The Top 10 Benefits of Quitting Porn (#7 is My Favorite)

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The Top 10 Benefits of Quitting Porn (#7 is My Favorite)

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The Top 10 Benefits of Quitting Porn (#7 is My Favorite)

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I have a confession to make…

I love porn.

For real, it’s amazing. I remember the first time I saw it at age 13, it was like fireworks went off in my brain. Then when I got a little older fireworks started to go off elsewhere.

The next 10 years of my life was filled with daily porn use. It was as natural as breathing and I honestly never thought it was a problem. That was until I realized I was 23 years old, at a job I hated, lacking any sort of a sex life (and when I did have sex I had trouble keeping an erection – I think I honestly enjoyed porn over sex) and I was just feeling low.

So I decided to change my life. I got into personal development and one of the first things I learned about was the benefits of quitting porn. So I tried it.

I thought, “fuck it, let’s quit porn.”

HAH!

I almost died. For real. I never realized how after 10 years of daily porn use that I was truly addicted to porn. Years went by of trying to quit but no matter how long I went without it (10 days, 90 days, 228 days – my previous record) I ALWAYS went back.

It wasn’t until I learned about the HCT Method (learn more below) that I was finally able to stop watching porn, for good.

And let me tell you, the benefits of quitting porn are real. So real.

It’s why I now own my own business, travel the world, have a smoking hot wife and have a fulfilled sex life. Quitting porn was the catalyst for the life changing growth that got me to where I am today.

So below I have outlined the top 10 benefits I have noticed since quitting porn. If you want to feel them yourself and save yourself the years of trial and error I went through, follow the path I took (learn more below). It works.

The Benefits of Quitting Porn:

Before I jump into the many benefits of being porn free, after reading 300 comments on this article I just want to note a few things:

1: I am not religious. And I don’t think that the non judgmental energy of the universe cares if you watch porn or not. This is not a moral issue, I’m just stating that without it your life will improve. Take it or leave it.

2: Not all men have a problem with porn. Some can watch it when they want and lead healthy successful lives and crush it with the ladies. But if it holds you back (with women or in general), even a little, then this is something to think about.

3: Masturbation is natural and can be healthy. I am not referring to masturbation in this article, just masturbation to porn.

So, what are the top 10 benefits I noticed after quitting porn? Let’s get into it.

1) Quitting porn will allow you to access the best version of yourself

Quitting Porn Allows You to Access Your Best Self

It was hard for me to let go of porn. But no matter how I looked at it, I realized that the best version of myself does not watch porn. And I believe powerfully that the best version of yourself does not watch porn.

But you have to know. I can only speak for myself.

What I do know for sure is that I continuously see men kickstart insane personal growth from quitting porn. It acts as a catalyst and so often men not only see tremendous benefits from quitting porn, but they continue to crush it in other areas of their life – like business, dating, sex and more.

So take a second with me and close your eyes. Imagine the life you want to create. Imagine in as vivid detail as you can. Take your time, and do it now.

…

Now answer this question: Is this ideal version of you jerking off to porn every night?

If the answer is no, and you want to be that person, then do something about it.

2) When you quit porn, you will become less lazy

Men no longer have to make any attempt at fulfilling their sexuality. It is the worst thing that ever happened to the race. Men used to go out of their way to win the hearts of women they wanted. They used to be romantic and bold. Now they just stay home and spend countless hours jerking off to internet porn instead.

3) Your motivation will skyrocket

There is no reason to go to the gym. There is no reason to do your hair and make yourself look good. Porn will never reject you no matter how you look, and regardless of how much money you make. When there is no primal need to impress the opposite sex in order to fill man’s instinctive need for lust, men let themselves go and lurk their house in their underwear.

4) Your self image and body image will improve

Porn sets unrealistic standards for men. To be in porn men must have abnormally large “talent.” Men who watch porn consistently grow to see that as the norm and themselves as inadequate.

It’s a slippery slope because this insecurity keeps men from having sex with women, in turn driving them deeper into porn use.

5) You will stop craving porn over sex

Porn is now so fantastically HD, with every sexual fantasy imaginable at the click of a mouse. The pleasure of watching porn is starting to overtake the pleasure of actual sex if it hasn’t already done so.

Men searching hundreds of fetishes and videos in the matter of an hour now find sex with a woman of the standard they can get (because of the porn) boring, and unpleasurable.

This is a very dangerous line, as seen in the examples below:

I could link to 100 + examples easy of just men who write about it online.

If this sounds like you, then you really need to sort yourself out. Get on the forums, there are many people who have been through the same thing who can help you along the way.

6) Porn causes Erectile Dysfunction (ED) and quitting porn reverses it

Because of reasons 4 and 5, porn causes erectile dysfunction in an enormous amount of men. Porn becomes the only thing that can stimulate them because of the intense visual experience it offers the brain. This experience is unnatural, and real sex becomes bland and un-stimulating.

The experience of porn is so unnatural, that it actually causes the brain to release unnatural amounts of Dopamine, the reward chemical.

The brain becomes so accustomed to this unnatural level of dopamine that without porn you cannot achieve an erection and you straight feel like crap.

It is a proven fact that porn affects the brain the exact same way as other addictive drugs.

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7) You will find women more attractive

I think the greatest gift of living a porn-free life is how you start to perceive women around you. After months of no porn, your attraction to women will go through the roof. It is truly remarkable.

Just the sight of a woman’s skin will turn you on

Being free of porn you start to really appreciate the beauty of women. Just the sight of a woman’s skin or her smell will be enough to throw your attraction into overdrive. Your sexual instincts will be back where they are supposed to be, and you will crave women like never before.

You will start to notice women you once found unattractive

Women that once were not up to your porn standards really start to pop out at you. You will start to see the beauty in women that you once overlooked because they did not have the bodies of porn stars.

I find myself more and more surprised at some of the women I find attractive and for what reasons. It is really a beautiful thing.

8) You will be better with women

This should be reason enough for anyone to stop watching internet porn. I promise you that after months of no porn, and even better, no masturbation, you will be better with women (out of necessity!). And not just a little better, but a lot better.

You will crave women, instead of craving your favorite videos

Have you ever gotten that incredible sexual urge that comes out of nowhere? To a regular porn viewer to the first thing they do is head to the internet. To men who don’t watch porn, the first thing they do is head to their cell phone to call a real girl. Or they go out and meet one.

You will find it easier to talk to women

Many men who give up porn find that they start to interact much smoother with women. A lot of their anxiety towards the opposite sex fades and they start to feel more confident and smooth.

9) Sex will be more satisfying

Instead of having erectile dysfunction and not finding sex as satisfying as porn, you will be the opposite. After months without porn in your life, your pleasure for sex will skyrocket.

You will have better, harder erections with women

Without porn numbing your sexual stimulation, just the touch of a woman will be enough to get you up and going. Actual sex will feel so different than it ever did. So much more powerful and pleasurable.

Your intimacy levels during sex will be something that you never experienced before

If you are like most men who started porn at an extremely young age, you have probably never even experienced intense intimacy. You have sexually numbed yourself from porn for years. Your first sexual experience free from porn will be like a sexual awakening.

You will also be much better at sex itself. You will be more in touch with a woman’s body, and your own. You won’t have any performance anxiety issues and your sexual freedom and spirituality will increase.

Sex can be the greatest experience there is, you just need to lose the porn. I would quit porn just for this benefit alone!

10) When you stop watching porn, you will simply be a better version of yourself

It’s a fact that if you can give up porn you will be a better version of yourself.

You will think clearer and be less stressed
You will find women more attractive
You will be better with women
Your sex life will improve
You will have more energy

So if you want to experience the benefits of quitting porn for yourself then give it a shot! Just note that when you stop watching porn you may feel like shit for a few days due to withdrawals, but after your brain has rebalanced you will feel amazing.

If you have trouble quitting, then follow the path I took and use the HCT Method to eliminate your cravings. I tried to quit for years, but willpower alone is NOT ENOUGH! Don’t waste your time.

I’m in Josh Hudson’s HCT program. He’s our partner and he’s my boy. Not only will you learn to eliminate porn from your life but you’ll be part of an exclusive group with myself and over 1,000 other men all taking on the same challenge as you.

You’ll also have access to weekly zoom meetings and you’ll even be assigned an accountability partner & be put in an accountability group with 4 other dudes to keep each other on track. It’s legit.

If you want to learn more you can watch Josh’s webinar or sign up here.

Porn addiction is no joke, but you can do this man. I promise. And please share your story with us in the comments below, we would love to hear it. Also, if you have any questions at all feel free to email me at [email protected] Thanks brother. Go crush it.

Additional Notes:

1: Masturbation is not the culprit being covered in this article, and it is a natural thing. However that being said, there is scientific evidence showing that it has negative consequences on your brain’s biochemistry, and its effects differ from having regular sex. So in short, just opt for sex.

(See our article 11 Reasons to Stop Masturbating).

2: Millions of men are starting to realize how much porn has messed up their lives. We have women emailing us every week about the fact that they have to leave their boyfriends or husbands because of it. If you are in the generation that missed hardcore internet porn growing up, you’re lucky.

But kids are growing up on more and more intense porn from the age of ten. If you have kids, do what you can to educate your kids, and shape them into solid, confident men.

Additional Resources:

Below are some great sites that will help you kick the porn addiction and help you realize just how powerful it is. Check them out if this article has inspired change in your life.

I hope this helped you. If so, let us know below and share this on Facebook. And for updates on more life-improving articles subscribe to our mailing list below.

Sean Russell, Life Coach

Hey guys, I’m Sean a self improvement enthusiast with over 10 years experience in the health and wellness industry. My mission is to help you become the best version of yourself.

Certifications: Certified Life Coach, Dating Coach, Nutritionist

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308 thoughts on “The Top 10 Benefits of Quitting Porn (#7 is My Favorite)”

Sean Russell

10/26/2013 at 8:17 pm

Couldn’t have said it better myself mike.
Keep it up man I am almost 6 months free and its just keep getting better!
– Keep in touch
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- unknown88
  
  04/30/2015 at 11:02 pm
  
  hi,
  so my progress is like this,
  i go to porntube maybe twice a week, and then look and think this shit is ugly im going to watch hentai, cant find any interesting.
  the point is the search for something interesting takes a lot longer for me now a days and i keep seeing pictures i actually dont want to see.
  It doesnt affect me in real life, but the pictures i do t want to see argggg
  Reply
  - Sean Russell
    
    05/01/2015 at 5:22 pm
    
    Hey man if you don’t want to see them then don’t look! I know that’s easier said than done but it’s a good first step!
    Reply
Dirk Diggler

11/05/2013 at 5:31 am

Wow, the author of this and the posters of the 2 comments above are delusional as fuck. “I also think it comes out of your skin and other people not just females can pickup on it.” -_-
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- Sean Russell
  
  11/05/2013 at 2:30 pm
  
  Haha, w.e man keep jerking off huddled over your computer. I’m not gonna lose sleep over it..
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- good person
  
  02/19/2014 at 2:29 am
  
  This article is so poorly written and completely off. I would like to point out that reason number one is about “real men” and then continues to list off the lives of fictional characters playing overly masculinized roles. If the OP looks up to these action stars as a model for living real life then OP has a long way to go before reaching adulthood and the true world.
  If you are a person that cannot differentiate acting in a film from the way real life occurs then you have a great deal of work you need to your internal self. I’ve watched porn and masturbated on a regular basis and I have no problem meeting women, appreciating them, being loved by them and making love to them. I’ve had an extreme success dating women and my love life is fantastic. Some of the woman I date openly talk to me about watching porn themselves. Porn is nothing but visual stimulation and if you sacrifice other areas of your life for that, it’s your decision.
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  - Sean Russell
    
    02/19/2014 at 11:44 am
    
    Man, I do not mind your opinion at all. Everyone is different I am glad porn doesn’t affect you harshly. But that last sentence is a dagger in the heart of all the men who have had their relationships ruined because of porn. It never got to that point for me thank god, and I used to be just like you for years getting plenty of girls in college while watching tons of porn. But the fact is I would have been with twice as much or possibly had a steady girlfriend without it.
    If you want to watch porn, watch porn. I dont care. Of course I could of kept watching porn and had plenty of average sex. But I plan on being great.
    Reply
    - do
      
      02/27/2014 at 6:41 am
      
      Dude it sounds like you have an addiction problem, WHY THE FUCK would you say I slept with plenty of girls in college and could have slept with twice as many. You’re not solving the problem you’re just an extremist going from one extreme to the next. It’s called moderation, and porn used in the right situation is definitely okay. A sexual therapist can tell you how porn can stimulate and increase your sex life with your partner. And UM what do you think they give you when you donate sperm? You want VD, or even better you want an unplanned pregnancy you just got over having difficulties of watching porn and you think you can handle kids? I’m sorry man, but your point is flawed. You’re just an extremest that can’t handle his shit.
      Reply
      - Sean Russell
        
        02/27/2014 at 2:35 pm
        
        Haha you guys are crazy. Watch porn if you want I don’t care! This is article is for men who’s porn habit is interfering with their ability to live a great life and have a great sex life. (which is probably in the millions!)
        Its insane how defensive you guys get about porn.
    - Money
      
      05/12/2014 at 5:22 pm
      
      Marcus G… if you needed porn to teach you how to have sex you’re a retard. In fact many women are starting to complain that men are degrading them through things they see in porn. wise up
      Reply
      - Sean Russell
        
        05/13/2014 at 2:50 pm
        
        Great point Money.
    - ashla
      
      07/27/2014 at 2:06 pm
      
      I am a woman….and let me just say the “porn techniques” for orgasms are not theb best….
      Those women are paid to moan and groan….real woman are not.
      And your comment makes no sense to me…the majority of porn doesnt include near enough foreplay for most women.
      All around my thought is: porn isn’t supposed to be an instructional video, everyone likes different things and thr only way to learn what gets them going is DOING it with a real person.
      Not watching some unrealistic person on a film.
      Reply
      - Sean Russell
        
        07/28/2014 at 4:10 pm
        
        True story.
    - MikeC
      
      11/26/2014 at 3:41 pm
      
      Men have been knocking up women well say since Adam and Eve and I’m not talking about the company that puts out pornographic movies.We have a billion people in India and China to prove it. Now we need porn to help us? I’m on the fucking money. If you need porn to get a woman off maybe you should start communicating a little.
      Reply
    - Walt
      
      08/06/2015 at 11:11 pm
      
      I am 61 years old, I was married for 31 years, my wife passed away 7 years ago, at which time I became addicted to porn. I met a beautiful, smart sexy woman and we married 2 years ago. I am deeply in love with her. But, the discovery by her, of my addiction plus me lying about it has destroyed the trust between us. But she still loves me, and has given me the chance to rebuild her trust in me. You guys do what you want but I know first hand what porn can do to a loving relationship. If you are honest with yourself you can understand the dangers of porn addiction. Give it some serious thought.
      Reply
    - Kirah
      
      08/20/2015 at 3:10 pm
      
      I’m a women and I have been with men who watched porn and men who didn’t watch porn, and let me just say… Sex was unbelievable great with the men that did not watch porn. Here’s why, the men who watched porn were more concerned about themselves getting off and thought that just by looking at me and rubbing their hands on my skin will turn me on!! What the fuck!!? So there were even times were I just had to tell the guy “hey, all you did was turned me off”.
      While the other guys who didn’t watch porn actually took their time to get to know my body, love my body, play with my body, and at the end I could say that WE were BOTH a whole lot more satisfied.
      Now I have a fiance and I absolutely love him, but when we go have sex I find myself fantasising about the other guys because my fiance is one of the many men that I dated who watched porn and thinks that he can just jam his thing inside me whenever he is ready. And even before having sex him, you can tell whether or not a guy watches porn by the way he treats you.
      In overall I’m at the point of calling of the wedding and leaving him because of his porn situation.
      Reply
  - Gnj
    
    02/24/2014 at 2:17 am
    
    James Bond? Really? Well i agree with goodperson that the article is somewhat poorly written and the author is probably not getting any or is majorly pussy-whipped. Fascinating to see though is how many christians have responded and imediately mixed up porn and masturbation. The others-19 year olds, i assume, want to be just like james bond and score with tons of “chicks”. And while i think the author might actually be unto something with blaming porn for some things, the references to jamesbonds, tarzans and “being smooth” to women have cancelled the good effects of the article for me (maybe because i dont care for other real women but my own, and virtual ones being so available for sexual gratification onky). So, “Laziness” and instant gratification for me still, then, until the other half raises the alarm in which case i will get back to this 🙂
    Reply
    - Sean Russell
      
      02/24/2014 at 2:50 pm
      
      Haha, I knew I was gonna get a lot of shit when I put James Bond under “real men” but it hasn’t been too bad.
      I assure you I am not pussywhipped haha. I value your opinion and this article has raised a lot of confusion about my values so I will hop at this chance to clear the air. I am not religious, I am not against masturbation, I am not a loser who “doesn’t get any.”
      I am a guy who literally lives to be the best version that he can be. And I %100 feel that when I am locked in my room jerking off to porn I am at the lowest point I can be. I find it weak, lazy & easy. Its not easy to go out and talk to real girls and work hard instead of lounging and watching porn. Its also not easy to eat extremely healthy when you are trying to get ripped. Same thing. I am not against either but its the men who stay away from the easy life who will eventually live the good life.
      Your commenting on my website that I built in the time you were watching porn. You are only validating my point.
      If you take my advice, cool. If you don’t that’s fine. These are just a few of the many reasons it will benefit you.
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      - monsterman
        
        01/06/2015 at 11:49 am
        
        well said!!!
      - NYC_B09K
        
        09/24/2015 at 4:33 am
        
        Bravo!!! That was VERY well put! 😀
Robert J

01/05/2014 at 12:33 pm

Okay guys so this article has truly changed my life. I literally keep it open in my browser constantly since I first viewed in Dec 22. I have not watched porn since that time HOWEVER I will admit I just looked a photo with a model (not a pornstar) and I masturbated. I’m feeling low about it and I really could use some encouragement. Was this bad?
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/05/2014 at 1:54 pm
  
  Hey Robert,
  It’s cool man, don’t get too discouraged.
  Its been 8 months since I have fully “watched porn and masturbated,” But during that time there were moments where I slipped and viewed porn. Its natural, its just a testament to how powerful its pull is on us.
  I remember being very discouraged wondering if I ruined my progress, but its truly all part of the process. There are going to be setbacks but it doesn’t bring you back to the start. And the fact that you only looked at a model is great! That not nearly as falsely stimulating as porn, its actually pretty natural.
  So remember, its a marathon and not a sprint so take that as a positive because staying positive will keep you on track. Even if you fuck up, try to find someway to flip it into a positive, and I think ur slip up is definitely a small positive.
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  - Robert
    
    01/15/2014 at 12:48 pm
    
    Thanks so much for the response Sean. This article has conpletely changed my life and provided so much light for me in what I thought was a never ending tunnel. I’ll never forget the moment I found this
    Reply
    - Sean Russell
      
      01/15/2014 at 1:30 pm
      
      Thats incredible to hear Robert, I wish you the best and if theres anything you ever need shoot me an email at [email protected]
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Chris

01/06/2014 at 2:08 pm

This is very true i have noticed, no porn or masturbating, i am on fire, smooth talker, witty, funny, calm, relaxed, not afraid, James Bond like. Once i do, BOOM, back in the darkness, full of fears, self conciousness, and anxiety . Thanks Sean, thanks.
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/08/2014 at 1:34 pm
  
  No problem Chris
  I’m the exact same way
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- Good Guy
  
