his body

The worst thing, something I have experienced myself, is when you are about to make love to a beautiful woman – but you cannot get an erection because you’re overthinking it.

I remember meeting a beautiful Colombian goddess on the beach of Bali a few years ago. She was there for 2 days and we had a romantic weekend together.

The last night after some heavy kissing in the pool we went back to her hotel room and I was so nervous because I knew I only had 1 night with her. And because of this, my 1 night turned into a night of near impotence and awkward, very embarrassing sex.

Mastery comes when you stop trying to impress, and simply express yourself
John Cooper
Author of Game Over

Nothing will destroy your journey to sexual mastery more than getting in your own head.

The main reasons for this are:

  • Nerves when you’re with a girl and don’t want to mess it up
  • Being self-conscious of your body or penis size

We have a full 10-step guide on overcoming sexual performance anxiety, but what I can say real quick is:

The #1 way to eliminate sexual performance anxiety is to know what you are doing & have the skills to make a girl orgasm without even having to use your penis, which this guide will provide you.

If you know how to make her climax better than any guy with your hands, then you know there will be no risk of her being unsatisfied and you being embarrassed if you can’t get an erection.

And what happens when the anxiety leaves?

The erection returns.

If you are self-conscious about the size of your penis:

You are not alone.

Most guys are. This is from rampant porn use where the guys are all huge. It sets impossible standards. Plus society and the media make it seem like all girls want a big dicked man.

It’s not true.

Some women like big dicks, yeah. But most cannot handle them and it can be very painful. Like penises, vaginas are all different sizes. Some are very tight.

I have been with women who couldn’t take my pinky without pain. And some, where I couldn’t feel anything during penetration. There is someone for everyone.

In order to reach sexual mastery, you need to become comfortable with your penis.
Sean Russell
Founder | Menprovement

Yes, I repeat – in order to have a great sex life, you need to become comfortable while being naked and with your penis size and body in general.

How do you do this?

  • Stop watching porn – it’s unrealistic.
  • Learn how to satisfy women without your penis, and learn how to use what you’ve got. Don’t worry the later steps will teach you that.

Even if you have a medically diagnosed micro penis you can be a great lover and satisfy women better than most guys if you know what you’re doing.

I love this podcast I did with ex-playmate Maya Jordan where she talks about being with guys with huge dicks, and how her best lover, who gave her the most satisfying sex, was actually a guy with a very small penis because he knew what he was doing. Listen here:

So love your body, love your penis, and she will too.

Outside of that, try to stay out of your head when you’re with a women. Don’t try to impress her, or worry about pleasing her enough. This will almost always cause ED. Just express yourself sexually, and let your body do what it knows how to do.

Step 3: Learn Her Anatomy & How it Works

A blonde woman chilling in her bed

Most guys don’t know their way around the female body.

Most know the basics, like the clitoris is the most sensitive spot. But what they don’t know is that the clit has legs which runsd down both sides of the vagina and stimulating these legs is essential.

Also, the clit is extremely sensitive and should not be your first stop on your sexual journey.

Until she’s warmed up/wet touching the clit can be quite painful.

There are a lot of nuances. This is only the tip of the iceberg (no pun intended) & if you wish to have an amazing sex life, you need to learn everything about her body and how she gets turned on.

Squirting Triggers
  • Become a SEX GOD and better than 99.99% of other men.
  • Watch her become addicted to the orgasms only YOU can give her.
  • Guaranteed to work on ALL women.

Her Lady Parts

I’ll let sex expert & Menprovement coach Jakob Wulfe explain the female anatomy to you real quick. This is a lesson in our 15-part HD video course Squirting Triggers 2.0 where Jakob teaches you the pump-release technique that can make any woman squirt. We’ll talk more about that later, but for now enjoy this lesson as a free sex eduction from us.

The Erogenous Zones:

Most men know women have erogenous zones, or points on her body which trigger her sexually if touched or licked in the right way. But most men don’t know where they are.

