How To Last Long During Sex – What REALLY Works

If you want to last long during sex, then you’ve come to the right place.

For the last few years, I’ve been on a journey learning how to last long during sex that has taken me to places I never thought I would end up. Learning things that would change my sex life forever.

If you surf the internet for even just a few minutes, you can find articles galore online about overcoming PE (premature ejaculation) and lasting longer during sex… and most of it is total bs. For many years I struggled with bad premature ejaculation. I know firsthand that it can be VERY difficult to take control of this issue, and it can lead to self-esteem and relationship issues if you don’t fix the problem.

I tried all the common advice you hear in these articles, including:

a) Thinking about something else, or distracting myself… All this did was disconnect my mind from what was going on in my body, so by the time I was overly physically aroused (this doesn’t stop!) and ready to finish, I had no control over the situation. It did not help with lasting longer in bed.

b) The start-and-stop technique is another popular piece of advice to last long during sex. Sure, you’ll increase the overall amount that sex goes on for, but you’ll be STOPPING all the damn time. Women need non-stop penetration in order to reach climax. If you are constantly stopping before you reach orgasm, then you are constantly stopping before SHE reaches orgasm, too!

c) Concentrating on her pleasure… While this is a good state of mind for sex in general, keeping her pleasure in mind will not prevent arousal from growing and reaching the finish line.

d) Squeeze technique… pulling out your penis to squeeze it right when you are going to orgasm? Once again, see the start-stop issue… you are pulling out right when SHE is going to orgasm as well. The same thing goes for the advice about changing positions. Also, squeezing my head, or below my head, has never provided me with that “stopping” the arousal effect that this technique is supposed to provide.

e) Having her pull on your testicles… this is supposed to PREVENT me from ejaculating? I remember a girl did this to me one time during doggy style… I completely lost control!

You see, none of the above techniques helped me last longer during sex – but I saw them written everywhere.

If you want to last long during sex – I’ll tell you what really worked.

What ACTUALLY Helped Me Last Long During Sex

So after years of trial and error – here are 3 things that really helped me last long during sex.

1. Kegels

If you want to stop cumming so fast, kegels are a must.

A Roman study published in Therapeutic Advances in Urology showed that the majority of men (who previously suffered premature ejaculation) who performed Kegels for 12 weeks gained much greater ejaculation control, going from ejaculating in under 60 seconds to lasting 146 seconds, give or take 38 seconds. That’s a significant gain! Results continued at 6 weeks after the exercise period, showing only a slight reduction in results first seen after the 12 weeks.

Now, to really reap the benefits of Kegels, you need to target the PC muscle, while trying to relax neighboring muscles. Place a hand on your abs and buttocks, and try and keep them relaxed while concentrating solely on the PC muscle. After a good PC workout, you should see the base of your penis looking thicker (this effect only lasts a few minutes, but is a good sign).

Here’s a video for more clarification:

I found that after a few months of a consistent kegel practice that I felt more in control of my over arousal and therefor untimed ejaculation which definitely contributed to me being able to last longer during sex.

2. Condoms

It is common knowledge that wearing a condom will delay ejaculation in men. Besides the desensitization effect, wearing a condom also prevents you from having to “pull out” while ejaculating, allowing you those few extra pumps that may make the difference between your girl finishing or not.

The delaying effect is especially compounded if you wear one of those “extended pleasure” condoms… just make sure your penetration method is correct, placing a lot of pressure on her clitoris with your lower pelvis (rubbing into it).

3. Delay Sprays

Delay sprays will most certainly help you last longer in bed, but I honestly don’t recommend them long term. But if she’s coming over tonight, then go for it.

These numb your penis to decrease sensitivity during sex.

We’ve compared some of the most popular delay sprays:

• Promescent Delay Spray vs. Dynamo Delay Spray
• Promescent Delay Spray vs. VigRX Spray

But again, I wouldn’t recommend these long term and I would try the pro tips below before trying delay sprays for lasting longer in bed.

4. SSRIs

I went through a stressful time in my life and was put on Lexapro, an SSRI.

I felt like I was underwater most of the time, but let me tell you I literally could not cum. So while I do not recommend you take an SSRI to last longer during sex – I know some guys do. And it fucking works.

A class of antidepressants, even a small dose of an SSRI has been shown to delay ejaculation and make you last longer during sex. It is believed that low serotonin levels are linked to premature ejaculation and that SSRIs can correct this issue, hence leading to improved “control”.

While SSRIs have a very powerful effect, these should be used as a last resort, as they may cause negative side effects such as reduced libido, fatigue, water retention, and weight gain. If your premature ejaculation is very bad, and taking a toll on your relationship though, consider requesting a small dose from your doctor.

But seriously, I was very hesitant to even add this to this article this should only be used as a last resort. Exhaust everything, including the pro-tips I list below, before going here.

Powerful, Uncommon Advice for Lasting Longer In Bed

The stuff I listed above are were the first things that helped me start to last longer in bed. But here are some more powerful methods of overcoming premature ejaculation that are not as well-known.

I learned these as I began to go deeper into the topic.

1. Winter Savory

An ancient aphrodisiac, winter savory has been touted for centuries as an excellent herb for improving sexual performance and male potency. Winter savory not only allows men to last long during sex but boosts libido as well (by naturally increasing testosterone levels).

My own experience, as well as substantial anecdotal evidence, and studies on animals, have shown the same effects of winter savory. If you suffer from premature ejaculation, give this herbal remedy a shot.

2. Ejaculation Control Exercises

I’ve learned a number of ejaculation control training exercises that actually work to “retrain your brain”, into knowing deep down that you can last longer during sex (see here). At first, you perform the exercises on your own (somewhat like edging, but more concentration on the mental aspect), and once you can last as long as you’d like on your own, you apply this “mindstate” during sex.

For more advanced techniques, Jakob Wulfe has 2 programs on Menprovement X called Easy Ejaculation Control & Lifeforce Mastery. These are video courses where you will learn psychological, physiological & tantric techniques to control ejaculation and last as long as you want in bed. But you’ll learn to go beyond that and learn to be able to orgasm without ejaculating.

So not only can you have sex for as long as you want, you can orgasm as many times as you want without cumming.

I HIGHLY recommend these courses, you can access them here.

3. Male Multiple Orgasm

To expand on what I mentioned above:

The male multiple orgasm technique is an ancient Taoist technique that consists of intense strengthening of the PC muscle, and a well-timed, PC clamp (kegel) during orgasm. This blocks ejaculation during orgasm (two separate events occurring simultaneously), allowing you to “void” the refractory period — no downtime after orgasm.

You keep all of your mental and physical arousals and can continue on with a hard erection as if you haven’t even orgasm. You repeat the technique each time you reach orgasm, allowing you to last as long as you’d like… with orgasm no longer being the finish line.

Again, learn that here.

REAL Advice to Use

I know premature ejaculation can seem hopeless. And the “airy” or “wishy-washy” advice you find in most places doesn’t help. But it can be cured my brother.

And remember – you always have the foolproof method of SSRIs to fall back on, should your PE be very severe, and causing relationship issues. But give these other methods a chance, and you will most likely find a winner without needing a prescription!

Thanks for reading! Let me know in the comments below:

1: How long can you last during sex?

2: Do you have any tricks for lasting longer in bed? Let us know! Peace.