  02/19/2014 at 2:31 am
  
  I think you might have some problem that you are projecting onto porn as the reason for it. Where you raised religious or in a strict culture where watching porn makes you feel taboo and disgusting? I’ve been watching porn for years and I have had 0 problems with my confidence and dating women.
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  - Sean Russell
    
    02/19/2014 at 11:42 am
    
    I’m sure you are quite the cassanova.
    I am not religious at all and never had any disgust with watching porn. In fact, the problem was I loved it so much I became completely contempt with watching porn over going to find a girl for satisfaction. I got laid all the time too in my porn day, but I wasn’t even close to my potential. That in my eyes is the problem.
    Not everyone has this problem and I am glad you don’t. I know a lot of people who watch plenty of porn and it doesn’t affect their dating life. But for many men, it does. Marriages are ruined all the time because of porn, it is just a fact.
    Reply
  - Sean Russell
    
    02/19/2014 at 12:16 pm
    
    Btw, did you know there is an entire culture in Japan who have given u women for porn. They are called herbivores. Not everyone gets off scott free like you. Open your mind a little bit.
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    - Rex
      
      07/31/2014 at 3:10 am
      
      I don’t understand what you’re taking about.
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      - Sean Russell
        
        07/31/2014 at 3:15 pm
        
        Then you are one of the lucky ones.
    - Rex
      
      07/31/2014 at 3:53 am
      
      I have to point this out and am surprised no one seem to have caught this. But was James Bond “slaying” or “laying” gorgeous women?
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      - Sean Russell
        
        07/31/2014 at 3:15 pm
        
        Maybe both.
Marcos

01/08/2014 at 12:36 am

Hi, Great article here sir! 🙂
I’m only 19 but I think porn is causing my ED because I still get morning wood! But no spontaneous ones during the day! Can you still masturbate say 2 times a week but with NO PORN and just imagination? How long does it take to see a difference? Thanks
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/08/2014 at 1:42 pm
  
  Hey man,
  Dropping porn is a huge start, so I would say yeah you can treat yourself as many times a week as you like if that’s what you want to do.
  Personally though, the most powerful thing you can do is to not fantasize at all. If you can masturbate without thinking and just being fully present and focused on feeling this will have the best effect on you.
  I used to fantasize like crazy and I found when with a girl it was almost boring to the point I had to fantasize when I was with her!
  But by eliminating all fantasy now I enjoy sex so much more, I stay present during it and it’s a much better experience. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t even want to masturbate I just seek out girls.
  Fantasy is essentially just playing a porn video in your head. And when you make it that easy for yourself to be fully pleasured at any moment, your desire to go out and meet women still takes a hit.
  This is just my opinion from my experience but find what works for you, and congratulations on taking the first step man.
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Cannawolf

01/13/2014 at 1:03 pm

Nice article. Reminds me of my boyfriend who was a virgin when I met him online. He was insecure, only had negative assumptions about women, watched far too much porn and took out his frustrations over not getting laid by being a bit of a troll. Luckily I saw thy underneath all that he was a sweet boy who did want to be a gentleman to a lady but had a hard time respecting women having never been with one and only watching girls being cummed on in their face and called a slut. Now I’m no prude (pole dancer, lingerie/pinup modelling), and I am not ‘jealous’ of pornstars but believe sex with emotional intimacy and mutual respect is awesome. Since he’s been having real life sex with me he is slowly becoming more confident, happy, mature and understanding that women are real human beings. I’m still trying to get through the issue of wanting to dirty talk though… Ive been sexually abused and hate being talked to like my sexuality is bad and I’m only having sex because I’m being forcefully degraded for him pleasure. He doesn’t seem to get that calling women sluts like the ones in porn puts a negative connotation on things when she DOES want to get freaky for mutual benefit. Oddly he also found himself self conscious about his body and never thought his penks was big. This is crazy because it’s actually too big nearing 9 inches but he assumed himsel to be ‘lesser’ than a pornstar! I’m seeing him soon with black lace French knickers, costumes and corsets, but thankfully I think he won’t for a second forget I am his beloved girlfriend and not a girl on screen he can click the x button in the top right of the window on. He’s slowly beginning to last longer too ;3 The more he shows willingness to acknowledge me and my sexuality rather than sex just being for ‘dirty women’ in porn who should be punished, the less shame I feel as a woman giving him the 5* treatment with random blowjobs just to keep him on his toes. Ditch porn. The real thing is better.
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/13/2014 at 1:54 pm
  
  Very nice Canna,
  You sound like an awesome girlfriend, hes lucky to have you.
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Ken

01/15/2014 at 11:30 pm

I’m 21 years old, and ever since hitting puberty, I’ve always been a nervous wreck around beautiful women I meet for the first time. I always thought I was just anxious by nature. It wasn’t till I read accounts of men losing their social anxiety and becoming more confident AFTER quitting porn that I realized I might’ve just inadvertently set myself up for social anxiety from the start (I started watching porn heavily once I hit puberty). I remember being a confident little kid who had no problems talking to boys and girls. For all I know I might still have that natural confidence deep inside, and it might just be buried beneath years of porn use. So I’ve decided to quit porn/masturbation all together and find out who I really am, when completely uninhibited by porn. Today’s my 30th day porn/masturbation free and I have begun to feel slightly less anxious/more confident as the days go by. Hopefully it’s legit and not just placebo. Excited to see how much my confidence and ability with women grows. Excited for my overall growth as a man in general!
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/17/2014 at 1:45 pm
  
  Your story is very similar to mine Ken. I am 24 now and watched porn from prepuberty puberty to age 23, a lot.
  One month is awesome, but what they don’t tell you on many other sites is that is takes a long time to fully be past porn, but it will happen.
  I remember around 2-3 months I thought I was past it and felt great but I wasnt. I started having constant porn wet dreams almost every night around month 4. Then that past and I got even better.
  I still have days when I really crave porn when i’m bored and on the computer. I have slipped and watched some for a few minutes but never masterbated to it, and I used to get really down when I did. But now I am starting to realize that its all part of the recovery. If you slip, its not something to get down about. Thats just where you are in recovery and its part of it, and when you are 100% you won’t even think about slipping because you won’t care about porn.
  Our brains have been hardwired on porn. As we grew up and our brains developed in their most crucial time. porn was big part of that development. It will take a while to rewire, but it will. Some of the HD porn is crazy now. I really feel bad for the generation growing up now..
  It has been 8 months for me, and I am just starting to get to the point where I think of porn and am like ehh, don’t need it. I still crave it some days, but less and less. Like I said it takes a while but you will get there.
  Good luck man.
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Robert

01/16/2014 at 11:49 pm

As of tomorrow, January 17, 2014, I will be on day one. I’m sick of living this way !!
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/17/2014 at 1:46 pm
  
  Well done Robert. Its the first day of the rest of your life!
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Luke

01/20/2014 at 2:36 am

This article really hit home for me. I have been addicted to porn for a long time. I’m married and I feel like shit when I delete my browser history. I’m determined to stop this time. I have to admit, it’s not an easy thing to do and it’s so easy to be pulled back into the rabbit hole. I’ll keep referring back to this article to give me inspiration.
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/21/2014 at 2:00 am
  
  I’m glad this article helped you Luke. It is extremely easy to be pulled back into the rabbit hole, I know. I had many failures before I had success. But you got this.
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Dan

01/22/2014 at 3:30 pm

Wow…great article.
So I hadn’t really been planning on stopping porn/masturbating today. It’s been on my mind that I do it too often and it’s REALLY been on my mind that I’ve not been getting with girls recently (my last relationship finished 18 months ago and beyond a couple of flings I’ve been pretty much on my own). I’ve just felt lacking in confidence and unsure about how to connect with people generally, not just women. I think naturally I’m quite an outgoing, fun person and yet I’ve not seemed to translate that into my life for around about… 18 months. Funny that.
Then today I had the house to myself and nothing much to do, so I took my laptop to bed and watched porn. And literally the second it was done all I could think was “what the hell am I doing?” and immediately googled “how to stop watching porn” and found this article. I’m glad I did. I’ve spent so long pondering my low energy/confidence, which felt like it was just getting gradually eaten away, but I never considered that this might be the cause. More than that, I’ve felt for a while now that porn is just such an exercise in degradation and objectification of women, and I hate that, but I just kept on justifying watching it in my head for various poor reasons. Well, not anymore. I’m going to give this a try. Thanks a lot for this article.
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/25/2014 at 8:52 pm
  
  I’m really glad that you found this article Dan. If it contributes at all to completely changing your life, like it sounds like it will, then all my efforts on this site thus far have been worth it.
  Comments like this really inspire me and I wish you the best of luck. Based on the incredible feedback this article has had I am going to write an article on how exactly to quit porn 100% b/c this will be on of the hardest things you will do, and most guys go back.
  You will soon feel the force porn has to drawing you in (its incredibly powerful), and I have learned a lot in the last 8 months on how to overcome it. So article to come on that, probably when I reach a year b/c I know I still have a lot to learn.
  But thanks for the comment, you really made my day. And you definitely have the strength inside to do this.
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Cris

01/25/2014 at 6:56 pm

My story is pretty sad actually………….I have been viewing porn in some form or another since I was 8 years old but the addiction became much more intense as I got older. All the things said above in the article are true although I don’t have ED. I became much less active in all the things I used to be active in and my relationships with people and friends suffered because all I could ever think about was getting my porn fix. I never had much luck with the girls and so the porn became the answer. As the article says, the porn will never reject you. I found that over time I started to have some problems. One, my penis seemed smaller and my scrotum also. Another problem I had was that when I peed I would dribble and I know this is related to a prostate problem; well guess what. After about 10 days or so of not masterbating the dribbling lessened. The longer I went, the less of a problem I had. So in my opinion, over masterbating can have a negative effect on the prostate. The shape and appearance of my penis changed. It looked much healthier and it felt better also (much more sensitive to the touch). I found that by masterbating, I was ejaculating less and less and not shooting at all. There are probably other things I could mention but the worst thing that happened was my wife leaving me. My porn habit was simply unacceptable to her and now I understand why. I used to try to explain to her that I needed my release and even asked her nicely to leave the house a couple of times so I could masterbate to porn. I could not get her pregnant because my sperm and ejaculations were so weak. Not surprisingly, she left me for another man who does not watch porn and I am a sad sad individual because of it. Don’t do what I did. I am now paying the price for having a porn addiction (reap what I sow). I will rebuild my life though and I will gain control of my life. I will be a better person in the future. I am still married btw. I hope my story can inspire and help somebody who was in my same position. Be Strong……..Cris (46 years old)
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/25/2014 at 8:57 pm
  
  Cris, thankyou for sharing your story.
  I know it takes a lot of courage and I hope that you can inspire others to quit before their problem becomes too much.
  There is no doubt that you can turn your life around, the human potential to overcome adversity is incredible. Good luck and if there is anything you ever need you know where to find us.
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Andie

01/25/2014 at 8:57 pm

This was a great article. After my ex husband started looking at porn more often, he started complaining about the way I looked (we have 3 kids together and I don’t like I did 10 years ago), started pressuring me to do things in bed that I wasn’t comfortable with and saying our sex was boring. I tried to be open-minded, but when I finally told him there were just some things I couldn’t bring myself to do, he left. Two weeks later he told me he wanted a divorce. It really hurt my self-esteem. I’ve become so unhappy with myself because I just don’t have it in me to be “porn star material. ” I’ll never look like those women or do a lot of the things they do. I did a Google search to see if there were men who didn’t look at porn or set such unrealistic expectations on women, and I found this. Thanks for giving me hope again.
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/25/2014 at 9:02 pm
  
  Andie,
  That is some story, and you shouldn’t feel bad about yourself, it was your husband who had the problem, not you.
  Fortunately, there are more and more groups and men becoming anti-porn every week. People are starting to see how crippling it is and the rise against porn is really growing. There are groups everywhere like the reddit no-fap group: http://en-us.reddit.com/r/NoFap
  Its inspiring to see and I hope your story can show some men how porn addiction is not only affecting themselves, but their loved ones.
  Thanks Andie
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- Kim
  
  10/29/2014 at 1:00 am
  
  My husband divorced me solely because I had a problem with porn. He couldn’t even see how it was impacting me, or the fact that he was criticizing how I looked. He told me that he should never know that I have hair down there. He said that I was just insecure and was the one with the problem for not accepting porn. And yet everything we did came right out of porn and it was humiliating. Did he want to be with me, or just use me to be with his thoughts?
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  - Sean Russell
    
    10/29/2014 at 3:29 pm
    
    I’m sorry to hear that Kim. I hope your story sets of a lightbulb in other men.
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Arturo B.

01/27/2014 at 8:31 am

I have been recovering from my porn and masturbating habits for around a year now. With help and support from god, my family and church I stopped completely for months, became more confident with women and
life. I even got myself a girlfriend. Unfortunately about a couple of months ago I fell off the wagon again and have been struggling once more. Its not as bad as it used to be but it still occures quite frequently. After having fallen into temptation again I stumbled unto this blogpost feeling I needed to do something about it and I thank god that I did. After reading this blog I realized that I’m not the only guy struggling with this degrading habit. I felt inspired to do something about it after reading all the comments and came up with an idea. I will write down a number on a dry eraseboard I use for notes which will be the amount of days I have gone without porn or masturbating. This will keep me motivated to keep going and just like you said “its a marathon not a sprint”. Even if I struggle and fall I will kep going. I hope this idea can inspire anyone else that reads this and if you can come up with other motivating ideas please let me know I’d love to hear em! God bless
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AJ

01/31/2014 at 3:46 am

Try having Aspergers- that will mess you up with women worse than porn ever could. You can decide to stop watching porn, but you cant rewire your brain to fix a mental disorder youve had since birth.
I haven’t had date with anyone I didnt meet online in six years.
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/31/2014 at 1:05 pm
  
  I’m sorry to hear about that AJ, you must be a strong person to deal with such adversity
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sebb

02/01/2014 at 8:32 pm

Hey Im from Europe. and I must say,,, ITS GREAT ARTICLE! THANKS!!!!!!
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/01/2014 at 9:17 pm
  
  Thanks brother
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Jake

02/09/2014 at 3:20 am

I agree with this article. Porn and masturbation screws up my life, Im so much better of a man without it. My confidence is high, Im meeting women, Im smooth,, Im extremely social,, just a different person altogether.. It’s so hard to quit though and I feel like total shit right now, time to kick this habit for good
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/09/2014 at 3:09 pm
  
  Nice Jake,
  I agree, it is so hard to quit. So what helps is to adopt the mindset that this is going to be a lifestyle, for the rest of your life. Most people treat porn like a diet. They go hardcore cut it off and then in a month they rebound and watch it more than before. In the fitness world, Its the people who change their lifestyle and don’t think of it as dieting that have lifelong success and good health and fitness.
  Its a long process, but you will thank yourself in years to come.
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Rick

02/12/2014 at 2:58 am

Great article saved my night , i hope it saves the rest of my life.
I’ve been in a habit of watching porn and masturbating 2-5 hours a day for like 5 years , sometimes twice a day untill this night i was searching for porn like always and suddenly i found this article , really when i saw this article it saved me , i’ve been trying to do anything to stop watching porn but couldnt , wasnt strong enough , porn destroyed my life and my body , i used to go to gym and meet new friends and go out alot but when this habit started , i lost my fitness and started to be really lazy , almost all my friends are stronger than me now , all i do is masturbate and then look in the mirror and ask myself why am doing that ? but never stopped really hard , its like drugs .
Really i liked your article , thanks man it really helped me , and if i couldnt stop watching porn and masturbating for long , atleast you saved me from masturbating this night .
Thanks again.
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/12/2014 at 1:03 pm
  
  No problem Rick,
  I am glad this helped you, and yes it definitely is like a drug 100%. In fact it is a drug. This infographic in this article sums it up: https://Menprovement.com/porn-addiction/
  But anyway I’m glad to help and good luck with everything. I am going to write an article about how to quit porn in the next few months, once I have passed the 1 year mark. So keep in touch.
  – Sean
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Paul

02/12/2014 at 9:03 pm

My friend… it was a great article. By this time i have to say that thankfully i’m still not a fully addict to porn but it has weakened my body and mind. I only have had one girlfriend… i noticed my sex life with her was “boring”. She didn’t give me what I wanted (porn fantasies) and in the end i felt like a baby when i was at her side, NOT LIKE A MAN! My erections are weak as well, for the same reasons. I know that a unstimulating sex life is half because of no-chemistry with your mate but it can also be affected by PORN! There were real problems with her but unreal fantasies too. It was a tormented relationship, from which i wanted my exit (but couldn’t find it because of my stupid dreams). Stepping out from that was my first step to know myself. Now this article has provided me my second flight far away from porn. I’ll start today
thank you very much
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/12/2014 at 9:22 pm
  
  Paul you speak the truth!
  And I am glad to give you the push. Goodluck!
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Brian

02/13/2014 at 1:15 am

men ,boys and monkeys have been masturbating for eons.irregardless we’re all hard wired for that that’s how we all got here.If your spouse or significant others Anterior has grown extremely LARGE one might need some outside stimulation before being able to take the plunge.Kings had 500 wives because they could, brothels existed and exist for a reason , whether it was a JCPenney bra add or aborigine in National Geographic or your uncles Playboy it happens . abstinence is the strangest perversion that there is it leaks out of you if you don’t it prevents prostate cancer , speeding and eating too much chocolate cake are all so bad for you.Moderator and moderation come from the same word strangely enough
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/13/2014 at 3:59 pm
  
  I agree Brian,
  I do not recommend abstinence at all, I recommend sex and masterbation if needed. But its the porn that is so addicting and completely un-natural. It leaks an unnatural amount of chemicals in your brain and when it affects your relationships and life, this is a problem.
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Paul

02/13/2014 at 2:45 pm

A couple of notes:
masturbating is not bad per se… it’s a natural way of releasing sexual energy when a girl is not crushing your balls… you can climb a hill, you can play soccer or you can masturbate… the thing is when that natural action is captured by porn… then both become an obssession…
i don’t want to seem like a expert here but i think a good way of reducing that excess of porn images in our brains is to reduce the “large” of our fantasies… for example: if you dream with girls with big tits, totally covered in makeup… try to think about a girl with normal breast and normal make-up
by the way: last night was the first night 🙂
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losers

02/14/2014 at 7:43 am

garbage, porn has saved the planet!
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/14/2014 at 9:37 am
  
  Haha
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Cameron

02/18/2014 at 1:20 am

Hi 🙂
I’m on my 12th da of NO Porn, Masturbating or Orgasm. I seem to have a weaker erection than I use to and no random erections anymore and not much morning wood :/ And I’m only 19 and fit and healthy! Just before I started my run of this I use to masturbate to porn quite a bit. Like I’d go a day without then the next day I’d do it about 3 times in one day :/ How long does it take to see some good improvements with your erections and libido and stuff? Do you think I desensitized myself to normal things and got use to porn women? Thanks for your help! Is it ok to masturbate again soon but limit it to once or twice a week but with NO porn at all and jus imagination of women I’ve seen at the gym or work throuhout the day? Thanks for your help!
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/19/2014 at 11:53 am
  
  Cameron,
  Personally I now do not find it healthy to not masturbate or have sex. It is unnatural as much as porn is.
  I think you should listen to your body and do as you feel. If you are desensitized to real sex from excessive porn use, it will take your mind a while to revert back to its natural state. Masturbating without fantasy and real man to women sex is the best remedy.
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sexlessam

