Flirt or Friendzone? 27 Signs a Woman is Sexually Attracted to You

In this article, we’re going to talk about all the signs a woman is sexually attracted to you. But first, let me tell you a story.

My friend Phong had a date. The best part? She traveled from another city to Cologne in Germany, just to see him. No doubt she’s attracted to him

The date went smoothly, so much so that she told him an obvious lie to stay at his place:

“There are no more trains back to my city.”

Phong, being the clueless gentleman he is, took her hand and went with her to the information desk. He asked the service personnel if the trains were still running.

“Yes, sure”, they said. And so, he helped her get back home without a happy ending. But if you think this is where it ends, I must disappoint you:

3 days later, she texted him again for a date.

“I’m busy studying for my anatomy exam.”

Phong replied.

“How about you study my anatomy?”

she texted. Phong his answer:

“I’m sorry, I’m really busy, maybe another time?”

without realizing what she was after.

This was the last time he heard from her. If you’re thinking, “How could he not realize she’s sexually attracted to him?!” Let me tell you:

A lot of clients I helped find a girlfriend in the past 10 years didn’t realize when a woman was giving them signs to make a move. And just like Phong, they had to learn what they mean the hard way.

But not you, because today, I’ll show you 21 signs a woman is sexually attracted to you.

Ready?

21 Signs a Woman is Sexually Attracted to You

Let’s jump into all the signs she is sexually attracted to you. And BTW #14 is my personal favorite. Let me know in the comments which one is yours.

#1 She insults you

You didn’t see this one coming, did you?

Let me explain.

If a girl says you are nice, then it often means she doesn’t like you. At least not as a potential lover. On the other hand, if a girl says you’re crazy or an asshole, it’s usually a huge sign of sexual attraction.

But, of course, this depends on the context. If you punch her brother in the face and she calls you an asshole, she’s most likely not so much into you. What I mean is when you guys are goofing around or flirting, and she calls you crazy or an ass, then chances are quite high that she’s into you.

#2 She laughs about your bad jokes

This is an easy way to tell if she’s sexually attracted to you.

A woman does that if she wants you to like her. So she’ll laugh about anything you say even if it’s not funny. She doesn’t do it on purpose; it’s her instinct kicking in.

From a scientific standpoint, this might be due to the fact that men desire a woman who laughs at their jokes.

#3 Fake or not fake?

Source: Digital Photography School

Is she smiling whenever she sees you? It’s a great sign of sexual attraction because it means she feels good around you. But not all smiles are equal. Knowing the difference between a genuine and fake smile is key.

We as a society are conditioned to be polite and friendly at all times, so how can you spot a genuine smile?

Look at her eyes whenever she’s smiling. Because her eyes are the most efficient way to tell if her smile is sincere or not.

#4 She’s investing in the conversation

Whether you’re talking or texting to each other, if a woman is actively engaging and tries to invest in the conversation (keep it alive), it’s a huge sign of attraction.

But if you’re the only one who’s fighting to keep the conversation alive, it might be smarter just to call it a day. Of course, sometimes it can be due to the fact that she’s shy and doesn’t know what to say. So before you give up completely, you might try to get her to relax.

When dealing with a shy girl who likes you, it’s normal for her to freeze up. How to deal with that? For example, you can say:

“I’m not sure what to say. I guess you feel the same. So let’s not be too hard on each other when we cannot come up with something witty or funny.”

Flat-out admitting your thoughts and feelings can revive even the most dead conversation. It helps her to relax. And the more relaxed she is, the easier it gets for her to open up and keep the conversation alive.

#5 She’s seeking your company

She wants to feel you.

Not what you think… or wait, maybe? If a woman tries to be close to you all the time, you better believe she feels sexual attraction toward you and is expecting you to make a move.

It’s a physical invitation telling you she’s open for business. Can you feel the sexual tension in the air? But it can be even more of an obvious sign of sexual attraction if…

#6 She’s getting touchy

This is one of the BIGGEST signs she’s sexually attracted to you. I mean, it can’t get any more obvious than this unless she jumps on you naked.

If you notice a woman constantly trying to touch you in any way, it’s almost guaranteed that she’s sexually interested. One common sign is after you hugged her: once you’re letting go of her, she might keep her face very close to yours while she takes a step back. Almost as if she wants to kiss you.

She’s trying to build sexual tension

Guess what, if you ever notice this, you could go for the kiss if you want. Have fun.

#7 She’s playing with her hair

Beware.

While playing with the hair is one of the most known signs of sexual attraction, it’s not always the case. If you feel like you’re both having a great time when talking and she’s playing with her hair, chances are she’s attracted.

But in other cases, she might play with her hair because she’s nervous.

#8 Body language signs she’s comfortable with you

Picture this:

You stop a woman on the street and start talking to her. After a while, she starts to cross her legs while standing. It means she’s feeling comfortable and doesn’t plan on walking away.

The same can happen while sitting. If she lays back, crossing her legs, she’s not thinking about walking away from you.