Jakob touched on it in the video above, but here’s a quick cheat sheet:

  • The Lips: Kissing is an art, and a woman’s lips are the canvas. Gentle, passionate, or teasing, a well-placed kiss can send delightful shivers down her spine.
  • The Neck: A soft whisper, a tender nibble, or a lingering kiss on the neck can ignite a woman’s senses and leave her yearning for more.
  • The Ears: Lightly nibbling, breathing, or whispering sweet nothings into her ears can make her melt and send tingles throughout her body.
  • The Collarbone: Trailing kisses or gentle caresses along the curve of her collarbone can awaken a delicious mix of pleasure and anticipation.
  • The Back: From the nape of the neck to the lower back, tracing your fingers or lips along her spine can create delicious tingles and ignite desire.
  • The Breasts: Women’s sensitivity varies, but the breasts often hold immense pleasure potential. Soft touches, gentle caresses, or sensual kisses can create electrifying sensations.
  • The Nipples: Often incredibly responsive, nipples can be a significant erogenous hotspot. Gentle teasing, licking, or sucking can unlock a new level of pleasure. But don’t go here first, work around the nipples to ensure she’s ready for it.
  • The Stomach: Lightly tracing circles, kissing, or gently blowing on her stomach can send delightful waves of anticipation coursing through her body.
  • The Inner Thighs: The proximity to more intimate areas makes the inner thighs highly sensitive. Soft kisses, teasing nibbles, or caresses can build anticipation and awaken desire.
  • The Clitoris: This tiny bundle of nerves is often considered the queen of female pleasure. Gentle touches, circular motions, or rhythmic stimulation can bring waves of pleasure and intense orgasms. But only after the other erogenous zones have been stimulated.
  • The G-Spot: Located inside the vagina, the G-spot can be a source of immense pleasure for many women. Curved motions, gentle pressure, or rhythmic stimulation can unlock sexual pleasure we men can not imagine.

Remember, every woman is unique, so exploration, communication, and consent are key to discovering what brings her the most pleasure.

For more detailed information, including pictures – check out our Female Erogenous Zone Blueprint which is a part of our Sexual Mastery Package on Menprovement X.

Step 4: Master Foreplay

sexual mastery

If you want to truly satisfy her in the bedroom, you must become a master of foreplay.

Women are not like men, in that they cannot always just snap their fingers and be ready for sex. There are exceptions, during hot & spontaneous sexual situations – but for the most part, they need to be warmed up.

If not properly warmed up, touching a woman’s clit or nipples can be quite painful due to how sensitive these areas are. It’s best to first work the areas around the nipples or around the clit, as well as stimulating the erogenous zones we spoke about in step 3 for 5-10 minutes, along with kissing and rubbing, before going for the hot spots.

But foreplay doesn’t just start the moment before sex.

True masters (like a sex therapist) know that foreplay can begin hours before you even see each other.

  • A seductive text at lunchtime
  • A little note she finds when she gets home

Letting her know that you’re going to ravage her later will drive her wild. Women go absolutely nuts for the anticipation, as sex experts Laura Corn explained to me when I interviewed her. It drives them wild all day, it’s why they love 50 Shades of Grey and other Erotic Literature.

Listen to the entire interview below:

If you had time to listen to that great, if not – that’s fine, just keep in mind that foreplay is super important and there are a lot of unique ways to get her aroused, excited and yearning.

Pro Tip

Here’s a good one: Ask her to hide a dime-sized bit of honey somewhere on her body; your job is to find it using only your lips. Searching every inch of her skin with your tongue and lips will drive her wild.

So don’t forget guys – part of sexual mastery is mastering what happens before sex. Don’t take foreplay for granted and if you want to take it to the next level, then step 5 is for you.

Step 5: Massage Her Like a Pro

a man who has mastered sexual massage

A way to take foreplay a level up, and move towards total sexual power, is to learn how to give an erotic or sensual massage.

There is no faster way to get her turned on then setting the mood with some candles and soft music as you stroke her body from top to bottom with warm oil. This will allow her to deeply relax and let go, which is essential for women on their journey to experiencing powerful orgasms.

We’ve got a quick guide on how to give an amazing sensual massage, but if you truly want to master the art we’ve got a 12-part HD video course included in our Sexual Mastery Package called Erotic Massage Mastery that will teach you everything, plus how to give a yoni massage which not many men know how to do.

Erotic Massage Mastery
  • Give your girlfriend the GREATEST gift ever: the orgasm of a lifetime.
  • Completely unlock her sexual desire for you and get her DRIPPING wet.
  • Learn the secrets to an INCREDIBLE erotic massage experience that no other guy can give.