02/20/2014 at 4:55 pm

What about sexually lonely men like me who are unable to have sex with a partner? My wife stopped having sex with me years ago. I remain faithful and don’t want to get a divorce and breakup the family. We get along fine despite there being no sex. So my only sexual outlet is masturbation and porn.
I’ll tell you one thing. If I gave up the porn and masturbation the chances of me cheating on my wife out of sexual desperation are about 100%
So in a way porn keeps my family together and keeps me from straying from my marriage. I don’t like the situation but my family is more important to me than affairs or paid sex.
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/20/2014 at 5:11 pm
  
  I guess there are extremes in any situation.
  The focus of this article is for a self improvement purpose. I believe that men can improve by giving up porn and focusing more on their sex lives, wives or dating externally. In your case, that seems to not be applicable. We all find ourselves in tough times in our lives at one point or another. I hope you sort everything out soon.
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SexlessSam

02/20/2014 at 5:24 pm

After being sexless for two decades I highly doubt that. And my situation is not “extreme” at all. There are more men in sexless marriage situations situation than you might think. And I didn’t even mention thousands if not millions of men who have physical or psychological handicaps that make meeting and dating women difficult. My point is that for many men porn does serve a purpose as a surrogate sexual partner, if only if fantasy for those who cannot find a woman to agree to have sex with them.
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/20/2014 at 5:42 pm
  
  You’re right,
  But again this is a self improvement website and is just 10 reasons to stop watching porn what will improve your life. I am sure for many there are 10 reasons to keep watching porn to improve theirs.
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- James
  
  07/18/2014 at 5:56 pm
  
  The question would then become “do you watch porn because your marriage is sexless, or is your marriage sexless because you watch porn?” There is, in my opinion a HUGE difference! If you have a happy marriage, and you are fully loyal to your wife, and love her dearly, but she doesn’t have the desire to have sex (or physically cannot have sex), then I can see turning to porn. That doesn’t however mean you have to become addicted to porn (what I feel the OP is trying to address here). Quitting porn in this scenario will most likely not do anything for you, or worst case scenario, cause marital problems by upsetting your balance.
  However, if you are addicted to porn, and have been for some time, and slowly drifted apart (sexually) from your wife over time due to it, and your marriage became sexless, that’s a different story. If you and your wife make each other happy, and you trust each other, and fully love each other, she might have just accepted your pornography addiction, and because of her love to you decided to live in a sexless marriage. In this scenario, you may find that beating your porn addiction will actually bring sex back to a sexless marriage (perhaps even more passionate than when you were younger).
  It all depends on where you come from, and where you’re going. This post is relevant to some, and irrelevant to others.
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  - Sean Russell
    
    07/18/2014 at 6:42 pm
    
    Exactly James, every case is different. This article is just to inspire some thought in men.
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Joachim

02/23/2014 at 11:22 pm

Man, you’re a hero. I’ve been reading the post and all comments, and a lot of things are so recognizable. Personally I’ve had ups and downs in quitting porn, but this article really helped me getting me motivated again.
As a kid, I remember, I was very social, but since my puberty I have started watching porn and since then I have difficulties in having social contact. As others mentioned, I just know that my old ‘social nature’ is still there, and I know I will be much happier, clearer and more confident if I stop exposing my brains to the unnatural amount of visual stimulation.
I think it’s actually one of the biggest problems of society today.
Thanks for your efforts on this, for keeping this topic active (replying on the comments) and being a help to all of us!
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/24/2014 at 2:52 pm
  
  Thanks Joachim,
  I have been getting 90% great feedback on this and 10% negative and every positive comment is fuel to keep bringing valuable content. I will have more articles on this subject as I learn more about it from comments and such. But thank you for the kind words in the meantime.
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Shaun

02/24/2014 at 3:13 pm

I read elsewhere that NOT masturbating could cause prostate cancer? At the same time I believe that this article and Whye Porn is Holding You Back article have a great point I would like to find out if there is any truth in this prostate cancer thing”?
Thank you 🙂
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/24/2014 at 3:28 pm
  
  Yeah, I do not think it is great to never ejaculate. Which is why I recommend sex and even masturbation if you have to.
  That being said Taoist masters have been practicing “sexual kung fu” where they have multiple orgasms without ejaculating and never ejaculate at all. They believe when you do you are losing your vital energy, and instead they harness this energy for good health and vitality. These are some of the healthiest mother fuckers alive 😉
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- James
  
  07/18/2014 at 5:44 pm
  
  Whether or not you choose to masturbate doesn’t matter to your body. It is constantly producing semen, and where as your sexual habits can change how much semen your body produces, it doesn’t ever completely stop. When you chose not to ejaculate (you don’t masturbate, and you don’t have sex often, if at all) your body will find the means of releasing the pent of semen on its own. This is usually done in your sleep, so you end up having to wake up to a bed full of cold semen.
  The concern for cancer is in holding semen in your body for so long that your body forces a release in your sleep. I don’t believe there is really any truth to this, but as I’m not a scientist, I really can’t say for certain.
  Most guys need to ejaculate at least once a week (again depending on how much semen YOUR body produces). If you have sex once a week, and don’t have wet dreams, you can completely stop masturbating without concern of picking up a sex addiction. If you have sex once a week, and don’t masturbate, but have wet dreams, then you either need to have sex more often in a week, or masturbate a couple times a week.
  The issue there is not over doing either of those. If you have more sex then your body needs, you risk developing a sex addiction. Likewise, if you masturbate more than your body needs, you risk another addiction (yes, you can be addicted to masturbation without porn: porn is just a means to an end, afterall).
  One way or another, your body is going to get ride of that semen, so you might as well save yourself the trouble of having to clean up your mess at night, and either add a little bit more sex, or masturbate. If you’re fighting a porn addiction, though, don’t screw it up by over doing masturbation or sex. Addiction is addiction, that’s what you’re trying to fight here.
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Kay

02/25/2014 at 4:38 am

I stumbled on this site while searching for information on how to give an erotic massage. I’m a single woman, but on the off-chance I ever get a boyfriend again I want to add some things to my repertoire!
I find this article and the comments really interesting. For a long time, pornography and the sex industry has been a topic that I’ve tried to read and educate myself about both in school and in my free time. I grew up in a very strict, religious household and now as an adult, I’m really fascinated by anything that I was taught was “taboo.” It seems like your article is focused on porn movies and not other forms of porn (images in magazine, tumblr, poems, stories, audio etc). Do you think your ideas hold true for porn in other formats?
Pornography can be a healthy sexual outlet or it can be something awful. I think it really depends on the mindset of the person, why they are watching porn, the type of porn they watch and whether or not they are addicted to porn. I think consuming porn is a bit like consuming alcohol; some people can enjoy it occasionally and use it to add pleasure to their lives and other people become completely dependent on it to function.
I suspect the reason that porn in book form (romance novels, 50 shades of grey) is so incredibly popular with women is because women use it as sexual outlet: A place to indulge in fantasy that they can’t or won’t experience in real life. (Although women and men seem to have very different relationships with porn).
I applaud and respect anybody who realizes that something in their life is not making them happy and getting rid of it (whether that’s porn, drugs, toxic people, a shitty job, a terrible partner, etc).
For you guys who are struggling, good luck!
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- Sean Russell
  
  02/25/2014 at 2:58 pm
  
  That was a very beautiful explanation of things Kay and I really appreciate it.
  I agree with you 100%. It can be harmless, or it can ruin you.
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Shaun

02/25/2014 at 9:55 pm

Thank you for your answer Sean. Sorry for no answering sooner 🙂
I am embarrased by the fact that I am only 14 and started to watch porn last year. Since I stopped watching porn I have lost weight too!!
On answer to your answer to my question Sean, since I am 14 sex is kind off a nono so masturbation is my only form of ejaculation. What do you think. It said that people that masturbate once A week are 10% less likely to gwt prostate cancer. Wouldthat be acceptable?
Mind over matter guys. Mind over porn
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Claudio

03/09/2014 at 5:23 pm

Hi, I’m 19 years old and I think I have some erection issues 🙁 I don’t get morning wood or seem to get any erections throughout the day anymore. However, I get them sometimes in the shower and when I’m going to sleep at night I can feel one coming sometimes but never during the day :/ I’m still a virgin but I eat very healthy and do lots of sports and exercise and get plenty of sleep. I masturbate only to porn. The last time I used my imagination was about 2 years a go :((( I masturbate about 7 times a week. Recently I read some stuff on the internet and I am currently 7 days without watching porn and masturbating? Is this the right thing to do? I’m going to try and go to weeks without Porn and masturbation but then after that start masturbating maybe 2 times a week maximum but to my imagination only? Is this a good idea? And how long before I can see good results ad get random hard erections again? Thank you 🙂
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- Sean Russell
  
  03/09/2014 at 8:27 pm
  
  Hey Dude,
  Thanks for coming by the site first off. I have received many questions similar to yours and this is a common problem in men now, and is easily reversible.
  My advice for you is 100% do not worry about masturbation, but stop watching porn. Masturbation is natural and men have needs. It’s against nature to not masturbate or have sex, so by all means have sex, masturbate if your not having sex and don’t feel bad about doing it. But it’s porn that is causing your erectile issues.
  You say you have erectile issues but you still masturbate to porn, so it seems that everything still works down there! This is most likely a psychological issue because of your brains adaptation to porn. I was the same way, but now I get aroused at just the thought of a beautiful woman.
  My immediate recommendations: Keep giving into your natural urges, but cut the porn. It will be hard (no pun intended). And your erections won’t come back right away, and you will likely give in and watch porn many times before you give it up forever so dont get down on yourself. But just try to cut back and in a year you could be a different person.
  Plus Try to meet a girl or many girls or get a gf. Hope this helped Claudio!
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  - Claudio
    
    03/20/2014 at 2:01 pm
    
    Thanks so much for your reply Sean! I’m on my 19th day in a row now without Porn so I guess that’s good! I have noticed a tiny improvement with erection quality and arousal but not much :/ Do you think after 90 days of no Porn there should be a good improvement? Thanks 😀
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    - Sean Russell
      
      03/21/2014 at 10:23 am
      
      I think there should definitely be good improvement after 90 days. But the desire to watch porn takes much longer to go away.
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      - Claudio
        
        03/28/2014 at 11:03 pm
        
        Thanks Sean 🙂
        Right now I’m one day away from completing 4 weeks without watching or looking at porn. I have only masturbated once in this period but that was to my imagination. Just recently though I’ve found that my libido has dropped an awful lot and barley any erections at all? Is this normal? Thanks man!
      - Sean Russell
        
        03/30/2014 at 1:19 pm
        
        I wouldn’t worry about not masturbating or anything. That is normal unlike porn. It is not uncommon to notice random drops in libdo when not viewing porn. Change is definitely not linear. To me, going no porn is a lifestyle change to have better relationships and enjoy sex more. I believe that it takes over a year to fully get over porn after a decade+ of relying on it for secual gratification everyday. But there are definitely “flatline” stages, everyone reports this.
        Stay positive!
  - John Pierre
    
    02/27/2015 at 8:03 am
    
    I KNOW but masturbation more than 2 times a week is considered as an addiction
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    - Sean Russell
      
      02/27/2015 at 5:40 pm
      
      Yes, unless you are doing it for self cultivating reasons like energy cultivation and being multi-orgasmic. But RARELY are these the reasons people are masturbating.
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Claudio

04/01/2014 at 11:21 am

Thanks Sean 🙂 Do you know how long the flatline stage will last? I must have had about 1 erection in the last 4 days and no morning wood at all it’s quite worrying 🙁 I will continue though I want to make at least 90 days 🙂 I’ve got 60 more to go!
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- Sean Russell
  
  04/01/2014 at 11:52 am
  
  Try to stop worrying about it, a lot of time these things are psychological.
  Things will bounce back man. You’ve got these 60 days!
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Claudio

04/01/2014 at 10:47 pm

Yeah your right I think the Porn has caused a psychological thing too! It’s good to know that its ok still to masturbate but without the porn of course because I’m not having sex right now. Even still I’m trying to keep masturbation down to once a week maximum so it can help with recovery. Why do you think a lot of people say you can masturbate to imagination and it stops you healing? That’s weird right? Everyone has masturbated before and when we were younger we masturbated without porn and everything was ok! And surely masturbation with your imagination is telling your brain to think about real women? Thanks!
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 2:54 pm
  
  I know Claudio,
  It is a fine line between imagination and watching porn in your mind. I think that is much more natural, but if you are just replaying porn scenes in your mind, whats the difference.
  The ideal situation is replacing porn with sex, but it is hard when you are not having sex.
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  - James
    
    07/18/2014 at 5:30 pm
    
    Sean, if you take a severe porn addiction (lets say 4 or more times a day, every day) and your “ideal situation” is to replace it with sex, all that’s going to do is take away one porn addict, and add one sex addict. It’s still an addiction, it doesn’t solve the problem, and if anything it can hurt far more people (particularly the women you’re taking your sex addiction out on).
    In my honest opinion, any addiction is a bad thing, so to me all your “ideal situation” means is covering up one problem with another. It’s like someone who finally after many years of struggling to quit smoking finally quit, but in order to quit, they became a hardcore alcoholic. Or, like sweeping dirt under a rug. It’s not fixing the problem. It’s just changing what you’re addicted to. The addiction itself is going unaddressed.
    Not to say that you are incorrect, Sean. Sex is natural, but if you tell me you’re “replacing” porn addiction with sex, I’d imagine you’ll try to have as much sex with as many women as you can, and that sounds just as unhealthy.
    If you truly want to address your addiction to porn, and decide to take inspiration from this post, then I would highly suggest a few points. Do cut yourself off from porn only to turn around and make real women your tools for sex. Masturbation is completely natural, and you can do it without the aid of porn (don’t replay porn in your head, as that doesn’t help). I’m not saying don’t have sex, but respect women, and at least try and build a relationship with one before going out into the sex world. Otherwise you’re just setting yourself up to become a sex addict instead.
    Also, be extra cautious that you don’t form a new bad addiction as you’re trying to get off porn. Often times, people who are struggling with a non-chemical addiction don’t know what to do with the time that would usually be spent on their vice. This is why you see quitting smokers becoming overweight, or alcoholics, or addicted to video games, etc.
    Have a plan and stick to it! It’s not going to help you if you get over your porn addiction, but now you eat every time you’re bored, or if you spend all of that extra time on video games, or if you turn to other substances. When I was fighting my video game addiction, I turned my extra time into “gym” time, or a hobby. Something that keeps my mind preoccupied, so I wasn’t thinking about video games, but that was also healthy!
    Last bit of advice. Have someone to support you. A family member, girlfriend, wife, friend. I know that porn addicts (much like my video game addiction) suffer from social issues, so you might not have anyone to turn to. Don’t turn to people that are addicted to porn (unless they’re also serious about trying to beat it). If need be, hire a counselor with the money you’ll save from not paying for porn, but have someone that you trust that you can confide in, that can support you.
    Beating an addiction is a life changing event, and once you’re over it, I can’t even begin to describe how good you feel about yourself. Just to be clear, I’m not against porn, as long as it’s used in moderation. Addictions are the thing we should be fighting, and that’s the part I agree with the post about. I caution the attitude of “real men,” however. That mentality will only shift your addiction, and not help you beat it.
    If you don’t masturbate, and you aren’t having a ton of sex, then your body will find its release while you sleep, and you’ll end up having a wet dream. Don’t quit porn only to become a sex addict (yes, you can have sex without being a sex addict…), and don’t also completely quit masturbation, unless you’re okay with changing your sheets often. Masturbate without imagining or using porn, IN MODERATION, as a release a couple times a week. Your body needs it. Have sex with someone you feel emotionally close with. Having sex with no emotional attachments leads to sex addictions. Overall, be healthy, and you’ll thank yourself later!
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    - Sean Russell
      
      07/18/2014 at 6:59 pm
      
      James,
      Your thoughts on sex and porn are wrong. One can have sex everyday and still be highly addicted to porn, without sex affecting it at all. You are coming from the right place, but I have experienced it. A brain can crave porn and not crave sex. It is just proven in the fact that having sex 3 times within a year of quitting porn it never sparked withdrawal symptoms. Then I craved and watched porn a year later and had horrible withdrawal symptoms again.
      The brain differentiates sex and porn.
      Which is why replacing porn addiction with natural sex, is not replacing addiction for addiction. It sounds logical that it would be, but it is not. I replaced porn with sex every once in a while, since I am not in a relationship and am very busy. I do not crave sex like I craved porn. I still crave porn.
      So again, I appreciate where you are coming from, but I can tell you from experience that your thoughts are not 100% correct. I have seen hundreds of guys with porn issues and none of them have replaced it with sex addiction after abstaining and having healthy sex. Please understand this.
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    - Sean Russell
      
      07/18/2014 at 7:12 pm
      
      It’s kind of like when opiate addicts quit they are recommended to exercise, this doesn’t mean they will replace opiate addiction with an exercise addiction like some people do. They still crave the opiates. It is commonly the same with sex and porn.
      But again, I appreciate the insights – we will be away until monday so get back to you then if you have any other comments.
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Seng Aun

04/06/2014 at 9:24 am

I agree. Real men also do not masturbate.
http://www.tipskey.com/article/ejaculate_for_reproduction_only/
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 2:55 pm
  
  Nice link.
  Thanks
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Axe

05/01/2014 at 6:46 am

Great article Sean … porn is truly unnatural and this post was surely worth reading. Thanks a lot.
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 2:55 pm
  
  Thanks Axe,
  Keep in touch.
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anonymous

05/01/2014 at 4:52 pm

I disagree, but if its been observed by scientists then maybe you have a chance to prove it, but here is my two cents. It may prevent you from cheating, it will prevent you from getting STDs, it doesn’t require you to be in the same room as the individual(s), and it can be done to release stress or tension. 10-4, is still a reason to not do it, Don’t do it too often.
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 2:56 pm
  
  It is completely up to the individual, good points.
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James Sampson

