Porn Addiction: This Shit is REAL & it’s Holding You Back

Porn Addiction: This Shit is REAL & it’s Holding You Back

Porn Addiction: This Shit is REAL & it’s Holding You Back

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Porn is Kryptonite for men.

If you are committed to living a great life and being an incredible man you must eradicate porn. It is the first and most important step in the entire process.

I’m not here preaching porn is “morally wrong”, or against religion. I’m preaching that porn is holding you back from being the greatest man you can. And to me, that’s the biggest sin of all.

Before you read this article

If you have 15 minutes I HIGHLY recommend you watch this video. It is a TED talk on porn addiction, its extremely fascinating and will open your eyes.

What is porn addiction?

You may think of porn addiction as being only an extreme form of watching porn, that severely interferes with one’s life.

This is far from the truth.

Porn addiction is much more widespread than anyone realizes. I challenge you right now after reading this to not watch porn for a week. If you would have a tough time doing that, you are indeed addicted.

As a regular porn viewer from the age of 13 to 23, I too thought my porn habits were completely normal.

The problem is that watching porn in our society has become absolutely normal. It is so widely accepted to watch porn, quite frankly you are considered weird if you don’t.

But the 95% of men out there that watch porn on a regular basis are truly addicted to it.

It’s like caffeine, it is an acceptable addiction.

Like I said, try not to watch porn for a week. You will have an extremely tough time because you are so drawn to porn, every time you are aroused, bored, or any other emotion. The problem is that you’ve become drawn to porn, more than you’re drawn to women.

Imagine if you could break away from this desire for porn. Imagine if, while all the other guys are using their motivation and vigor up on their computer screens, you were out using it on real women.

Imagine how incredible you could become.

“Everybody watches porn.”

Again, You’re absolutely right, and this should be your greatest advantage.

If you want to keep being like everybody else then keep watching porn and masturbating.

But if you want to be those top 5% of men who get 80% of the women out there then you need to radically change your life. You need to separate yourself from the crowd.

So why is porn so bad?

So we know that porn is bad.

But what are some of the main reason why it is holding you back from being great?

1) Porn takes away all motivation to connect with the opposite sex

There is no need to approach women when you have porn. You have all your sexual desires at your fingertips, which causes you to never develop the game and to go straight to your laptop when you’re horny instead of trying to find a real girl.

2) Porn makes you weak and lazy

Men who watch a lot of porn lay around their house all day masturbating themselves into a coma. This frequent ejaculation takes away all motivation to go out and live life. Hours wasted every day.

3) Porn causes erectile dysfunction

When you watch too much porn for too long your mind becomes accustomed to fantasy. When you are with a real girl you may have a very hard time getting a boner. Also, porn gives you a false sense of what women and sex are like. Not all women look like these porn stars so when you with a normal girl your arousal will be all screwed up.

4) Porn creates penis related self-esteem issues

The reality is that 90% of men who watch porn do not have huge dicks like the porn actors they see. This creates big problems for men. Men who watch porn develop a false sense of the normal penis size and start to think of themselves as inadequate. This leads to a lack of self-confidence in the bedroom, resulting in problems getting hard, timidness and a terrible sex life!

5) Porn ruins relationships

Porn will completely ruin your relationship if you let it get its hold on you. Unless your wife looks like those women you are jerking off too, or you guys are having threesomes with other hot girls, you are going to be much more interested in your fake fantasies than that lovely lady in the other room. When the love life falls apart, the relationship falls apart.

6) Guys who bang lots of chicks don’t watch porn

Do you really think awesome guys you see in the club leaving with two beautiful girls sit home and watch porn all day? There is not a chance. Guys like this live their life, have beautiful sex with real girls, and get shit done.

For a bigger more complete list of benefits, check out The Top Ten Reasons to Stop Watching Porn.

Imagine a world with no porn

Take a second and really imagine yourself without porn in your life. Also, imagine that you physically couldn’t masturbate. How amazing would your sex life be? When you got horny you would have no choice but to go out and hit on women, trying to meet a new sexual partner.

You would be the man.

You wouldn’t immediately hit up your laptop every time you felt the urge. Instead, out of necessity, you would have regular girls who you could text, and be awesome at talking to and meeting new amazing women. Your brain would be completely reprogrammed. 

This is not a fantasy. You can absolutely be this man. You can reprogram your brain.

If you decide right now, after reading this article, that you will not masturbate to porn again I know that in 90 days you will be:

1) Much better at talking to women

2) Seeking and finding sex at a subconscious level

3) Happier

4) More energized

5) You will be an absolute boss

This is a competitive edge that you can have over 95% of men out there, I can’t stress it enough.

Your brain will be programmed to seek real women and new connections, while theirs will be programmed to seek women on a computer screen. You will be better at talking to women than them, and you will do so at a subconscious level.

You can do this. All it takes is one day where you decide that you want to make the most of yourself and your life. That’s how change happens.

It’s not going to be easy

Quitting porn is one of the most challenging things you will ever do.

So if you’re ready to level up your life, and embark on this journey, I have created an absolutely free 5 step quitting porn success plan to help you succeed.

You can access it for free at Menprovement.com/porn-free-me.

It’s absolutely essential.

After long term porn use your brain becomes accustomed to high levels of Dopamine being released on a daily basis. The result is a downregulation of your Dopamine receptors to create homeostasis at this new level of Dopamine. This means, you have less receptor sites in your brain to account for the higher levels of Dopamine.

Everything balances out.

This is what makes it so hard to quit porn. When you quit your brain will be out of balance, and it’s stubborn. It won’t want to adjust to life without porn – it will want porn back and it’s very good at getting what it wants.

And unlike any other drug in the world, porn is free. It can be accessed instantaneously anywhere, anytime. And in seemingly never ending quantities.

You can have the willpower of a Tibetan Monk, but without a plan, you are almost certain to go back to porn.

I failed over and over again for 4 years until I learned what I am about to teach you.

Save yourself this frustration.

Head to Menprovement.com/porn-free-me and join thousands of men in our community on this path to living the most badass life you can.

As you can see porn really does affect your brain like a drug. When you stop after years of daily use you actually go through withdrawals.

Porn withdrawal symptoms include, but are not limited to:

1) Anxiety

2) Fatigue

3) Depression

4) Agitation

5) Insomnia

6) Mania

7) Body Aches

8) Brain Fog

The duration that these symptoms last is completely dependent on how deep your addiction is and how long you have been addicted to.

Sounds like a drug withdrawal right? That’s because it is.

