10 Sexual Fantasy Ideas & Suggestions That Your Wife is (Secretly) Yearning For

10 Sexual Fantasy Ideas & Suggestions That Your Wife is (Secretly) Yearning For

10 Sexual Fantasy Ideas & Suggestions That Your Wife is (Secretly) Yearning For

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A young couple is watching a popular TV cooking show when the guy says “Why are you watching this, you don’t even know how to cook?” The women quickly replies back,“ Hah, you watch porn every day and I don’t say anything to you.”

The point here is, as much as most of you guys think you are Casanova’s in the sack, the reality is, you may be quite far from fulfilling her true sexual desires.

You see, most women have a lot of secret sexual fantasies that men do not know about.

She may seem like a sweet girl, but she just might be waiting for you to tie her down and spank her with a paddle, or would love to have sex on a waterbed.

What would be great is if she told you these sexual fantasies, but in most relationships that never happens.

So What’s a Guy to Do With Female Sexual Fantasies?

First, understand that we, women, fantasize a lot. And despite of all our uniqueness, there are several common sexual fantasies that many of us dream of.

So if you follow these tips & make them come true, you will start living up to the Casanova you see in the mirror.

The #1 Female Fantasy of All Time

Before we jump into the top ten guys, it has to be said. The #1 thing we want in bed as women is to be well fucked. We want a guy who can throw us on our back and make us see GOD.

It’s the foundation of all the sexual fantasies for women listed below.

in a recent survey, only 30% of women reported having orgasms with their partners. so if you’re not 100% sure she’s reaching orgasm, then she’s likely in the 70%.

So if you want to make her fantasies come true learn to give her the best orgasms of her life.

As a part of our sexual mastery package on Menprovement X, we’ve created a 15 part HD online video course taught by sex expert Jakob Wulfe which will teach you everything you need to know about giving her the greatest orgasms she’s ever had. You don’t learn this growing up, so you’ll be able to give her what no other guy ever has (or ever will).

You’ll even learn how to give her a squirting orgasm, which is the most powerful orgasm she can have and ironically is a sexual fantasy for most women. So make the effort, and when she gets home tonight, lie her down tonight and tell her “relax – I’m gonna take care of you.” After 45 minutes of you pumping her into the most powerful orgasms of her life with those magic hands, she’ll look at you like she never has before.

Then come back and thank me in the comments below.

At what point in your relationship should you start to explore Sexual Fantasies?

The name of the game depends on your relationship with the woman.

  • If it is a one night stand – You probably don’t need a new scenario because everything is naturally new; the girl, the personality, the body & the experience. Learn more – How to find a one night stand.
  • If she is your long time girlfriend – This is when you should start to bring sexual fantasies into the mix.

The change in sexual scenery and script will create a sexual chemistry like the one you had in the beginning, when butterflies were flying & just one kiss turned you on. Also, since you already know her, she may have mentioned some of her sexual fantasies already, or shot out some hints.

But what if she hasn’t given you any clues about what sexual fantasies she wants?

If she hasn’t given you any clues, or you have been a bad listener, let me reveal to you some fantasies which makes my blood run faster.

Many guys have no idea how easy it is to please us, “high maintenance” ladies. That’s why, speaking on behalf of my gender, I will give you some tips on how to get extra points in bed and give her some experiences she won’t forget.

Time to be her romantic sex hero and bring her sexual fantasies to life.

The Top 10 Sexual Fantasy Ideas Your Wife or Girlfriends Will Love

Okay guys, let’s jump into the top 10 sexual fantasy ideas for your wife. And if you feel that your wife or GF would never do any of these, think again.

She may just need a little help letting go. We’ve got an amazing online program called Unlocking Her Wild Side taught by Jakob Wulfe. It’s a part of the sexual mastery package I spoke about above and will teach you how to unlock her wild side and open up to her deepest desires.

With that, let’s get into it.

Female Fantasy #1: Master & Slave

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Regardless of what you think you might know, many women like to be cuffed, pulled by the hair & spanked. And if your lady is into one of these women, then the master & slave is the perfect sexual fantasy suggestion for you.

First gently grab her wrists and tie them with a necktie or a rope. Now you’ve got some freedom and it’s the time to start exploring her entire body.

To get warmed up, spank her ass gently and check her response – if she is moaning and making hot & encouraging sounds, spank her again. Start to pull her hair back while you kiss her as things begin to heat up. Begin to touch & slap her face with your penis and finally let her play with it in her mouth. After all, she is your slave and she must do what you say..

After a couple of minutes, head down to her breasts. Play around with her nipples, any game you want to play here is good. Take your time throughout, there’s no rush. Progress to biting her nipples gently (you will hear if she likes it).

