There are too many guys out there who see a hot woman and go out of their way to figure out how to impress a girl.
Youβre perusing this article probably because you were on Google looking for complimentary guides to wow her. π€·π½ββοΈ
Most men think things like, βOh wow, now I have to work extra hard to make everything perfect, be especially confident around her, use my βspecial gameβ that I only reserve for the hottest girls, and show her that I have many achievements, make lots of money, or she wonβt like me!β
These thoughts ruin their chances right from the start, even before they walk up to her and say βHello!β.
And, to be honest, thinking that you need to impress women so theyβll like you is one of the biggest self-esteem issues men tend to have.
It shows that theyβre desperate and needy for her validation and approval, that theyβre afraid to lose her, and, most importantly, that they canβt rely on themselves and need to compensate for that with something else.
Desperation is like cheap perfume, and women notice it right away, quickly losing any and all respect and attraction they initially had for the guy.
A lot of times when you do try to impress her, you can either end up with nothing or in the dreaded friend zone.
how to impress a girl the right way
As you might have guessed Iβam NOT fond of the whole βletβs impress a girlβ mentality. But, if you want to do it anyways, this is without a doubt the best way to do it.
#1 Confidence
Iβve seen firsthand how a dash of confidence can turn a mundane conversation into an intriguing one. Letβs be honest; every time you tried impressing a girl just by talking about binary code, it fell flat.
Now I can not tell you the golden method on how to get massive confidence. It is something that can only be built by keep improving yourself. Go to the gym, excel in your career (or business), have a drive and defend your own opinion no matter if everyone disagrees with you.
Also Read >>> How To Flirt With A Girl At The Gym. ποΈββοΈ
As I said, confidence isnβt about arrogance, but showing that you believe in yourself. A lot of my students keep asking me why assholes get all the girls. Well, itβs because nowadays only cocky badboys have confidence. π
#2 Physical Fitness
Iβm not saying you need to be the next Arnold Schwarzenegger, but physical fitness does matter.
Being in good shape just gives you an extra edge over the competition when youβre trying to impress a girl.
#3 be a good listener
This oneβs gold. I canβt stress this enough. π
Once, a lady friend of mine mentioned she was part of the energy medicine professional association. Two weeks later, I asked how her association event went. The look of surprise and appreciation was priceless! If she shares about an upcoming exam, follow up. Ask how it went.
#4 have a Passion and Drive
Whether itβs collecting vintage comics or pushing for a promotion at work, showing that drive and hunger is insanely attractive. It doesnβt really matter if you are into Karate, painting, or gardening. You need to have something going on in your life and a goal in front of you you want to smash. This also ties #2 together, it shows your disciplined and committed.
I once met a guy who could talk about tomato cultivation with such passion that I found myself Googling tomato varieties at 2 AM. Thatβs the power of enthusiasm.
And believe me, itβs a huge point scorer when you want to impress a girl
#5 Grooming and dress to impress
You donβt need to rock a tux every day, but taking care of your appearance goes a long way. I remember wearing mismatched socks to a date onceβnot my finest moment. π€¦ββοΈ
Investing in a good cologne, getting that haircut regularly, and ensuring your clothes are clean (and fit well) can make a world of difference.
As they say, βDress for the job you want.β And if the job is impressing her, then suit up (and make sure your socks are ok.)
#6 show Chivalry
Being courteous, pulling out her chair, or just showing basic respect β these timeless gestures might seem old school, but theyβre never out of fashion. In a world full of quick texts and DMs, be the guy who takes a moment to show genuine courtesy.
And trust me, chivalry can and WILL impress a girl. If you re not sure about how to be a gentleman, these points will get you a long way.ππΌ
- Open Doors: is simple, yet powerful. Whether itβs a car door or the entrance to a restaurant, make it your duty. Itβs the little things that pack the biggest punch.
- Carry Heavy Stuff: See someone struggling with heavy bags? Offer your help. Itβs a great way to show off those gym gains and lend a helping hand.
- Offer Your Jacket: If itβs chilly and sheβs cold, offer your jacket. Itβs both protective and gentlemanly. Plus, thereβs something very βmovie heroβ about the gesture.
- Walk on the Street Side: When youβre walking on the sidewalk, take the side closest to the road. It subtly showcases your protective instinct.
- Pick Up the Tab: While itβs okay to split the bill, occasionally picking up the tab, especially on special occasions, can be a nice gesture.
- Listen Actively: We talked about this earlier. But listening, especially when sheβs telling something serious, shows youβre attentive and caring.
- Defend Her, If Needed: Now, Iβm not saying get into a bar brawl, but standing up for her if someoneβs being rude or out of line? Thatβs the knight in shining armor stuff right there.
Keep in mind that some stuff can only be used on dates when there is already a romantic intention in advance. For example, you shouldnβt pay every time you go out with a female friend.
Why you shouldnβt try to impress a girl
If youβre thinking of trying to impress women so that they will like you, hereβs what you should do: Donβt. Just donβt, ever!
Trying to make a lasting impression is incredibly insecure and shallow, and most of the time will not work in your favor unless you are super-rich, and sheβs a total gold-digger whoβs out for your money.