05/04/2014 at 10:15 pm

I’m experiencing a relapse back into more severe pornography addiction. I have used hard drugs without becoming addicted, but porn is a lot harder to resist as it hijacks a fundamental drive. Contrary to popular opinion, use of “drugs” (plants) can be natural and healthy. Porn is completely unnatural. There is a broader addiction to looking at screens of all kinds. Porn is the most extreme, but television and smart phones are also extremely destructive. However, the Internet can be used judiciously to get information and support on sites such as this one.
A family member unwittingly enabled my relapse by giving me a new computer to replace my old one that was all gummed up with computer STDs (or PTDs as it were) (aka malware). No more freezing or choppy video. That’s what makes it so hard. You have to use the computer to pay your taxes and do all kinds of stuff like that. You have to conduct business on the computer and then porn is just a click away. It’s often not what you set out to do. I have been most successful in reducing porn use by avoiding using the computer altogether, kind of like an alcoholic who won’t go to parties and bars.
I have been to the most abysmal depths. Watching extreme porn for eight hours at a stretch and ejaculating 10 times in a row at the end. Getting into the shower in all types of physical and emotional pain trying to wash of the filth. The worst is when my clicking leads me into some sort of BDSM shit. I can’t stand how that is creeping into our society and being legitimized. People like that are not evil, just retarded and cut off from the better things in life. Porn is the one thing that doesn’t fit with the rest of my personality. I’m health conscious, in good shape, spiritual, intellectually active, disciplined, kind. Porn brings about OCD symptoms as I try to ritually separate that junk from the more pure aspects of myself. When I’m alone (eg., making breakfast) I lose myself in an OCD moment, suddenly aware that I was uttering lines from a porn movie under my breath.
If porn can cause ED that is probably the subliminal motive for it’s use. I have dreams where there is a monster which I keep thinking that I had killed only to find him resurrected. The monster is the libido. Judgment and mistreatment from women is too much to bear and one attempts to perform a temporary castration by sapping all of the sexual energy.
Looking back on my life, the happiest moments all shared the common element of no porn and only very infrequent masturbation. This was almost always due to external constraints than willpower. I did manage to intentionally go for a month porn free or for periods only using magazines, but I never went far enough that things started to get easier. It was always a struggle, marking off the days. I guess that I did have something significant happen in that I remember being aroused by tiny things, like a classically inspired nude statue at an art gallery. A big problem is that our current society is designed in a way to prevent people from falling in love. Just think about it. One can easily find women who are strangers, but one has difficulty seeing the same woman on a regular basis so that attraction can develop naturally and gradually. These opportunities have been few and far between for me since I have been out of school and working in all male environments. At the risk of sounding conspiratorial, I don’t think that it’s unreasonable to assume that certain actors would find us easier to control if we are hooked on porn rather than in human relationships. One thing that I found frightening going off porn was that I felt less dependant on society and thus dreaming of living off the land or committing revolutionary acts. It’s hard to aggressively approach a strange woman because it’s unnatural. Websites like this will get into “evolutionary” alpha male type thinking and idolizations of hollywood action stars. While this “survival of the fittest” element is buried somewhere in the distant past, the Anthropological record shows that this has not been a driving factor in human societies for many millennia. Hunter gather societies are characterized by their extremely egalitarian nature.
When I first got into porn, I really thought it was a good thing. I think that it could have a use, but it would take superhuman feats of self restraint to avoid getting sucked back into the abyss. I can’t really see it being good for the brain, but it must have some benefits for the body when used in moderation. When I started using porn, I thought that it was necessary to prevent the atrophy of my genitals from lack of use. In my experience porn can greatly increase sexual stamina and improve distance on ejaculations, while reducing the volume of ejaculate and the quality of erections when taken to excess. Masturbating to glamour porn for half an hour without ejaculating can actually increase libido and energy and doesn’t interfere too much with taking care of business. Like taking a power nap this can energize you without leading to depression, guilt, and anxiety later.
Like crack or alcohol, porn is all about that first hit/drink. I can be stressed out and when I watch those first couple video clips I sink into a profoundly altered state of consciousness. I’m tingling all over and excited while at the same time completely at peace, possibly even drifting onto the edge of sleep only to be woken into a frenzy of jerking by the edit into the next scene. I know how to cut it off at one or two beers to avoid the negative effects of alcohol. If only I could be content with that one hit, not desperately trying to get the magic back going for many hours until I lose my erection. I think that watching a video or two with only a couple strokes here and there could be a harmless thing to do when getting ready to go out on a Friday night. A magazine is like a cup of coffee whereas those lightning fast edited compilations set to music with the sex sounds left on the audio track are like injecting cocaine.
The worst thing about pornography addiction is that when you try to seek help people say that porn isn’t the problem. I earnestly reached out to a friend about my emotional turmoil and he actually recommended that I watch porn. I have had a lot of bad experiences with women which have turned me into an ultra jaded and cynical woman hater, but I do wonder if I might not meet nicer women and have better interactions with women if I fully got off the porn. I would assume that my self respect would shine through and that they would be more inclined to treat me with respect.
Can anybody recommend a forum for more regular support with this? This afternoon I wrote on a piece of paper “Sunday May 4th is the start” (hopefully the last time I ejaculated to Internet porn) and I deleted all the porn traces from my computer. I was almost set up to put my magazines in a garbage bag and take them to the dump the other day, but then I lost my nerve as it felt like throwing away a photo album. There were so many memories associated with those (pathetic I know). Then I thought “no I should use the magazines more and just stay off the Internet”. There’s always a way to rationalize putting it off.
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 3:22 pm
  
  James,
  Thank you so much for sharing this and sorry for the late response I was on Vacation.
  You are a smart man, but not weak for being so deep into the addiction of porn. It is terrible that people grow up on this and start watching when they are 13, the almost cannot function without it.
  For me, the most important thing is “why” you are not watching porn. After a year of quitting I went back to it (wasnt having sex at the time) and it really opened my eyes that I do not care if it has a negative effect o my brain, and if I want I can watch it. But I dont WANT to watch it, because it I was to be the best I can be, get beautiful women, and live an extra-ordinary life. My biggest fear is being like everybody else.
  After a whole year, defining that “why” has changed everything. Find your “why” and you will succeed.
  I hope you find the strength or situation in your life to find peace and happiness.
  And please come back and find comfort here whenever. I will have a forum here in the next 3 month for this exactly.
  Thank you.
  Sean
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  - James Sampson
    
    05/15/2014 at 11:08 pm
    
    Thanks for your reply. While I have gone longer without watching porn in the past, I feel like my mind is already less preoccupied with it this time. I do have a good “why” this time. Looking for career advancement and to move to another country. I can’t be wasting time shutting myself off from the world and becoming more socially awkward. Being better with women is a goal, but I think that it might work to my advantage that I’m not making this my primary goal. I’ve been trying to be more assertive and I am certainly more confident if I am not using. It’s about spirituality, control, self respect, and making the most of my time. With other attempts I set a date for the next time I would allow myself to watch porn and I found that it would only lead to great anticipation counting down the days until I would go back to my old ways. This time I just have the vague notion of “at least two months”, but I have invested a great deal of my sense of self in this new endeavor to the point where I was having nightmares where I thought that I had fallen off the wagon. I had some good dreams about girls that I had a crush on when I was young too. So far I have way more energy and I am getting out a lot more. I think that people are responding to me better, but it might just be my imagination. Things might get challenging right now as it looks like I will be laid off for a bit.
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    - Sean Russell
      
      05/16/2014 at 2:34 pm
      
      James,
      All good points and I think you are on the right track except for setting a date to start watching again. In my case this is a lifestyle decision that I plan on sticking to for the rest of my life. I think setting the goal of 2 months is counter productive because it inclines you to always go back and it is still a part of your life. I would like to see you make a decision to remove it from your life forever.
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      - James Sampson
        
        05/17/2014 at 5:27 am
        
        Yeah, probably better to never go back. I guess that I had just set that as a date for when I could say that I had achieved something because the TED Talk set that length of time for the older men’s brains to recover and because it was far enough in the future to make it feel less like “using moderation” and more like a lifestyle change. Who knows how I will feel after two months. If the good feelings that I have now increase I can’t really see wanting to go back to it. I have been just trying to get excited imagining how my life might improve externally in personal relationships and success and internally with no sense of guilt or loss of control. I’m just trying to observe feelings of anxiety, boredom, and laziness and let them pass momentarily rather than getting overwhelmed and giving up. I had times with the addiction where I would start at midnight and go past dawn. I think that it is a good strategy just to sleep things off and have a fresh start bright and early if things seem to be falling apart by the end of the day. I try to tell myself “what could be simpler that that?”.
      - James Sampson
        
        05/17/2014 at 5:36 am
        
        I haven’t been having too much trouble for the most part, but I have gotten some brief but intense cravings, which led to a borderline hallucination last night. I figured that I would check out an online dating site. I saw a little thumbnail profile picture and thought that one showed an exposed breast. I mindlessly and habitually clicked it before realizing that my brain was just trying to recreate the experience and that the notion of such a picture being allowed on the site was ridiculous.
      - Sean Russell
        
        05/18/2014 at 2:57 pm
        
        It is amazing how powerful the lure is.
      - James Sampson
        
        06/14/2014 at 5:47 pm
        
        I’ve been off it for almost 1 1/2 months now and I would say that this has been a very worthwhile endeavor. It’s quite easy when you set your mind to it.
        I have told a few people about this and they will either be in an obvious state of denial, saying that porn is good for them (because it “removes toxins” or whatever justification they can dream up) or they will say that what I am doing is so difficult that they would never attempt it.
        I have experienced some improvement in all the expected areas. These are subtle, yet I highly doubt that they are placebo. Porn is the complete opposite of subtle. Part of giving it up is learning to appreciate subtle pleasures again and to realize that while the joys that you can get out of an authentic life seem elusive at the start, but then you lose yourself in an experience and realize that something profound has just occurred. I have experienced improvements in mental health, physical health, spirituality, career, social relationships, and romantic relationships. To those who would say “the proof is in the pudding”. I haven’t had a bunch of women throwing themselves at me (although one or two who I highly suspect were interested) and I haven’t had sex or even a kiss in the month and a half. I do think that women are looking at me differently though and that if I had the nerve to approach some of them they would have responded positively. I went downtown last Friday and felt like my self respect was radiating outwards even in nightclubs, which can be a desperate and degrading atmosphere. When I was watching porn I was very ashamed of my sexuality. I would be thinking “I don’t deserve to get with this woman. I’m a pervert. She knows I’m a pervert”. Now I feel more “justified” in looking at women. I do look more and longer and not just because this is now my only opportunity to witness the female form.
        I have much less shame and regret and I have a lot more time and energy.
        Rather than causing a decline in aspects of sexual performance (eg., stamina), this is helping me to regain some of my youthful vigour and to channel and control sexual energy. Last night I was able to bring myself to orgasm with only a stationary hand placed on my penis for feedback on my pulse. It was 99% mental and far superior to “whacking off”. This disproves some of the ultra-reductionistic beliefs of our current academic culture which claims that consciousness only follows and never leads and that we don’t have free will.
        I had a bit of a setback, although not of the type that I had expected. I got into an ethical dilemma and when I had to make a quick decision I took the easy way out rather than doing the right thing. I thought “I’m a good boy now because I don’t watch porn. I wasn’t intending to harm anybody. I don’t want to have a guilty conscience anymore. I thought that I had won the final battle.” I did learn a great deal about myself with this incident and avoided external punishment. (It wasn’t anything terrible, but I did cost somebody some money and headache.)
      - Sean Russell
        
        06/16/2014 at 2:04 pm
        
        Great update James, I am glad to hear this has helped you. Time to move onto the other areas of your life!
Zach

05/05/2014 at 4:29 am

HI, Im zach, Im 19 and I have to say wonderful article. Before reading this i saw shit loads of porn. Now that i read it i’m a changed person. Thanks Sean!
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 2:59 pm
  
  Nice Zach,
  The most important thing is “why” you are not watching porn. After a year of quitting I went back to it (wasnt having sex at the time) and it really opened my eyes that I do not care if it has a negative effect o my brain, and if I want I can watch it. But I dont WANT to watch it, because it I was to be the best I can be, get beautiful women, and live an extra-ordinary life. My biggest fear is being like everybody else.
  After a whole year, defining that “why” has changed everything. Find your “why” and you will succeed.
  Thanks man
  Sean
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Billy Houston

05/06/2014 at 1:38 pm

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05/06/2014 at 2:03 pm

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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 3:13 pm
  
  Let me look into this.
  Sean
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sebb

05/06/2014 at 6:09 pm

Hey, great article! but I cannot stop fapping, and I just back to porn again:/ damm. Im 25 years old, I dont know how can I get out from that addicted. I began my daily, when I fapp and when and when fap/porn. : (1=1 day, 2=2 days)
1 week: 2 times fap
2 week: 1 fap, 1 sex
3 week: 1 fap/porn
4 week: 1 fap
5 week: 2 fap/porn
5 week: (now) 2 fap/porn
maybe you have some advice for me? thanks!
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 2:59 pm
  
  Sebb,
  The most important thing is “why” you are not watching porn. After a year of quitting I went back to it (wasnt having sex at the time) and it really opened my eyes that I do not care if it has a negative effect o my brain, and if I want I can watch it. But I dont WANT to watch it, because it I was to be the best I can be, get beautiful women, and live an extra-ordinary life. My biggest fear is being like everybody else.
  After a whole year, defining that “why” has changed everything. Find your “why” and you will succeed.
  Thanks man
  Sean
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- James
  
  07/18/2014 at 5:00 pm
  
  Can you seriously call it an addiction if you only do it once or twice a week? When I hear “I can stop masturbating” I literally picture someone who masturbates every day until he hurts so much that he can’t do it anymore. THAT is what I consider an addiction. Sebb, masturbating once or twice a week, is considered natural and healthy (unless you’re the religious sort). Heck, having sex only once or twice a week is considered too little.
  Your body needs to release. If you aren’t having sex often enough to release that feeling, then masturbate. It’s natural. Once or twice a week is totally natural. You don’t even NEED porn to do it. Let your imagination run wild! One more point: if you completely stop masturbating, your body will still get the release it needs. Just be prepared to wake up in the middle of the night to a bed full of cold wet semen, every so often.
  If it’s so natural that your body does it for you while you aren’t even conscious, then don’t freak out about it. What you’re experiencing isn’t sick or addiction. It’s called being human.
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Jay

05/08/2014 at 8:12 am

I might also add that watching too much porn affects the brain. The way you look at women anywhere is more then a sex symbol and nothing else. Everytime you see one makes you feel like you want to have bang her and leave her and do all the sexual acts that you saw in porn videos e.g make her swallow your cum, public sex, and all other bizarre things that you couldn’t perform in real life.
All of this is the cause and effect of watching porn, to be honest I’m a bit of into porn myself but I couldn’t stand porn like bestiality, hardcore porn, and bizarre porn that you can see in Japanese porn videos.
I’m more like in Handjob scenes and nothing more, because there is nothing immoral with Handjobs, unlike sex or any other acts mentioned above.
Every bit of words in this article are facts and for those porn addicts out there, please at least lay low and get out there and get real woman, have a wonderful relationship and eventually you will get sex and forget all the porn world. I know this is easier said than done but it can be done if you just put the effort of approaching women, befriending them just don’t get drunk with porn all day.
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 3:01 pm
  
  True story Jay,
  Thanks.
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Demarius

05/12/2014 at 8:09 am

I just learned about no fap recently. I am young and have been masturbating since I could remember. I always felt like masturbating has prevented me from being socially confident, especially in front of girls. I really hope this thing works out for me in that department. That;s the only reason why I am doing it. I have been doing No Fap since May 4, 2014 and can say that I already see a little improvement in my focus and sense of direction in life. I hope for more improvement. Especially with the ladies. Im surprised that I have lasted this long to be honest.
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/12/2014 at 2:48 pm
  
  Demarius,
  Thanks for sharing nd commenting. After a year of no porn (not No Fap) I went back and watched porn again. It was a humbling experience because it reminded me that I quit watching porn not because I thought it was bad for me, but mainly because I didn’t want to be that person. I want to be someone who is different and lives an extraordinary life. Porn has no place in that.
  I think they “why” factor is so important.
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  - Jay
    
    05/12/2014 at 3:52 pm
    
    I gotta be honest with you Sean, we can’t avoid pornography unless we get rid of both the internet or the porn industry itself but that won’t happen in million of years. I guess what we can do is simply learn the social arts, learn what is women, and then love them for whom they really are.
    To be honest, I’m sick of watching porn and I keep thinking to myself “does watching porn help me with anything?” of course not, it makes you weak, pathetic, and most of all it makes you a social retard, how? because we were sitting in front of our monitors, watching porn all day, masturbating and the world has left us behind while some guys were already having hundreds of sex.
    So what I’m really saying is that – we should start going out, learning the fundamentals, socialize, renew ourselves and start making friends, start approaching women and forget porn valley.
    Cheers
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Sean Russell

05/12/2014 at 3:00 pm

Marcus,
Good point, this article is not for everyone – but some guy really need it.
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B

05/14/2014 at 3:28 am

Hey guys, I am on board with all the benefits of quitting porn. I feel better/experience things more vividly/etc. BUT whenever I take a hiatus and then find myself with a lady, my stamina is zilch. As in, I don’t last long AT ALL before finishing. So I take to porn to increase my endurance. This has happened a few times. Any ideas?
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/14/2014 at 12:16 pm
  
  I definitely understand that. Porn numbs you to real women, so getting that sensitivity back can be a problem. There are exercises and practices you can do to help this. Check this article out: https://Menprovement.com/multi-orgasmic-man/.
  Also I think the solution lies in time and practice with women and not resorting back to porn. Going back will never take the issue away.
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CodyHjort

05/18/2014 at 10:18 am

turn 18 in a few months, been addicted for about a year and a half now this will be my firs day porn free and i hope i can continue being porn free for the rest of my life
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/18/2014 at 2:54 pm
  
  Me too Cody,
  Goodluck. One important tip is to strongly define your reason for quitting. That has helped me immensely. And don’t be afraid to fail the first few times. It happens.
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05/21/2014 at 11:17 am

Just for information, to the men that say “how can I learn to give a girl an orgasm without watching porn?”
PLEASE LISTEN – Porn does not teach guys to give orgasms! The stuff that you see in porn is NOT what makes women orgasm!
Porn is filmed to show the action better, and it’s designed for male fantasies, and has NOTHING to do with a girl getting off!!!!! The girls in porn are ACTING.
If you actually want your girl to orgasm, and to continue having sex with you, ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES!
Or get some sex education books! Or search google for questions and answers from people trying to get there girls off!
To sum it up, watching a man abuse and humiliate and use a female body in a porn has NOTHING to do with female orgasms or making a girl EVER want to be with you
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/21/2014 at 1:56 pm
  
  Thank you so much for that Sarah,
  Guys need to hear it.
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- James
  
  07/18/2014 at 4:46 pm
  
  This is a very good point. I can’t stand when people try to justify watching porn for these reasons, and then defending why they watch porn by using these reasons. My wife and I watch porn on occasion, because we found it brings a different feel to our sex life, but we don’t always watch it. I am under no illusion that I can learn how to please my wife by watching porn, however, and nobody should be.
  And for those of you guys that say “how am I supposed to learn how to please a woman without porn?” I direct you another question: How have men been able to please the women they’ve been with for thousands of years before porn even existed? It’s ackward, yes, but learn for yourself! It’s actually MORE fun that way!
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Sadye Nacisse

05/24/2014 at 6:00 pm

3) The government will ensure that the media will function as a constructive tool.
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miike

05/25/2014 at 6:27 am

This is my first month of finally deciding to stop masturbation/porn addiction.. but I’ve failed a couple of time nd I always feel bad about it.. Please share some more tips
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/26/2014 at 3:37 pm
  
  It hard Mike,
  What helped me was:
  1) define a clear why to quitting porn, and not just because its bad for me. When you want to do something but feel like you can’t, it makes it so much harder not too. Really thinking about why I wanted to stop helped me realize that I can watch porn whenever, but that’s not who I want to be. So I no longer want to. (that realization took a year and a relapse)
  2) Being with women or having a GF always helps.
  3) Try to stay busy
  Hope this offered some insight, good luck with everything man.
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Flow

05/26/2014 at 2:43 pm

Bro is there any solid ways you suggest to coping with the witdrawal (literally 2days after i stopped i xame down with a major sore throat and fever), handling relapses (i went 13weeks nofap and porn free had great sex with a good friend of mine and somehow within a couple weeks found nyself scrolling thru bikini pics and in no time almost subconsciously next thing i know i had my lotion out rubbing one down to a vid), and tips for bringing in life changes and managing time better especially as a college student.I started this whole thing because I had two Miss Florida pageant models gorgeous women on teo occassionall in bed with me and couldnt get hard, took sometime to reboot and figured out my daily sessions of porn numbed me so bad I couldnt get hard unless a chick was gagging with something in her mouth..sad existence. I could not to miss out on life because of this. A lot of people brush this off “as its pathetic for a dude to let this rule him like that”. Yes it is. But it is also the reality of TONS of men today little do you know. Please answer my questions and provide some clear assistance. We can do this.
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/26/2014 at 3:31 pm
  