The important thing here is to make it clear that you are the boss giving or taking away her pleasure.

When you finish with her breasts slowly kiss your way to her clitoris, then kiss it and lick it, but not too long. Proceed down to her legs, gently touch her inner thighs, kiss her knees and  head down to the ankles.

Then go up again. When you’re back up to her ear, ask if she likes how her master is treating her.

The point of this fantasy is to make sure she understands who’s the boss and that she cannot do anything – no touching, just occasionally kissing your lips or your penis, but she is not in control.

It can be extremely exciting, and after some time she will be moaning and curling those toes.

When you’re the master, you must leave your fears and shyness outside of the bedroom and be as rough as she lets you. This is no place for timidness, just let your temptations take over.

Also, this sexual fantasy is perfect for both of you, because the next time you can change the roles and be her slave. When she ties you down and starts running her tongue all over you, trust me, you will be going crazy.

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Female Fantasy #2: The Trio

Show me a woman that has never fantasized about a trio and I will prove to you that she is lying.

2 women and a man, 2 man and a woman, whatever. Every girl (and a most men) have had one of these scripts in her head. She may be dreaming about two hot males fighting over her body and attention, so if you are not against it, make it happen. That sexual fantasy is not something women are usually very vocal about.

First, start using some sex toys to create a feeling of the threesome during regular sex, or visit a strip club together and see how she responds. If both of you are enjoying this, take it to the next level.

Speak with her, be very open and ask her if she would like to experience a threesome and which gender she would like to add to your couple – him or her.

Let her tell you any worry that she has – it is better to be very sure than to ruin a good relationship. Even if a woman dreams about hot threesome sex, it can be a completely different story when the threesome involves her boyfriend.

She can feel insecure, threatened by the other woman or feel unfaithful while engaging in the games with the other man.

So speak, and speak about it some more. Lay all the cards on the table. Then, if she says yes, you can move forward and invite somebody over for a magical night.

When the time comes, some wine or other kind of alcohol may be necessary to break the ice. Don’t be pushy to get into the action, let the things flow naturally. To heat everything up you can watch an erotic movie. When things start to get hot, gently touch her neck, shoulders, back and when all of you are relaxed, make the first move & kiss her/them.

It’s possible that you won’t have to make the first move at all, if the atmosphere is hot already. But to follow the rhythm of the game, when playing in a trio, share your attention equally (if the guest star is a woman). If it is a man, your girl will naturally get the most attention ,and I’m guessing you won’t want to share your attention equally.

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Female Fantasy #3: The Stranger

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Out of all the sexual fantasy suggestions, this is my personal favorite.

The porn industry is making millions on this fantasy. And for good reason. To be conquered by a stranger is such a romantic and hot dream of so many women. To make it entertaining, dress differently than usual and be an actor for that night. Pretending to be a stranger while exploring her body for the “first time” will be an amazing experience for the both of you.

The simplest start in this fantasy can be this: “Hello beautiful, my name is John, what’s yours?” and then continue the innocent dialog like this “I have never seen such gorgeous lips, can I kiss them?” I am 100 percent sure she will go along with your game and soon enough you will be two strangers discovering each other’s most secret places.

From here, there are so many roles for this fantasy that you can use. Be a plumber, a computer technician, house renovator, a car mechanic, a neighbor who came to borrow some salt or a lost person, asking for direction.

There is no limit to this sexual fantasy. Have fun.

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Female Fantasy #4: The Public Place

This sexual fantasy is all about having sex in public, sharpening your senses & feeling the fear of being caught.

Plus, the charm of breaking the law adds to the fantasy, and all these senses together may lead you both to the highest notes of orgasm.

So, now the most important question is, where?

One of the best ideas for the start up is to make your bedroom more public by making her feel like she’s being watched. What you can do is to create some voyeuristic scene setting.

Turn all the lights on in the night, leave the curtains open and whisper to her that all the neighbors love to peek in. Tell her that this room can be perfectly seen from the street and the surrounding houses. Imagination is the most powerful turn-on.

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Female Fantasy #5: Flying Solo

The saying goes: “Sex with a man can sometimes be a satisfactory substitute for masturbation, but it takes a lot of imagination to make it work.” So, while flying solo might be a little intimidating to some women at first, the right tools and techniques could have her flicking her bean with confidence in no time.

Naturally, any woman will be a bit shy to offer a solo show, so in this sexual fantasy you must bring it up, sit in the director’s chair and make her fly solo. Stimulating herself as you watch will be an amazing scenario for both of you. First, she will show you how she likes it done, so appreciate it as a private lesson.