She wants to hear what you have to say. So practice your awareness & if you notice this sign, keep going. It is one of the clearest signs she is sexually attracted to you & things are looking good so far.

Geek out:

We spoke to body language expert Vanessa Van Edwards and she she said that most signs of sexual attraction are actually non verbal body language cues like this one. Learn more about this in our full interview with her on the Menprovement Podcast:

#9 What about her outfit?

My student was excited about his date.

He dressed up nicely to go into a bar with her. But when he arrived, he noticed she hadn’t put any effort into her looks that day. Long story short: she wasn’t sexually attracted to him.

A few weeks later, he wanted to talk with another girl over Skype. But she was hesitant to agree. At first, he thought she was not interested. But later, when they met, she admitted that she felt uncomfortable talking to him without putting on some makeup first.

If a woman likes you, she’ll try her best to look attractive to you.

#10 She’s holding deep eye contact with you

Eye contact is one of the more well known signs of sexual attraction. Things can get heated quickly with prolonged eye contact.

Especially if the woman is deeply looking into your eyes, your job is to maintain it.

Seriously, not many men can hold prolonged eye contact with a woman. It means you’re confident. And there is nothing more attractive than a confident man. If you want to get better with eye contact, a great exercise is to try and maintain eye contact as long as possible when talking to other people.

Always aim to be the last that breaks eye contact, and you’ll quickly become more comfortable with it, especially if you practice it on women you find attractive.

#11 “Excuse me, I’ll go to the bathroom quickly”

It’s about to happen.

Imagine you’re on a date. Suddenly, she stands up and walks to the toilet. If she comes back with refreshed lipstick, you can be sure she’s getting ready for the kiss.

Some women even do it right in front of you while you’re sitting at the table with her.

Regardless of how she does it, be prepared to make a move.

#12 She mirrors your behavior

Women tend to imitate a men’s body language when they feel sexually attracted to him.

It’s a phenomenon called Mirroring.

And it applies to dating as well:

If she likes you and wants you to like her back subconsciously, she’ll start to imitate your behavior. More specifically, if you reach out for your drink, so will she for hers. If you lean back into your seat, so will she.

As I said, this happens on a subconscious level. So most people never realize it. But once you know it, you’ll start noticing it with friends and family, as well as with your dates if it’s going well.

#13 She’s staring at your lips

“What would it feel like to kiss him right now?”

That’s what she might be thinking when looking at your lips. This is one of the harder signs of attraction to spot, and sometimes she might look at your chin or somewhere else because she’s shy.

But there is an even better, similar sign of sexual attraction that’s also easier to spot. Can you guess it?

#14 She’s softly biting her lips

Yep.

If you’re not sure if she’s looking at your lips, take a closer look at hers. If she’s biting on her lips, well, my friend, then it’s not only kissing and hand-holding she’s thinking about.

We see this a lot when women are in the company of bad boys.

Congrats, we’re reaching R-rated territory now. Your only job is to not ‘Phong it up’ like my friend I told you about at the beginning of this post.

#15 Her Friends: “Dude, she likes you.”

She’s waiting for you, hero.

If her friends tell you that she likes you, your chances of getting rejected are almost zero.

Her friends might even be tired of how often she talks about you. So they figured they’ll help you to get her. A true win-win situation.

Not sure how to ask her out? Give her a letter with the question: “Want to go out with me? Yes, no, took you long enough”. Congrats, you’re now together.

#16 Did she really just stroke it?

I know what you might be thinking, but it’s not… yet.

Let’s say you’re on a date. You pass all her tests, and while you’re talking with each other, she’s stroking her glass of wine, especially the tip of it.

If you sum up 1 and 1, you should come to the same conclusion as I do:

She wants to rub something. It’s not a genie in a bottle, but she has an urgent wish in mind. Can you make it come true?

#17 She writes you first

If you have a great dating profile, some women will text you first

because they fear you might not initiate a conversation.

Getting more matches on Tinder can be frustrating. But if you know how to turn your profile into a date magnet, your dating life can transform overnight.

Aside from having tons of options, women will start writing to you first. And if a woman does that, it’s one of the biggest signs she likes you. She’s basically fighting to get your attention before another woman does.

Scarcity kicks in, “Omg, what if he finds another girl? All the other guys online are creeps. I want him now!”. So she texts you. A great Tinder bio can also help with that.

#18 She sends you long text messages

She’s opening up on Tinder to my French client.

It’s a very good sign she’s eager to meet him.

Short replies suck.

And for a good reason: if a woman sends you short replies, she’s usually not interested. But if she sends long texts, she probably likes you.

She’s investing in the conversation and wants you to know more about her. Because the more she texts, the more you will text her back until, eventually, it becomes clear that she’s waiting for you to ask her out.

#19 You receive ‘explicit content’ from her

Disclaimer: This text exchange happened between two consensual adults.

I’ve hidden her name and face to respect her privacy.

Hallelujah!

Now we’re getting to the end boss of signs a woman is sexually attracted to you.

If a woman can’t wait to have you at her place, she might show what she has to ‘offer’. Or should I say she wants to make absolutely sure you come over?