  Whats up Flow,
  Two miss Florida pageants, well done. But yes, this is more of a problem than any man wants to admit.
  What helps me from relapsing (I still get urges) is to:
  1) define a clear why to quitting porn, and not just because its bad for me. When you want to do something but feel like you can’t, it makes it so much harder not too. Really thinking about why I wanted to stop helped me realize that I can watch porn whenever, but that’s not who I want to be. So I no longer want to. (that realization took a year and a relapse)
  2) Being with women or having a GF always helps.
  3) To get through withdrawal, there is not much to say except try and stay busy to keep your mind off it.
  Hope this offered some insight.
  Thanks man
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R

05/27/2014 at 11:19 pm

Hi there
I just wanted to say that i’ve decided to break up with my boyfriend who i love and get along with so well, just because although we are in a long term, loving , sexy relationship it appears he won’t stop watching porn. it bothered me at first and then i just decided to turn the other eye and just be ignorant of it. what i don”t know won’t hurt me and i thought of not taking it personally. Guys need release and they are much more visual than girls.. but tonight i decided there must be guys out there who dont watch porn, especially when they have a girlfriend who is lovely, sexy and has fun in the bedroom. i guess i just want you guys to know that watching porn, however little can ruin a relatiotnship. My boyfriend doesnt know yet that i’m about to break up over this but i know him well and he’ll think i’ve got major issues and need to grow up- that all guys watch porn.. but i have male friends who dont. i even know guys who don’t even like it! but wish me luck, cause i know the guy who doesn’t watch porn is few and far between!
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/28/2014 at 5:31 pm
  
  Awesome R,
  Thankyou for that.
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  - R
    
    06/02/2014 at 2:44 pm
    
    Awesome!? Sean, it’s anything but awsome. It’s really, really sad. He and I have the best relationship apart from this issue (of course it’s not all plain sailing, but we’ve worked through so much and getting on beautifully until this issue) and I’m about to lose someone I love deeply and get along with more than I have with anyone else and have no choice but to move away because he watches porn and to me, it feels almost as hurtful as cheating as he needs sexual satisfaction from others apart from me. He claims it does nothing for him; yet he won’t give it up. Finding the strength to leave him over this is killing me. What makes it even harder is how much society is accepting porn now as just something guys do and that girls should just accept this. No one talks about how addictive it is and how it takes you away from reality. I’ve watched porn in my life- when i was single and younger or when i had a very part-time relationship. I started seeing people and scenarios outside of it as if I were in a porn movie! Sexually objectifying and thinking all the time. It’s not healthy!
    Someone showed me this link the other day and it made so much sense to me. I’m not religious so not the religious aspect but most of what this guy says makes a lot of sense Check it out (from 4.23 before that’s all testimonials) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RyBshH5bEvo
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    - Sean Russell
      
      06/02/2014 at 4:08 pm
      
      R, Sorry I did not mean that your situation was awesome at ALL.
      I meant awesome comment to really show guys how their loved ones feel. Sorry for the confusion.
      I am very sympathetic to your situation and hope everything works out for you.
      I will check that video out later.
      Thanks,
      Sean
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      - R
        
        06/02/2014 at 4:59 pm
        
        Thanks Sean 🙂
        I thought that’s what you meant but I guess I wanted to just magnify how un ‘awsome’ the whole situation is but glad to know you were happy with my comment. and yes, do watch the video – I think it might help some guys on here perhaps..
    - James
      
      07/18/2014 at 4:37 pm
      
      R, how can you say that you truly love him? I understand that you feel like he’s cheating on you when he watches porn, but it is possible for a man to watch porn and be loyal the one he loves. My wife and I have been together for 9 years now, have a great sex life, are completely loyal to eachother, and are extremely happy, and yet we both watch porn on occasion.
      Loving someone (truly and completely loving someone) means accepting them for who they are. Don’t lie to yourself and lie to him, if you can’t accept him for who he is. I’m sure you love him, and are at the least in lust with him, but if your relationship is truly going that well, and you’re going to end it over porn, then you clearly don’t love him for who he is.
      My father (as far as I know, and I believe I am right) never watched porn, yet he physically abused my mother nearly every day until I went to college and they got a divorce. Not watching porn doesn’t make you a good person, and watching porn doesn’t make you a bad person. The addressing issue of this post should be addiction, not moderation.
      I suggest taking a step back, and thinking long and hard about what you’re about to do. It may be the right decision, but you may end up regretting it for the rest of your life. I know for a fact that if I broke up with my wife before we were married because of ONE of her vices that I didn’t agree with, I would have missed out on years of bliss!
      Be honest with yourself, and think hard.
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      - hannah
        
        06/22/2015 at 5:01 am
        
        James
        I’m sorry but I disagree. If you truly love someone you’re going to commit yourself fully to that person which is what it sounds like this girl was doing but he was not. You should not have to accept someone who is mentally checking out for some unrealistic thing and not caring about your best interest. And yes you can say you are loyal but honestly how can you say you’re loyal when you are committing a sexual act and thinking about another woman? That is not being loyal mentally or emotionally. Now if you are both fine with it that might be one thing but if one person isn’t then that’s a form of cheating.
- POET
  
  06/20/2014 at 12:11 am
  
  So many beautiful women, so lonely , trapped in a body that men worship.
  The blinding light of a well crafted exterior that hides an inner beauty that needs to be known.
  We showcase them like trophies while we don’t see the tears of their sensitive hearts.
  Alas my princess I hold out my arms to offer you a genuine hug .
  I see past what is mere superficiality . Those eyes and that sweet smile that comforts my soul.
  You are a gem on the outside but a diamond with in. Your hearts glowing radiance ignites mine.
  The fire that ignites the passion beyond imagination .
  I want to peer deeply into your soul and penetrate you beyond your widest dreams.
  The orchestra of love plays relentlessly while we dance on the delicate Lillie’s.
  toward that eventual climatic moment resulting in a deeply satisfying love that binds stronger than any glue .
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- Emeralds
  
  07/06/2014 at 4:52 pm
  
  Hi R
  I’m in the same situation. I am breaking up with my boyfriend because of porn. We’ve been together nearly 4 years and have just moved in together which makes it harder.
  I caught him in the act yesterday once again. Must be near on 10 times I’ve caught him or found evidence of extreme porn. Last time I said I can’t deal with it anymore and pretend I’m ok with it. He sort of said ok he’ll sort it but here we are.
  The worst thing is, I caught him yesterday an I stormed off and had a bath. He didn’t bother following, he made sure he had his happy ending then left the dirty tissue on our sofa. and we were expecting our friends and goddaughter within the hour. He hasn’t spoken to me since, nor have I spoken to him. He is not sorry and does not see it being an issue.
  I’ve told him to find somewhere to sleep tonight and tomorrow, as I have family over tomorrow daytime. Then tomorrow evening we will discuss what to do about our flat we rent and the kitten he persuaded us to get.
  I keep thinking I’m being irrational. All guys watch porn? But I have to remember how low it makes me feel. How much is damaged my self esteem, and how I compare myself to the girls in the videos, to the point it feeds my eating disorder more and more.
  Stay strong R, let me know how things are x
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David

06/01/2014 at 5:08 pm

I was actually searching for porn when I stumbled o this article. I’ve been trying to stop for a while now but something keeps pulling me back. Hopefully this article can help me take the first permanent step.
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- Sean Russell
  
  06/02/2014 at 4:09 pm
  
  Hopefully David,
  Thanks for commenting.
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Not Me

06/03/2014 at 5:23 am

I think a lot of men in relationships turn to porn because their partners aren’t that interested in sex. I’m not saying its the women’s fault but there may be a big mismatch between libido.
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John

06/03/2014 at 1:19 pm

This is so true. Unfortunately, I am rather addicted to porn (I am gay but everything you have written applies perfectly except the “woman” part. It is the same thing). I really struggle to quit it, I am very aware of the damage porn does to me, to my mind, my dick and to society – not to mention the people in the porn industry.
Unfortunately, just reading about internet porn makes me think of … porn. :-/
I am ashamed and I feel disgusted. I totally agree – REAL men stay in control. Real men live in the flesh and not in front of a computer and a lube tube.
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- Sean Russell
  
  06/03/2014 at 3:00 pm
  
  Yes John it is hard but it is not your fault. But it is now up to you to change.
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Bertil Svensson

06/07/2014 at 7:48 pm

I don’t agree with you at all. Porn is superiour because women today are bitches. They bitch, they yell, they demand and for what? 18 years of hell?
You can get yourself a fuck budy but not a wife or girlfriend.
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- James
  
  07/18/2014 at 4:29 pm
  
  In our society today, women are encouraged to speak their minds. The way a woman’s brain is wired, they are already more emotional (in most cases) than men. Combine these two, and a lot of women give off an aura of seeming “bitchy.” Now, that usually stems from how you treat them, however. If you are polite to a woman, treat her with respect, give her your full loyalty and love, she should return them to you. If she doesn’t, then it’s true that she’s not someone you want as a wife.
  If you feel like your relationship is hell, then it’s an incompatible relationship. It doesn’t mean that you can never find a woman you’re compatible with, though. Dating is a crucial part, and in today’s day and age, is often rushed. People get married too soon, and end up in crappy marriages. As the years progress, then learn how un-alike they are. I dated my wife for 5 years before we got married. It’s not because I had commitment issues, and it wasn’t because we were afraid. We had talked about it, and we wanted to make sure we fully knew eachother before marriage. Let me tell you, I learned a lot about my wife that I didn’t know, during those first 5 years, and I still learn more today.
  We’ve been happily married for 4 years now, and yes we have ups and downs, as every couple does, but I truly and deeply love her, and she feels the same. Our marriage is built on trust and cooperation.
  I feel like you are recently divorced, but I encourage you not to keep this frame of thought. Someday, you’ll run into a woman that would be a perfect match for you, but if you keep a closed mind, then nothing will ever come from it, and you’ll continue being alone.
  I’m not telling you to stop watching porn, of course, as my wife and I occasionally watch it. I just feel like you would be happier in the long run if you took a less shallow view towards women. Treat her like you want to be treated. Don’t expect a woman to be kind and loving towards you if you sit there and call her a bitch.
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cherry popper

06/14/2014 at 8:27 pm

50 reasons y it’s better, it never gets pregnant, it only costs $50 a month, it never says no, it never bleeds and ruins your $5000 mattress, it never gives an excuse, it never takes half your money in the end, it never fucks w your emotions, it never lies, it never steals, it never breaks your stuff, its always accountable, you can share it w your friends, it never lands you in jail, or ruins your car, it cant get jealous, it always lets you have sex w her sister, it never grows old, its never gets LOOSE, Farts, or stops mid way when it hears a noise, it never stays around long after, it never puts you on the spot, it never blackmails you for something before or after, it never talks shit about you, it never smells bad, it never needs cleaning, it never nags or complains, it never can kill or hurt you, it never gives you any shit, it never lies, you never have to care for it, protect it, console it, or ever feed it, its pure freedom, it never needs a house, a new kitchen, car or what ever, its never awkward, insecure, embarrassed, or indecisive, it’s not judgmental, it will always do what you ask, it never wastes your time, it never thinks love will last past the ejaculation, it will never feel you owe it something, it will never be rape or statutory rape, it will never tell you what to do, it never will try to control or change you, it never gets in the way of your future or tries to influence you to do or not to do anything you want,
it’s the best teacher of what the pussy looks like, it’s never awkward, insecure, embarrassed, or indecisive, it’s not judgmental, it will always do what you ask, you never have to watch it die or become turned off by it, it will always be faithful, it will never cheat or hate you, it will always love you… it absolutely better for all males,
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- Sean Russell
  
  06/16/2014 at 2:04 pm
  
  I respect the effort that went into this list..
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- Chris G.
  
  06/19/2014 at 11:47 pm
  
  Why not just admit you had a very bad marriage. It happens .
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- James
  
  07/18/2014 at 4:15 pm
  
  Porn is definitely the only wife (or husband) you should ever have. I can’t imagine you are very kind to other human beings, so a computer is probably your perfect mate anyway.
  It is sad to me, however, that given your point of view, you will not be able to bond with someone on a deep level.
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Chris G.

06/19/2014 at 11:42 pm

Very interesting article. However no one seems to talk about the ridiculous obsession with the genitals in porn. You say that porn has every imaginable fantasy? I don’t think so. no matter how many beautiful women they find 90% of it is CLOSE UPS. you see the woman briefly. Porn is not about beautiful women. It is about men who actually feel proud to be like ANIMALS who are only turned on by the sight of genitals
I personally like to get off sometimes by watching that very rare to find porn where you at least see the complete woman. But no i do not prefer porn over real sex. I crave the intimacy and the physical touching you cannot get with porn.
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- Sean Russell
  
  06/20/2014 at 1:44 am
  
  Very interesting thought. And I agree.
  That’s great that you prefer the intimacy of real sex over porn, because so many guys are the opposite. Thanks for the input Chris.
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Conrado Salas Cano

06/20/2014 at 5:11 pm

I disagree. Enjoying real sex should not and in fact does not entail that a man may go out of his way to impress and seduce a woman. You should attract your opposite, most needed energy-vibe effortlessly, and without renouncing your favorite lifestyle. This means that, contrary to what this article says, the more you man give in to your deviant, deep perverted fantasies, the more easily you will cut straight to the chase in real life and find a like-(dirty)-minded woman who resonates naturally with you. I can personally attest to that. I don’t buy the Darwinian crap of propagating your genes, and displaying the fanciful expensive suit, Rolex watch, sleek car and other icons of “success”, like a peacock displaying its feathers. Sex is just energy we need like food, so let’s do away with the crap, and with the farce. But of course for this to happen the whole power structure of society would need to go away. Sometimes I think that 9/11 was in fact perpetrated by the secret government (the Illuminati) and falsely blamed on “Islamic terrorists” just in order to keep loudmouths like me, who have zero tolerance for hypocrisy and tell it like it is, from flying safely to the US, without fear of harassment or interrogation by Homeland Security or the like, and from continuing to get (and give) the sex we need. (I am most attracted to American girls, and have memories of great, awesome sex with them, sex that I now miss so sorely). Politics –and perhaps some fear of STDs- is what has kept me for many years from getting it on, not porn.
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Conrado Salas Cano

06/24/2014 at 2:09 pm

I wanted to add these lines while watching the 2013 movie “Don Jon”, about a hunky guy who is addicted to porn and actually prefers it to the real thing. It’s been now over ten years since I last had real sex. That’s right. TEN YEARS. The time I’ve been away from the States since I last returned from Oregon to my home country of Spain in April 2004. A few years after that, I opened my (new) website, where I shoot my mouth off about what really happened on 9/11, and I have been afraid of returning to the States since, fearing harassment by Homeland Security or the like. I am mostly attracted to American girls, the girls I had that real (and so memorable) sex with when I was in the US. But I am not returning to the US now because I am not closing my website or toning it down to please the US authorities. The bottom line is that I’ve had to go without real sex for a very long time. I could go without porn too –I guess-, but then inevitably I would end up with a more or less involuntary nocturnal emission. Such a nocturnal emission would compel me to inflict on myself a “penance” period of two nights. During that self-inflicted “penance” I do not allow myself the full, ordinary, little pleasures of life, including reading my favorite books. I am not religious or Catholic, although I was raised Catholic (like the porn-addicted protagonist of the movie “Don Jon”). It is no use trying to argue away the perceived need for that self-inflicted penance period on the grounds that it’s just a totally self-imposed manic obsession, the relic of my Catholic upbringing with its guilt complex; or even that a nocturnal emission is (generally) involuntary. I MUST go through my self-inflicted post-ejaculatory penance because anything that comes after ejaculation is a small fall from grace. It is the curse of being a man. So, since I have to go through that post-ejaculatory penance, at least I will give myself the pleasure of masturbating willfully to porn, which also happens to be a form of witchcraft, amplifying the energy pulse sent out to the universe in search of like-minded perverts of the opposite sex. I only try to come to porn once a week, though, twice at the most. But I still need it. And this may continue being so until the security restrictions at the US border and across the country are rolled back to their more reasonable pre-9/11 levels.
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- Sean Russell
  
  06/25/2014 at 2:00 pm
  
  Interesting read and interesting philosophies. Everyone is different and at the end of the day it all comes down to personal choice. Could you not have sex with women outside the US?
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  - Conrado Salas Cano
    
    06/25/2014 at 7:05 pm
    
    Yes, I can, and I am more than open to it! However, for a long-lasting relationship to work with an American girl, I would of course at some point have to travel to the US to visit her family. I also don’t like the bar scene in Spain, or at least I no longer have the energy, or the mood, to lose night sleep –feeling wasted the day after- and go through the silly rounds in order to get laid. I take care of myself, I like to work out hard (I have even taken part in athletic races) and I want to give my best at work during the day: that is intrinsically incompatible with a nightlife. For me it’s best to meet and befriend a like-minded person whom I naturally may bump into during the day, but that takes time, and Spanish culture has traditionally been very slow when it comes to dating (although things have changed a lot over the past decade). Also, it might interest readers of your website that one porn actress (who is now retired –I think-), and one porn director have in the recent past written to me, in reply to messages I had sent them. They were actually nice, although strictly professional. However, my mother’s Catholic morals will not permit my developing a relationship with a(n acting or retired) porn actress, let alone my taking part in a porn flick. I know because I have asked her…
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    - Sean Russell
      
      06/26/2014 at 2:58 pm
      
      You should check out daygame.com – A site dedicated to meeting girls in regular places during the day – All around the world.
      And it works.
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Alejandro Robles Gandarilla

06/25/2014 at 6:36 pm

This article is RIGHT on the money.
It has changed my way of thinking on this subject if not a little a lot!
Thank You.
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- Sean Russell
  
  06/25/2014 at 9:04 pm
  
  You’re welcome!
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Qualified

06/26/2014 at 7:42 am

I’m 20 now and I’ve used porn since early high school. The negative symptoms were as usual – loss of energy, less satisfaction during sex. But over the years my ability to concentrate has decreased and I feel less ambitious. In addition I now have a bald spot (maybe just from an ingrown hair) and the skin on my hands has started peeling. Overall I feel like I’m slowly dying while my life is supposed to be moving forward.
I know what I need to do to quit porn and end my addiction, yet I still have this problem and it seems like it is killing my high expectations for life.
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- Sean Russell
  
  06/26/2014 at 2:57 pm
  
  It hard my friend. I know this.
  But you can do it. Anyone can do it – Just keep chipping away and accept failures if they come, but just try again. Eventually, even if its three years from now you can be done with it. Think big picture.
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aeroporika

06/27/2014 at 12:10 pm

I like it when individuals come together and share opinions. Great website, keep it up!
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Ben G

06/30/2014 at 5:29 am

Am I the only guy who tried porn and didn’t like it???
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- Sean Russell
  
  06/30/2014 at 3:53 pm
  
  Maybe! Good for you man, you are lucky.
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Ruben

07/01/2014 at 10:22 am

Hi Sean,
Thanks for your article, you said the right things to convince me to stop watching porn. I have a girlfriend for three years now and from the moment we started our relationship, I’ve been honest with her that I watch porn but I told her I only did only very rarely. Meanwhile I tried to stop many times, but I never made it over a month. A month ago I confessed to my girlfriend that I watched porn 1 or 2 times a week and she was pretty shocked (which is understandable). When I saw her reaction and how much my porn addiction hurt her I was convinced to stop watching porn. I googled and came to your article. Have done my first month without porn now (happy!) and still dedicated to never return. I’ve had some hard moments and my girlfriend doesn’t really know how to deal with my grown sex drive yet, but we will get there. On the other hand I feel so much more motivated to undertake other activities and I’m so full of life again that compensates for everything. Again, thanks man!
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/01/2014 at 1:54 pm
  
  Thats awesome to hear Ruben! I wish you the best with everything.
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- James
  