Second, well, you will understand when you see the show. Turning you on while playing with herself, reaching orgasm – all while feeling incredibly sexy. There are no words needed for this incredible feeling. You are probably already thinking of ideas how to make it happen right?

Here is one: During foreplay, gently take her hand and lead it to her clitoris. Put her hand under yours, while you gently and slowly move both hands, playing with her clit. Do it for some time and then remove your hand, while you let her play with her fingers in this hot and wet paradise. As she does this, start to slide your hands all over her body while you touch, kiss, and bite whatever you want.

Make the crash course even more beneficial by offering up a few luxurious sex toys to help her get the engine running. Between rabbit vibrators, bullets, dildos, pussy pumps and e-stim devices, there’s no shortage of equipment you two could choose. Many modern-day sex toy models are made to be used as a couple, so why not introduce the idea while mentioning solo masturbation?

If you just want to watch, then just stay in front of her. You can also begin to reciprocate the action. Many women agree that a man servicing himself is one of the best visuals she can have. This is going to make the heat rise sky high. 

One the best things about this sexual fantasy is that nobody can be shy. A solo show removes boundaries, which is the key to better sex and a better relationship. The right sex toy can foster more comfort and break down inhibitions simply by generating so much pleasure that’s it’s difficult to concentrate on much else. After just one successful solo masturbation session, your lady lover will be ready to perform at the drop of a hat any time you ask.

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Female Fantasy #6: Homemade Porn

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Being an actress in her own personal movie is one of the best sexual fantasies you can explore together. And watching it again will be even better.

Before shooting the movie, let her get used to the camera. Take some pictures of her while she is taking her clothes off, touching herself or laying in one million sexy poses. But! Be sure to make them black and white, since we women are crazy about our looks, and without a porn-industry make up, we will see three million small red spots, wrinkles, or (god forbid!) any sign of cellulite on our bodies. So, please, make it black and white.

When it’s done, watch it together. This review probably will end with some more steamy sex.

I know MenProvement.com is against watching porn for men, but making your own may even help with any issues you are still facing when trying to give it up.

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Female Fantasy #7: The Fairy Tale

Do you remember when you were a kid, and you used to dress up like a Spiderman, Superman, Cinderella or any other character of unrealistic and fantastic tales?

Me too. Well now it’s time to play these fun games again, but this time for the adults.

To start, you can think of any fairy tale or movie, go to the costume rental and buy a few costumes. Don’t worry if you are not sure about her size, just rent just some attributes, like a crown for a princess or a Gown for Cinderella. The point is to create a fantasy fairy tale atmosphere. Of course, it doesn’t have to be a fairy tale. It can be any movie that she likes, for example, “Pretty woman” with Julia Roberts.

Invite her to the room and ask her to dress up in the costume (or just put on any other thing you have prepared). Then, start the tale.

If you are not sure how to do it, just tell the beginning of the story and when the mind and imagination come into play, start the foreplay, change the script, and use your own words. This fantasy doesn’t have to be an exact replica of a fairy tale or a movie – They are only used to set up the fantasy mood.

You can start, for example, like this:

“Once upon a time there lived an unhappy young girl, Cinderella. Her mother was dead and her father had married a widow with two daughters. Her stepmother and the stepsisters didn’t like her one little bit.

One day, beautiful new dresses arrived at the house. A ball was to be held at the palace and the stepsisters were getting ready to go. Cinderella didn’t even dare to ask if she could go too. She knew very well what the answer would be: You?

You’re staying at home to wash the dishes, scrub the floors and turn down the beds for your stepsisters.

Suddenly something amazing happened. Cinderella heard the knock on the door, she looked through the window and saw a beautiful carriage and a handsome man standing outside of the house.

When she opened the door, she let the man in, he kissed her on her lips and told her, “if you can not come to the ball the ball comes to you. I am your Prince and I ran away from the party, because I heard about your beauty, your incredible breasts, sexy buttocks and your rosy lips.“

This will create a perfect sexy vibe for something hot to happen. Kiss her lips, and start to touch her breasts. Do the same with all the body parts you mention while you start to undress her & get into the fantasy. Don‘t forget to call her Cinderella from time to time and treat her nicely, because for the next hour, you are a real Prince.

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Female Fantasy #8: Fantasy Roulette

sexual fantasies Fantasy roulette is a safe bet, being that it is impossible to choose sexual fantasies that she won’t like. The only thing that can go wrong, is execution, but for that I’ve got you covered with some great tips.

