The Renaissance Man

The Renaissance Man

The Renaissance Man

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The Current Situation

In today’s world, understanding of our primal masculine and feminine energies seems to be lost. We see men confused, and not really understanding what it is to be a man.
We are paraded with social media ideas on what it is to be a man. Masculine energy is being strangled. I would like to state I am not a “life guru” of any sort, nor am I telling anyone how to live their lives.
This is simply my understanding of the energetic core of attraction between the sexes, and what I believe it is to be A Man in the purest form. I would like to make it absolutely CERTAIN that what I speak of is not to be associated with manipulation…
It is coming from the most genuine, loving, and honest part of man, which can truly only be tapped into through relentless and inner work. In today’s society, we are old models, in a new world, forcefully adapting, according to societies imprints on our minds and bodies.
As men and women, we are slowly being guided away from our resonating roles in life. I am speaking about the element of attraction, from masculine to feminine, and to do this, it helps to understand the root of both energies.

Male and Female Energy

Male and female energy is very different in reality. They are opposites, perfectly complimenting each other, when at their purest forms. Masculine energy, at its core, is that of nothingness, emptiness, the observer of life and emotion, always present, always feeling, always letting go. The masculine energy is strong, grounded, and with a clearly defining purpose that carries him through life with unwavering self-assurance, and awareness.

The female energy is that of motion, emotion, love, and compassion, which at the purest form is devastatingly seductive to the masculine. The masculine has an unattached void within. The female energy compliments, and fills the masculine with love and guidance towards one’s purpose.

The Retreat of Masculine Energy

Masculine energy is very much being forced to retreat and men are becoming more ungrounded in their energetic expression. Today’s “alpha male” type is the insecure, muscle-bound, material craving, woman-degrading little boys who are prevalent in society.

We are being forced to a point where we are told we “need” something in order to fulfill ourselves. We are told that we need something in order to become who we want to be in life.

This belief and behavior are hazardous to the male, but also heavily affects what women resonate with, because the truth is, both sexes need one another and support one another.

Because of this, masculine energy cannot thrive to its fullest, and man becomes a shadow of what he has the potential to be. This ungrounded masculine energy can manifest in the form of two extreme character types. The ‘douchebag alpha’; an overcompensating, aggressive, and ‘ego-ic’ male. And the ‘directionless nice guy’, generally a shy, supplicating character who just goes with the flow and has no real opinions of his own.

Which role do you fill? Are you a ‘directionless nice guy’ or the ‘douchbag alpha?’ Neither are good… But both can be broken down to allow the masculine essence to flow freely.

Enter the Renaissance Man.

The Renaissance man is simply a term I use to describe the evolved male. The Renaissance man offers the woman the freedom to break out of the mundane and frivolous confines of reality. He approaches with gusto, and a knowing self-assurance that simply states, “I am a man. You are a woman. I want you”. The Renaissance man embraces his masculine energy and is 100 percent authentic in his intention.

He does not hide his male desire, he does not fear it, he does not worry about offending the female, nor does he approach looking for a specific outcome. He is unapologetically himself. The Renaissance man offers the woman freedom, the masculine energy at its sexual core.

The Renaissance Man and the World Today

Renaissance men are surrounded in this world by either PUA types or men aspiring to feed on the energy they create, men who are unable or unwilling to reach their core. Hiding from themselves and manipulating women; the “nice guys” of society.
(I have to be clear when using the term “nice guy”.

As stated above, it is a generalization of a type of character trait and does not refer to anyone in particular. I am referring to the insecure friend zone type of male. Generally, he believes by putting his purpose in life to one side and then giving the female everything he can, spoiling her with gifts, jumping to her every command, and constant affection. He hopes this will, sure enough, guarantee entry to her swimsuit area).


This is one million percent WRONG! This is not coming from a place of love, respect, and mutual recognition as a man and the respective female, but a place of self-loathing, showing needy behavior. Instead, there is no respect or attraction built from the female.

If a man loses his purpose to give it all to a woman, attraction, and respect will be lost, as the man does not even have it for himself. A man’s relationship to his own emotions is a direct reflection of how he relates to female energy.