  07/18/2014 at 4:02 pm
  
  Anything you do only once or twice a week is NOT an addiction. If I got drunk once or twice a week, I wouldn’t be considered an alcoholic. If I played video games once or twice a week, I wouldn’t be considered as “addicted to video games.” Any guilty pleasure you partake in only a few times a month is considered “moderation” and is completely healthy.
  If you feel dirty and gross because of the fact that you watch porn, then it is purely a moral issue, and by all means, avoid porn. Do not call it an addiction, though, because you are certainly NOT addicted. If you watched porn and masturbated one to two times a day (or usually quite a bit more) then, I’d agree that you have an addiction.
  So, not telling you to start watching porn again, but don’t label your reason for stopping as a problem you don’t even have.
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  - Jess
    
    11/09/2018 at 10:06 pm
    
    It is if he or anybody tries to quit, but can’t.
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Elyse

07/01/2014 at 10:53 am

Thanks for posting this Sean! It was very refreshing to read.
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Tony

07/04/2014 at 6:33 am

Thanks for posting such a great article!
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/06/2014 at 2:35 pm
  
  Thanks Tony, thanks for coming through.
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Emeralds

07/06/2014 at 4:39 pm

This is a great article. Wish my boyfriend would agree.
We’ve been together for nearly 4 years and I have caught him with porn on so many different occasions, as well as porn chat sites. Even when he came to my family home he would watch it on the family laptop whilst I was at work and not delete the evidence! Time and time again I have told him it’s getting too much. I have been battling with an eating disorder and most of the time hate how’s look and compare myself to other girls/pornstars who he looks at. That’s my issue I know, and I made an appointment to see the drs. However we moved in together a month ago and his porn watching has either dwindled or he has become better at hiding it. I think it’s the latter as he now uses private browsing on his phone, spends a long time in the bathroom etc. I feel like I’m going crazy because every time I leave him alone I think he’s watching it. Last night I ran a bath and left my phone in our room. I went to get it and caught him red handed. Jacking off to porn. Before my bath he kept asking how long I was gonna be, and then came in to see if I was in the bath (which I wasn’t). This seemed really suspicious and I had a feeling it was so he could watch porn. It bothers me because we don’t have sex much anymore and I always want it! It has lowered my self esteem. The time before last (when I last caught him) I said to him this is it now, you know how it’s making me feel, it’s damaging my mental health and our relationship so if it affects our sex life again then that will be it. So I’m sticking to my word and ending the relationship. I deserve more than to be second best to porn!!
Oh and one more thing, he even admitted to getting desensitized to porn, I found more and more disturbing videos, elderly ladies, midget, pregnancy porn as well as the ever popular extreme an*l.
I wish it didn’t bother me but it does.
Are there many guys out there who don’t watch a stupid amount of porn???
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/06/2014 at 5:49 pm
  
  Sorry to hear that Emeralds,
  It is a powerful thing and really controls some guys. Most guys watch a very stupid amount of porn. It has become a social norm which is dangerous, and each year more and more men are starting to take notice, especially since the generation that truly grew up on porn is only now in there 20’s.
  With the porn available now in super HD and ridiculously arrousing, 10 year olds growing up now on that daily are going to be in trouble when they are 30. Eventually something will break the camels back.
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john

07/07/2014 at 4:43 pm

great article…..its my 7 day off no porn and masturbating….i feel my energy level is up and i exercise alot…..have been watching porn and masturbating since 12….im 28 now…..my sex life was great with my gf and i had good erections up until last month i noticed i had erectile problems…..read abt how porn and masturbating could cause be the possible cause…..i have decided to stop and its my 7 day of that…..but my problem now is i feel a little desensitve….dont get day hardness….and had morning erections only twice….is that normal in the recovery process?….want to get back to real sex after the 15 day…..wud i be good to go?…or a masturbating without porn can get my cock sensitive again……tanxs
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/07/2014 at 6:54 pm
  
  Definitely a part of the recovery process. You have done 16 years of desensitizing, you will need to be patient to reverse the damage done. I definitely think you should get back to real sex as soon as you want. Things will level out and your brain chemistry will work in new pathways to arousal through real sex and close the old ones that want porn. But be ready to crave porn hard at times.
  You’ll be good. Recovery is easier with a GF and an outlet for real sex.
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Nicky

07/08/2014 at 11:51 pm

From a woman, I am very happy to read this.
My story, I always felt inferior with men who looked at other women and especially those who commented about them or looked at porn. It is a logically a rejection to me as a woman, ‘as not enough’ to satisfy his cravings. It hurt me deeply every time any man ever did this, to the point where I could not take any more ‘soft betrayal’ from soft comments to hard porn, enough is enough.
Then…
I met a great guy who I admired and respected for he was a gentleman and we got along great. He talked very highly of me and so I assumed because he was smitten enough with me that lusting after another woman is not necessary and for once I could be comfortable and achieve intimacy with him – which he desired too. Then…
I found out he looks at pics/porn…:( .
I really felt for the first time I could be close, share and love on a deep level and 3 times the matter was ‘discussed’ or should I say ‘disgust’ he defended himself, and even accused me of trying to control his life. It hurt so much to finally meet someone that I thought could fulfill my needs and now I have no choice but to back off my love and connection with him. Even if I still see him and can block the fact he will still look at porn, I can’t respect or admire him to the level I did before. and I do not plan on being with him in the future, as I would have to always be the ‘woman among many women’ he lust after, and that is just too uncomfortable.
Another guy I know actually lost his wife over his addiction to lusting after women and porn, and he is still upset to this day. He admitted to me after a few years knowing him that the real reason she divorced him was because of his porn problem.
Thanks for speaking out the truth of how much it hurts and ruins the lives of men.
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/09/2014 at 12:37 am
  
  Thanks for the insight Nicky. Sadly most guys you meet will watch porn because it is a social norm amongst men. But comments like this will help inspire more and more men to stop.
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your rational brain

07/11/2014 at 1:40 am

http://www.alternet.org/story/154266/why_porn_can_be_good_for_you_(and_society)
I thought it would be good to have an adverse article posted here. the article has scientific sources as well.
Im not against this article, but i believe that all things have two sides. I also own a porn website, and get thousands of emails a week from men and women thanking us for our service saying it helps them with their insecurities, relationships, and personal lives. (im not posting an url because this isnt meant to be promotional)
I think all in all, it comes down to personal self control, and addictive personalities. both methods have pros and cons.
On the ED subject… we get older. it happens to every man. random stiffies just dont happen as much when you get older
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/11/2014 at 2:08 am
  
  Thats the beauty of the internet. Anyone can write their opinion and post it. This article is clearly my opinion, and I am very openminded to reading about the other side. I only read half that article (I am not home and it is long as all hell), but there first arguments about how “porn improved peoples lives until they tried to resist the urge to watch it” was less than convincing.
  Yes it definitely improves peoples lives in the moment. It’s amazing to watch and makes you super happy and relieved. It also relieves stress. But it’s like drinking, it’s fun but it does nothing to enhance your life past the moment. That is my beef with porn. It is immediate gratification over and over and over but once its not there it has provided you no benefits and typically many negatives such as addiction, withdrawals, insecurities & sexual numbness and inadequacy (for some).
  Some men can handle porn, some men are ruined by it even if they don;t know it. It all depends.
  But like I said, I am open minded and look forward to reading the rest of that article tomorrow and will post more feedback. But I always appreciate an opposing mindset.
  Thanks.
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Pia Louise

07/11/2014 at 2:20 am

Hello Guys – This is really eye opening to me. I am subscribed to this site because I work with men in fashion. That’s it. And at my age I really don’t care if you watch porn or not. I never thought about it…it’s kinda like you need oxygen and food and porn.
I think at my age I just learned something neew…that I never considered before this article…yet I know someone who did indeed divorce over porn. Only one so what do I know. Think about this:
Anything that interferes with a healthy relationship or friendship or even job/career is an addiction. So if you think or feel you have an issue please treat it as such. Otherwise a little porn if fine. A lot is …quite frankly boring to me but I”m a woman …an older woman not a milf or cougar..but what do I know!
Thanks for the article and something to think about. Anything and everything is OK in moderation… And between 2 consenting adults. It’s sad when it is habitually just you and you. Cheers! @pialouisestyle
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/11/2014 at 3:02 pm
  
  Great thoughts, thanks for the comment Pia.
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George

07/11/2014 at 8:07 am

i stopped watching porn……..but can i masturbate watching television(not porn).
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- dawn
  
  05/11/2015 at 4:03 am
  
  Hello Brad.
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James

07/18/2014 at 3:46 pm

I agree with several points the OP made, but not all of them, and only if you are completely addicted to pornography.
Just have to say something here. You seem to be completely obsessed with the number of women you have sex with. Quitting porn just so you can double your intake on how many women you can sleep with seems like trying to put a bandaid on a severed leg. Clearly you’re addicted to sex, not strictly pornography (porn just being an easy and instant sex stimulant as you stated in your post).
I have only had sex with two women in my life, I’ve married one of them shortly after college, and have been happily married for years now. I watch porn on occasion, my wife watches porn on occasion, hell, we watch porn together on occasion. We’re open about it, we’re honest about it, and it doesn’t affect our lives. We have an amazing sex life, and I don’t feel the desire to go sleep around, because I’m feeling like a (as you put it) “loser who doesn’t get any.”
If anything, you should be writing a post about how you’re addicted to sex, and the desire to make yourself “appear” manly, rather than this anti porn post. Porn is an outlet for sex, and shouldn’t be overused, but neither should sex. I’m a manly man, I have not lack of self confidence, I watch porn, I love my wife, we’re loyal to eachother, I’m completely happy with our life, I hold a steady job, I can survive any support my wife when she deploys for months at a time, and I don’t need to have sex with a million women to feel that way.
Good job and kicking your porn addiction (no sarcasm intended here), but seriously, you still have a problem.
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/18/2014 at 6:54 pm
  
  James,
  I 100% agree that this post is not for everyone, but is just here to inspire thought for the men who do need it. It is kind of annoying when guys who aren’t addicted to porn, have negative things to say. That’s like people not addicted to heroine going on a heroine board and bashing it.
  Also, I do not crave and chase sex with hundreds of women. I am sorry if the article gave that impression. I want to inspire men to have real connections with women and enjoy healthy relationships and crave them instead of porn. Whether they want 1 woman or 200 is up to them.
  I am not at all addicted to sex. That I know for certain. I was however highly addicted to porn. Sex and porn are two entirely different acts.
  Since being a year off porn, I do not have sex with lots of women, or crave it. I am a much more confident man and have built a great business helping men improve their lives.
  I know your last statement was coming from a good place, but thankfully it is not true. And you should not make assumptions about people you do not know at all.
  But do I appreciate all of your thoughts you posted here today. So thanks.
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medicineman9

07/19/2014 at 3:04 pm

@Qualified
I rather think there is something wrong with your health. You should really check out alternative health sites like
http://www.curezone.com
Cutting back on porn is also a good idea however because it saps your energy.
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Tamer

07/28/2014 at 10:43 pm

Hi Sean,
Excellent article. It’s a shame many people are so far behind when it comes to the topic of pornography. You never hear about it, on the news, radio, debates, it almost goes unnoticed everyday. Yet it is affecting millions, destroying relationships, families, men, women etc.
There are some people commenting on this article who have a lot of maturing to do. Don’t be discouraged. Being a man in the 21st century and not looking at porn is one of the most difficult things to achieve. It sure is a challenge giving up porn, and if we can do it, we certainly are great.
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/28/2014 at 11:07 pm
  
  Thanks Tamer.
  Those guys never discourage me, only make me feel stronger. Appreciate it.
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John

07/30/2014 at 2:29 pm

Hi Sean,
First of all I’d like to say that this is a fantastic article. The best I’ve read on the subject. Since I’ve just begun the process of abstaining from porn and excessive masturbation (currently once a week), I’m wondering what type of material is it okay to masturbate to? I have a hard time masturbating to not the thought of a woman. Is it okay to look at a photo of a beautiful clothes female? In any case thanks for writing such a superb article.
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- Sean Russell
  
  07/30/2014 at 2:33 pm
  
  Hey John,
  I don’t know where you are in this – so it is hard to say. I am not against masturbation obviously, but my advice for the “porn addict” would be to abstain from any visual stimulation, even just pictures.
  Becoming attuned with ones body is very beneficial, aka masturbating to just feel and pleasure and being fully present. This is common in the practice of tantric sex and is what I would recommend. But thanks man.
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Benedict

08/06/2014 at 1:17 pm

Thankfulness to my father who told me about this web site,
this website is really remarkable.
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Arif

08/10/2014 at 3:54 pm

Thank you for this great post and the helpful links! I am 19 years old and have been watching porn ever since I was 12. Porn is very stimulating for me and I have started to realize a while back that I have a an addiction to it. Your article has motivated me to stop watching porn altogether. But I am a little taken aback by trying to quit fantasizing during masturbation. Can you elaborate on that?
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- Sean Russell
  
  08/11/2014 at 1:45 pm
  
  Hey Arif,
  It is suggested that a porn addict tries to quit fantasizing during masturbation simply because they are typically masturbating to porn in their mind. If you are remembering your favorite scenes and masturbating to the memory, it is almost as powerful as porn.
  However, fantasy is still natural and it is really up to you. You can still achieve great results from abstaining from porn alone. But be prepared for a long commitment!
  But its awesome that you have decided to quit. Goodluck!
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Anon345

08/13/2014 at 7:49 am

Only losers hit on married women.
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- Future Hours
  
  03/18/2015 at 7:09 pm
  
  only losers get married.
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Boris

08/20/2014 at 12:56 am

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Michael

09/09/2014 at 12:16 am

The vast majority of porn is crap. Its just the same boring stuff with hetrosex, blow job/suck job then stick dick here. There’s no fantasy (sometimes nominal but its so window dressing and quickly skipped into nudity). I want to see women in clothes long flowing dresses with some cleavage(1/4), full lingerie, natural bodies not shaved not bland excessive body part sizes- preferably moderate breasts. Naughty stuff with clothes on. Also fantasy with coercive elements- there are sites like that Public agent and casting couch but they go to straight to the standard tropes. Try searching for that and its all BDSM (no fun at all). Porn director are apparently obsessed with nudity- they think the fashion industry knows nothing- men and women apparently don’t like sexy clothes.
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- Sean Russell
  
  09/09/2014 at 12:23 am
  
  I definitely watched porn for the nudity haha. But everyone is different, sounds like your appreciation for what you like is not so much fueled by an addiction like some guys but from an appreciation of beauty. That is a healthier outlook.
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Ralph

09/12/2014 at 1:22 pm

I think you´re right. I have been using feminine underware for years and actually I have ED. Probably masturbating with panties is the only way I have to exciting me and when I´m with my wife, simply I can´t get an real erection. I´ll try but it´s hard to leave a fetish activity you have had for several years.
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- Tom Hofman
  
  10/22/2014 at 10:35 am
  
  WOW that’s some serious problem you got there buddy. I hope everything turns around soon for you and your partner…
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Benton Magowan

10/06/2014 at 8:09 pm

What kind of research do you do to come to these conclusions? Thanks for sharing!
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- Sean Russell
  
  10/06/2014 at 8:12 pm
  
  Self research via experience and helping others through the same stuff and thanks for commenting.
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Gavin Uutela

10/19/2014 at 2:33 am

I have read a few good stuff here. Certainly worth bookmarking for revisiting. I wonder how much effort you put to make such a excellent informative web site.
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matt

10/27/2014 at 3:23 pm

Dude this is legit gay. We’re young men like obviously we’re going to beat off lol it’s a part of life
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- Sean Russell
  
  10/27/2014 at 5:48 pm
  
  Hey man, I felt the same way when I was in my teens.
  But you know what’s even less gay. Not having to watch porn because you have such a solid sex life. And I never said beating off wasn’t a part of like, because it is. But too many guys replace sex lives with porn lives. That my friend is gay.
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shirleykind

11/03/2014 at 6:43 am

I liked the article and respect the fact that is was written w/o the religious side of it; that being said it just proves that human logic back up scriptures.
That sin destroys lives…
Matthew 5:27-28 New International Version (NIV)
Adultery
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[a] 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
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Courtney

11/04/2014 at 9:00 pm

Very nice article! I’m sure a lot of men are going to dismiss this, but most addicts or people with real issues are the exact ones who are going to say they don’t have a problem. And just noticing some of the comments… I’ve watched a few porn videos to see what men are trying to get at when they think it will improve their sex life… NONE of the things I saw would actually get a girl off.
My ex watched porn and I told the idiot to stop, but he didn’t get it. He learned how to do a few things off porn videos and he was probably the worst oral sex I have ever had. He’s been with four others and said he had no complaints, so I feel really sorry that the girls didn’t like him enough to tell him he was bad in bed do to porn and lack of input. No, I’m not saying he’s a liar, just that the girls were definitely faking it and lying to him. I mean he’s really terrible. His first gf stopped having sex with him, he thinks it’s cause she was busy – yeah right! Two other girls ended up being one nighters who never wanted to see him again… Wonder why? And the other one broke up because she didn’t like him… Again, wonder why? He told me I was the best head ever, but I’m guessing that’s just cause the other girls were so turned off by him being bad in bed.
Men, most of your break ups in life are not going to be do to personality, fashion sense or forgetting to give her gifts – they’re going to be do to your porn viewing. I can forgive a man for messing up on the smaller stuff, but being bad in bed is unforgivable. Especially if you aren’t willing to learn from doing instead of porn. You might find out your relationships are sexless because you suck in bed, you’re mean or you make her feel worthless / uncomfortable do to looking at other woman and pornography.
Again, thanks for the article! And to the idiots who commented, who obviously have no idea what girls really think of you, grow up!
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- Sean Russell
  
  11/05/2014 at 5:34 pm
  
  Thanks Courtney, great comment.
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Bom

11/10/2014 at 10:36 am

Hello World,
Glad there others who know the harm Porn can cause in someones life.
I am a lady, and this is my story.
My fiancé watched porn for the first 4 years of our relationship and he kept it a secret from me. When I found out (not of his terms) I was so mad and hurt. I was mad that he kept a secret like that from me for 4 years!
I honestly wouldn’t have stayed with him had I known he was watching porn on the regular. I know there are men out there who don’t need it, and well… thats the type of man I am attracted to… the type of man I thought he was.
I felt tricked, like he took it upon himself to decide I didn’t need to know that. He said It was “personal” and “he didn’t think it was a big of a deal”… That’s when I got really mad…no big deal? You decided to omit something for 4 years when in the beginning, before I moved in, I poured my heart and soul about everything personal and you couldn’t have told me from the beginning that you like to watch porn? Sure, we may have broken up back then but we were both young. I was 15, he was 17. Breaking up back then would have been better than this… it was just a heart breaking situation for me.
I didn’t trust him like I used to. He was so good at hiding it for such a long time, it made me wonder what else he would hide to keep me from leaving. I am a pretty girl and a lot of men would love to be with me, men that would not lie to someone they supposedly “love”.
I just couldn’t believe I never even noticed it…I mean sometimes we would try new kinky things and I thought it was from his imagination but now I know it was probably the result of some move John dick did to his whore in his favorite porn vids. I felt sort of…used.
Sometimes sex lasted a long time and I never understood why it was taking so long. Don’t get me wrong, I like a decent session, but after 25 minutes or so it gets exhausting for me because I have multiple orgasms and after a few it starts to get uncomfortable and I quiver.
When I found out, I could tell he felt bad. I wasn’t exactly taking it easy on him because I was so hurt by the situation…
I don’t watch porn but when I found out he was I was like “How would you like it if I watched porn? He obviously said he didn’t care so right in the moment I went to our room and looked up some porn. He was in the other room and started surfing porn too….After 10 minutes I gave up, I honestly couldn’t get off to it…. I wen’t into the room he was in, his computer screen had some HD porn going, his dick in his hands and I told him while half naked, crying about how heartbroken I was, that I couldn’t do this. I couldn’t stay with someone who would choose porn over a real body and lie about it for 4 years.
That is when he told me he would stop. He told me he felt bad and didn’t know why he never told me. He said it was mostly because he was ashamed. After that, we made passionate love. I am still hurt by it (2 years later) but our sex life has never been so amazing. I can tell he is way more into it, he gets excited way easier… All I have to do is walk around in my panties and he loses it. Half the time he can’t go any longer than about 10 minutes now because he says it feels so good. I must say, he gets way harder than he ever did before. We actually look at each other when having sex now. He appreciates my body, I can tell by the look in his eyes when he is giving it to me.
Him giving up porn was the best thing for our sex life, and our relationship. We are so intimate and in tune with each others needs now my orgasms are much more intense …I even squirted one time..I know it was squirting because I basically lost control of my whole body and I was tingling and it just felt like nothing I ever experienced…. xD
Anyways, I know for you guys that are still on Porn can’t seem to get off of it alone, but you will always be alone if you can’t get off of it. Unless of course, you find a girl that is equally into it…but that seems so…not romantic. lol Sex is better when your in tune with your partner and that will never happen if you are lusting over fake tits, bleached assholes and airbrushed skin all day.
The real thing may be messy and sweaty…but since when are guys afraid to get a little dirty?
~Bom
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- Sean Russell
  
