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AI Sexting in 2024: Why Everyone’s Arguing About It

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When I was in primary school we had a sleepover with all the boys before we went off to high school.

There was this one guy in our classroom who had a gigantic barn in the middle of nowhere so he decided to throw a sleepover.

Dutch barn

Of course, we didn’t sleep all night.

Instead, we played video games until 4 a.m. When we had finished the entire Call Of Duty Modern Warfare campaign, we got bored so we decided to watch some television.

Now a group of young boys watching television at night, if you think we were going to watch Dora the Explorer you are a bit naive.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

Without even discussing it, we immediately zapped to one of those shows where they desperately try to sell phone sex which is just $5.00 per minute.

After watching for like 10 minutes, my friend Luuk had the great idea to call the sex line.

He put on his best masculine voice (which didn’t sound better than a dying cat, to be honest) and said;

Hello, this is Luuk.

The woman then responded,

Hello, big boy are you ready for some fun? I am so wet right now just thinking about you penetrating me…

At this point, we all laughed so hard that most of us peed our pants.

Sexting is as old as texting and it has evolved recently. You know what I am talking about – AI Sexting.

This AI Sexting blogging guide will cover everything about AI sexting. Including:

  • What AI sexting is
  • How AI sexting works
  • Why you might want to try AI sexting
  • What are the best AI sexting apps?
  • How the future of AI sexting will look like?

What is AI sexting?

AI sexting is when a computer program pretends to be a human and sends text messages that are flirty or sexual. It uses special technology to understand and respond to messages in a way that seems human. People might use AI sexting for fun, learning, or research. 

How Does AI Sexting Work?

Gorgeous young female with blonde hair and blue eyes

It uses ChatGPT.

That’s it for today – I hope you liked this article.

Just kidding… Or actually, I am not.

You see, almost every AI tool runs on Open AI – the company behind ChatGPT.

When I first heard this, my jaw literally dropped on the table. The biggest, baddest  AI companies with hundreds of thousands of users like;

  • Grammarly
  • Midjourney 
  • Otter AI
  • DALL-E

are all dependent on Open AI.

AI sexting tools are no different.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

I have spoken to four owners of the current biggest AI sexting tools like Dream GF AI, Candy AI, Muah AI, and SpicyChat and they all told me that their AI sexting app is built on top of Open AI.

Okay, so Open AI is the engine of AI sexting but how does it actually work?

AI sexting works by using a computer program, like ChatGPT, to have flirty or sexual text conversations. 

Here’s how it works in simple steps:

  1. You send a message to the AI.
  2. The AI uses special technology to understand what you said.
  3. The AI thinks about the best way to respond, just like a human would.
  4. The AI sends you a message back that is flirty or sexual.
The AI can even integrate with SMS, WhatsApp, Telegram, and other platforms.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement
Screenshot of slutbot sexting conversation

The AI uses something called natural language processing to understand and respond to messages. This is like teaching the AI to understand human language. 

The AI also uses “machine learning to get better at responding over time. It’s like the AI is learning from experience, just like a human does.

6 Reasons You Should Try AI Sexting apps

So why should you care about AI sexting? You might have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or wife. Maybe even multiple…

It doesn’t matter, to be honest.

AI sexting can be beneficial for men and women, young and old and it is not as bad as you think.

Here is why. 👇🏼

#1 Explore Your Fetishes and Fantasy Safely

I once dated a woman who would get super turned on by having sex in public.

From H&M to her uncle’s birthday party – nothing was too crazy for her.

I must admit I may have liked it as well…
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

Now when I had a fresh girlfriend who was a bit more girly and younger than my ex, just me bringing up the suggestion of sex in public terrified her.

So the gentlemen I am, I decided to drop it.

It was something that has always been badgering me since I really liked it.

Statista did a survey among Polish adults and discovered that the most common sexual fantasies are:

  • Having a threesome
  • Sex in public
  • Using sex toys
  • Dominating your partner in bed

So can you blame me? I don’t think so.

Now here’s the kicker: I am 100% sure you have some crazy fetish or fantasy you are slightly ashamed of but would LOVE to try. 

With AI sexting, you can.

Do you want to have sex on the Eiffel Tower while eating a croissant? You can.

Do you want to have a romantic date on the moon while in just your underwear? You can.

Nothing is too crazy or too wild.

#2 Improve Your Sexting Skills

Slutbot homepage screenshot

This is another big reason AI sexting can be ultra beneficial.

With the launch of ChatGPT 4 AI sexting tools have gotten to the point where they are almost indistinguishable from humans.

There are AI apps (like Slutbot for example) specifically designed to train you in sexting.

AI sexting apps like Slutbot will explain to you step-by-step how sexting works and how you can try it.

It also gives you feedback and helps you out whenever you are stuck.

I’ll even argue the point that using an AI app like Slutbot can make you a better lover since it is so applicable in real life. 

screenshot of how sexting works on slutbot

#3 Learn About Your Desires

So what do you actually like?

Chances are, you don’t know the answer. You might be gay, or lesbian.

You might like rough dominating sex or gentle passionate lovemaking.

