Are you looking for a way to last longer during sex? Then you’ve come to the right place my friend.
For the last few years, I’ve been on a journey learning how to last long during sex that has taken me to places I never thought I would end up. Learning things that would change my sex life forever.
For many years I struggled with bad premature ejaculation. I know firsthand that it can be VERY difficult to take control of this issue, and it can lead to self-esteem and relationship issues if you don’t fix the problem.
- Most techniques you read on the internet are not true.
- Kegel exercises and the right condems can prevent premature ejaculation.
- Winter savory is an ancient herb that’s scientifically proven to help premature ejaculation.
What is premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates or “comes” too quickly during sex, often before he or his partner want him to. This can happen due to nervousness, excitement, or lack of experience. Various solutions can help men last longer, enhancing enjoyment for everyone involved.
Why Trust My Premature Ejaculation Advice?
Good question. As I said, for years I struggled with premature ejaculation for many years. I tried all the common advice you hear in all the articles, including:
#1 Thinking about something else, or distracting myself
All this did was disconnect my mind from what was going on in my body, so by the time I was overly physically aroused (this doesn’t stop!) and ready to finish, I had no control over the situation.
It did not help with lasting longer in bed.
#2 The start-and-stop technique
This is another popular piece of advice to last long during sex…
What is The Start And Stop Technique?
The Start and Stop Technique is a way to last longer in bed. When you feel close to climax, you pause and then continue. By doing this repeatedly, you learn to control when you want to finish. It helps prevent early ejaculation.
Sure, you’ll increase the overall amount that sex goes on for, but you’ll be STOPPING all the damn time.
Most (but not all1) women need penetrative sex in order to reach climax. If you are constantly stopping before you reach orgasm, then you are constantly stopping before SHE reaches orgasm, too!
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#3 Concentrating on her pleasure
While this is a good state of mind for sexual intercourse in general, keeping her sexual pleasure in mind will not prevent arousal from growing and you reaching the finish line.
That said, you could focus on foreplay like kissing or maybe even throw in an erotic massage. This will make it harder for you to ejaculate.
#4 The Squeeze Technique
Pulling out your penis to squeeze it right when you are going to orgasm?
The same thing goes for the advice about changing positions. Also, squeezing my head, or below my head, has never provided me with that “stopping” sexual arousal effect that this technique is supposed to provide.
#5 Having her pull on your testicles
This is supposed to PREVENT me from ejaculating? I remember a girl did this to me one time during doggy style… I completely lost control!
You see, none of the above techniques helped me last longer during sex – but I saw them written everywhere.
How to Last Longer During Sex: what actually Helped me
Now where was I? Oh yeah – if you want to last longer in bed and never experience premature ejaculation again, here is what really moved the needle for me. 👇🏼
#1 Kegel Exercises
If you want to stop cumming so fast, kegels are a must.
What Are Kegels?
Kegels are exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, aiding in better bladder control and sexual health. Simply tighten, hold, and then relax these muscles regularly. They are beneficial for both men and women.
So to give you an idea here is a great infographic from Cleveland clinics with Kegel exercises designed to help you prevent premature ejaculation.2
A Roman study published in Therapeutic Advances in Urology showed that the majority of men (who previously suffered from premature ejaculation) who performed Kegels for 12 weeks gained much greater ejaculation control.
They went from ejaculating in under 60 seconds to lasting 146 seconds, give or take 38 seconds longer.3
That’s a significant gain! Results continued at 6 weeks after the exercise period, showing only a slight reduction in results first seen after the 12 weeks.
Now, to really reap the benefits of Kegel exercises, you need to target the PC muscle4, while trying to relax neighboring muscles. Place a hand on your abs and buttocks, and try and keep them relaxed while concentrating solely on the PC muscle.
After a good PC workout, you should see the base of your penis looking thicker (this effect only lasts a few minutes, but is a good sign).
Here’s a video for more clarification. 👇🏼
I found that after a few months of a consistent kegel practice that I felt more in control of my over arousal and therefore premature ejaculation which definitely contributed to me being able to last longer during sex.
It is common knowledge that wearing a condom will delay ejaculation in men.5 👇🏼
Besides the desensitization effect, wearing a condom also prevents you from having to “pull out“ while ejaculating, allowing you those few extra pumps that may make the difference between your girl achieving true sexual pleasure (orgasm kuch kuch) or not.
The delaying effect is especially compounded if you wear one of those “extended pleasure” condoms.
just make sure your penetration method is correct, placing a lot of pressure on her clitoris with your lower pelvis (rubbing into it).
#3 Delay Sprays
Delay sprays will most certainly help you last longer in bed, but I honestly don’t recommend them long term.
These numb your penis to decrease sensitivity during penetrative sex.
But again, I wouldn’t recommend these long term and I would try the pro tips below before trying delay sprays for lasting longer in bed.
I went through a stressful time in my life and was put on Lexapro, an SSRI.6
What is SSRI?
Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) are a class of drugs commonly used to treat depression. They work by increasing levels of serotonin in the brain, which improves mood. SSRIs are often prescribed because they tend to have fewer side effects than other types of antidepressants.
I felt like I was underwater most of the time, but let me tell you I LITERALLY could not cum. So while I do not recommend you take an SSRI to last longer during sex – I know some guys do. And it fucking works.
