A young couple is watching a popular TV cooking shows when the guy says “Why are you watching this, you don’t even know how to cook?” The women quickly replies back,“ Hah, you watch porn every day and I don’t say anything to you.”
The point here is, as much as most of you guys think you are Casanova’s in the sack, the reality is, you may be quite far from fulfilling her true sexual desires.
You see, most women have a lot of secret sexual fantasies that men do not know about.
She may seem like a sweet girl, but she just might be waiting for you to tie her down and spank her with a paddle, or would love to have sex on a waterbed.
What would be great is if she told you these sexual fantasies, but in most relationships that never happens.
So What’s a Guy to Do With Female Sexual Fantasies?
First, understand that we, women, fantasize a lot. And despite of all our uniqueness, there are several common sexual fantasies that many of us dream of.
So if you follow these tips & make them come true, you will start living up to the Casanova you see in the mirror.
At what point in your relationship should you start to explore Sexual Fantasies?
The name of the game depends on your relationship with the woman. If it is a one night stand – You probably don’t need a new scenario because everything is naturally new; the girl, the personality, the body & the experience.
If she is your long time girlfriend – This is when you should start to bring sexual fantasies into the mix.
The change in sexual scenery and script will create a sexual chemistry like the one you had in the beginning, when butterflies were flying & just one kiss turned you on. Also, since you already know her, she may have mentioned some of her sexual fantasies already, or shot out some hints.
But what if she hasn’t given you any clues about what sexual fantasies she wants?
If she hasn’t given you any clues, or you have been a bad listener, let me reveal to you some fantasies which makes my blood run faster.
Many guys have no idea how easy is to please us, “high maintenance” ladies. That’s why, speaking on behalf of my gender, I will give you some tips on how to get extra points in bed and give her some experiences she won’t forget.
Time to be her romantic sex hero and bring her sexual fantasies to life.
10 Sexual Fantasies Many Women Want Fulfilled
1.Master & Slave
Regardless of what you think you might know, many women like to be cuffed, pulled by the hair & spanked. And if your lady is into one of these women, then the master & slave is the perfect sexual fantasy for you.
First gently grab her wrists and tie them with a necktie or a rope. Now you’ve got some freedom and it’s the time to start exploring her entire body.
To get warmed up, spank her ass gently and check her response – if she is moaning and making hot & encouraging sounds, spank her again. Start to pull her hair back while you kiss her as things begin to heat up. Begin to touch & slap her face with your penis and finally let her play with it in her mouth. After all, she is your slave and she must do what you say..
After a couple of minutes, head down to her breasts. Play around with her nipples, any game you want to play here is good. Take your time throughout, there’s no rush. Progress to biting her nipples gently (you will hear if she likes it).
The important thing here is to make it clear that you are the boss giving or taking away her pleasure.
When you finish with her breasts slowly kiss your way to her clitoris, then kiss it and lick it, but not too long. Proceed down to her legs, gently touch her inner thighs, kiss her knees and head down to the ankles.
Then go up again. When you’re back up to her ear, ask if she likes how her master is treating her.
The point of this fantasy is to make sure she understands who’s the boss and that she cannot do anything – no touching, just occasionally kissing your lips or your penis, but she is not in control.
It can be extremely exciting, and after some time she will be moaning and curling those toes.
When you’re the master, you must leave your fears and shyness outside of the bedroom and be as rough as she lets you. This is no place for timidness, just let your temptations take over.
Also, this fantasy is perfect for both of you, because the next time you can change the roles and be her slave. When she ties you down and starts running her tongue all over you, trust me, you will be going crazy.
2. The Trio
Show me a woman that has never fantasized about a trio and I will prove to you that she is lying.
2 women and a man, 2 man and a woman, whatever. Every girl (and a most men) have had one of these scripts in her head. She may be dreaming about two hot males fighting over her body and attention, so if you are not against it, make it happen. That sexual fantasy is not something women are usually very vocal about.
First, start using some sex toys to create a feeling of the threesome during regular sex, or visit a strip club together and see how she responds. If both of you are enjoying this, take it to the next level.
Speak with her, be very open and ask her if she would like to experience a threesome and which gender she would like to add to your couple – him or her.
Let her tell you any worry that she has – it is better to be very sure than to ruin a good relationship. Even if a woman dreams about hot threesome sex, it can be a completely different story when the threesome involves her boyfriend.
She can feel insecure, threatened by the other woman or feel unfaithful while engaging in the games with the other man.
So speak, and speak about it some more. Lay all the cards on the table. Then, if she says yes, you can move forward and invite somebody over for a magical night.
When the time comes, some wine or other kind of alcohol may be necessary to break the ice. Don’t be pushy to get into the action, let the things flow naturally. To heat everything up you can watch an erotic movie. When things start to get hot, gently touch her neck, shoulders, back and when all of you are relaxed, make the first move & kiss her/them.
It’s possible that you won’t have to make the first move at all, if the atmosphere is hot already. But to follow the rhythm of the game, when playing in a trio, share your attention equally (if the guest star is a woman). If it is a man, your girl will naturally get the most attention ,and I’m guessing you won’t want to share your attention equally.