The game begins by asking her to write down 5 (or any other number) sexual fantasies that she would most like to come true. Have some papers and a pen prepared, and have her put the sexual fantasies on separate slips of paper. Put all of the papers in the bowl, close your eyes & take a pick. Then, yep you guessed it, act out whatever sexual fantasy you choose.

Fantasy roulette is perfect to take your sex life to the next level. There is no guessing for you, you will be able to find out her secret sexual desires & you are going to have a lot of fun.

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Female Fantasy #9: The Stripper

Stripper is fairly looked down upon profession, so this feels very naughty for her. It also plays on her desire to be desired by a man purely sexually, if only for a moment.

It is very easy to act out playing stripper fantasy. You can do it from the comfort of your own home, or if you feel particularly extravagant, you can call up strip-clubs near you and have her play around on a pole.

Female Fantasy #10: The Masochist

That means she likes pain. Don’t believe me? Check out the sheer volume of 50 Shades of Gray that were sold.

This one is slightly different than submission fantasy. This one is more about the pain itself, rather than dominance. The reason women like this is because when things that would normally hurt a women are administered in the right way, she feels like pure pleasure.
Pain becomes pleasure.

If you want to try this one you should start very slowly. Start with some spanking, while watching for her reactions to it. If she’s moaning loudly, then she is probably into it. Then you can ever so slightly escalate it.

Harder spanks, pulling hair harder, she will love it if you do it in the right way. If you ever had a rough sex before and she’s ended up with bruise afterwards, you will notice that women don’t even notice the pain during sex.

It can be an extreme turn on, just remember to start slowly and watch for her reactions.

BONUS: Sexual Fantasy Ideas – Talk Dirty

Dirty talk is one of the keys to women’s mind. Before you turn her on physically you can easily turn any women on with. Every woman likes dirty talk, not every woman doesn’t like it the same though.

This is not a sexual fantasy, but it will up your sexual game big time.

You don’t have to call her a dirty slut from the start to turn her on though…

How to Get Started With Dirty Talk:

1. Baby step it. start out innocent and inoffensive. Just break the silence. If you’re at the stage where you don’t even feel comfortable moaning and grunting in bed, then start making them. It not only works as a reward for her (women love to see men enjoying sex), but also points her into the direction of what you like. Never have sex in silence ever again.

2. Once you’re comfortable doing that, you can start using some basic phrases, yet just like in regular conversations, what you say is less important than how you say it. Whatever you say it make sure you have positive dominance and conviction behind it. Deep, slow and confident. it should have a hypnotic effect on a woman.

If you worried about not having a deep voice, it doesn’t matter. It has to be your version of deep.

You may not be able to start off confident, but this is where you will have to fake it till you make it.

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes! You will mess up first few times, but you will have to in order to enjoy the best sex of your life.

3. What to say? To begin with, just translate your moans into words. If she does something you like compliment her on it. Ex. “I love it when you do x”

4. From that point on it is just the matter of escalating it further and further. After you become comfortable with the above points you will find it easier to simply give her commands and be descriptive with your dirty talk in a way that engages all her senses. Remember, the most important thing is how you say it not, what you say.

Concluding Our Sexual Fantasy Suggestions

These sexual fantasies can truly change your sex life forever. If things are getting boring, bring up the subject. Odd’s are, she will be happy you did.

But before you go having fun, the most important advice I have for you is:

Listen to her sounds, read her body language & don’t get lost in your pleasure. The point of these games are to make her head spin around and, of course, make her want more and more sex with her fantastic sexual partner, who happens to be you.

To be sure she is having a good time, you can do a very simple trick. At any time during the fantasy game, kiss her ear & ask her in a silent, gentle voice if she likes it. For example, in master-slave play, you can ask her if she is a bad girl and wants it harder.

Trust me, it’s better to ask than to continue doing something that doesn’t give her much pleasure.

But all in all, if you choose the right fantasy and do it in the right way, the sky’s the limit. Have fun boys with those sexual fantasies.

– Maria Isabella

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66 thoughts on “10 Sexual Fantasy Ideas & Suggestions That Your Wife is (Secretly) Yearning For”

  1. Excellent article, thanks for writing it. I’m afraid it is however too late for me. My ex found her soul mate who instinctively and intuitively found all of her desires just as you have listed here and they continue to have a 24/7/365 M/s relationship to this day. They fell in love instantly. She left me for him and now 2 years later, she is the happiest person I know of. The sad thing is, before we were even married, she told me of her fantasies but I was so wrapped up in mine, that I didn’t listen and I never gave her what she needed…and thus, I never got what I needed.

    • Thankyou for sharing Salva. I hope that will inspire other men to look into their wives sexual fantasies and preferences early on.
      As for yourself, I hope you find the one to help you forget about the past and find your happiness. Goodluck with everything.