If you don’t think porn withdrawals exist read on…

Take a look at a few out of thousands of testimonials of men who have recently quit viewing porn.

“My body and mind has been flipping out too. I’ve gotten sick twice. Stomach problems, appetite, headache, lost weight. Its a true withdrawal and different people respond differently. the good thing is that when I have seen my friends recover from booze they are pretty motivated and bright for a while, at least until they pick up their next distraction (sometimes healthier). One of my friends used to be overweight, when he stopped his addiction he started going to the gym and got all buff. hang in there, it sucks, but worth it.”

“My mind will not shut off, I can lay in bed for what can seem like an eternity and not fall asleep. I have tons of anxiety (not about porn, just about not sleeping) when I go to bed, but I don’t seem to have any real depression. I’m averaging about 3 to 4 hours a night if i’m lucky. I’ve tried tylenol pm, excedrin pm, nyquil, melatonin  alka seltzer night time, and 12.5 ml of ambien cr and NOTHING HELPS.”

“Here are the withdrawal symptoms I have experienced: Intense bouts of anger leading to interpersonal difficulties, Aggressive demeanor, Easily stressed out, suicidal ideation, Severe depression, Violent dreams while sleeping. (I actually enjoyed these, however others might consider them nightmares), Insomnia, Hallucinations, jumped out of bed screaming because I felt a “presence, Felt like insects were crawling all over me when going to bed, Shakes, Mania. (Energy far in excess of my ability to use it constructively), Inability to concentrate.”

That last one is scary but real.

These are just a few quotes of men who recently stopped viewing porn and jerking off from www.yourbrainonporn.com.

Believe me when I say porn is a drug. It is taking your life and manhood away from you. When you stop a drug you go through withdrawals.

But then you become better and stronger than you could have imagined.

Take the dive

If someone told you right now, If you do this you’ll have a better life. Why wouldn’t you just do it?

So here I am telling you and myself. Stop watching porn and start being a confident, incredible man who lives a life of abundance, sex, and happiness.

What to do?

If this article has sparked some fire in your belly, that’s incredible. So what can you do right now to start reversing this hold that porn has on your brain? Have a look.

1) Commit right now to living a life porn and masturbation free

Just take the dive and never look back. Would you rather have the immediate gratification of porn, or be looked up to by all your peers when you are dating a model.

2) Battle through the hell

Trust me, it will suck at first – But nothing worth having comes easy. One of my favorite quotes is:

“Man cannot remake himself without the struggle, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.” -Alexis Carrel

You will struggle with the urge to masturbate to porn, but when you do just come back here and read this article.

You may even go through withdrawals. Everyone is different and everyone’s withdrawal process is different. Just remember what you’re doing this for. Remember the end goal.

You will be the man you want to be and you will get beautiful women, or have a stronger relationship that you ever have. You just have to be strong.

3) Keep yourself busy

The more time you have with your mind being occupied the less time you will have to think about porn. Boredom is the killer here.

I struggle with the urge to watch porn or jerk off bad when I am extremely bored, especially when I am lying down with my laptop.

Get out of the house. Start going to the gym. Eventually, this will be easy and your normal activities.

4) Believe you can do this

The mind is powerful, and you can do anything you set it to. 

5) Your brain will Reprogram itself

6) You will start to crave real women over porn

7) Stay strong

The fact that you are reading this right now is a testimony to the fact that you have something inside of you that is driving you to change. You have the ability, just take action.

8) Reap the benefits

Fast forward one year, your brain is reprogrammed. New pathways have formed to crave natural sex and your old porn pathways have shut. You crave real women and you are confident enough to go out and meet them. Life is good, you earned it.

The benefits of quitting porn are nothing short of amazing

If you don’t want to take my word for it and don’t believe that porn is eating you alive from the inside out then take a look at the testimonials of all these other men experiencing the amazing effects of abstaining from porn.

“It‘s amazing how much of a difference there is. I‘m a lot less nervous, more coherent, confident, everything. It really does feel like my real personality can come out.”

“[Age 21] I come off more confident…well increasingly so. I have gotten better at talking to women exponentially as the 35 days have gone on. I also admire beauty a lot more. Girls have me in awe lately. Also, while I still look at them wanting to ravage them, a growing voice in my head just wants to be with them. I don’t experience it all the time, but sufficiently to affect me. It’s weird. Never really felt something like that before. But I guess that is what porn does to you.”

“Day 56 – Had an intellectual discussion with my Dad today on a topic I thought was out of my depth. But once the conversation got going I found myself making very relevant and noteworthy comments on the issue, which really surprised me, as I didn’t think I had it in me.

My Dad seemed surprised at the knowledge I had as well! I really believe that abstinence broadens the mind and makes certain pieces of knowledge a lot easier for you to access rather than having a clouded mind when PMO’ing regularly.”

“[Day 17] Main difference today was that I also felt *consistently confident*, I simply was not shy at all, just very clear-speaking, loud, more talkative than ever, took more ‘comedy risks’, said a lot of weird/funny/unfunny shit that mostly went down well, often to complete strangers. No depression/anxiety (no horniness, either!) but a definite, marked heightening of mood. Was talking LOTS today, I’ve never been like this before – crazy!”

“I’m finding that I’m more balanced and happy with what nature intended humans to use reward circuitry for – healthy, joyful social interactions, physical exertion, positive self-talk. My feelings of sadness, doubt and inadequacy have been mitigated lately. For the first time, I’m chilling and facing the feelings rather than running away. =)

“Every time I reduce the porn habit I consistently get more pleasure out of life and my friendships. So effortlessly.”

You can change.

You can get out of your porn, fapping & jacking off driven lifestyle and meet beautiful women, be happy beyond belief, and experience a life you always imagined.

It starts with a single decision. And it may be the best one you ever made.

Join the movement and take the first step to become a better man.

Track your progress and get support on the forum and let us know how you are killing it in your new porn free lifestyle.

Also check out the top 10 reasons why you should stop watching porn, and drop us a line below.

Good Luck.

– Sean & The Team

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Additional Porn Addiction Resources:

1) Your Brain On Porn

2) The Great Porn Experiment

3) How to Stop Watching Porn: My Personal Journey

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100 thoughts on “Porn Addiction: This Shit is REAL & it’s Holding You Back”

  1. Well for me I can vouch that porn does mess up a mans mind. I was deep into it reason being is that I was bored at home with nothing to do. At first it was innocent but then it took over. It got the point that when it came to the having sex with my wife I was just not in mood. I was not getting the strong erections I used to get before the porn.
    Once that started happening I knew I needed to stop and focus my energies somewhere else. That week was hard for me as whenever I was bored I would go online and watch the free porn. I have not messed with porn for over three months and the weird thing is once I stopped the porn I began to get my desire back. Even my wife noticed the change!
    So my friends powers is bad for you! Stop watching it and get back to living!
    Great post!