Emotion IS the female energy. Do not for one second think that you can hide who you really are from a woman. The female energy is beautifully present and intuition is at a much higher frequency in the female.

Your issues, insecurities, fears, etc will be blatantly obvious to her. That is a good enough reason to stop hiding! She will have you pinned from the first few seconds of coming into contact with your male presence. It’s a sign of amazing strength in a man to be emotionally open and vulnerable with a woman.

Yourself acceptance and honesty will spark attraction in themselves. Hiding how you are feeling will be permeable and weak to a woman.


Remember, female energy is EMOTION. In order to generate attraction, the male energy needs to be playful with emotion. The man needs to generate every possible emotion in the female, all whilst she feels secure and safe, all the while, keeping her in a state of suspense. Female energy is not necessarily attracted to the man but is attracted to the emotional states of which the man provides and infuses while in her presence.

If I could give one piece of advice, in this case, is, when with a woman, BE PRESENT! Women are beautifully intuitional creatures. More so than the masculine can ever be. By not being present you strangle her raw ability to take you places you have never experienced. If you are not present with a woman, at the moment, spontaneity cannot flow, and the fun, attraction, and deep connection will not be made. STOP TRYING TO BE COOL – Cool does not exist. “You” exist, and “now” exist.


Strive to be unapologetically honest about who you are and what you want in all aspects of life. Something that speaks volumes about male energy is the ability to comfortably hold eye contact. 90 percent of men CANNOT deal with eye contact as it represents an inner openness and confidence that is not present. The more you grow inside, the more you will be able to connect with the female. Let the female energy engulf you!

The renaissance man’s approach leaves the female energy refreshed and energetically dominated in a natural and polarising way, which is essential. The competitive other males watch, as he systematically goes against every rule in their” how to attract a female” booklet that they supposedly believe in. They watch as the Renaissance man straps the woman into an emotional rollercoaster of fun and excitement. It perplexes them.

This level of sensory awareness of self and emotion allows the Renaissance man to discover places in a woman that are emotionally inaccessible by other men. Thus the entire surface level male sees is “attraction”; he does not understand what is unfolding before his eyes. He is incapable of comprehending the level of self-worth, inner value, comfort, and acceptance this man has achieved.

Women Want to be Women

Contrary to popular belief in this “sexist” world where females are running 90 percent of men, they DO NOT want this job. Women want to be women, and they want men to be men. Women in today’s society WILL test men on a daily, hourly, second by second basis, to see if you are a real man.

This can involve “harsh criticisms”, and objective comments attempting to throw the man off balance and play with his ego. If the man fails, it IS downhill from that point. Men, LEAD!!! In no way do I neither mean this in a misogynistic fashion nor am I placing men above women, I am simply stating the fact, that men and women both hold different roles in nature.

Know Your Role

And do not let anyone else convince you otherwise. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again, and expecting different results! GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE! NOW!

Give women the opportunity to experience an emotional roller coaster of shock to laughter to a little fear, suspense, and all in a matter of minutes. On the outside, society may perceive the Renaissance man as uninhibited, but when at the very core, he knows with every ounce of his being exactly what is needed, at any moment, to induce attraction in women.

The Renaissance Man in Social Situations

We must make her feel unsafe, and secure all at once. She must be angry and aroused simultaneously, with our tonality, body language, and our deep lust. This is not done through words or “social interaction”, but on a completely subconscious level.

People can observe the Renaissance man engaging in a simple everyday conversation, but on a deeper level, only he and she can truly feel it. This is once again, where the Renaissance man differs from the “Common” males. When sexual energy or sexual connection is felt, the Common male, will get uneasy and disperse it by moving and jumping from the moment. This will not allow the female energy to engage.

She will be disappointed, and the attraction will instantly dissolve. Sexual energy is the Renaissance man’s playground. He generates within himself, initiates it in her by creating states between him and women, holds it, and allows it to build at the moment, thereby giving the female full permission to be in the moment and explore it.

Most women in this day and age will start to get overwhelmed with it and attempt to disperse it with nervous, self-conscious gestures, etc. This is where he keeps her at the moment. Reassures and they both explore further.

The One Thing a Real Man Knows (That All Others Do Not)

The Renaissance man does one simple, yet the PROFOUND thing that is unknown to the common man; He projects the female more beautifully than she can see herself. This comes from deep love of feminine energy. He embraces it. Loves it. Wants it. He goes and gets it.