A class of antidepressants, even a small dose of an SSRI has been shown to delay ejaculation and make you last longer during (penetrative) sex. It is believed that low serotonin levels are linked to premature ejaculation and that SSRIs can correct this issue, hence leading to improved “control”.7
While SSRIs have a very powerful effect, these should be used as a last resort, as they may cause negative side effects such as;8
- Feeling sick or throwing up
- Feeling sleepy
- Dry mouth
- Trouble sleeping
- Feeling nervous or restless
- Feeling dizzy
- Issues with sex drive or performance
- Changes in appetite, causing weight loss or gain
If your premature ejaculation is very bad, and taking a toll on your relationship though, consider talking to a sex therapist and request a small dose from your doctor.
But seriously, I was very hesitant to even add this to this article this should only be used as a last resort. Exhaust everything, including the pro-tips I list below, before going here.
#5 Choose sex positions that’ll help you last longer
Now I know this is contradictive since I previously mentioned how switching sex positions doesn’t help and is bs.
BUT – did you know that certain sex positions can make a significant difference,9 especially if you’re concerned about premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction?
That’s right bro, science tells us that the following sex positions tend to result in less arousal and help you with premature ejaculation. 👇🏼
- Spoon: This side-by-side position limits deep thrusts and allows for gentle, controlled movements.
- Cowgirl: Letting your partner take the lead can help you control your arousal better.
- Reverse Cowgirl: A different angle but still allowing your partner to dictate the pace.
- Missionary with a twist: Place a pillow under your partner’s hips. It changes the angle and can help you last longer.
#6 Live a healthy lifestyle
Leading a healthy lifestyle isn’t just about looking good; it can greatly impact your sexual health too. Issues like premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction can sometimes be fixed by just adopting a healthier way of life.
I actually tried monk mode for 3 months where I:
Not only did I feel damn good but I was able to last longer in bed than ever before. It also helped that I was training my pelvic floor muscles reguraly with the exercises in #1.
#7 Masturbate beforehand
If you struggle to last long in bed, try masturbating a bit earlier before the main event.
Fapping might sound too simple, but it’s a classic for a reason. When you orgasm, your body releases a slew of chemicals that naturally help to delay your next ejaculation. This means that by the time you’re with your partner, you’ll have a better shot at lasting longer. 10
Plus, understanding your own sexual arousal better can be a secret weapon in improving your sexual health and combating premature ejaculation. 💪🏼
#8 Use Anesthetic Wipes
Ever heard of anesthetic wipes?
They might be your new best friend in the bedroom.
These wipes contain mild anesthetics like benzocaine that lightly numb the sensitive skin of your penis, helping you keep going for longer.
While I haven’t tried it myself, men in studies have reported that using these wipes helps them delay ejaculation, providing a more satisfying and extended sexual experience for both partners.11 Give it a try next time, it’s straightforward and discreet!
#9 Take Viagra
Beyond helping with erectile dysfunction, it can also help you last longer in bed.
What is Viagra?
Viagra is a medication that helps men with erectile dysfunction get and keep an erection. It works by increasing blood flow to the penis during sexual activity, making it easier to maintain an erection for a longer period.
Many men have noted increased confidence and satisfaction in their sexual performance after using Viagra and science backs it up. 👇🏼
- A 2007 study showed that using Viagra for 6 months effectively treated premature ejaculation (PE), working better than the squeeze technique. 12
- Another study found that people taking sildenafil (the generic version of Viagra) experienced better control over ejaculation, more confidence, and greater sexual satisfaction compared to those taking a placebo.13
Just make sure to have a chat with your healthcare provider before buying some shady pills on the deepweb…
Powerful, Uncommon Advice for Lasting Longer In Bed
The stuff I listed above are the first things that helped me start to last longer in bed. But here are some more powerful methods of overcoming premature ejaculation that are not as well-known.14
I learned these as I began to go deeper into the topic.
#1 Winter Savory
An ancient aphrodisiac, winter savory has been touted for centuries as an excellent herb for improving sexual performance and male potency. Winter savory not only allows men to last long during sex but boosts libido as well (by naturally increasing testosterone levels).15
If you suffer from premature ejaculation, give this herbal remedy a shot.
#2 Ejaculation Control Exercises
I’ve learned a number of ejaculation control training exercises that actually work to “retrain your brain”, into knowing deep down that you can last longer during sex.
At first, you perform the exercises on your own (somewhat like edging, but more concentration on the mental aspect), and once you can last as long as you’d like on your own, you apply this “mindstate” during sex.
For more advanced techniques, Jakob Wulfe has 2 programs on Menprovement X called Easy Ejaculation Control & Lifeforce Mastery.
These are video courses where you will learn psychological, physiological & tantric techniques to control ejaculation and last as long as you want in bed. But you’ll learn to go beyond that and learn to be able to orgasm without ejaculating.
So not only can you have sex for as long as you want, you can orgasm as many times as you want without cumming.
I HIGHLY recommend these courses.
So What Have We learned?
I know premature ejaculation can seem hopeless. And the “airy” or “wishy-washy” advice you find in most places doesn’t help. But it can be cured my brother.
And remember – you always have the foolproof method of SSRIs to fall back on, should your premature ejaculation be very severe, and causing relationship issues. But give these other methods a chance, and you will most likely find a winner without needing a prescription.
Thanks for reading!
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