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      • Hi there. I recently discovered how bad my boyfriends porn addiction is. I always knew he watched it, I didn’t like it, but I thought it was just as much as the average guy. I was wrong. Last night I found gay porn on the history. After an intense confrontation he spilled everything about how truly porn addicted he is. He said it’s mostly always straight porn or lesbian porn. But admits the gay men porn was at least 10 times. This has been going out for about 5 years he says, and we’ve been dating for 3. We also live together. He looked up gay porn in the bathroom when I was in the other room. I had no idea. It was the middle of the day. He says he’s not gay and he knows it’s wierd but all porn just does it for him. He also admits to going on Facebook late at night and finding my friends just to get off to their cleavage pictures. I don’t know what to do. He says now he realizes how bad it is and that he should talk to someone. Is he gay? Should I leave? Has he crossed lines that have nothing to do with addiction? (Ie making it personal by doing it with people we know on Facebook, and the gay porn). I haven’t slept and I’m at a loss on what to do. Any insight is appreciated

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        • Hey Andrea,
          Thanks for sharing your story, I really feel for you and your BF. He sounds like he wants to change, but really has a problem.
          I am not a relationship counselor so it is tough for me to say. I believe men can change and beat this addiction, because I am proof. So if you think he’s worth fighting for and helping along the way then give him a chance.

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          • But when you were addicted, did it ever come to gay porn? He swears he’s not gay and it was women 99% of the time but straight men don’t watch gay porn.. do they?.. and masturbating to my friends cleavage pictures on facebook.. part of an addiction or just plain too far?..

          • I personally never reached that level, but many people have to keep going deeper and more intense as the addiction continues. I have heard of straight men watching gay porn, but it is not common. And your friends cleavage. Men are men, and that stuff happens. Def. part of the addiction.

          • Hi , i am 17 year old . And i am watching porn from 4 to 4.5 years . I will not do again . Thanks a lot ! Thanks ! By mayur

        • Hi Andrea,
          I admit that in the depths of pornography addiction I have sometimes found myself on gay porn…. but I am certainly straight. I know it sounds strange but pornography addiction always gradually strays away from what you want and desire sexually to simply ‘shocking’ things which get you going. From example a man may start on fairly normal stuff but will progress to gradually more and more violent porn. He would never have dreamed of watching violent porn at the beginning but the normal stuff just doesn’t work for him.
          Your bf needs support, preferably from a strong porn-free man who knows what he is going through. I strongly suggest he gets this programme (http://www.covenanteyes.com/) downloaded on all his internet devices and an accountability partner who he can meet up to discuss his struggles. The programme wont stop him watching porn but will send a report to his accountability partner… this should preferably be a man who firmly believes in living a porn-free life. With this I think your bf would be well on his way.
          Porn is evil, for the people performing, for the people watching it, for the spouses life yourself affected. Stay strong and hopeful.
          P.S you have every right to be annoyed at watching porn… its him lusting after other women! Real men don’t watch porn and your bf soon will be on the right road.

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  2. This is a great post. I actually stopped watching porn since May 2013, because that’s when I found the video posted in the beginning of this article, but I haven’t stopped masturbating. My question is:
    “Should I ALSO stop MASTURBATING?”
    I know it’s completely normal and I actually primarily use it to fall asleep every night. What are your guys thoughts on this?

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    • George,
      Thanks for the kind words. This is a very common question, we should have addressed it in more depth.
      For me, the porn and masturbation can be a separate act. BUT masturbating to fantasy in your mind may be just as bad as maturating to porn, especially if you are thinking about porn scenes you used to watch or new porn-like scenarios. It activates the same pathways that you are trying to heal, and in my opinion will be counter productive to your recovery. I know that when I was watching porn regularly, when ever I masturbated without porn I was just using my imagination and porn memory, which was very well developed.
      For me it has been almost 4 months no porn now. I have masturbated a few times during that period (Sometimes its impossible not to! =P) and have still come an extremely long way. Granted when I did this I used no fantasy and just focused on the touch and stimulation. I think in this manor it can actually help, just like having real passionate sex with women is helpful to rebuild the natural sexual pathways in your brain. So in that sense I think masturbation is okay, as it is a natural act, its porn that is unnatural.
      That being said. If your sex life is not where you want it to be, and your goal is to get more sexually involved with women, then I think it is extremely important to stay away from masturbation. It will be hard at first, especially if you are getting no play, but it will really change your view on sex and motivation. If you tell yourself that you will never masturbate again, and truly enforce it, then whenever you are horny you will HAVE to attempt to go find a girl, call a FB, or get physical with your wife to fulfill your primal urges. This will become a habit, and eventually, even if it takes a year, you wont need to masturbate anymore. You will have women for that.
      This is the most powerful aspect to me. Plus the fact that I find myself twice as attracted to women now, and sex is twice as good.
      So no, its not necessary to stop masturbating. But it will be a big added boost to you if you can do it. Whatever feels right for you my friend. Let me know how everything goes.

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      • Hey thanks for the explanation Ruskies. Yeah, that makes sense. It’s very very true that even though I stopped porn, I still masturbated to the videos I’d play in my head. I’m on day 3 of no porn/no fap. I’d possibly like to comment here again in 6 months from now. I’d like to see if I can completely stop, and only achieve orgasm from sex. Actually, I was thinking I’d let myself masturbate, ONLY if I KNOW I’ll be having sure sex that day or the next day (to last longer lol).
        Anyway, to no more fapping! Thanks again.
        Oh btw, I read your short bio, and I’m also obsessed with self-improvement, so I’m curious to read your posts and future ones. Cheers man.

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        • George,
          Based on our convo, I have just created a No Fap Challenge Forum Section:
          I’m happy about your decision to try to change your life. That is the most important and hardest step.
          If you want, you can go start a thread in the forum there tracking your progress, and helping to encourage others.
          Its a long road ahead, but good luck with everything my friend.
          Keep in touch regardless.
          – Ruskies

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  3. James,
    I 100% think that stopping masturbation to porn will reverse your ED in time. This is if your ED is not caused because of smoking or a medical condition.
    But as you know, most ED is psychological, whether its from being self conscious about not being as endowed as the guys in porn videos or because of desensitization due to the extreme nature of porn videos. Usually its the latter.
    After 90 days of no porn and even better no fantasy, your mind and body will become more sensitized, and if not right away, you will find that your erections with real women will return to 100% as your normal sensitivity returns.
    So I would try this and also see your doctor to make sure that your ed is not caused by bad bloodflow or something medical. It is probably psychological and quitting porn can be a 100% cure. Just give it time and be patient, it doesn’t happen right away. 90 days is a good benchmark.