3. The Stranger
The porn industry is making millions on this fantasy. And for good reason. To be conquered by a stranger is such a romantic and hot dream of so many women. To make it entertaining, dress differently than usual and be an actor for that night. Pretending to be a stranger while exploring her body for the “first time” will be an amazing experience for the both of you.
The simplest start in this fantasy can be this: “Hello beautiful, my name is John, what’s yours?” and then continue the innocent dialog like this “I have never seen such gorgeous lips, can I kiss them?” I am 100 percent sure she will go along with your game and soon enough you will be two strangers discovering each other’s most secret places.
From here, there are so many roles for this fantasy that you can use. Be a plumber, a computer technician, house renovator, a car mechanic, a neighbor who came to borrow some salt or a lost person, asking for direction.
There is no limit to this sexual fantasy. Have fun.
4. Public Place
This sexual fantasy is all about having sex in public, sharpening your senses & feeling the fear of being caught.
Plus, the charm of breaking the law adds to the fantasy, and all these senses together may lead you both to the highest notes of orgasm.
So, now the most important question is, where?
One of the best ideas for the start up is to make your bedroom more public by making her feel like she’s being watched. What you can do is to create some voyeuristic scene setting.
Turn all the lights on in the night, leave the curtains open and whisper to her that all the neighbors love to peek in. Tell her that this room can be perfectly seen from the street and the surrounding houses. Imagination is the most powerful turn-on.
5. Flying Solo
The saying goes: “Sex with a man can sometimes be a satisfactory substitute for masturbation, but it takes a lot of imagination to make it work.” So, while flying solo might be a little intimidating to some women at first, the right tools and techniques could have her flicking her bean with confidence in no time.
Naturally, any woman will be a bit shy to offer a solo show, so in this sexual fantasy you must bring it up, sit in the director’s chair and make her fly solo. Stimulating herself as you watch will be an amazing scenario for both of you. First, she will show you how she likes it done, so appreciate it as a private lesson.
Second, well, you will understand when you see the show. Turning you on while playing with herself, reaching orgasm – all while feeling incredibly sexy. There are no words needed for this incredible feeling. You are probably already thinking of ideas how to make it happen right?
Here is one: During foreplay, gently take her hand and lead it to her clitoris. Put her hand under yours, while you gently and slowly move both hands, playing with her clit. Do it for some time and then remove your hand, while you let her play with her fingers in this hot and wet paradise. As she does this, start to slide your hands all over her body while you touch, kiss, and bite whatever you want.
Make the crash course even more beneficial by offering up a few luxurious sex toys to help her get the engine running. Between rabbit vibrators, bullets, dildos, pussy pumps and e-stim devices, there’s no shortage of equipment you two could choose. Many modern-day sex toy models are made to be used as a couple, so why not introduce the idea while mentioning solo masturbation?
If you just want to watch, then just stay in front of her. You can also begin to reciprocate the action. Many women agree that a man servicing himself is one of the best visuals she can have. This is going to make the heat rise sky high.
One the best things about this sexual fantasy is that nobody can be shy. A solo show removes boundaries, which is the key to better sex and a better relationship. The right sex toy can foster more comfort and break down inhibitions simply by generating so much pleasure that’s it’s difficult to concentrate on much else. After just one successful solo masturbation session, your lady lover will be ready to perform at the drop of a hat any time you ask.
6. Homemade Porn
Being an actress in her own personal movie is one of the best sexual fantasies you can explore together. And watching it again will be even better.
Before shooting the movie, let her get used to the camera. Take some pictures of her while she is taking her clothes off, touching herself or laying in one million sexy poses. But! Be sure to make them black and white, since we women are crazy about our looks, and without a porn-industry make up, we will see three million small red spots, wrinkles, or (god forbid!) any sign of cellulite on our bodies. So, please, make it black and white.
When it’s done, watch it together. This review probably will end with some more steamy sex.
7. The Fairy Tale
Me too. Well now it’s time to play these fun games again, but this time for the adults.
To start, you can think of any fairy tale or movie, go to the costume rental and buy a few costumes. Don’t worry if you are not sure about her size, just rent just some attributes, like a crown for a princess or a Gown for Cinderella. The point is to create a fantasy fairy tale atmosphere. Of course, it doesn’t have to be a fairy tale. It can be any movie that she likes, for example, “Pretty woman” with Julia Roberts.
Invite her to the room and ask her to dress up in the costume (or just put on any other thing you have prepared). Then, start the tale.
If you are not sure how to do it, just tell the beginning of the story and when the mind and imagination come into play, start the foreplay, change the script, and use your own words. This fantasy doesn’t have to be an exact replica of a fairy tale or a movie – They are only used to set up the fantasy mood.
You can start, for example, like this:
“Once upon a time there lived an unhappy young girl, Cinderella. Her mother was dead and her father had married a widow with two daughters. Her stepmother and the stepsisters didn’t like her one little bit.