      • I love salva’s honesty ,other will play the blame game, acceptance is a good development in healing, I hope you have healed and found happiness . Please reply as I would love to read from you .

    • I was thinking guys you may want to save this so when you bring these things up your girls don’t freak thinking someone teaching you new tricks. The number one rule with third and why women say no, cheating later or worried other girl sex will please you more it will be new to you also, find gay girl that’s not into men at all for the first time, you will still love it too but you know this, and remember the after care.

    • truth be told man, life is more then sex. if she left you over not having super sex. she sounds like someone who is still in need of discovering who they are. there are way better things in a relationship then sex. like simply having someone you can come home to and talk to. or someone you can cry with and trust. be those things and you find that woman who is worth the wait.!

  2. #2 is a great way to ruin your relationship forever. If you are married or in a serious relationship, be very very careful.

    • I am a woman, and most females I know, feel like this in private. But its very frowned upon since girls are taught that having these thoughts, especially now with the movement of female independence and equality, is wrong, and should be embarrassing. Like you are implying.
      It took me 3 years to reveal my desire to be dominated to my partner, he has tried but I know its not his cup of tea so I keep it wrapped up. But its still my biggest fantasies.

      • No that is why many women leave or find a bit on the side. Mind blowing sex or that what did he do to me moment is very important. It`s a connection of minds and to have it you must be completely open honest and love and accept the other persons sexuality and even their past experiences. No room for insecurities or Jealousy that ruins sex. My wife and I can talk about any sexual experience without any hang ups. She fucked a man with a huge dick oh yeah baby. As I replay that to her the excitement and arousal level goes of the scale. WE both love to see the other experience great pleasure without getting upset that it was experienced though someone else. I have had many unsatisfied women come to me through my life to get what their partner is unable and or doesn`t have the understanding or desire to give their partner what they want. In summary effective communication, understanding the other persons needs and desires and never ridicule or criticize that. Trust openness, consider the other person first.
        It not only makes sex how it should be but intimacy, co-operation, understanding are great also. So it benefits the whole relationship and Love is evident.

  3. Just happened upon this, and for the male “disbelievers” (fyi, as a woman), I concur! Within the confines of a mutually exclusive longterm relationship, I have tried and enjoyed the above with my male partners. The key is open communication, and acceptance by both partners of whatever is shared or discussed and it remain in confidence. That does not mean you have to do something that you do not like or that makes you uncomfortable, it just means that if there is something you are not intested in experiencing/doing, then say so honestly, but without any judgement or condemnation of the others desires.
    As for attempting to get a partner to participate in spicing things up as listed above, baby steps, ask about experiences (what is the wildest place you’ve had sex?, etc.), another time ask about fantasies, discuss likes and dislikes, talking an being open without pressuring, making it fun (always! & that means BOTH have to enjoy it or want it or you don’t do it), will in the end get you amazingly far! …winks, Enjoy!!

  4. I find that many sexual fantasies are entertained by both men and women and that adult role play can be a great way to enjoy and live out the fantasies with your own partner. Lately I`ve been fantasizing about being a prostitute who meets strange man in dark hotel rooms and collects top payment for dirty sexual services she’s about to provide. I know for a fact that sex with a hooker is something my husband entertained in his mind on more than occasion so there you have it. All I need to do is arrange a little John/hooker adult role play with my husband and enjoy. It will only cost him is $500.

    • I know a couple who like to play the john/hooker roles. The wife come up with the idea from her fantasy of being a call girl and having different men. He was instructed to leave a fifty after he had finished ! She then advanced to asking him if he had the cash to pay for his pleasure, every time he wanted sex. Then a few months later she informed him that she was going pro with the call girl life and when he objected, she said the marriage was over. several years later she is still single and regularly has sex with different guys. By the way, she is now worth over two million dollars.

      • Richard, I also know a lady who is drop dead beautiful, dark hair and fantastic looks. She is a professional call girl and at 40 years old, one wealthy woman !! ( Millions)!! Her steady guy friend is the CEO of a huge corp. and he pays her rent and utilities for her fabulous condo in Tampa !! He knows all about what she does and is fine with it ! Very few women dress in the kind of expensive clothes that she does. If her friends knew what she really does for a job, they would be shocked. She is in real estate but rarely sells any. Her and her steady regularly goes to Europe on “business” most is covered by his expense allowance.