  11/10/2014 at 5:28 pm
  
  Thank you for such and awesome and inspiring story Bom!
  I am glad other you are still together and to hear how quitting porn amplified your husbands sexual enjoyment is awesome and so motivating for others.
  Cheers.
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MikeC

11/26/2014 at 4:30 pm

Great story and guys and girls alike should read this.
Have been porn free for 18 months and have no desire to view it again. I just made the decision that I didn’t want to view it anymore. Everyone is different and if you feel viewing pornography is okay for you, fine. If you feel that porn has no impact on you or your social life, great. Just stay off the forum and stop bashing others decisions to change their life. It’s the reason why I don’t go on sobriety blogs and tell people you have it all wrong two beers a day is good. What’s good for you may not be good for others. I love not being a slave to the porn industry. For me, porn put me in a prison that let no intimacy in. It destroyed my last relationship. I became the dishwasher in that prison and didn’t know it. Then one day I got enlightened and took my dirty apron off and as I was leaving punched the Warden(porn Industry) in the face. It was a good decision, and never had any brushes with the law again.
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- Sean Russell
  
  11/26/2014 at 8:41 pm
  
  Awesome explanation Mike. I 100% agree.
  Thanks
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Leo

12/02/2014 at 3:53 pm

These reasons make me want never give up jacking off to porn!!
MGTOW forever!
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- Sean Russell
  
  12/02/2014 at 5:21 pm
  
  Never heard of MGTOW..thanks
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Ulfr

12/04/2014 at 12:43 pm

“The best version of you can be like this. Or you can be a man who huddles up around his laptop and pathetically pleasures himself. The choice is yours.”
Pardon my French; but _fuck you_. I use masturbation to deliberately keep myself away from women. I exercise every day, I eat right, I wear clean clothes and keep well-groomed. Do I appreciate a glance from the ladies? You bet. But I appreciate my ever-growing net worth even more. The fact is that in this day and age there is absolutely nothing to be gained from relationships and everything to be lost; unless, of course, you’re the weakest link. I am not the weakest link; nor am I a sleazeball who is willing to use women they way they’re willing to use me.
Tell yourselves whatever you must; but know this: When that harpy-bitch you married stops putting out, porn is all you’re going to have left. And God help you if she catches you jerking off.
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- Dennis
  
  12/04/2014 at 6:58 pm
  
  Cool story bro
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- Sean Russell
  
  12/04/2014 at 7:13 pm
  
  Easy Dennis.
  There is an exception to every rule. It must be said this article is not for everyone. There are guys who watch porn with their wives and other things of that nature, which this article isn’t directed at. You have to understand that.
  You wouldn’t comment on an article about alcohol addiction and say “HEY FUCK YOU, two beers after work helps me relax!” You would just enjoy your beers and stay away. This article has helped many men beat their addiction, I have seen it personally. So I don’t mind offending 1 every now and then to help hundreds.
  That being said, I don’t see the logic in using porn to stay away from relationships because they hold you back. I understand the concept of withholding sex and masturbation, as talked about in Napoleon Hill’s – Think And Grow Rich, as a way to harness your sexual energy and use it towards success. But jerking off to porn negates this.
  I just want to know why you feel like you cannot have casual sex without relationships without being a sleaze ball?
  I am also building a business, and right now have no plans on being in a relationship. But I very much enjoy the female form. And I do it without using anyone or hurting feelings or being a sleaze ball per say.
  And at the end of the day, I don’t see my net worth as a dollar amount. My quality and enjoyment of life takes up the majority of it.
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- Ben
  
  01/30/2015 at 8:26 pm
  
  Don’t fuck yourself
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A.N.G

12/12/2014 at 1:56 pm

Great post …Thanks.
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- Sean Russell
  
  12/12/2014 at 5:33 pm
  
  Glad you found value in it – thanks for reading
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Justin McFarland

01/15/2015 at 7:25 pm

Read it. Enjoyed it. I have noticed many of the same negatives associated with watching porn (while single) and getting lazy about meeting women. Thanks for sharing and I really appreciate your work.
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/16/2015 at 12:01 am
  
  Thanks Justin – Noticing is everything. Most guys don’t even know they are being such deflated versions of themselves.
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brown

01/17/2015 at 2:03 am

I always seem to watch porn when i get mad or not feeling good . I have good days that i didnt watch porn for months . Then one little triggers it . Idk is it crazy. .. i only watch lesbian porn .. i am married but sometimes i need just to get away … i love my wife a lot . Today i saw ur blog made me up my mind alot. I am going to try not looking at porn any more . Thanks brah
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/19/2015 at 8:12 pm
  
  It is a never ending thing haha. 2 years free and I could watch it and love it. But I won’t because I am committed to being the best version of myself.
  Something tells me lesbian porn would be less harmful to your outlook and marriage though, but good job trying to quit. Your wife is a lucky girl.
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Jura

01/19/2015 at 5:38 am

I really like this article. Of course people are going to pick it apart to defend their habit. Your responses were great as well and only reinforce my decision
Keep it up !
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- Sean Russell
  
  01/19/2015 at 7:53 pm
  
  Thanks Jura.
  It’s just a choice. Do you want to be the best version of yourself, or not. No judgement either way!
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Future Hours

03/18/2015 at 7:21 pm

The problem with alot of these comments, is these guys are trying to justify their own egos and failure. This guy who wrote this article is trying to help your dumb asses out. He, as well as many others (including myself) who left porn in the dust are better off and is trying to spread the gospel. Like I always say, wih most people in life, you can teach a man to fish, but most idiots will end up drowning from their own stupidity. Screw em. You’re living a better life and they aren’t. oh well
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- Sean Russell
  
  03/20/2015 at 4:39 pm
  
  Nice comment man haha. Thanks for the support.
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John Doe

04/05/2015 at 4:33 am

The problem for me is that I don’t want anything to do with sex/marriage/relationships. It’s not that I can’t talk to women, I’ve broken a lot of hearts. It’s that there really is no chance of me ever having a healthy relationship with a women. I have too much of a bad history with women, in general; and no matter how much counseling, or soul searching, I do seems to matter. The rational side of my brain knows that women are people no different than I; but, the other side says fuck no to trusting them. You can call me less of a man for that, but truth is I’ve spent too much time in warzones conducting route clearance operations to care. I don’t find sex in any way, shape, or form to really define what it is to be a real man. I say fuck it, look at porn all you want. It’s cheaper than spending half your paycheck on dates; it’s more effective than sex; you don’t contract a vd; and it’s healthier for you than the divorce settlement that 50% of the married folks will go through! Also, don’t even get me started on alimony or child support!
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- Sean Russell
  
  04/06/2015 at 2:56 pm
  
  Hey man, it’s up to the person. Like I said no judgements here, just suggestions.
  I hope you can sort your intimacy and trust issues out man. Alanna Pratt is the best in the biz for helping men do this.
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RAWR

04/19/2015 at 10:55 pm

this all sounds very nice, but what reason is there for me to quit watching porn? i rarely meet women that i genuinely see a future with, and when i do they can almost always do “better” than me. i have a good life, make good money, interesting and varied hobbies, respected by my peers. i watch porn because most women are unattractive, either physically or their attitude or both(usually both). if it’s not free porn then i’ll be paying money for weekly escourts, and that’s a stupid move because it drains the savings account. you sound like one of those fuckers who’s never been there yet claims to be the guru on why you should or shouldn’t do something. basically making your living by telling others how to make their living:you didn’t really accomplish anything on your own, you just make people believe that you did and that’s good enough to get their money.
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- Sean Russell
  
  04/22/2015 at 4:29 pm
  
  Okay then haha. Hey man, this article is for people who want to improve their life. If you want to watch porn, then watch porn. No need to comment about it.
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Crescent

04/30/2015 at 2:50 pm

Hey bro! I’m a 21yrs old engg student and this disgusting habit of porn/masterbation has worstly affected my studies as i wasted my time, i hv lost the memory, concentration, ability to focus & the will to achieve academic success (as u said in the article titled 33 reasons to stop masterbation).
I’m trying to stop it from the moment i started it before 4yrs ago but not getting success. I make myself determined many times for not to repeat it but finally surrender before this evil urge. Your article also a source of inspiration an making me very much determined but i’m afraid of failure.
I want to clear it, i am fully convinced with ur thoughts that the reason must be clear to stop it. In my case, its like i’hv no reason to continue, i hv just traped in this evil deed, i’m not opposing the guys who r justifying this act, they all plz continue but i want to stop this coz it is taking a big toll. As u said, i also want to be a best version of myself.
Plz help me, tell me how can i regain my confidence n how can i gain power to fight this addiction ? Will i get my memory, concentration n focus again n if YES then in how many weeks ? Plz tell me some positive effects you felt while recovery.
And Thanks Sean, you r doing a grt job. Its a big trouble now a days. I’m waiting for ur reply n making resolution from right now 30th april 2015 that i’ll not do this evil deed again.
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- Sean Russell
  
  05/01/2015 at 5:25 pm
  
  Hey man not to pitch my own shit, but The Menprovement Academy is perfect for you man. We have a whole program on qutting porn and we have other programs on becoming more confident and improving your life. It will change you man, for real. I wish you the best my brother, you can do this!
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Ronie

05/08/2015 at 10:09 pm

im not a hardcore porn guy all im interested in are the boobs like i watch and masturbate to the videos for the boobs mostly in bras (for some reason that turn me really on) but as soon as the actors are going to start having sex i stop watching will that mess me up? im not a harcore porn guy
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Alec Chase

05/15/2015 at 6:52 pm

Wow this conversation is going strong for two years, impressive!
I had previously, whole heatedly believed in many of the arguments int this article. Recently though, I had an opportunity to interview a leading scientist who had conducted research on the effect of porn consumption on men’s well-being. In fact, I used the points in this article to ask many of my questions. Thanks!
Suffice to say though that the research discussed either directly contradicts much of what is said here or provides a very different explanation for it. If you are curious, you can listen to the interview here:
http://mensdatingmastery.com/podcast-drnicoleprause/
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Househousen

05/28/2015 at 12:19 am

I’m really glad I finally found something like this, because it helped me in the opposite direction. I used to be a romantic, an overly kind person who genuinely sought a healthy, affectionate mutual relationship with the opposite sex. I’m not bad looking, I won’t say I’m a 10, but I’m certainly not ugly. More or less I sought fulfillment in a relationship with a woman, while I did have my own things I enjoyed doing personally; one of my big hangups on true happiness was that I was not in a relationship with anyone and no one wanted anything to do with me.
After my ex cheated on me with a drug dealer after I bought her custom diamond jewelry for our anniversary and left me with no closure, I was more or less led around in circles and manipulated repeatedly by countless people, I matured a bit and rather than it being my fault for being so naive and letting these people do that to me, they just became more malicious about it. Rather than being upfront and honest with me, they kept me on reserve then went out with someone else when it was well established from the beginning that we were aiming to date. (a lot of these were people I met on dating websites since my position in life back then wasn’t exactly ideal for meeting women. community college.. ugh.)
So after a while, in my early 20’s something clicked and instead of caring so much about what women think of me, or being romantic, or what kind of people I’d meet, I became invested in hobbies and personal interest/fulfillment. One of my biggest problems for a long time was that despite being happy with myself, and while I was generally respectful to everyone I meet regardless of gender, that crippling emotional pain would sometimes creep in, due to a song or otherwise and it would annoy the hell out of me because I didn’t want to have to expend the effort just to be treated like air or a bug again for the umpteenth time.
I kept trying and trying, and after a while all of a sudden I start realizing I no longer feel anything when a woman walks by. I no longer get irritated when I say “Hello, how are you?” and am responded with silence. I no longer am hurt when I am with a group of friends that just so happens to include several females and several demeaning jokes are barraged towards me, unwarranted from one of them. I no longer have to feel that pain every single day like I used to, and I guess I owe a portion of it to masturbation, which I spend a decent amount of time doing. (but not enough for it to impede any other parts of my life thankfully.)
Some may call it pathetic, but I don’t care; it’s really a big reason why I am even still alive right now. This is not another “nice guy” story about some cheetodust fedora who wants to get laid or wants a traditional subservient girl to treat him like a king despite his disrespect of her humanity in general. I’m just an average guy who at one point really wanted to at the bare minimum be slightly acknowledged, at the most maybe meet someone who would have been my partner who I’d treat with as much respect as they deserve.
Instead I just fap, and I can safely say I’ve never been happier in my life, and it’s great that there is no rule saying you have to be in a relationship, because that is literally impossible for me at this point.
All in all, good post, despite it going in the opposite direction for me, I am grateful and I do think it can help out a lot of people who genuinely suffer from an addiction, or could benefit from a break from the stuff, or to leave it entirely. I’m positive people will appreciate this a lot from either angle.
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George

06/10/2015 at 3:14 pm

Actually, watching porn made me find women more attractive, especially the “unattractive” ones!
But I do agree with the rest of the points
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08/02/2015 at 1:25 am

Hi Sean,
I am very grateful and relieved to read this article. My husband and I are separated, and the lack of sex was a driver. He watched alot of porn and was plagued with a history of sexual abuse. I asked him to be truthful and he wasn’t and always wanted me to sleep with other men. That was a huge turn on for him. I discovered keys to sites, and I suspect there were chat rooms. I would have been more than willing to explore these desires with him, but trust is key, and I wanted it to be that we were exploring something together rather than him fulfilling his visions of what he was watching. It’s heartbreaking because I feel deficient in alot of ways. My desire for him stalled because I always felt there was something else he was hiding. He just couldn’t stop watching it, and I always questioned the truth in his motivations. It felt ugly and dirty, and quite frankly, I too, feel am recovering from that experience. Anyway, it was good to see that a man authored this piece. Thank you.
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08/07/2015 at 2:09 am

i quit porn 5 months ago. my sex life hasnt improved whatsoever. im more depressed and lonely than ever.
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Catherine

08/22/2015 at 12:08 am

I’m sorry for finding this article so late but it has been an amazing read. I’ve read all comments and I no longer feel as though I’m in the wrong for wanting my boyfriend to truly quit viewing it. He’s getting so much better, it may happen about once a month but I can live with that. I talked to him too about how many girls feel when their SO watches porn and how we can’t help but feel we are being compared to. He now feels the way I do. He says he would be uncomfortable if I was getting off to men that he felt were more attractive than him or had a bigger dick. It’s been a journey for us but I’ve been trying so hard to change my point of view on it and I just can’t! I can’t help but feel hurt especially since we have sex daily or even twice a day. But he now sees my point and is still working on quitting it completely. I’ve had many failed relationships with men that feel they are supposed to watch it because of how readily available it is and it’s just “easy”. I feel like being open with him and explaining how it can harm your SO feelings and view on how they pleasure you has changed his perspective drastically. I will be showing him this article for sure! Porn or no porn he is the man I want to be with, I just want to have the most honest relationship possible between us. This was a great article.
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Carl

09/10/2015 at 8:44 pm

this thing takes over and I know at some point I am going to click on porn.
I know it is ruining my life. I go to work and surf porn all day some days.
I do the minimum of work and then badly. My wife has no idea, but it is affecting my sex life with her. That she notices. I have to stop and have tried with very little success. I do not masturbate most of the time, but I crave the rush I get when I see it. I am 47 and have been watching regularly for about 6-7 yrs. I will probably cause the closing of our branch office because of lack of production.
I will try to stop again today, wish me luck.
this is the first time I have seen anything like this online. Hope it can continue.
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- Anders
  
  09/30/2015 at 12:30 am
  
  Carl, I hope you read this as I have no other way of contacting you. I hope you find these suggestion useful. There are ways of scaling down on your porn consumption, giving it up completely even, but it entails you asking a friend or colleague for help, although I suppose you could do it yourself as well:
  Download the free program K9 Web Protection. In there you can click which categories to block and specific websites and also what search words to block. The categories is the most important one, as you’ll never be able to block all porn sites (I think it’s 75 % of the internet that’s porn). This is protected by a password that your friend should put in, unless you want to make up a password of random characters yourself. If you want to be very bold, you could put in a password like that and then throw the paper away, so you’ll never be able to unlock it. If your friend helps you, he can unlock it for you, although there would hopefully be no need for that (but you might have to unblock certain non-harmful sites manually for which you need the password). Trust me, I speak from experience when I say that if your situation is this bad, blocking only specific sites or watching only a little bit of porn doesn’t “cure” you. I tried that, and I tried to promise myself that if I surfed for porn again, I would donate money to something. And I ended up paying that money, and here several years later I still surf for porn. If you are trying to quit heroin, you shouldn’t be injecting it just now and again either. Last night I surfed for porn for three hours, and I jerked off twice this morning. Now I have given my new housemate the password so I can’t unlock it.
  Something that might be less useful for you is the program iNet Protector. I paid $20 or $30 for it (a one-time payment), and it has helped me greatly to be productive at work (I’m self-employed). My income went up 50-100 % after buying the programme, simply because I didn’t surf the web. The programme administers when I can be online and for how long. I made the schedule myself and over time found a suitable amount of online time. I now have one hour to spend between 5 and 6 pm, and between 8 am and 5 pm as well as 6 pm to midnight, my internet access is blocked. My flatmate had the password originally. Then we moved apart, and I made up a password of random characters myself, but I could unlock it whenever I wanted as the paper was in my drawer. Now my new housemate also has that password.
  Lastly, I also bought the programme PC Auto Shutdown, which closes down the computer according to a schedule you put in – again protected by a password. I bought this programme to force myself to have a life at night instead of sitting in front of the computer.
  The money I spent on these programs were very well spent when you consider what I have gained from it (as long as I stick to using the programmes the way they were intended).
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  - Carl
    
    10/01/2015 at 2:55 pm
    
    it’s been 21 days today. Some harder than others. getting more work done.
    feeling more actual work related stress rather than lack of work fear of getting caught stress. Starting to feel like this may actually work. still nervous about everything related to porn. Not yet ready to turn my desk to make it more visible to others. Hopefully at some point. That would be huge. feeling very nervous today, heart beating, anxious stressed about a big job and am delaying doing it.
    the girl on the right in the ad is killing me. gotta go now.
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    - Anders
      