One day, beautiful new dresses arrived at the house. A ball was to be held at the palace and the stepsisters were getting ready to go. Cinderella didn’t even dare to ask if she could go too. She knew very well what the answer would be: You?
You’re staying at home to wash the dishes, scrub the floors and turn down the beds for your stepsisters.
Suddenly something amazing happened. Cinderella heard the knock on the door, she looked through the window and saw a beautiful carriage and a handsome man standing outside of the house.
When she opened the door, she let the man in, he kissed her on her lips and told her, “if you can not come to the ball the ball comes to you. I am your Prince and I ran away from the party, because I heard about your beauty, your incredible breasts, sexy buttocks and your rosy lips.“
This will create a perfect sexy vibe for something hot to happen. Kiss her lips, and start to touch her breasts. Do the same with all the body parts you mention while you start to undress her & get into the fantasy. Don‘t forget to call her Cinderella from time to time and treat her nicely, because for the next hour, you are a real Prince.
8. Fantasy Roulette
Fantasy roulette is a safe bet, being that it is impossible to choose sexual fantasies that she won’t like. The only thing that can go wrong, is execution, but for that I’ve got you covered with some great tips.
The game begins by asking her to write down 5 (or any other number) sexual fantasies that she would most like to come true. Have some papers and a pen prepared, and have her put the sexual fantasies on separate slips of paper. Put all of the papers in the bowl, close your eyes & take a pick. Then, yep you guessed it, act out whatever sexual fantasy you choose.
Fantasy roulette is perfect to take your sex life to the next level. There is no guessing for you, you will be able to find out her secret sexual desires & you are going to have a lot of fun.
9. The Stripper
Stripper is fairly looked down upon profession, so this feels very naughty for her. It also plays on her desire to be desired by a man purely sexually, if only for a moment.
It is very easy to act out playing stripper fantasy. You can do it from the comfort of your own home, or if you feel particularly extravagant, you can call up strip-clubs near you and have her play around on a pole.
That means she likes pain. Don’t believe me? Check out the sheer volume of 50 Shades of Gray that were sold.
This one is slightly different than submission fantasy. This one is more about the pain itself, rather than dominance. The reason women like this is because when things that would normally hurt a women are administered in the right way, she feels like pure pleasure.
Pain becomes pleasure.
If you want to try this one you should start very slowly. Start with some spanking, while watching for her reactions to it. If she’s moaning loudly, then she is probably into it. Then you can ever so slightly escalate it.
Harder spanks, pulling hair harder, she will love it if you do it in the right way. If you ever had a rough sex before and she’s ended up with bruise afterwards, you will notice that women don’t even notice the pain during sex.
It can be an extreme turn on, just remember to start slowly and watch for her reactions.
BONUS: How to Talk Dirty
Dirty talk is one of the keys to women’s mind. Before you turn her on physically you can easily turn any women on with. Every woman likes dirty talk, not every woman doesn’t like it the same though.
This is not a sexual fantasy, but it will up your sexual game big time.
You don’t have to call her a dirty slut from the start to turn her on though…
How to Get Started
1. Baby step it. start out innocent and inoffensive. Just break the silence. If you’re at the stage where you don’t even feel comfortable moaning and grunting in bed, then start making them. It not only works as a reward for her (women love to see men enjoying sex), but also points her into the direction of what you like. Never have sex in silence ever again.
2. Once you’re comfortable doing that, you can start using some basic phrases, yet just like in regular conversations, what you say is less important than how you say it. Whatever you say it make sure you have positive dominance and conviction behind it. Deep, slow and confident. it should have a hypnotic effect on a woman.
If you worried about not having a deep voice, it doesn’t matter. It has to be your version of deep.
You may not be able to start off confident, but this is where you will have to fake it till you make it.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes! You will mess up first few times, but you will have to in order to enjoy the best sex of your life.
3. What to say? To begin with, just translate your moans into words. If she does something you like compliment her on it. Ex. “I love it when you do x”
4. From that point on it is just the matter of escalating it further and further. After you become comfortable with the above points you will find it easier to simply give her commands and be descriptive with your dirty talk in a way that engages all her senses. Remember, the most important thing is how you say it not, what you say.
These sexual fantasies can truly change your sex life forever. If things are getting boring, bring up the subject. Odd’s are, she will be happy you did.
But before you go having fun, the most important advice I have for you is:
Listen to her sounds, read her body language & don’t get lost in your pleasure. The point of these games are to make her head spin around and, of course, make her want more and more sex with her fantastic sexual partner, who happens to be you.
To be sure she is having a good time, you can do a very simple trick. At any time during the fantasy game, kiss her ear & ask her in a silent, gentle voice if she likes it. For example, in master-slave play, you can ask her if she is a bad girl and wants it harder.
Trust me, it’s better to ask than to continue doing something that doesn’t give her much pleasure.
But all in all, if you choose the right fantasy and do it in the right way, the sky’s the limit. Have fun boys with those sexual fantasies.
– Maria Isabella
This post was written by a lady who wants to give men a sneak peak on what women want. Enjoy it!