We anchor the feeling of excitement and spontaneity. We give in to our urges aggressively, and the female clings to this passion that is inside all of them. On the opposite side, the devolved male projects his insecure, unsafe care. Women do not need care! They need to be expressed through the male energy, and with that comes the greatest safety of all, sexual immunity to the threat.

You stop being concerned by the competition. Realize that you are at the forefront of the development of the human species by raising your social sexual awareness and allowing this to create your world.
You become detached from weakness and your sabotaging thoughts but you must never forget to listen.


But do not take on board. She does not attract to us, but rather the moments we conceive through her, and place on her. Men live in logic, women live through emotion, and it is very foolish of a man to try to break it down to understand her. Do not quiz her, but leave her to feel her emotions safely with you. Be there as an extra medium of expression for the female energy.
She wants a new frame of reality, only offered by the internally evolved and aware man. Be that man. Be you!

THE POWER OF FOCUS – Practical advice.

Men, what do you want? What do you want from women? Exactly? Do you know?

When you see a woman you are attracted to, what are you thinking? That they might not like you? That you cannot possibly walk up to her and let her know what you are thinking in a straightforward and honest manner? What are you afraid of? Rejection? Is your jumper dirty? Do you smell? Are you shy Why?

All these questions and fears/worries all stem from ONE problem; inability to FOCUS. You are not focused on the woman and what it is exactly that you want, but instead, on yourself. This is being selfish and very egotistical. And you are attempting to think for the woman. That’s quite arrogant of you, isn’t it? Do you think you are that good? Do you think that you can understand a species of animal that can go clothes shopping for 6 hours on a Saturday and buy NOTHING!? Come on. Stop!

When you see a woman you are instantly attracted to, ask yourself, what is it exactly about this woman that is attracting me?

Is it her beautifully long feminine legs? Is it her breasts? Her curves? Her smile? Lips? The way she carries herself?

WHAT IS IT THAT ATTRACTS YOU? When you figure that out, FEEL IT! Also, what do you want from her? A relationship? A friendship? Just sex?

Once you know…

FOCUS ONLY ON THIS. You don’t need to worry about being direct; you don’t need to worry about being indirect. Forget her presence for just a moment, visualize that dream in your mind, her sexy body in your bed after sex, it’s 3 months from now, she’s one of the girls you see, your making coffee as she wakes up after an amazing night together, she comes to the kitchen and smiles at you, her hair is messy and she looks gorgeous, you smile and say good morning.


Now come back. Breathe, relax, drop your tone, slip into the sexual masculinity that resides within you, control your actions, consciously lower your heart rate, glance at her and stop your thoughts, your meditation is now. This will be your meditative state.

Make a game of it: Don’t let it become a game. The more you do this the more your mindset will begin to shift and you truly begin focusing on your dreams, not what you are afraid to want. Women want to be desired.

There exists a multi-billion dollar make-up industry that proves the point. Stop trying to understand women so deeply right now and FEEL them and their responses, this is critical at the learning stage, use your intuition, centered self-awareness will guide you to the right version of what happened in your mind, there will be no sabotaging thoughts.

Begin to focus on what YOU dream of. Be your own man. If they don’t like what you have to say, or they do not share the same desires as you then so be it. When you are present with women, there is no such thing as rejection, just someone who does not happen to want what you want. Do not mistake this for a numbers game. Numbers are for objects.

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0 thoughts on “The Renaissance Man”

  1. this is one of the most amazing, inspiring and mind-blowing piece i have read in the last five years. it is inexhaustible.

  2. Yeah in today’s world we a just focusing on having then being, is just worries worries, we forget to take a minute just chill and look around, because in reality we all know this but we don’t talk to our self’s

  3. I believe we are living in a shift of the Male & Female energy system. The gynocentric (female orientated world) can’t continue and is actual a crisis of our Western World which is showing itself… For example all cultures and societies in the past have had women come to the forefront in such times. Its obvious when you see it. Look at the advertising and programs on television, its as if women are daring men , taunting them to step up and BE men again. Why? because it is necessary and needed!
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