Step 6: Learn to Use Your Fingers

a man who has reached sexual mastery with his hands

After a deep sensual massage, there is no better transition into sexual pleasure than to give her a pussy massage or pleasure her with your fingers.

Yeah, we all learned to finger a girl in senior year of high school, but did you know there are over 20 different fingering techniques?

Yeah, there are ways to flex and press her pussy that will make her squirm in ecstacy. And you’ll be her one and only doing it. Making all the other guys look like high schoolers with not much idea where to put what.

You’ll be her one in a million, the only guy she calls or texts at 2 AM when she’s horny and itching for a booty call. So on your journey to sexual mastery, my advice is to learn more advanced fingering techniques as pleasuring her with your hands is something that occurs more frequently than you may take notice of, and it can be extremely powerful.

We teach all of these techniques in our 21-part video course called Fingering Mastery in our Sexual Mastery Package on Menprovement X.

15 Steps to Sexual Mastery for men: The Ultimate Guide 1
sexual mastery course
fingering techniques

If you want to learn all 21 techniques and give her pleasure on a level that she’s never gotten from another guy, then check out the course. It’s taught by Menprovement sex coach Jakob Wulfe and it’s one of my personal favorites.

Step 7: Learn to Use Your Tongue

oral sex mastery

We just spoke about this above, but if you want to give her more intense sex than any other guy then you need to learn how to lick her pussy well.

Being able to have sex as hard as you want, be able to pull out when you are close to ejaculation and continue to stimulate her with your fingers while you cool down is powerful. You can keep stimulating her by working the G Spot as she gets closer to orgasm.

You can simultaneously use your tongue on her clit/nipples for even more stimulation.

That’s where oral sex comes in.

Plus, it’s just a nice treat for her on a Sunday morning when you can slide under the covers and make her see God.

If you don’t know what you’re doing down there that’s okay. We’ve got a full HD video course on Oral Sex Mastery on Menprovement X and it’s a part of our Sexual Mastery Package. You’ll learn exactly where to lick her and how to give her the pleasure she’s been craving.

Oral Sex Mastery 🐱
  • Learn EXACTLY where to touch, squeeze lick, and suck.
  • Master advanced techniques like booty play, restraints, and edging for an even more POWERFUL orgasm.
  • Unlock the key to your woman’s heart and watch her become OBSESSED with you.

Step 8: Master All The Sex Positions

reaching sexual mastery by learning all the sexual positions

Most guys know about 5 sex positions. There are a lot more.

There’s nothing hotter than being able to make love with everything you’ve got, and without having to pull out, be able to spin her around, throw her leg her and wrap her in a pretzel to continue hitting the G Spot even harder. Then you can todd her up and pull her in to get to the “deep spot.”

She’ll love you forever.

To reach sexual mastery you should have an encyclopedia of sex positions at your disposal. You should know what’s best for what goal and what’s best for your penis size or her vaginal tightness. Many sex positions can be manipulated to go deeper or feel tighter if you are a man with a small-sized penis. And many can be manipulated to open her up if she’s too tight.

We’ve got a course called Sex Position Mastery where we show you 52 sexual positions and how to manipulate them all to hit the G Spot, deep spot and more.

Grab it as a part of our Sexual Mastery Bundle on Menprovement X if you want to get to the absolute highest level on your sexual journey.

sex position mastery

Step 9: Learn to Control Yourself

15 Steps to Sexual Mastery for men: The Ultimate Guide 2

If you want to have the most amazing sex of your life you need to be able to last long.

Nothing will ruin sex faster than you ejaculating before she even get’s her hands on it.

Studies show that on average, most men only last around 2 minutes. That’s a crazy statistic!

Anything less than 2 minutes is classified as premature ejaculation and premature ejaculation is a man’s worst enemy. So how do you overcome PE and last as long as you want in bed? Let’s take a look.

How to Cure Premature Ejaculation

Being able to last long and control your ejaculation is a skill that anyone can learn, but that doesn’t make it easy.

And once again, we’ve got a course called Easy Ejaculation Control where Jakob Wulfe teaches you everything you need to know in 10 HD video lessons. It’s a part of our Sexual Mastery Package as is everything we mention here and it’s pretty badass.