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  4. Just a tip, if you’re really here to help people stop watching porn, perhaps you shouldn’t post PORN in this article. The picture of a woman removing her thong… Yeah, that’s porn and that is only enabling the porn user. Otherwise, I’m very behind these ideas.

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      • I also have a tip .
        I find it pretty messed up that you have written both the above article and the other article titled ’10 reasons to stop using porn’, but afterwards you’ve created the article titled ‘100 best ass pictures of all time’. Personally porn is sometimes a weakness of mine, which is why I searched for articles about why it’s unhealthy, in order to get off of it for good. This took strength and will. Then suddenly on the right side of the website I see the ass picture article, which is a seriously cruel temptation for a guy trying to get off of porn. It’s almost like “I’m safe here, it’s an article about why to stop using porn”, yet suddenly, and posted by the same author, is a ‘best ass pictures’ article.
        If you strongly stand by your views that porn can fuck people up, then it seems non-integrous to post an article like that. If it was from another author, that would seem like less of an issue, but coming from the same person who preaches the benefits of stopping internet porn, it seems like an unnecessary temptation for those who are breaking any addictions to porn.
        Just my opinion, but I felt I had to mention it.

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        • Hey Martin,
          True story I totally get what your saying. That post is meant to be hidden, but now that is has so many comments it comes up as popular. You’ll notice it is uncategorized. I’ll have to remove that entire widget.
          The reason for that post is that it gets 15,000 unique men on it a day from Google. Those men are then persuaded to sign up to menprovement, in which they receive emails about how to improve their lives and quit porn, etc.
          If they never landed on our page, they would of just landed on another and never had the opportunity to learn about improving. It may sound bizarre, but the best way to reach men, is through things like that.
          But thanks for the heads up, that should’nt be in the sidebar & is supposed to be hidden from the interior of the site.

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    • Whats up Jake,
      I definitely don’t think using escorts is the same as porn addiction. That’s real life stuff & while sex addiction is definitely a real thing (Which I do not know much about) the two are different. Interesting thought though, Thanks.

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  7. About the picture. I’m on day 25 of no porn and have a terrible withdrawal symptoma which is why I’m looking around for tips and tricks to ease them up. That picture in the beginning is way to graphic. If you want a pic to higlight, use a sillhouette or something. I cringed and almost hit the backbutton.
    Nice article and I agree with you on the no masturbation. It’s necessary to refrain from masturbation before rewiring (which is the next crucial step).
    Porn plain sucks. I’m happy to be one of the smart ones who realise the damage it’s doing to my body and mind.
    Man i love girls! It’s my hobby!

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  8. Hey man!
    Great article, but i do think the first image (the woman with red panties) should not be here in an article about how to stop porn… because it’s a trigger to masturbation (which is not ok for some people) and porn.
    Could you please take it down (i know, it’s kinda the type of images we see on this site, but this article is a special case!)
    Thanks!

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    • Zack you can do it man!
      But The most important thing is “why” you are not watching porn. After a year of quitting I went back to it (wasnt having sex at the time) and it really opened my eyes that I do not care if it has a negative effect o my brain, and if I want I can watch it. But I dont WANT to watch it, because it I was to be the best I can be, get beautiful women, and live an extra-ordinary life. My biggest fear is being like everybody else.
      After a whole year, defining that “why” has changed everything. Find your “why” and you will succeed.
      Thanks man

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  10. This is going to be the toughest challenge ive had yet but we all gave the power to starve our addictions for life. Remember guys NEVER GIVE UP!

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    • Zack you can do it man!
      But The most important thing is “why” you are not watching porn. After a year of quitting I went back to it (wasnt having sex at the time) and it really opened my eyes that I do not care if it has a negative effect o my brain, and if I want I can watch it. But I dont WANT to watch it, because it I was to be the best I can be, get beautiful women, and live an extra-ordinary life. My biggest fear is being like everybody else.
      After a whole year, defining that “why” has changed everything. Find your “why” and you will succeed.
      Thanks man

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  11. I am so glad i have found this site. I have been porn free for 5 days. It has been remarkable. I look fwd to the re-wiring of my brain. I am older than most posters here. I am 55. I started to look at porn in magazines before I was 10 years old and it continued. In the last ten years, the Hi Def, Hi Speed years of the internet, porn addiction took control. To the point that I was beginning to change the perception of who I was and who I am. I was becoming what I was watching and I thought it was real. The last ten years have been hell in all aspects of my life, I think the escalating porn addiction is to blame. New man now, great week, looking fwd to healing, thank you for the article and the comments. Life changing Life saving.

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      • I have now been a week without porn or any kind. I knew I had to quit when I started to believe the fantasies that I was matching multiple times daily. I have always been straight, looked only at straight porn, then I caught a glimpse if gay porn, did not like it, but slowly watched more and it started to fire those brain pathways, at first it had to be bi-sex (women involved), then straight gay then in the last few years, the transexual (gay men with breast implants and dress as females). I have been watching this heavily for a few years and recently began to think this was what I was. I was getting ready to tell my wife my new orientation. It was at that waterloo moment that I realized I was being fundamentally altered from the inside. Never had an incline for this type of thing ever and then I was ready to become one!!! Weak without porn, normalcy returning. glad to be a married straight man with a loving wife. dodged a bullet. this article was pivitol in understanding my fall from sanity.

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          • I just want to leave one more comment and then I will leave it for a month and get back to you.
            Wow! I can not believe all the extra hours in the day. I am getting a tremendous amount of work done but……….
            my happiness button is broken, I just can”t seem to get out of a depressed listless mood. I even did something I really like (non-pornographic) to test this and even then I was still unhappy. I think this is all dopamine level problems and I am confident that this will resolve. I am going to continue doing things I know I like and build back the proper responses in my brain to those activities. If I have any advise to someone going through this, don’t try a new activity during this stage, you will probably not like it. Stick to what you know and get your wiring back on track. Seems pretty nervey for me to give advise I know but I think this unhappiness is a direct result of me stopping my porn viewing. I hope (I know) it will pass.