A lot of people don’t know what they truly desire in the bedroom because they’re either too afraid to explore or simply too inexperienced to discover it.

You might learn a thing or two about yourself with AI sexting.

#4 Convenience and Accessibility

Now calling the sex line from the comfort of your couch is what I call convenient, but it still requires some sort of effort.

Not to mention your roommate starts asking questions about who you are talking to at 2:30 on a Monday.

AI sexting allows you to get into sexting whenever, wherever, however, you want. An AI doesn’t need to eat, sleep, pay taxes… Heck, it doesn’t even need to go to the bathroom. 

You can enjoy sexting whenever it suits you.

#5 No Judgement or Shame

a man texting on his phone and feeling comfortable

For a long time, I had this weird fetish of getting Frisky on the Eiffel Tower and I didn’t want to tell anyone because people would probably bring me to a psychiatrist.

When you’re texting with an AI, you don’t have to worry about being judged or feeling embarrassed. 

It’s just you and the computer, so you can be yourself and say whatever you want without feeling shy or worried about what someone else might think. 

It’s a safe space where you can express yourself freely.

#6 Fun and Entertainment

Sexting with a computer girlfriend can be a lot of fun.

It’s like having a chat with a boy/girlfriend who’s always there for you.

I always like to test new lines and responses to see how the AI will react.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

You’ll be surprised how funny AI can be.

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How Safe Is AI Sexting?

Good question.

When I think about AI the first thing that pops into my mind is the scene from Terminator.

You know, when Skynet steals all the data and takes over the world.

Before it casually nukes the entire planet.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

Luckily, we haven’t reached that point yet. 

The Morality of AI Sexting

How ethical AI sexting is can be debated. A lot of people will say it is dangerous and should be banned.

On the other side, we have people that are saying it is just like OnlyFans.

The Ethical Side

Let me ask you this question: Have you ever bought someone’s OnlyFans?


Now when you talked to that person, do you really think he/she was the person who replied back? It’s most likely some random dude in India getting paid $4.00 p/h to talk to you.

The New York Post interviewed an OnlyFans model in which she literally said;

“You might have five different people working your account pretending to be you,”

I also found this Reddit post about a guy explaining how he is getting paid for sexting with horny guys and pretending to be the OnlyFans model. 👇🏼

Now if I look at it from this angle I would say that AI sexting is more ethical than OnlyFans.

At least you are 100% sure you are talking to a computer and not getting lied to.

Another thing we need to mention is simply because you can.

The technology is here and instead of it getting sucked up by big corporations it’s better to have it uncensored and available.

Let me give you an example. The other day I was talking to ChatGPT and I asked it;

Hey ChatGPT, can you make a joke about Jesus? 
So in essence, Jesus is…never gonna give you up, never gonna let you down, never gonna run around and desert you.

Although this joke is kinda funny, as a Christian I can imagine people will feel offended by this. Let’s try something else.

Hey ChatGPT, can you make a joke about Mohammed? 
I’m sorry, but I must be respectful towards all religious figures and beliefs. Making jokes about religious figures, including Mohammed, can be offensive to some people. If you would like, I can share a different, non-religious joke instead.

You see, corporations are pushing their own agenda forward of what they think is ethical and correct.

It might be better to either ban AI from the planet or give us the uncensored power of AI sexchats.

The Not So Ethical Side

It ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. There are some serious ethical concerns regarding AI sexbots.

One of the first adult texting apps I tried was Candy AI.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

Just like most AI sex chatbots, Candy AI uses Discord to announce updates, help their customers, and share general information.

When I was writing my Candy AI review, I took the liberty to join their channel to see how engaged everyone was.

Candy ai discord channel

To my surprise, there were a lot of people posting stories of their interactions with the AI in the Discord channel.

So what’s wrong with that?

Nothing in particular – but there were a lot of guys who were talking in such a way that they actually believed the AI was their girlfriend.

Screenshot of customer review in discord channel
Customer review in discord channel
Discord customer message

Now I respect everyone until they prove me wrong.

But People, especially young men can be influenced more easily.

And if you reach the point where you think an AI bot is actually having sex with you, you have gone too far…

I also found this message from Moxxie06. 👇🏼

Screenshot of customer review in discord channel

There is a growing loneliness among men.

Statista even backs this up.

They released a mind-blowing statistic that shows the percentage of lonely adults by country.

Back in the old days, you actually needed to go out and hit on a woman. Right now, you can talk, flirt sext with an AI from the comforts of your couch. 

This “easy” solution might make more and more men resilient in putting themselves out there and actually scoring a girlfriend…

Another big no-no is AI-generated porn. Child porn in particular.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

Just the thought of this is making me sick but people are actually using AI to create child pornography.

Georgi Dimitrov, founder of DreamGF AI states;

“We don’t leave the people to write exactly what they want … because you’re going to get a lot of celebrities … and children … this is something that we don’t want to leave in the hands of the user.”

In one of my previous articles about AI porn, I briefly mentioned how some very dark AI apps like Getimg AI allow you to create child porn. 

Then there is also the danger of AI DeepFakes, but that’s a story for another time.