    • Its wonderful to be totally open about these subjects to your man and it helps a couple to have a terrific relationship. I am a 37 year old wife to my 39 year old husband and from the first we have always tried to be as open about everything, even our sexual needs and fantasies. To be blunt, I love men and I adore a full sex life and I want us both to be sexually honest. We both feel that sex and love is actually two different realms and we should sometimes be with other partners which help our relationship keep balanced. I married at 22 years old and have had at least 25 other men in my life until now.My husband is quite handsome and has had several women in his life and I think its wonderful ! We have no children so its not like we would hurt anyone with our lifestyle. I wouldnt trade my lifestyle for anything !! So exciting !!!!

  5. Unfortunately you so not speak for most women. My wife has no libido
    And certainly has no fantasies. I try to suggest and role play fantasies
    With her and she has no interest what so ever.
    I know many women that are also prudish when it comes to sex.
    I wish that you were correct in assuming that because you are open
    Minded and sexual, that all women are this simply isn’t true.
    Guys, let me tell you from experience if you have a woman that is open
    Minded in the bedroom, enjoy her and treasure her because she is
    Rare and in the minority.

    • I couldn’t agree more, blue eyes. These are fantasies for MEN!! At best, if you are lucky, you might find a woman who “goes along” with some of your sexual desires. This is only an appeasement to “make you happy”. Most women have absolutely no desire for such things especially when they are married and are somewhat older.

    • No not rare and not in the minority.
      I have had sex with well over 300 women and although most will not open up unless you have the skill and knack to get full trust and make a woman feel great about her fantasies ,kinks and deviate desires. But I do and it is surprising to many people that nearly all women have what we can call slutty thoughts and behavior. Women deny or hide it for obvious reason but if they can accept the thoughts and they feel safe and nurtured by their partner. The reality of a woman’s sexuality become apparent. I don`t know how many times I have heard women say I would never do that or I don`t think that way or I am a good woman. It is usually a cover up, plain denial or just a refusal to challenge culture and taboos that are not based on facts or truths. Women hate to be ridiculed or labeled a slut or other derogatory terms. I have got many women to understand and embrace their hidden sexuality which changes their behavior and sexual pleasure .I could write a book on it. A lot of people don`t even consider there is so much more to sex and relationships than what they know. People believe they can not change , when you get rid of that false belief or replace it with a helpful belief, yes change is not only possible but certain. I hear women I know saying I can not tell my new partner what I love in sex and enjoyed with you, because he would go crazy and insult and ridicule me as a dirty slut.

  6. Unfortunately…as an open minded woman. I also have to agree this is not representative of most women. That just like all people, wives, gfs, they are individuals. Perhaps what gets your gal going has no sexual pretense. See my husband is the sensitive one. Which one of the things I deeply appreciate is he helps me get in touch with my feelings.
    I’d never “made love” prior to him. I just did my thing got my kicks, and that was it. Also let me warn you as an open minded woman that’s done trios as well. That yes, it can ruin a good thing. So I warn anyone in a long term relationship. Even if it doesn’t come up immediately there is still s high chance of your partner on either side gaining insecurity in your relationship afterwards. Trust can get very difficult at that point, even with open communication. So better suggestion..,role play your trio. It’s actually easier than you think. You can get to see your lady’s sex kitten, and sweet school girl come out at the same time. Ahhh! Talk about fun for you both!;)

  7. Absolutely false! Not every woman has a fantasy about a threesome. My wife and I have had this conversation at various levels on a frequent basis. She denies any thought of another man or woman sharing the bed with us, or even having those thoughts in a previous relationship. Not only that, I have actually purchased sex toys to which she claims as being “gross” and does not turn her on. We have discussed the MMF and MFM to great lengths. She feels like the MMF would be impossible. First, she claims this is disgusting because she does not want another guy touching her, let alone being inside her. She barely lets me touch her, so I cannot imagine her succumbing to another man’s touch. She wants to be able to trust and be comfortable with a guy, and that creates two issues with a threesome. If it is a new guy, then she does not feel I would be OK with another guy (jealous), and our relationship would suffer. An old flame is even worse, as she knows my feelings already. I gave up on the idea of MMF, thinking that would be more pleasurable for her, rather than me. When discussing the MFM scenario she simply responds, “Oh you’d like that wouldn’t you.” She feels that I would simply use this as a way to get another woman. She asked if that is what I wanted was to @%^# some other woman. Was she not enough. She clearly does not understand the point of a threesome, and I explained that her being pleasured would turn me on more than anything. She denies any desire, and any opportunity.

    • Look up “good girl” fallacy. Your wife is lying to you. Her insistence that the thought of another man’s touch is just over-the-top lying to protect her self-image. I honestly think she’s probably cheating on you right now.