Ejaculation Control Masterclass
  • Last as long as YOU want, and make her think you are A GOD.
  • 10x Your sex life and strengthen your relationship while building UNBELIEVABLE confidence
  • Learn the secrets to a SPECIAL ejaculation control strategy that famous porn actors use.

What many men do as a quick fix is to use delay sprays which numb your sensation so you can last longer with a girl. The problem is, most PE is psychological and can even be traced back to childhood trauma’s, so I really recommend the program above.

But whatever you do, you must learn to control your ejaculation to reach sexual mastery. Once you’ve mastered that you can take your skills to the next level through semen retention, sexual transmutation and having full-body orgasms. Speaking of which..

Related >>> 7+ INSANE Semen Retention Benefits.

Step 10: Master Your Sexual Energy, Retain Your Semen & Become Multi-Orgasmic

a man who has reached sexual mastery

It’s commonplace for women to be multi-orgasmic, meaning they can orgasm and continue to have sex without a break – leading to more and more orgasms one after another.

But with men, orgasm is almost always accompanied by ejaculation which leads to a “refractory period” when you lose your erection or more stimulation is painful & you have to wait at least 15 minutes to go again.

But orgasm and ejaculation are actually 2 separate things, they just happen at the same time.

And with the right training, you can learn to orgasm without ejaculation, so like the ladies, you can keep having sex for as long as you want. And you can enjoy full-body, multiple orgasms that will blow any ejaculatory orgasms you’ve ever had away.

The trick is to gain full control over your pelvic floor muscles & instead of ejaculating your sexual energy out, you stop the process & pull the energy up your spine using different breathing techniques. This will allow you experience, the orgasmic contractions of the pelvic floor without ejaculating.

Plus, when you pull that energy up – you can experience full-body orgasmic states. Then continue to have sex for as long as you want.

This is one of the tougher skills to master, but definitely worthwhile & the catalyst for getting closer to sexual mastery than 99% of men. If you want more direction, we’ve got a 20 Part HD video course called Lifeforce Mastery which will teach you more about this. It’s included in our Sexual Mastery Package on Menprovement X and is taught by no other than Jakob Wulfe.

life Force Mastery
  • Quit Porn Effortlessly – No Willpower, No Therapy
  • Transform Urges – Channel Porn Cravings into UNLIMITED energy
  • Confidence & Drive – Boost Confidence and Motivation

This type of semen retention has many reported benefits, including a huge increase in energy and vitality. The timeline is different for everyone but many men report feeling this within the first month of practice while some feel this within 7 days of not ejaculating.

It’s one of the many reasons why this practice is a part of my daily (Sex) life.

And it’s basically impossible to do unless you take the next step, so let’s move on.

Step 11: Stop Watching Porn

a man throwing his laptop in the ocean

If you want to reach sexual mastery, you MUST stop masturbating and watching porn.

It may seem like a great way to learn new sex positions or how to lick a pussy, but the sex you see in porn is not what most women enjoy. Plus, the way your brain views it, and how it makes you see sex or women in general is completely skewed.

Porn is unnatural & your brain is not biologically prepared for the level of stimulation it provides.

When you watch porn your dopamine levels are elevated significantly higher & longer than when you have sex.

why quitting porn will help you reach sexual mastery

Combined this with the fact that there is an unending amount of new porn videos for you to watch (unending novelty), eventually porn will desensitize your dopamine receptors, causing a down-regulation to compensate for the extremely high levels of dopamine porn is providing.

This is why 45% of men who watch porn cannot get an erection with real women (scary but true). Sex just isn’t as stimulating as porn, so you start to crave porn over sex. That’s not the path to hot sex. Quitting porn will allow your brain to re-sensitize and start getting crazy horny for real women again.

If you need help quitting porn, the Lifeforce Mastery program on Menprovement X will teach you how to quit porn without having to rely on willpower, because it’s fucking hard. Porn addiction is a real thing and should not be taken lightly.

Pro Tip:

If you are trying to quit porn but you keep relapsing, install a porn blocker like Covenant Eyes that can block porn on all devices. Ask someone you trust to equip it with a passcode that you don’t know and then no matter how strong the urge for porn becomes, you literally cannot watch it.