This can be in the form of pictures, dirty talk, or even videos from her.

Honestly, I think there is nothing more to add here. If this sign isn’t obvious, there’s nothing I can do for you.

#20 She’s making a move on you

If you have a good dating profile and know how to text, some women will ask you out.

Yes, those women exist.

Just like when texting you first, a woman wants to make sure she’ll get to snack on you before any other woman can. So she takes up her courage and asks you out.

This can be via text or in real life. Doesn’t matter. If a woman asks you out first, you better not play around and confuse her. She has some serious sexual interest, and you must take action unless you don’t want to.

So don’t play games. Take her up on her offer, as a gentleman would do.

#21 She’s asking for your opinion on what to wear

She wants to make a good first impression. So she went shopping and asked me which dress I prefer.

She’s impatient.

So she wants to make absolutely sure you like her. And what’s better to make a good first impression other than you choosing the perfect outfit for her before you even met?

This might not happen often, but when it does, you can be sure she likes you. Otherwise, she wouldn’t make you choose the best outfit for her. (Kind of like in a sexual or romantic relationship.)

#22 She uses a lot of emojis 🤔🙂

So, guys, ever gotten a text and thought, “Holy shit, there are more emojis here than words?”

If she’s bombarding you with emojis, it’s not just because she’s discovered her phone keyboard’s ’emoji’ section. It is an indicator she’s interested.

Emojis are the modern way of expressing feelings, and if she’s using a lot, she might be trying to convey she’s sexually attracted. Keep an eye out for those heart and flame emojis; they’re pretty clear body language, even in the digital realm.

#23 She shows interest in your work or career 💼🚀

I once dated a girl who was genuinely more interested in my job than I was. And no, I wasn’t an astronaut or a secret agent. 😂

It turned out she was showing signs she’s attracted by engaging in deep conversations about my work. If she’s asking detailed questions about your job, promotions, or daily tasks, it’s not just casual talk.

She’s signaling that what’s important to you is essential to her, too. So next time she asks you about that boring spreadsheet, remember she might be saying she’s sexually interested through her genuine curiosity.

#24 She shares her food or drinks with you 🍔🍺

We all know that scene from “Lady and the Tramp” with the spaghetti. Classic, right? Sharing food is intimate.

Back in college, I had this girlfriend. She offered me her last slice of pizza. That’s when I knew things were serious.

If she’s willingly giving up that delicious bite of her dessert or insists you taste her drink, she’s showing some strong signals. Sharing food might not just mean she’s generous; it could also be her body language screaming she’s sexually attracted.

#25 She texts you back immediately 📱💬

If she’s texting back ASAP, it’s not just because she’s bored. Remember, if someone’s into you, they’re eager. I recall once waiting anxiously for a text back from this girl, and when she replied in seconds, my heart raced.

Why?

Because it’s a sign that she’s attracted and possibly even she’s sexually attracted. So next time you get that instant notification, just know she might be as excited as you are!

#26 She seems nervous around you

Alright, big revelation here: if she’s acting like she had ten cups of coffee around you, it’s not always caffeine. It’s nerves.

I once met this girl at a party, and she kept fidgeting and playing with her hair. It wasn’t a new hairstyle; she was just nervous because she was attracted.

So, if you notice she’s a bit jittery or stumbling over words, it might not be clumsiness. It could be her body language screaming she’s interested!

#27 She uses your name often in conversation

Guys, there’s something powerful about hearing your name, especially from someone you’re into. Think about it. When someone keeps using your name, it feels personal and intimate. I remember a girl who’d always say,

“You know what, Herman?”

before sharing something. It wasn’t just conversational filler; she was trying to forge a connection.

When she uses your name often, it’s more than just addressing you—it could mean she’s attracted.

Let’s Recap

All these signals mean nothing guys, unless you have the awareness to notice them. So here are the top 10 signs a woman is sexually attracted to you. Remember them and keep an eye out during your interactions with women.

1. She invests strongly in the conversation
2. She crosses her feet when you’re talking (a sign of comfort)
3. She maintains strong eye contact
4. She laughs at your jokes (even when they are not funny)
5. She stares at your lips when you’re talking
6. She frequently touches you
7. She softly bites her lip as you talk
8. She strokes her wine glass
9. She sends you long text messages
10. You receive ‘explicit content’ from her

And before I finish this article, I need to tell you one more thing.

While signs can be helpful to make sure a girl is into you, we also saw that it’s not always the case. Ultimately, you should never take signs as your only way to decide if a woman is sexually attracted to you or not.

Sometimes you have to make a move to find out what she’s really thinking. Because otherwise, you could miss out on some of your best opportunities. Keep this in mind.

If you need more help attracting and talking to women, check out our program on Menprovement X called The Ultimate Dating Program which is designed to take you from whatever skill level you are to be an absolute master in your dating life in just 6 weeks with 30 HD videos and over 35 exercises that will break through your most difficult barriers. So if you want to date the women you find most attractive then sign up today.

Your Efficient Dating Advisor,

Herman The German