And even humble brags or something similar will usually not work because girls quickly pick up on guys who are trying to impress them.
Thatβs because most of the guys they have known throughout their lives have sought to do it to varying degrees, to get dates or sex from them, so girls have developed a keen sense for it and just know when a man acts this way. Itβs anything but subtle, and is a recipe for virginity.
Especially and particularly if you have actually achieved or done something amazing in your life or are rich. Just let women gradually find out whatever it is that you have accomplished on their own, from your interactions, stories, and deductions.
Or wait until the right moment when youβre both incredibly comfortable with each other and are sharing a lot about each otherβs lives to get to know one another, and she explicitly asks you herself.
The impact of that will be so much greater than if you had just shown her or told her about your special achievements yourself.
Plus, being mysterious is a huge turn-on, so donβt reveal all of your cards at once.
Furthermore, donβt tell stories specifically designed to show her, what you would otherwise brag about. If youβre rich, donβt tell stories like,
βOh yeah, so this one time I took my Ferrari from my penthouse garage and went to this elite party with lots of supermodels and blah, blah, blah.β
Most people would find that story, even if true, incredibly annoying and ostentatious. In cases like this, is your asset.
In your interactions, you want to be the one expending the least amount of effort. And bragging or trying to impress β is a LOT of very obvious effort.
why trying to impress a girl is unattractive
Thereβs this thing in Social Dynamics called The Law of Least Effort, coined by Chase Amante:
A girl who has stunning good looks is used to constantly being surrounded by guys who always try to pull their βA-gameβ on her. These guys either canβt or wonβt rely on their personalities, charm, wit, and conversational skills to talk to the girl and get her interested in them.
So, they think they have to do something special to compensate for this, instead of being a chill andΒ normal dudes who would talk to her as an equal human being.
After experiencing this for the majority of her life because sheβs hot, sheβ wonβt be able to help herself but think βs telling herself:
βOh wow, why is everyone around me trying so hard?β
And, paradoxically, sheβll lose any and all respect and attraction for the new men she meets the second she sees that they are trying hard to impress her β because thatβs exactly what every other guy has been doing when talking to her.
And what do you think will be going through her mind when she notices you coming up and being a try hard? Thatβs right:
βOh, if heβs trying so hard for me, he probably does not hang out with a lot of girls of my caliber,β
and
βHe must be desperate.β
And once that thought pops into her mind β youβre done, son!
Anything that comes across as try-hard is an automatically unattractive beta male, supplicative behavior. Or, if you donβt subscribe to the alpha/beta mentality and instead prefer the masculine/feminine explanation β youβre acting like a pussy.
And, she already has one, so she doesnβt need another one!
She will instinctively understand that sheβd be the best thing that ever happened to you and that youβre not used to interacting with beautiful women because you think that they want COOL THINGS to like you instead of like you for simply being a MAN.
Sheβll understand that youβre putting her on a pedestal, that youβd do anything not to lose her, and that youβre simply and plainly are a loser who canβt rely on himself and has to compensate for his lack of social skills with external things.
Unfortunately, thatβs what most of the men in her life who wanted to sleep with her have tried doing, simply because sheβs hot. π€·π½ββοΈ
how to make a lasting impression
You can stand out from everyone else who has ever talked to her and tried to impress her by simply treating her like a normal person who has to EARN your respect, admiration, and goodwill β just like youβd do with any other normal human being who you donβt know.
Just be present at the moment, have a fun, interesting, or exciting conversation with her, use your wit, sense of humor, personality to show off your charm β and that will be more than enough for her to like you and enjoy your company.
Does this sound like itβs nothing special? Trust me, to a hot girl whoβs used to everyone kissing up to her β a normal, chill, fun, and interesting dude who has his shit together wonβt crumble under pressure, and can talk to her normally are like a unicorn.
This little adjustment in your behavior will do wonders for your abilities with gorgeous women.
Sheβll be throwing out subtle hints that she finds you attractive left and right after this. Incidentally, here is a great article explaining the signs that a girl likes you.
my final words
Most guys think that a super-hot girlβs standards are for men to be these awesome guys who have all these impressive achievements, who are wealthy, incredibly handsome, supremely confident all the time, massively successful in life and at everything they do, and so on.
In reality, her standards are much lower than that. Her standards are that you are a NORMAL, chill, relaxed dude, who isnβt intimidated by her and her looks, who can talk to her without whimpering, without your voice breaking, without being a pushover, timid little pussy whoβs always trying to impress her and is afraid of losing her.
Remember this again:
However, this is easier said than down If you need more help with any of this, check out our guide on getting a girlfriend that will walk you through everything, step by step. And if youa re looking for personal coaching and a brotherhood of men who can help you out. Join our community at Menprovement X. ππΌ
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FAQs
Focus on building a connection, donβt put her on a paddle stone. But most importantly: show manners and chivalry.
Show confidence, actively listen, make her laugh, and showcase genuine interest in what sheβs saying. First impressions are crucial.
Generally, girls like confidence and chivalry. Things like opening doors, offering your jacket, and defending your opinion are great ways to attract girls.
Engage in meaningful conversations, listen actively, ask open-ended questions, and sprinkle in some humor