If you do decide to quit watching porn, I would advise you to go a step further and stop masturbating, at least stop doing it often.

This is called “No Fap” in the Reddit community and has profound benefits.

Also Read >>> NoFap Timeline: Complete Teardown. 🔥

It will allow you to conserve your sexual energy for more sex, and disconnect you from being stuck inside mental fantasies so you can come back into your body and experience sex as it actually is. It’s not for everyone, but it has helped me on my journey to sexual mastery for sure.

Step 12: Take it to The Next Level With Sexy Toys

a man giving a woman a sex toy

Sex toys are often overlooked in the bedroom by men, but definitely have a place in the pursuit of sexual mastery. Get ready to unlock your sexual potential with these popular male sex toys.

My Favorite sex toys:

1: Hugo by Lelo – The Prostate Powerhouse

Hugo, by the company Lelo, is a remote controlled prostate massager that is perfect for solo play or couples.

A lot of men don’t know this, but massaging the prostate is one of the most powerful ways to experience an orgasm. Like in the classic Road Trip scene with Sean William Scott, a couple fingers up the anus can make you experience bliss like never before.

But the Hugo offers something even better. Lelo, being a luxury brand, has created a sleek and curvy device that fits perfectly in your ass while pressing gently against the prostate. With the simple flick of the remote the vibration begins allowing for an incredible sensation of hands-free orgasmic pleasure.

lelo hugo

So lie back and relax as your partner increases/decrease the intensity at their will. All this makes the Hugo in my opinion, one of the best sex toys for men.

2: The Mighty Masturbation Sleeve

Embrace the power of the Mighty Masturbation Sleeve, my friend. This isn’t just your average sex toy, it’s an arsenal of pleasure just waiting to be unleashed. It’s designed with a flexible, skin-like texture to mimic the sensuous feeling of intimacy, giving you a highly realistic experience.

Imagine slipping into a sleeve that’s been engineered to deliver utmost pleasure, each ridge and pattern within working to create a symphony of sensations. Whether you’re looking to spice up your solo sessions or want to add an extra edge to your intimate moments with your partner, this fantastic toy is a game changer.

3: The Cock Ring Conqueror

Rise to the occasion and claim your throne of sexual mastery with the mighty cock ring. This little wonder wraps around your shaft, keeping you harder, longer, and ready to rock your partner’s world. Some even come with vibrating sensations, adding an extra spark of pleasure for both you and your lucky companion.

4: The Pumping Powerhouse

Ready to take your game to the next level? Enter the realm of the penis pump. With its suction magic, it engorges your manhood, giving you a temporary boost in size and confidence. Embrace your inner sexual mastery as you pump away and revel in the amplified sensations.

5: The Vibrating Virtuoso

Buzz, buzz! Brace yourself for a symphony of pleasure with the vibrating maestro. This versatile toy can cater to all your desires, from tantalizing your manhood to teasing your testicles. Get ready to orchestrate your way to sexual mastery as you explore the varied vibration patterns and find the perfect rhythm that makes you sing.

Remember, sexual mastery is all about exploring, experimenting, and finding what works best for you. Whether you choose to embark on the solo adventure or invite a partner to join in the fun, these popular male sex toys are here to elevate your pleasure game and unlock new dimensions of enjoyment.

I get all my sex toys/lube/delay sprays from Promescent.com. They are a really solid company with very high-quality products. I cannot recommend them enough.

promescent sex toys

Step 13: Evolve Beyond Regular Sex With Tantric Practices

a man practicing tantra to get to sexual mastery

One of the fastest ways to reach sexual mastery is to start practicing tantra.

Tantra is a spiritual practice that originated in ancient India, and it offers a unique approach to enhancing sexual experiences and deepening the connection between partners.

Tantra views sexuality as a sacred and integral part of your sex life, emphasizing the union of body, mind, and spirit. Here are some ways in which tantra can enhance your sexual experience with your partner:

Mindfullness: The Key to Sexual Power

Dive deep into the heart of your sexual experiences by embracing the Tantra principle of mindful presence. This practice magnifies your sexual power by keeping you anchored in the sensations, emotions, and intimate connection you share with your partner.

Here, the goal is to deepen your bond and augment pleasure, enriching your sex life in unexpected ways.