          • Very true Bru,
            Your levels of dopamine are recovering from missing a “drug” that caused excessive amounts over a period of years. It will take time, but your mood will lift.

  12. I came across this article while searching for reason to explain to my boyfriend that porn is effecting put relationship.
    I need some advice or help.
    We got I to a fight because he promised to stop, and then told me he won’t stop.. He needs it to release stress. It literally makes me sick to my stomach. I don’t know what else to do, I brought up some points in your article.. But he didn’t respond to them. He got defensive instead..
    What should I do?

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    • I think you are on the right track, and it is a hard battle you are facing. HE has to want to change and stop, I think being patient and understanding with him is best action. It is very hard for a man to stop watching porn. I wish I had more advice for you right now. I will think more on it.

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  14. Here’s the thing. This is a very well written, inspiring article, accompanied by a very informative video. There is one completely massive problem with this particular page. Obviously, most people are reading this because they are trying to quit porn.
    And yet the very first thing on a page about NOT watching porn is… a pseudo-pornographic image? Is the page designer insane, or are they just unfamiliar with what a “trigger” is? Would you put cocaine in front of a recovering cocaine addict? A glass of whiskey in front of an alcoholic? The page designer should take the image down at once. An image like that is all it takes for some to relapse.

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    • Jackson you are right,
      I should change it, but I almost feel as if it is a strong reminder to the reader of the powerful lure porn has on them right before the read. I will look for a more suitable picture.

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    • I want that image to spark urge in the reader, so they they are impacted in a stronger way while reading and it truly hits home. Thankyou for the recommendation though.

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  16. I think you should leave the image of the hot woman at the top of this article.
    This article is mainly written to the newly converted NOFAPers. One way to attract new converts is to show a hot piece of azz so that the porn heads will be attracted to the article. Maybe win some converts.
    I have been NOFAP for 30 days bitchezz!

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  17. Excellent article. I love u author. Bt my case is slightly different from others. I am taking antidepressants. I didnt know that rebooting would cure my depression. So now can i get rid of depression while taking the medicine? If i eventually get cured by rebooting, can i leave taking the antidepressant drug? Plz answer me

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    • Bizz,
      There is no guarantee that quitting porn will CURE your depression. For many depression is a strong withdrawal symptom for months. I cannot give you advice on whether to stay on your drugs or not as I do not know you and am not a doctor.
      Regardless, I would suggest to you staying on your drug and quit for 6 months. Then think about stopping medication if you think you can. Don’t do both at the same time. You won’t know whether or not your depression is coming back or you are going through withdrawals.

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  18. Thanks russel. U r god if not a doctor. I want to inform u that i suffered from depression by porn and masturbation addiction. I was not depressed prior to it. Now too whenever i watch and masturbate i feel more depressed. This means the drug has no effect. I am afread i am developing another addiction(drug). I have tried alot bt not succeded to quit pmo. Bt this time i have completed 2 months of no pmo and the effects are good oneday and bad the other day. I know i can break the addiction this time coz this is now or never for me.
    Sorry for long comment bt plz tell what do u make out of my situation? Plz plz sir. Help me

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    • Bizz,
      Thanks for the comment. I think that your situation of trying to quit is typical. Many people report feeling good for a few days and then bad for a few days. I know how hard it is to keep pornographic thoughts out of your head but I think this is crucial.
      If you can stay away from watching porn, and thinking about it – eventually those old pathways in your brain will lose there strength and shut down. The beauty of the brain is that it is elastic and self healing. New pathways will form, and eventually you can live a healthy sex life.
      But the craving for porn will always be there at times, even after a year. You need to know now that you can never go back or else you will be putting yourself almost back to the start. I had a major symptom after quitting daily porn use for 13 years of a major panic attack after a month off it, followed by smaller ones throughout that month. That went away. But a year later I watched porn for two days and caved and then when I stopped again I had a smaller version of that (same exact feelings) 2 days later. Scary.
      You just have to be strong. And time will heal you, even if it takes a year. Porn has to become non existent in your life, to me it is impossible to watch porn – like it doesn’t even exist. It is a lifestyle change, but you can do it.
      Like you said, you know you can break the addiction. That all you need to know. Let me know how everything goes.

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  19. My life has improved dramatically since I have been clean of porn, six months and going strong! I am much happier and people seem to respond to me better. However my current struggle as of now is to give up masturbation I still do the deed about once or twice a week but I would like to stop that as well. I find that masturbation drains me of energy and overall vibrancy but not in the same way that jerking it to porn did. The longest I’ve gone is 18 days but I’m hoping to break that record soon.
    Good luck to every one who is tryng to quit porn I wish you all success.
    Oh, and the author is dead on about saying that quitting PMO will put you at a level above 95% of the other men. Let them enjoy their virtual harem!

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  20. Hm, so – what if some of us are watching porn because they can’t get girls?
    I am not really that much of a party person. Most of my peers have different interests and I come of as a nerd since I strive to self-educate much beyond the average level. Hence we have nothing to talk about and it’s boring for me, likewise for them too. I’ve tried not watching porn for 2 weeks, but I didn’t feel that much of a difference, only the fact that I get random boners in the bus or in other public places(mostly stimulated by a random girl), which is not my idea of improvement, rather society would find that creepy and inappropriate. I am not sure how this kind of awkwardness can lead me to approaching more women. Also why is it all about porn? I can masturbate without porn? Is that a valid alternative? I don’t think I am that addicted to porn, rather to masturbating. Also what about paying hookers? That way you can have sex without bothering with porn or masturbating. Is it so much different to the brain that you’re paying them instead of convincing them that you like them and want them for something more, when all you really wanna do is stick it in? After all, money is power, and buying is using that power, hence feeling powerful which is good? Or how is it so important to prove to yourself that they like you for yourself? Do they even have a real picture of ourselves and not a projection we made so that they like us and want to do it with us. So they have sex not because of our worth, individuality, personality, but for lies, dominance and fake illusions we have created in their brains. I’ve read about female psychology and it seems they are utter fools(unlike most of us man who want a girl just because of her body, no other bullshit involved) following mostly subconcius principles – like for example the value principle(coming to a new place with a female companion increases your value – the girls there see you have been approved, knowing the barkeepers and waitress makes it feel like it’s your territory – again primitive principles from the caveman, having a good job too – stability(because the principle is that woman want a stable man who could feed them and their offsprings too, and that wish is mostly always there even if not concious)). My point being is it worth it playing the farce, costing one time and effort and risking it big time, instead of for example using that time to make money(which also involve risk but a more controlled one in some cases)?