      10/13/2015 at 1:31 am
      
      Congratulations on going 21 days, Carl! Has it been a month now? In any case, if this is the first time you try to go this long, it’s an immense achievement! The first time I went one month without an orgasm it was torture! I watched porn almost daily, and masturbated, but didn’t have an orgasm, but it was incredibly tough. As I wrote in my long post I once went six months without an orgasm, and the key to that was that I didn’t watch any porn (and other reasons too). Only when I just wanted to see this one scene which lead to another which lead to another did it go wrong.
      Turning your table seems like a great idea. I’m afraid of “getting caught” as well, so if people can “catch” you, it’s easier to stay away from your drug.
      I hope you have happy news to tell and that you will succeed 🙂
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      - Carl
        
        10/30/2015 at 6:18 pm
        
        it’s been 2 months now. thoughts creep in like just a few minutes won’t hurt.
        I know better that would turn into hours. or days. Still struggling with putting in a full days work. Total retraining of how to concentrate on the work. Think about porn everyday for sure. I am enjoying the return of my morning wood though. Had not seen much of that in the last few years.
        I will continue to resist and move forward to a better me.
      - Sean Russell
        
        11/05/2015 at 8:38 pm
        
        Well done Carl, the thoughts take years to go away! It’s crazy but worth it brother.
      - Anders
        
        11/24/2015 at 8:32 am
        
        Congratulations, Carl. Going two months is really a tremendous feat given the circumstances! I hope it will last. Don’t you feel much better, more energetic and less shameful? Some people might brush it off and say this is easy, but I know from hard-earned experience that it isn’t. So you can be proud of yourself!
        I’ve also found some success myself. I haven’t had an orgasm for three weeks and a couple of days. And the reason? I found a girlfriend. Then after two weeks I had to leave the country for two months, and I had my last orgasm (with her) on the morning when I left, which is those three weeks ago.
        Since I met her I have hardly felt the urge to watch porn, and I’ve only watched three short clips, all within the last couple of days.
        So, this has shown me that porn for me is perhaps not really an addiction, but something I use when I’m frustrated (because there’s no woman in my life or for other reasons). Yet, when I watched those clips I wanted more. And more. And more. I hadn’t thought about porn for almost five weeks, and all of a sudden I think a lot about it – just now even!
        So, Carl, if you ever get to the point where you think about it anymore, please, please don’t let your curiosity get the best of you. You seem to have realised it’s like heroin for you. Never start doing heroin again if you can avoid it. Thinking “a little bit won’t hurt” is what kills us. I hope you one day completely lose interest in porn 🙂
Anders

09/22/2015 at 6:33 am

I’m suffering from the “opposite” of erectile dysfunction: I’ve become so used to watching porn and jerking off so quickly (or at least sitting on the brink of orgasm) that my stamina is completely gone. With a girl I can sometimes fuck for a few minutes, other times just 30 seconds! I’ve even had to buy a spray (like an anasthesia) to spray on my dick so I can last longer.
And how did it used to be? I could probably pound a girl for 10-15 minutes. If I wasn’t so into the girl, I sometimes couldn’t even come, even though I kept pounding forever.
Then I started watching more porn, mainly because the place I was living at the time had the most unsuspectible girls of all the six places I’ve lived around the world.
I realised my use had become a problem when I watched this documentary on Youtube called “Your brain on porn: Porn addiction”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TKDFsLi2oBk. It is in six parts, so here’s another shorter video, which basically sums it up: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
In any case, there’s a chart in there from the American Psychiatric Association with seven questions to ask yourself:
http://s13.postimg.org/8hkpvsbs7/Afh_ngighed.jpg
If you answer yes to three or more you can be considered addicted. I answered yes to all seven!
So, my stamina had already gone down. Then I deleted all the 30 gigabytes of porn had downloaded. Later I decided yet again to try and go one month without jerking off, which I had done a few times before over the years. Then it became a month and a half. Then it became easier, and in the end I didn’t jerk off (nor had sex, actually) for six months!
I felt happier, more relaxed, more “together” than before (although there were other reasons for that too). I also felt better around women. I found it easier to touch them and play with them without feeling jittery or overly horny. When I was watching porn I was constantly looking around for women. I wanted to fuck everybody – even the ones I would feel bad about next day. Giving up porn made me less horny.
Then after exactly six months I just wanted to have a quick peek at a porn scene I had once watched. Then I went to a tube site, discovered yet another porn star I had never heard of before, again felt a desire to watch everything she had ever done, and then game over.
Then the addiction started again. After a few months I quit again, and it felt quite easy. Then it lasted for a while. Then I started again. This is more than three years ago now. Just last night I was watching porn again, although not having an orgasm, as I have managed to go a week and a few days without an orgasm. When I “quit” around a week ago I deleted everything from my computer (again). Last night I downloaded 3,5 gigabyes of porn.
The ONLY cure for me has been to have no access to porn – then I don’t get tempted, just like alcoholics shouldn’t keep any beer in the house. But with constant internet access this is difficult. Luckily, I have bought programs that administer my internet access and can block sites/categories. It used to be easier when my flatmate at the time had the password. Now that I have it myself (although it’s 12 random characters on a piece of paper in my drawer) I can unlock it whenever I want.
I really hope I can quit for good this time. It’s not only that it makes me unhappy and frustrated, it’s also the amount of time I spend on it. I can seriously spend 3-4 hours surfing for porn, always thinking I just have to watch yet another one of those videos on the sidebar on Pornhub to see if it’s even better, and then downloading it from another site to get it in full quality. Then I go to bed at 2-3 AM, sleep late, start working late (I’m self-employed and work from home), finishing work late, eating late, going to bed late, getting up late, starting to work late…
Despite all the pleasure it gives me in the short run, porn doesn’t give me any pleasure in the long run – none whatsoever.
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- Anders
  
  09/28/2015 at 6:45 pm
  
  Correction:
  “Unsuspectible” was supposed to be “unsusceptible” (as in “resistant”).
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- KillSwitch
  
  06/23/2016 at 9:23 am
  
  Great write-up. I’m self employed as well and I work from home mostly. I can really relate to your situation although I’ve only been successful at quitting porn for a period of one month and that was because I was going to church everyday of the week during that period. When my girlfriend comes over, it doesn’t matter how long, I don’t feel the need to watch porn or masturbate. When she leaves the urge comes back. We have great sex. We lose track of time when we are at it and lately I cum, usually after 30 to 40 mins of foreplay with sex, before she gets her first orgasm. Porn hasn’t really had any physically detrimental effects on me yet. but I would still wanna quit. I’m struggling with it though. And because I’m of a Christian background that is also against pre-martial sex it means I shouldn’t be having sex with my gf either. Just like Anders I think my only solution to not watching or masturbating is not to have access to porn.
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09/19/2016 at 2:33 pm

i will agree and stop watching porn if you can somehow convince women that hook up sex is ok, it doesn’t make them a slut, and they don’t need to be in a relationship to have sex. You have no idea how frustrating it is for men who “crave women” like you said in the article, but have to go through heaps and bounds to get sex. For most women sex requires SO much effort. Dates, emotional commitment, monogamy, money and much more. I have a girlfriend now so this doesn’t currently effect me, but I can remember my single college years and how it very much so did. Many guys simply want to have sex with women without anything more. Girls view this as offensive when it’s not. What’s wrong with a good night hook up with no strings attached? Why does sex need to be all about love and emotion for women? Why do so many women require monogamy and relationships before they have sex? These are the reasons why men watch porn
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10/23/2016 at 6:37 pm

I have been masturbating to porn since i was 14, now i am 28. I’ve had 2 girlfriends in the past but broke up with both of them after long years of courtship due to family issues. Sex life with both of them was fine. Since i was 23, i haven’t had any stable relationship with a girl, though i have had random one night stands & stuff, and now, for like the past 2 years i have become much of a loner. This, is just the situation.
Now lets come to d problem. What i think is, porn alongwith MJ abuse has taken a toll over my life. I aspired to be a musician but eventually lost my way & motivation. Now i just work for a tech support co. trying to make ends meet. I have no motivation left othet than smoking weed & jerking off to the likes of Aletta Ocean, Sasha Grey & so on. This has created an intense brain fog that i remain depressed most of the time. Since i have been to rehab & hv been off weed for the past 4 months, watching porn remains my greatest detriment in life. I feel i am in great need of love from a real girl, spend time with her & stuff but there is no way out. There are no females at my place of work, nor do i have any female friends left. I live in India, so getting girls after you are out of college is pretty difficult. I used to go to gym as well but now i am not motivated enough to go back & i have a constantly increasing waistline. Things have completely fallen out of place & watching porn and jerking off to it has contributed to it.
I am sick of all this bullshit & want to get out of this vicious cycle completely. I want to get married now, have a real career, be it music or something else and have a fantastic love life. This article has shed light into so many issues that were wrong with me & i think i need a lil bit more support & motivation to get out of this lifestyle. I am lost like most of us & i wanna be the best of me. Thanks for the article Sean. Respect & Salute !!
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Nice article. Though I decided to quit porn and was able to for two weeks, but then came back on it since there are a lot of distractions these days. But now again, I have decided to quit it for atleast one month. I have completed seven days.
But I wanted to clear one thing – The point that we will be attracted towards girls because of more confidence, better health and a healthy look towards women is all awesome. But I cannot understand the point which you mentioned that how the idea of ‘the hard work which men used to do earlier to satisfy their lust for sex’ is justified. That, by talking to women we will be good in picking up girls for casual hookups, but is it a good thing to have casual hookups? Dont u think it will be an addiction again which will rewire our brain to meet more and more girls in real and make us desperate. Maybe it is a different topic of discussion, but I just wanted to understand the idea of leaving porn/masturbation for having sex with real women seems to be not resolving all of the problems if we are getting addicted to real women. Or maybe it depends on person to person. But I just wanted to know from you, what you will suggest to single guys how to be satisfied without watching porn as well as not investing time in women?
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08/21/2017 at 9:59 am

Man… I’m disabled as of now, and my sperm doesn’t come out, just once a week. I jerk off on Sundays. It was affected. Know here why I became disabled: http://www.focusondisability.org.uk/forum.html#bn-forum-1-1-2381766292/843/998318/show. Now, on the pic there. All I can say is that “I define success”. But I also know having the traits on the left are still considered success. Anyways. I am thinking if I should not jerk off anymore. Maybe for 1 year or so? Should I not? Or should I, to help in letting it come out again? I miss the days where I can cum so good. Sometimes, I even love it more without watching porn and just masturbating. What do you think? Should I continue my every Sunday only routine or completely stop it for a long time(or even just stop it and just get it on with a girl) and by not jerking off, hope that it will heal itself and go back. I will of course jerk off after the operation one day when we get money, to see if I can already cum normally.
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SUN BaBa

08/29/2017 at 9:56 am

In Short ITS AWESOME ARTICLE
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ESP1138

05/30/2018 at 6:04 am

I love porn. Without it I would be more boring and miserable.
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Dainis Graveris

03/21/2019 at 9:25 am

I can definitely attest to this article! What I didn’ t realise is that men aren’t really visual!
It’s just that we’ve practiced being visual for years with the toxic porn habits.
Don’t think it’s toxic?
I didn’t think either till I got old enough (30) and had trouble getting hard on my girl.
The thing is that sex with a partner is mostly sensual – touch based.
You definitely won’t get tons of super sexy angles where you see everything like in porn. So that messes our brains up!!!
Since I stopped my relationships of 2 years transformed to have the best sex we’ve ever had. On top of that, I’m retaining my semen and use all that sexual energy to put in my business. And man, it’s so much better, it feels fucking powerful to work on your dreams instead of weakly fapping away your life.
Amen! I wrote a guide on sharing my 99 day no masturbation, no porn experience…
https://sexualalpha.com/nofap-benefits/
Let it serve as inspiration to other guys!! We can! We will! We must!
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Illiriano

11/14/2019 at 2:45 pm

If someone you know is addicted to porn, masturbation or sex, it is important to remain conscious of the level of sensitivity regarding the subject. With the action being so personal, it is not recommended to face the addict with abrupt, harsh or brash approaches toward their condition. Using motivation and patience, porn addiction can be overcome by practically any individual who follows the proper course of treatment.
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Bro

12/07/2019 at 2:01 pm

You went from watching porn to being a whoremonger. Haven’t you read any religious book telling you not to mess with other people’s daughters outside of marriage?
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Engine

11/20/2020 at 1:33 pm

How damaging is simply masturbating every few days WITHOUT porn? I was addicted porn for several years and have now gone 20 days w tho ur watching it and have very little urges to do so. But I found it almost impossible to go to sleep a few nights in the past 3 weeks, without jacking off. I’ve noticed big changes in my social interactions and mood without porn, but my dick still only gets like half hard when I tried sex last night for the first time since quitting porn. I understand I may just need more time, but I want to know if my problems masturbation a couple times a week could be the thing that keeps me from truly getting back to having healthy sexual experiences. Thanks guys, any help is appreciated!
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- Sara Russell
  
  08/25/2021 at 9:51 am
  
  Hi Engine,
  
  You might want to look for Karezza Methods (which could be life-changing for you), and we recommend you to read the book called Cupid’s poison arrow by Marnia Robinson.
  
  Hope that helps!
  
  Best,
  Sara
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- Sean Russell
  
  09/05/2021 at 2:12 pm
  
  Masturbation is natural, so you will continue to heal don’t worry. And yes, just give it time! Much love to you man.
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Terry Harold

12/03/2020 at 2:21 pm

I’m glad to read about your article on how to stop porn and masturbation I will do anything in this world to give up porn I believe I start watching porn at the age of 14years now I’m 34 still watching morn and masterbating I need help
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- Sara Russell
  
  12/05/2020 at 12:29 pm
  
  Hey! You are not alone in this, keep on doing the hard work!
  Have you seen our video about “Your brain on porn”? Here’s the link for that:
  
  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JwOhk65HfSo&t=181s&ab_channel=Menprovement
  
  Also, you might want to look for Karezza Methods (could be life-changing for you), and we recommend you to read the book called Cupid’s poison arrow by Marnia Robinson.
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A

03/06/2021 at 10:35 pm

IT is a very informative article, rather than pointing out mistake or simplicity of the language,I think we should gain knowledge from it for a better world and
healthy society
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- Sara Russell
  
  08/25/2021 at 9:39 am
  
  We are glad you enjoyed the article!
  
  Best,
  Sara
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John Hobbes

03/16/2021 at 4:36 pm

Looking at this article made me really reflect upon myself and I really think that I can stop using porn. I congratulate you Sean for helping all these men. You really made this world a better place! Thank you!
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- Sara Russell
  
  08/25/2021 at 9:49 am
  
  Hi John,
  
  Thank you for your comment. We are happy that this article has benefited you!
  
  Best,
  Sara
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Lori St Croix

07/23/2021 at 9:59 am

Hubby is now 60 days porn free. We have been together for 4 years. His ogling has been hard on me. I’ve only brought it up a couple times but now he’s been caught twice with Porn I’m now full out pissed about the ogling. He does it discreetly. I told him he needs help. I’m struggling. He pulled away from me two years ago, I did not know he was addicted till this last time. We just exist! I’m pissed.
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- Sara Russell
  
  08/22/2021 at 12:54 pm
  
  Hi Lori,
  
  Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
  
  As a woman, I know what you feel, I can hear you. I understand that this is painful, and you are very upset.
  
  Let me ask you a question: Have you tried to help him in a loving and understanding way? I know this is not easy, but he probably needs someone he can talk to honestly, and openly.
  
  I wish you all the best, and hope that this addiction of his will come out as something positive in your relationship <3
  
  Sara
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Brian

10/13/2021 at 1:10 am

Please help my gf is going to leave if I don’t stop watching porn
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- Sara Russell
  
  10/14/2021 at 10:18 am
  
  Hi Brian,
  
  Let me copy a message that Sean sent to one of our readers:
  
  Congrats on taking this step man. It’s a big one. I know how insane the urges can be, they take over your brain and before you know it..
  
  Listen, your urges to use porn are really coming from deeper human needs for connection, purpose, excitement. You HAVE to replace porn with these. When you feel the urge, go out and connect with someone or call someone. Or just go do something.
  
  I want to let you know about a new group I have joined. Since creating this success plan for quitting porn I have still been struggling with cravings and staying porn free. My tactics were not working, and I don’t want to lead you astray.
  
  I started working with a guy named Josh Hudson, he’s got a program and a group where he helps men quit porn. I’m a part of it now, and his program is really helping me. He utilizes something called Habit Construction Therapy where you address the root cause of your cravings so you don’t have to fight them or use porn blockers, they disappear.
  
  And his team sets you up with an accountability partner and puts you in an accountability WhatsApp group with 4 guys like yourself to keep each other on track. It’s legit. This is why I am sending guys to Josh rather than sell my own program now because he is simply better and the goal of Menprovement is to help you become the best man you can be, by whatever means it takes.
  
  This is the program I am using right now, it’s fucking good and it’s what I am recommending to any men who want help quitting porn.
  
  Here’s a link to the webinar I watched if you want to check it out or join: I am a promoter of this now so I do receive a commission if you join but I only recommend things I believe in or use myself.
  
  Webinar Link: (http://menprovement.com/josh-hudson-redirect-email)
  Sign Up Link: (https://www.pinnacleofmen.com/dd-offer-324983247?sl=SeanRussell)
  
  Hope this helps.
  
  Peace dude – Sean
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jacob

11/12/2021 at 12:35 am

so if i stoped for 2 weeks or even a whole week will i be more interested in having sex with real women? like if i’m with them and we are about to do it my dick wont just fail and not get hard but instead will get hard?
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Cj

07/08/2022 at 8:33 pm

Uhmm not to sure if these comments are still being answered, but I have decided to share my problem anyway any advice from anyone would be helpful. So I’m 16 years of age and yeah I’m an early bird, figured out what the shit was at about 10 or 11 something like that I knew what sex was though at about the age of 7 anyway years went by of me watching porn 11, 12, 13, 14, etc untill it came to when I lost my virginity now I would tell you when it was but I put it in my calendar as a reminder for every Thursday so honestly idk when it was but I was 15 at the time now I didn’t know had any problems because of it because I hadn’t experienced sex didn’t even to think to look at the small things like how I judge myself or compare my size to porn basically everything this artical has talked about is the problems I have. now idek how I managed to get the courage to put it in or even keep it up in that matter because my performance anxiety now mostly gets to the point where it’ll go down before I put it in like I can’t put a condom on for that matter but I did it and still managed to make her cum 8 times tbh I never really believed and I still don’t but that’s not the point the point is I thought things were gonna get better after that cause I lost my virginity there was nothing to worry about but no with the same girl (gf) I continue to try have sex but sometimes I couldn’t get it up at all or it’ll go down before I put it in other times I could get it in and I guess that’s just a little bonus for being young but never the less I never focus on my pleasure I just want her to and I guess that’s mostly what my performance anxiety is about because I don’t have as big a dick as porn stars I won’t be able to pleasure her and then I overthink about the cheating because she would wanna find someone bigger like after this relationship it was really easy for me to see that porn was affecting my life not only that but I was recently stabbed in the face this year and I am extremely insecure about the scar on the side of my face I am currently 3 days into giving up after a relapse but I believe I am extremely commited to giving up this small thing that causes big problems once again any advice would be good
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- Sean
  
  07/15/2022 at 7:43 am
  
  Apologies for the delay CJ – been on vacation but will get back to you when I am back Monday brother
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