Breathwork: The Sex Therapist’s Secret Weapon

Sex therapists often emphasize the value of conscious breathing. Tantra shares this view, suggesting that deep, unhurried breaths have the power to relax the body and bring focus to the mind.

Synchronizing your breath with your partner’s can harmonize your energies, intensifying your shared sensations and enhancing your emotional connection.

Energy Awareness: The Lifeblood of Sexual Evolution

To evolve sexually and become a sex god, you must recognize your sexual energy or life force (known as ‘prana’ or ‘chi’).

By circulating this energy throughout your body, you can ensure it flows freely to maximize pleasure. Techniques like visualization and specific movements are the tools to awaken this untapped potential.

Sensual Touch and Massage: The Fabric of Great Sex

Great sex isn’t just about the act itself. It’s about establishing connection and expressing desire. Tantra underlines the value of touch as a pathway to pleasure and connection.

A slow, mindful touch or sensual massage can activate the senses, increase arousal, and create a deeper sense of trust and intimacy with your partner.

Rituals and Sacred Spaces: Honouring the Sexual Experience

In Tantra, every sexual encounter is a sacred event. The use of rituals and the creation of a sacred space can provide an environment conducive to enhanced sexual experiences.

Whether it’s lighting candles, playing soft music, or using aromatic oils, these rituals foster a sensual atmosphere that deepens the bond between you and your partner.

Extended Pleasure: The Mark of a Sex God

Tantra challenges the conventional focus on orgasm as the end goal, instead promoting the exploration of prolonged states of pleasure. By extending the pleasure beyond the climax, Tantra paves the way for heightened intimacy and great sex.

Emotional Connection: The Foundation of Sexual Mastery

Lastly, Tantra highlights the emotional aspect of sexual relations, nurturing open communication, trust, and vulnerability between partners. Building this emotional connection can enhance your sexual experience, forging a safe space for exploration and deepening intimacy.


It’s important to note that practicing tantra requires patience, consent, and a willingness to explore together. It’s recommended to seek guidance from experienced tantra practitioners or attend workshops to delve deeper into the principles and techniques of tantra.

Step 14: Make Her Orgasm Without Even Touching Her

a man who has reached mastery of sexual energy

Now I have to admit that I have personally not mastered this ability I am about to talk about, but to exclude it from the sexual mastery checklist would be unacceptable.

Many men (and women) out there have mastered sexual energy at such a level that they can give others full-body energetic orgasms without even having to touch them.

Menprovement authors Chris Bale & Steffo Shambo are two of these people.

Chris can give women energetic orgasms over a Zoom call, which fascinates me – as well as in person. Steffo has demonstrated this skill in group settings as well as with his personal clients.

Such energetic orgasms are significantly more powerful than traditional orgasms and can be healing by moving stuck sexual energy in the body and even releasing traumas.

I guess sexual healing isn’t just a popular song by Marvin Gaye..

Here’s a very popular YouTube video of Steffo performing this in a group setting. When people see videos like this, they often think it’s bullshit – but I can assure you this is real.

I don’t know about you guys, but this is a skill I most certainly plan on learning. It’s a very selfless act and while many men want to learn it thinking it will get them loads of chicks, you’re actually not receiving any sexual pleasure out of it – just helping another to.

And I think that’s quite beautiful.

Step 15: Maximizing Fertility (Optional)

A man and his pregnant wife

Let’s face it, sex isn’t always about procreation, but in the pursuit of sexual mastery, it’s impossible to overlook this fundamental aspect of our sexual energy.

So, if you’re ready to step up your game in the fertility department, let’s dive into some science-backed methods to increase your chances of creating life.

1: Healthy Habits Dance

Rev up your sexual evolution by incorporating a dance of healthy habits into your lifestyle. A balanced diet brimming with fruits, veggies, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats can provide the right nutrients to support reproductive health.

Remember to keep hydrated, limit your caffeine and alcohol intake, and steer clear of smoking or recreational drugs.

2: Exercise Rhythm

One of the most fun aspects of sex education is learning about how your physical well-being can impact your fertility.

Dancing, jogging, swimming, or even a spirited gym session can all help you maintain a healthy weight and promote overall well-being. Don’t push too hard, though – as in all things, moderation is key.