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    • You sound like a smart guy.
      You can do whatever you want with your time, if you want to be asexual then be asexual and don’t bother with girls. There is a whole community of men in Japan called herbivores who have given up women for porn. Yeah this can help you bunker down and make money and work harder, but its not how I want to live my life. But it’s your life. So do with it what you want.
      Masturbation is normal. Porn is abnormal, the brain reacts to it like a drug. And you get addicted. I was addicted to porn, but not sex what so ever. They are different entities. Some people may be addicted to masturbation, but again – being addicted to porn and being addicted to masturbation are two different entities. Porn addicts find masturbation to be boring and useless without porn.
      And hookers, that’s not related to porn at all. I have no opinion on that, not for me, but w.e.
      Porn addiction is not sex addiction, is not hooker addiction, and is not masturbation addiction.
      Do you not desire to ever seek a partner?

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  21. Any tips on how to quit porn when not having a girlfriend? I literally never had a girlfriend (I’m in my late twenties) and I became a regular porn user due to feeling lonely and not having real sex.

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    • Yeah Marti,
      This is tough and makes everything much harder. Trust me when I say this, years ago when I quit porn I was going through a hard time so I didn’t have any access to girls for months, plus I was building a business and not going out at all. It’s hard, but in the end it is fuel to become better and meet women.
      Do you think you’re current porn use is holding you back from finding a GF, or going out to meet girls to have sex with? If so, then this is one reason to quit. Might give you the motivation to get out there.
      Regular masturbation is still an option when you don’t have a love life. I’m not against it, and think it is healthy physically and mentally. I couldn’t imagine never ejaculating for months if you couldn’t have sex, you would eventually starr doing it your sleep anyway. It’s just porn, in its ridiculously pleasurable sense (it’s like heroine) that is dangerous and can lead a man to become introvert and not seek women, or lose interest in sex or get ED without porn. But masturbation without sexual fantasy, and just through pleasure will actually help you – and trust me it will be hard to get off at first without porn.
      So my suggestion would be to try to just masturbate, without porn. Or thinking about porn. And try to meet a girl.

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  22. Great article, stopped 30 days ago, had 2 small relapses, one video two weeks ago, and a story 3 days ago. It used to be almost daily and sometimes twice a day. I know that it will be tough, but have a wonderful girl who knows about it and will be there for me when I get through this.
    I am older like the poster Bru Bru and have a similar story to him.., so curious to hear how he is doing.
    As of right now, cannot get an erection hardly at all, even with prescription drugs, which I will quit as well.

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    • Failure is part of the process Nathan, do not be discouraged. I have never heard of anyone who has quit perfectly and never had multiple relapses.
      Give it time, and I hope your erection quality will return. It seems it was porn induced if there was no issue while watching porn, so time is the cure for that type of ED.

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  23. Hey there, great article.
    I’m 28 and have been addicted to porn since 16 years or so… I just came to realize it a few years ago though, I thought I was normal before.
    I really want to stop, but I’m not even 100% convinced its going to benefit me, because I suck with women and I have no self confidence, I used to have a lot of chances with beautiful girls a few years ago, but these times are gone and I always blew the chances, because I rather jacked off than meeting them, and was not confident enough… so in conclusion, my subconscious is telling me thst it is of no benefit to me to stop it anyway, because I dont ever see myself with a girl I desire anyway, I have given up hope tbh.
    What would you recommend me to do?
    I think I will try stopping for 3 months, and if I dont see a change I might as well keep masturbating, essentially choosing porn over real life, it’s sad but I guess some people are not meant to be successful with the other sex.
    Regards

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    • Nathan,
      I don’t know you personally but what it really comes down to it what you choose to do. You may suck with women now, but in 2 years be married to the girl of your dreams. If you are still addicted to porn, then your sex life will suffer greatly.
      You may also suck with women now, like many guys, but decide to say fuck feeling sorry for myself I am going to change. And quit porn, join a gym, start approaching women and in 2 years (yes 2 years, not a month) you could be a completely different person.
      I personally don’t think you should just roll over and die though. And choose porn over women.
      I am developing a self improvement bootcamp right now and I think it would be awesome for you. If you’re a subscriber you will see when it comes out (about a month).

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  24. I’m sure you’ll love me. I’m gay so women have never been an issue for me. I masturbate regularly as i am an older gent and dont get the action i once did. Porn is pretty mch all i have these days. I find some of the asertions here outrageous and laughable. Lazy? Laddie I run 2 businesses which take up 2/3 of my life. Even so i still find time to golf, rock climb and boat. These pathetic sounding posts are cringeworthy and im grateful there are noy equally sad pictures to go along with them. I found this site by accident and almost didnt look at it. Im glad i did. What are you credentials? By what do you speak with such authority? I have to end before i become insane, grabbing Scotch.

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  25. This article doesn’t recognize women porn viewers… I am a woman and I am addicted to porn. Also it should mention that porn and masturbation aren’t unhealthy in and of themselves, just in excess, if it is affecting other areas of your life. So after you have calmed down and minimized viewing to maybe once or twice a week, that is actually healthy.

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    • Thanks Alyssa. It’s true, but this is a men’s site after all.
      I beg to differ on that last part though. Most porn viewers are addicted to it. You can’t just nonchalantly watch it a few times a week. You can if you’re not addicted. But most guys are. And I don’t see why it would be healthy anyway. Sex is healthy. Sex and porn activate completely different parts of the brain on brain scans, and porn activates the ones associated with drugs and addiction. The same as heroine. Masturbation maybe…
      But I do respect your opinion and devils advocate.

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  26. I have been masturbating since 2007 and trust me, porn was the cause of my starting to masturbate. when ever i watcched porn, my brains where like are you going to leave the sperms inside? pusssssssssssssssh…… TO MASTURBATING. Damn this thing was cool but am telling you guys WATCHING PORN AND MASTURBATING ARE REAL RELATIVES FROM THE SAME FATHER “HELL”.
    WHAT IT HAS DONE TO ME.
    I get backaches every time i sit .
    I get headaches every after doing the Shit.
    My Testicles are seriously hurting. even as per now.
    I get get quire elections even when i just look at a cute lady.
    DAMN THIS IS HELL.
    IF YOUR READING THIS THE PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAASEEEEEEEEEEEE STOP STOP STOP.
    I still had a lot to write but hey this is not my Diary.
    Nice T guys