  8. First off, I refuse to believe most or even half of women fantasize about all this stuff. This is stuff guys fantasize about and wish women did, too. A threesome will ruin 99% of relationships it touches and it’s usually men trying to talk their significant others into doing it. Threesomes are for people who aren’t interested in a serious relationship and certainly not all that into the one they are currently in. I was hoping to see something interesting here, but it’s just a bunch of male fantasies and wishful thinking unfortunately. There’s no way a woman wrote even a word of this.

  9. After seven years of marriage my wife gave a handjob to a guy riding in the same limo as her. They were the wedfing party for her sister’s wedding, and on the limo ride from the church to the reception, my wife jerked this guy off until he ejaculated. The other women in the limo were egging her on, and that along with the two glasses of wine she had consumed made her feel “frisky”. I was dutifully waiting for her at the reception hall. When they arrived my wife’s female cousin came running up to me and said, “Your wife did something in that limo that is definitely grounds for divorce”, but my wife over-heard her cousin, so she ran up to me and swore that nothing happened.
    Over the following weeks and months a few other people that were in the limo decided to call me and fill me in. All of their stories were consistent, including the part where they said, “He came all over her hand and her dress, and it just kept cumming out in ropes, and it made puddles.”
    Yes, it still bothers me but we’ve been married for 35 years and have raised four lovely children. My wide still doesn’t know that I confirmed the details with the others who had called me.

  10. Interesting article, I have just recently started a new relationship (3 months) with an old friend of 20 years, initially she said that she had lost her libido some years back and I explained that I have a very high sex drive, and told her some of my many fantasies, her first reaction was shock horror so I backed off, but now it is her that brings up my fantasies every time and she has confided in me that my fantasies are making her wet when she thinks about them during her working day, and the intimacy between us now is just magical and very dirty (whoo hoo) so my advice guys is sow the seed and be patient, make her feel like a sexy woman, sincere compliments go a long way, and never expect her to do something that she is not comfortable with and remember that people always want what they cannot have….

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  12. Article for the dumbed down over vaccinated sheep .
    Three some will ruine your connection -well known proven fact. Unless you are a fag that fucking around it’s your life style . so no worries .
    To have a fantasy of a third persons always exist – to make it reality it kills the fantasy and death to relationship .
    By keepimg this fantasy alive will always make you both hot. But if your girlfriend is a slut that half town already banged her – no fantasies or three some will ever help her either . She is already slut and her feeligs are lost. I suggest you try dog and horse in this case . When this stops working either I can give u more advice how to degrade to more lower level. But what the dumbed down slut sheep can advice to a more dumbed down goat .?
    So long brainless idiots – don’t forget to switch a television ON.

  13. That’s very fruitful really!
    After left hernia operation, my penice got got short and lust down! What should I do? My wife wants powerful lust and long penice

    • That’s very fruitful really!
      After left hernia operation, my penice got short and lust down! What should I do? My wife wants powerful lust and long penice

  14. Interesting and usual moans about threesomes causing a collapse of a relationship. Speaking as someone with actual experience (my wife and I had a FFM), it caused absolutely nil issues and was a fantastic night. So long as both are up for it, both have absolute trustvin each other, boundaries are set and the third person is not connected, then what’s the problem? Grow up people, women can see sex as just sex too.

  15. I just love going down on a woman and sucking & licking her clitoris & Tonging her bum, and more so when they leave on their full back silky or satin knickers, dislike cotton knickers. Love licking & sucking her juices from her knickers ps love squirrels

    • I’m addicted to my wife’s sweet tasting clitoris. When I go down there, I cannot leave, until I have sucked her sweetness completely out of her. All it takes is my middle finger slipping in and out of her ass, to have her thrusting up and down, and gropping and moaning for more.. I now have a strong desire for her to have my friend, with his large cock, to fuck her, and have told her that several times. He has said he would love to, but she has not agreed too. I just keep hoping !!!

  16. If women have all of these secret fantasies, why for Christ’s sake don’t they talk to their partner about it? We aren’t mind readers!

  17. With so many women being real Whores these days which is why many marriages are failing all the time since these type of women just can’t keep their legs closed anymore. The very sad thing is that many of us men were very faithful at the time when we were married to our Ex Wives since it still wasn’t good enough for these very pathetic low life losers. This is a very excellent reason why so many of us very good innocent men are single again since we really can’t even blame ourselves at all.

    • You know what they say about it taking two to tango. The vast majority of guys are pedophiles and wouldn’t know what to do with a real woman if his life depended on it. Thank goodness the writer of this article speaks for herself.

  18. With so many single women being real unfaithful Whores these days which speaks for itself. How can many of us good single men meet a decent normal woman anyway? Been there.