3: Stress-Free Serenade

Harness the power of tranquility to bolster your fertility. Stress can wreak havoc on hormone levels, so adopt relaxation techniques that help you unwind.

Deep breathing, yoga, meditation, or simply pursuing a hobby that brings you joy can work wonders. Let the stresses of the day dissolve into the background as you focus on enhancing your sexual skills.

4: Timing is Key

Sexual chemistry and the right timing can make the difference when you’re trying to conceive. Understanding your partner’s menstrual cycle and knowing when her fertile window opens can dramatically improve your chances.

Using ovulation predictor kits or tracking changes in cervical mucus can be helpful. Let the dance of conception begin!

5: Sleep Serenade

Nothing supports hormonal balance and optimizes reproductive health like quality sleep. Aim for 7-8 hours of restful slumber per night. Set the stage with a cozy environment and a calming bedtime routine. Let peaceful dreams of future family life lull you to sleep.

6: Nutrient Nurturing

Boost your fertility by nurturing your body with the right nutrients. Foods rich in antioxidants, like berries, leafy greens, and nuts, can support sperm and egg health. Folate, zinc, and omega-3 fatty acids, found in citrus fruits, lean meats, fish, and flaxseeds, can be fertility powerhouses.

Remember, increasing fertility and sperm count is a playful journey that requires patience, communication, and a sprinkle of scientific know-how.

Wrapping up

Thanks for reading guys. I hope this guide helps you on your journey to sexual mastery.

Sexual mastery is whatever you want it to be. Whether it’s just being free to be yourself in the bedroom or learning all the skills to make her go wild with pleasure, we’re here to help you along the way.

So have fun out there gentleman – and treat your lady (or ladies if you’re having a threesome) with love, respect, and as the Goddesses they truly are.


Yes, after ejaculation, men typically experience a period of fatigue or tiredness, known as the refractory period. This is due to the release of prolactin, a hormone that induces feelings of relaxation and sleepiness.

Sexual energy can be channeled into productivity through techniques such as sublimation, a concept in psychology where one redirects the energy of a biological impulse towards another socially acceptable goal. This can include focusing on creative activities, physical exercise, or professional work.

There is no definitive number as it largely depends on an individual’s sexual health and personal preference. However, some studies suggest that ejaculating between 2 to 3 times a week can be healthy, reducing the risk of prostate cancer.

Men do not necessarily stop ejaculating at a certain age. However, as men age, especially after 50, they may experience changes in sexual function such as erectile dysfunction or a decrease in the volume of ejaculation due to various factors like health conditions and medications.

Did you enjoy this article?

If you did, and you want to take your sexual abilities to the next level – we’re proud to announce that Yuval Mann, Menprovements head sex expert has launched his new sexual training course for men.

It’s unlike anything else on the web and will put you in the top 1% of men in the bedroom : ) You’ll be able to satisfy women better than anyone she’s ever been with and give her the powerful orgasms that NO other guy can give her.

how to eat pussy

This is the best online course for becoming amazing in bed that I have ever tried guys. I highly recommend it – there is no risk, only rewards. Just ask my wife : )

Meet The Author:


Our evaluations are conducted by a group of specialists based on actual experiences before they are penned down. To learn more read our Editorial Methodology.

Several links in this piece might be affiliated, meaning we may receive a commission at no extra charge to you if you opt for a paid service. We fully support and have personally tried these products. This website is not designed to offer financial or medical guidance. For more info read our affiliate disclosure and privacy policy.

Table of Contents

Become The Best Lover She's Ever Had.

sexual mastery for men

We’ve teamed up with sex expert Yuval Mann to bring you what we believe to be the best sex training for men on the planet.

Are you ready to be the best lover your wife or GF has ever had? 100% Guaranteed

yuval mann

Yuval Mann


There’s a strange massage technique that can make any girl squirt (on the first try..) 💦

Learn this, and A LOT more in my Latest online course – Sexual Alchemy For Men. It’s over 21 hours of HD video training with demonstrations on real models – so you can become her “one & only.”

The guy who can pleasure her like no one else.

Unlock Your Potential: Dive into the 12 Game-Changing Habits That Turn Boys Into Men Beasts

The 12 Habits That Turn Boys Into Men Beasts