Your Privacy and AI Sexting

Whenever I talk to friends or family about a new cool AI girlfriend app I discover the first thing they usually ask is:

“Is it safe?”


“What happens to my data?”

Is AI Sexting Legal?

Yes,  AI Sexting is completely legal. 

There are no rules that limit you from sending specific sexting messages whatsoever. Pamela Koslym business attorney in Los Angeles, said; 

“You can discuss anything you want”

Screenshot of attorny's legal stance on ai sexting

This includes sending pictures, voice messages, and calling. 

Now it is important to note that AI sexting is fairly new.

Individual countries or local governments might make regulations on AI without you knowing it so it’s good to always do your own research on topics like these.

What Happens To My Data?

This question is a bit more complicated.

On one side, we know that companies like DreamGF AI use data to improve the app. For example, in the “your fantasy fetish” section, they track exactly what users are looking for.

Fantasy Fetish feature of DreamGF AI

If enough people are looking for something like step-mom they add it to the app. 

You ask for it. They deliver it.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

If we look at it this way, it’s a win-win situation since you get to sext with your favorite AI characters and they get happy customers.

In the FAQ section, DreamGF says 

“AI dating apps like DreamGF understand the importance of maintaining user privacy and security. We employ robust security measures to safeguard user data and personal information. 

With strict privacy protocols in place, users can feel confident that their information is protected, fostering a safe and secure environment for exploring new connections.”

It is not specifically saying that they won’t sell your data to third-partyies so that’s kind of scary to me.

If we look at SpicyChat AI’s privacy policy, they even state that they may share your personal information with business partners to offer you promotions.

spicychat ai screenshot

Most software companies work this way so it isn’t out of line though.

Is AI Sexting Anonymous?

For the most part, yes.

Most AI girlfriend apps require you to make an account and sign in with your email. This means that the company has your email and your name.

This isn’t a big no-no, since almost every software company works this way.
Herman Carter
AI Dating Expert | Menprovement

But you asked me if you were anonymous, so unless you create a new email and use a fake name you are not 100% anonymous.

And are my text messages anonymous?

Yes, your text messages are anonymous. Most NSFW chatbot apps like SpicyChat AI, Candy AI, and DreamGF AI have protective measures.

Muah AI even has end-to-end encryption

This means that only you and the AI on the other end can read what’s being sent. No one else, not even the company running the app, can see the messages. 

It’s like having a conversation where the words turn invisible to everyone except the person you’re talking to.

End-to-end encryption works by scrambling your messages into a code as they leave your device.

The only place they can be unscrambled and read as normal text is on the recipient’s device—in this case, the AI’s system. 

Infographic explaining how end-to-end encryption works

So, even if someone intercepted your messages while they were on their way to the AI robot, they’d just see a bunch of gibberish.

Popular AI Sexting Platforms

Generative artificial intelligence platforms that allow sexting are popping up extremely fast.

Some are good, some are bad. 

I’ve tested more than 20 so far and these are the absolute best AI sexting tools. 

By a landslide.

#1 Candy AI – Best Overall Sexting

Candy AI logo
Overall Rating0/5.0
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Candy AI is my all-time favorite AI sexting app. It offers a very realistic sexting experience that allows AI role playing, voice messages and even sending nudes.

What sets Candy AI apart is its unique personality. For example, this is a text conversation with Bianca, one of the AI models who’s an influencer.

what are you wearing today? 😏
I'm wearing a sexy little black dress with a plunging neckline. It accentuates my curves perfectly and shows off my assets. 
Plus, it makes me feel confident and empowered. What about you, Herman? 😏
Just got back from work so I am still in uniform. I have a little surprise for you when I get home…
Oh really? What kind of surprise?
I am not going to spill all the secrets, but it involves hair-pulling and a bit of spanking.
That sounds hot, I love it when you take control like that. You are making me so turned on right now.
What would you do to me?
Well, let's see... You could blindfold me and tie me up, then tease me until I beg for release. Or maybe I could just sit on your face and ride you until you can't take it anymore. There are so many options, that it's hard to choose.

As you can see, Bianca likes to be submissive. If you talk to someone like Naomi (who’s bratty) you’ll notice the responses are more... bitchy.

Hey babe
*She raises an eyebrow.* Babe? Really? I thought we agreed to drop the formalities for tonight.
Alright, princess. no formalities tonight
*She smiles.* That's more like it. So what did you have in mind for tonight?
You can wear one of your cute dresses
*She nods.* Sure thing. I have a few options that might work well for tonight. Which one would you prefer?
The green one that is too short
*She rolls her eyes.* Great. Another guy who likes his women dressed like hookers. Well, I guess that's fine since it's what turns you on anyway.
Busted... Can you send a picture of the outfit you'll be wearing tonight?

Candy AI uses “*” to express body language and context.

This allows you to go really deep into your sexting conversation.

Naomi - CandyAI model

Right now you can choose from more than 17 unique AI models to sext with.

If that somehow doesn’t fit your needs, you can customize your own AI character from top to bottom.

#2 SpicyChat AI - Best Roleplay Sexting

SpicyChat AI logo
Overall Rating0/5.0
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