  19. Excellent stuff this is. Having all the sexual fantasies what some women really want but all doesn’t. This is very inspirational post for those kind of people. Sex toys always make you and your partner more exiting. Thanks for sharing.

  20. Those are mostly great suggestions. Wish I’d looked up this kind of site a long time ago.
    One of my fantasies could play out a couple of ways. Sometimes I’d like to have someone drive me up onto a highway and I’d like to show off my tits with someone else playing with them for truckers to see. Pretty basic I know but I’ve never actually done it. Another version of this is to lay back in the seat and tie/handcuff my hands to the head rest. Then open my shirt and pull my skirt up with someone having fun with me in any way they can.
    Mostly my favorite fantasies are in a public yet somewhat secluded area (where we can mostly control who can or can’t see), (while standing or sitting…never laying down) touching, maybe not full on sex but definitely playing with my nipples possibly finger fucking me and under the right conditions allowing strangers to play as well sometimes. (Going someplace other than where we live.)
    I would also like trying a bit forceful sex, some kind of abuse is ok but without getting battered or bruised. . Not real harsh though. Pushing, shoving, tied up, hair pulling while refusing or struggling against but eventually obeying demands and dragging me around to different areas/locations. As well as blindfolded and offered up to another person or persons without my prior knowledge that would happen or even who it/they are. Don’t really want to make it all up myself so he needs to be creative as well.
    I tried so many ways to get my ex-husband to try at least a couple things just in our own home if that would have made him more comfortable. But unless I brought up the subject and told him step by step along the way, which is a major buzzkill, what I might be interested in him doing to me or vise versa he just didn’t seem to be interested enough unless I talked him into it or to come up with something on his own.
    Reading the comments especially really has me looking forward to a new man in my life.

  21. Great article. I loved your honesty and openness and it is very well written. All of these fantasy’s are exactly mine and finally my partner and I are starting to role play some of them. I wish we had started sooner but I suffered from good girl syndrome (never sexually promiscuous) and my partner felt uncomfortable doing some of my fantasies and still does say no way to some of them. I was told all of my life that sexual freedom was unsafe for a woman (which it definitely can be) so we did his fantasy’s only Eg sexy school girl, oral sex, and anal. After 15 years of my suppressed fantasy and resentment our Sex life faltered and our relationship suffered from lack of communication and no sex, I’d had enough after my partner ridiculed my sexual fantasy when I brought it up after years of everything his way (I was extremely embarrassed and it took a lot of courage for me to bring mine up after all those years) but I’m now determined that sex is finally going to be about me as well. We went to a sexual therapist and we talked it out and my partner has opened his mind to role play. I’m taking those words I was afraid of Sl_t, wh__e etc and I’m going to be empowered by them after all they are used to describe women who love and enjoy sex and sexual freedom (As long as your not hurting anyone un- consensually what is so wrong with that society). Surprise surprise my partner loves our new sex life what started as just for me has now turned into for both of us. My partner was certainly more experienced in variety before we met he experienced a threesome , one night stands, had sex in a public place, watched sex in a pubic place and had sex with a stripper. He is my master, he is my threesome, he will be the stranger I have a one night stand with and he will be my stripper. The sex in a pubic space, watching sex in a pubic place and group sex will probably just be a fantasy and may be never be explored but who knows.
    Sexual therapists are great, sex lives are a big part of relationships and I’m very grateful he saved ours.

  22. I enjoy how much everything have changed throughout the years and women became more open to sexual fantasies and sex toys.

    Sex is pleasure and both men and women need to enjoy it to the fullest.

  23. So in typical American fashion American women want to be treated as slutz. That must be the most boring fantasy of all.

  24. Lmao. This list was clearly pulled out of the ass of a man. Women’s greatest desire is to be your slave and be a fairy princess? Do you incels hear yourselves? 😂

  25. My wife liked to be watched and so did i : when we went to the nude beach , if someone walked by she would spread her legs wider and when we went to a club with male strippers , she wore no underwear. But now that we are older and the pull of gravity has taken its toll , I reckon precious memories are all we have .

  26. I am going to brag and say that my husband and I met in our late 30s and it was the perfect time. We not only enjoy each other’s company, but our sex life is fantastic.
    We share written fantasies regularly much like the fantasies written about in this article. We try new things and always make sure the other is comfortable. We don’t add other people but we certainly role play like someone else is there.
    We both enjoy coming up with new ideas and I’m always a willing participant to at least try. We enjoy sex with each other so much it brings a whole level of intimacy I wish everyone could have.
    So for all of you who say this is bs and women don’t want this. Many do want this and more. If you’re lucky, one day she’ll be honest and you’ll be receptive.


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