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  27. Hi Sean.
    I found your website after googling help to stop watching porn.
    I’m 49, have adrenal fatigue, haven’t worked for two years, and have been single for 12 months.
    I have been into porn in some form since I was a teen and either discovered or bought magazines. Now with the internet on my phone, it’s so easy to find it. I tend to stay away from porn movies (they chew up data) and have my favourite image and erotic story websites.
    I hardly ever get erections any more and my last relationship broke down because of it.
    Thank you for creating this website. The information on dopamine and how I’ve been addicted to the quick fix of porn really highlighted I have a big problem.
    I have gone to 12 step groups (CoDA and SLAA) in the past to try help me stop, but I never really got through the initial withdrawal, and the loss of my often twice a day fix.
    But I want my life back. I want to get above this existence I’ve been living for so long.
    I’m lucky I have support around me. My men’s group, and other men I can talk openly with.
    Day 1 for me.
    Again. Great website.
    Thank you.
    John C

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    • Thanks John,
      You’re at a low point right now in life but that’s nothing to be ashamed about. You have the desire to improve. and trust me, I was at the lowest of lows in my life and it’s amazing the change a man can make with determination and time.
      The first step is deciding to make that change, and to take responsibility for your life and it sounds like you have done so.
      I know guys who have healed from degenerative spine disorders and people who have healed from MS. I have healed from adrenal fatigue and chronic fatigue and porn addiction. It all takes time but it’s all doable.
      I recommend to you that you just keep self educating on ways to improve your life, eat healthy (no sugars including fruit juice (fruit is okay), cut out wheat if possible and eat more greens, take up more hobbies (dancing, hiking, anything really), and for adrenal fatigue nothing beats daily meditation for 20 minutes. Morning and night is even better. I have a great program that offers insight for healing porn addiction as well – http://www.howtoquitpornforgood.com.
      Day 1 in a long journey of growth. Be the star of your own movie.

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      • Thank you Sean for all the information. Yep. Sugar and wheat. I have tried numerous times to cut them out of my diet.
        I’ll check out the website also.
        Your experience, knowledge and understanding is really helping me right now. I also finally called one of my 12 step buddies and shared where I was at too.
        I also realise, as you wrote, it’s so much better to have the support of a few people and sources of information, rather than rely on one person (like I did with my ex-girlfriend.
        With gratitude.
        John C

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  28. I would just like to drop in. I have been no porn no masturbation for up to two months now. For the doubting Thomas anyway I would just like to say if you want prove of how excessive porn and masturbation is holding u back, u see that whole muscle tightening and brain freezing like feeling when u ejaculate, yeah that’s your answer right there.
    It’s kinda hard to push forward in life without motivation and masturbation kinda drains u of that. The fact is successful people don’t watch porn and masturbate all day. Now that’s something to think about. Preserve your precious chi (energy) as it will naturally attract good things to you. That’s if u use it constructively of course.
    Nice article and nice website. And by the way won’t rave on about the benefits I’ve experienced but how about this; a novel I’ve been putting off for 3 years due to mental fatigue is now halfway done and all in 1 month’s work.

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    • Awesome experience Ned! Thanks for sharing. I am fascinated by the chi energy and the way taoists use sexual energy on other ways. Definitely something I want to learn more about.

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  29. A question what exactly qualifies as porn addiction? I’m sure you can’t actually put a number on it or anything, but generally, what would be considered an addiction as opposed to just occasional use? Would the phrase “moderation is the key”be the best conclusion to draw here?

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    • Hey it is hard to quantify it as you say. I think when you crave porn over sex then you have a problem. Everyday i most likely an addiction in my mind even if you don’t know it.

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  30. I had this problem and I’m so grateful that my mom sets parental control called PCWebControl on my computer…now I feel much better believe me…

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  31. I wanted to add some input into this article. The reviews from the men who quit porn and masturbation. One discussed headaches, insomnia, insects crawling on the body, depression, etc is the opening of the chakras. You can also research “The Ascension Process” or “Spiritual Awakening” and you will these are symptoms.
    Also, the headaches and insomnia are related to an imbalance in the 3rd eye chakra. Depression and anxiety are linked to the heart chakra. This is releasing all of the negative energy we’ve kept repressed. Underneath all addictions lies the fear that we tried to avoid by diving into addictions.
    I’m on day 22 now. I’m free. I’ve never give my power away again to this stuff. Never. THANK YOU! Peace be with you.

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  33. 1) Porn takes away all motivation to approach the opposite sex
    LoL! Seriously? Those that lack motivation and are normally not extroverted and eager to approach the opposite sex found a match with porn. If u are good with approaching opposite sex already and excited to do it… Porn won’t a affect a doggone bit 🙂
    2) Porn makes you weak and lazy
    Great!! That’s like saying don’t hike too much or go to the gym cuz it makes u lazy. Sure one can argue that porn is not particularly of any added value… But there are no studies or data showing that it makes u lazy. It can kindle your interest in “new stuff” help u spice things up outside of porn (when used correctly). Endorphin release – yes u’ll b more relaxed and feel better. It’s like “alcohol is bad for u and makes u lazy” but one or two glasses of red wine do provide health benefits. Moderation is key.
    3) Porn causes erectile dysfunction
    Are u kidding me? Get a partner that is open minded and from time to time will watch it and play to it with u.. Whoa!!! Harder than a rock!! Get new ideas and integrate them to your sex life!! Breaking that monotony can only help with sexual dysfunction. Again, moderation, and u r constantly masturbating to it… Then u squeezed all ur energy out… Feel sorry for u.
    4) Porn creates penis related self esteem issues
    Good one. Just like saying don’t go out with people that are (by whatever standard) more attractive and more fit than u… It will lower your self esteem. After we finish high school, I think if we are affected by such things we have deeper psychological issues to work on.
    5) Porn ruins relationships
    Of course if u r really kinky and love sex and trying new stuff with your partner!! By spicing things up u can strengthen a relationship. I can speak to many cases. Relationships are about being with someone with whom hopefully u have something in common. If u are hypersexual and love to be crazy and hook up with a super religious person… Well guess what neither of u r wrong it’s the fact that u r different that will get in the way. Because if u were similar (and that goes for many things not just porn) that would not present an issue and u could both enjoy it (within bounds) and be happy.
    6) Guys who bang lots of chicks don’t watch porn
    I just can’t keep on laughing my @$$ off. Guys that crave sex more often well physically want more release more pleasure thru porn or partner or whatever. The point is guys who get lost in porn leave nothing for the real world… Ok so perhaps a better statement would be “Guys who bang themselves to a lot of porn, leave less of the good stuff for actual real world chicks”. Again moderation.. Watching a little porn here and there can open your sexual appetite and make u want to try more with women out there be more confident and increase ur libido…
    And let’s all be reminded that the diagnoses for addiction are along the lines of letting porn interfere with your relationships, daily life, other stuff. If u and ur partner are fine and it’s not disruptive just like eating meat is fine and not disruptive to some but tell that to a vegan……. This is fine. The point is to not let porn control you and to use it with control and help it make u happy. Just like drinking — a drink here and there does not make u an alcoholic!!
    Cheers.

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  34. Hey ,
    Its a great website and the video in the beginning is a great eye opener.
    However, I had a few questions:
    – What about someone who is married and wife is pregnant. It’s like 9 months of no action. There has to be some release.
    – I gave it a shot and with no porn for a month or so and also no masturbation. However, in between there were some release at night (nightfall). Then I felt – might as well have masturbated/watched porn .
    Regards
    Adi

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  35. I’ve decided to take the plunge. I have consumed so much porn since the internet came along that I now find it boring. It just doesn’t do it for me anymore.
    What struck me about finding this webpage was how much I could relate to everyone! Real sex just didn’t seem to be enjoyable and I had to fantasise about porn to get off (when I could get off. I think watching so much porn over the years has messed with my libido).
    So, long story short, I’ve deleted all the links to porn sites I have saved on my smart phone and I’m ready to walk this path. I’ve literally just started (two days ago) but I want to see just how far I can go. I hope I’ll be able to reap the same benefits that I’ve read here.
    Porn-free in Ontario.

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  36. I have to disagree with this no porn movement.I’m a guy in my early 20’s, I am and have been very sexually active since half way through high school(this includes the use of porn). however i really only began sleeping with multiple woman in college. due to the lack of connection and intimacy (not to mention STDs) i chose to stop that and commit to relationships. And honestly i’d have cheated on all of my girlfriends if it were not for porn.Porn acts like an outlet for me. it allows me to express my inner fetishes and fantasies ,when my significant other is either not ready or willing to try that fetish or if i’ve been propositioned for sex by another woman and have to refuse(not to mention after gym when your testosterone spikes).it allows me to satisfy my desires without hurting anyone. this is not to say i masturbate or use porn everyday , but should the need arise i make use of it. and yet i have no ed? i have had many partners? i am very socially active? if you have any self control any life style can be healthily maintained with monitoring and moderation.

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  38. i am an 18 year old boy who has been watching porn and masturbating with it since 2010, i became too addicted to porn and masturbation and it really ruined my life, changed the way i behave and made great depressions in my life. i tried to stop allot of times searched solutions for online and nothing worked i feel like controlled and colonized by porn which means i am too addicted. I am straight boy i used to watch opposite sex porn but finally porn led me to gay porn! which i feel guilty and uncomfortable with it after watching. i have been struggling to stop porn/masturbation addiction for years. But finally today this article looks it will help me change my life to be a better man. I never feel good for porn addiction (although i watch it) and wanted to stop and nothing worked and TODAY i think this is my day, Sean Russell your article is helping me allot thank you very much, i will come back here after 3 months to show you my changes i.a.w. plz give me any extra tricks to hack this addiction if possible. thanks allot 🙂

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  39. I’m a 15 year old teen with the addition, watching porn is one of the things I’ve been doing since I discovered I could produce sperm at the age of 12 reading this article can really help change the way I feel about women, and I’ve me the opportunity to think of what my sex life will be like when I really get out there in the world we men live in. When I was 11 I was caught watching porn by my parents and at that time I stopped, but like the article explained the lust came back and took over my mind making it seem like porn is my life. Till this day continue with the urge to watch something that I will be able to do in the future, but I will use my time wisely and keep away from the sites that destroy my want to learn and get out of school and focus on life the way it’s suppose to be.

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  40. I’m a 15 year old struggling to to stop my urge of watch the one thing that won’t get me a good placement anywhere in life but reading this article can spark a chance to redeem myself and stop my lust

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  41. I really don’t care if im addicted to porn. ive been married 49 years and my wife is the biggest prude in the world. Sex with her was like having sex with a watermelon, or an old rotten pile of grass clippings. so in the beginning I read sex pocket books and then moved on to the internet. There that at least put a smile on my face and I could watch what I wanted and masturbate to what I wanted. At least on the internet the women were beautiful and did all the things that I feel a wife should do . Porn caused E/D but I’m 70 years why should I care. I told my wife years ago that I loved porn and if she wanted to that was fine with me , she never left so could assume evert thing was OK

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  42. Hi, I’m 28 years old and have been watching/masturbating to porn since I was about 13. I never really had a serious girlfriend until now and was always a virgin until the other day when we first had sex. 90% of the way through, I went limp and was unable to get it erect again and had to settle for her finishing me off with a BJ, which got me hard again. Do you think going limp was because it was my first time, I was nervous etc.? Or do you think years of watching porn and masturbating has caused these issues and I really need to quit it in order to get back on the right track? Thanks for your help!

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  43. “teen brains gradually strengthen heavily used circuits”. oh crap, so you’re saying me liking lolis is going to turn me into a pedophile in 2 years.

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  44. Actually this makes wonder about anime and sexual health of individuals that delve too much into the otaku culture too the point where fandoms are created for those animated characters

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  45. I think about porn & masturbation obsessively; I am a married man with a regular – if ‘repetitive’ – sex life (she won’t try anything different!). I currently fixated with gay porn, having moved on from threesomes. I’m pretty sure it is affecting my mental health – or maybe the cause of my depressive / anxious feelings – but not sure if I am strong enough to stop! Many interesting comments on this thread to think about however.

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  46. How long will the withdrawal symptoms last for someone who was addicted to porn for 20 years and masturbation addiction for 25 years?
    My sex drive is dead. I have no interest in even being around people. How long will it take my mind to reprogram itself? I wanna fuck some women, but now I have no confidence and my life is full of problems. No money, no job, no car etc

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  47. Not sure is worth for women, they such selfish hypocritical whores because they get spoiled so badly, is pretty sad.
    But for personal health and wellbeing, and regain mental power is indeed very worth to destroy porn addiction, but easier said than done.

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  48. This “crap” aka pornography addiction is real! At least in my mind! My use of “porn”goes back to Hustler and Playboy when I was 14 and progressed from there until now at 56. Hardcore (no illegal) it has gotten better when I went to SAA meetings but my brain is hooked even while I was married for 24 years. Now divorced I’m trying quit with therapy etc. its a love- hate relationship that’s destroyed my self esteem and ability to find and be intimate with a woman. It SUCKS!

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