2 thoughts on “NEWSFLASH: Girls Don’t Want to Be Picked Up”

1. Hey Arthur & Sean

   I decided to do pick up because of this phrase:

   “You can be great at everything – Career, Looks, Confidence & Attitude; But if you are afraid to approach the opposite sex there is just something missing.”

   That is sentence from Sean Russel in this site, from the articles “The Newbies Guide to Picking up Girls | Getting Through Week 1”

   I really wanna have the ability to approach anyone, not just women, but anyone, but of course, particularly women..
   So i don’t have any anxiety when i see a beautiful girl, cause i wanna get in there, and talk to them…

   And i measure every approach for me to keep taking action, until i master it, and the only way to master it is by picking up…

   I don’t believe in pick up lines, i’m a newbie by the way, pick up lines i think for people who is already good with approaching and talking, so they can know how to use those lines.

   But i just wanna keep it simple, from the day 1 to certain day, i just wanna beat this approach anxiety by doing simple and approaching target… So then i can escalate to talking better, more confident, more fun, etc. But this time i just wanna focus on beating the anxiety, make me comfortable and not give a FU** when approaching women.

   That’s the only way to be good with women i think, use Menprovement’s principles in the old articles, and do it my way, because some way may be effective to certain people, but not all people. I just use the basic, and do what most effective for me.

   But i see lately, Menprovement’s articles getting more into not doing pick up, just based on some men talking about Social Hierarchy and all of that stuff, we shouldn’t do this we shouldn’t do that, and i end up not doing anything, because of this confusing material that Menprovement gives, the old say this, the new one say this..

   LISTEN, all of what you say in this articles is RIGHT i think, but it needs process to do and say anything you’ve said, i can’t just do what you’ve said instantaneously, i believe it needs process to get there, please be focus on the process, you can say that but come back with the beginning process, explain that, so people like me can’t be blurred by all of Menprovement’s articles.

   Menprovement has been a source of my development in the past few months, and i always come here to see new articles and updates..

   Don’t give this confusion to readers, cause all we can do to get better is by doing the basic, thinking that it’s a number games, focusing on how to beat the anxiety in any way possible, even it’s WRONG, but the main focus is to get rid of that anxiety, so when we’re feeling comfortable, we can do the next level that is RIGHT.

   I’m in the process of improvement, but no one can get what they want in just one or two month, so instead i’m waiting to taking action until i become the person i wanna be, why not i taking action instead and doing improvement simultaneously

   Thanks Menprovement though with all of your great articles..

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   • What is up Esar!

     Hey man, first thanks a lot for engaging and not only reading an article but also leaving a thoughtful genuine comment.

     As to what you said. We would never encourage you not to speak to women. What the article “NEWSFLASH: Girls Don’t Want to Be Picked Up” is referring to is simply the place it is coming from.

     If the girl you speak with feels like she’s just your self-improvement milestone, number, object on a way to a better version of yourself cause you want to practice your pick up skills, OF course she is not going to appreciate that. If she feels that this is some form of premeditated preplanned structured approach that you are deploying on her, she won’t dig that either.

     Sometimes guys at a higher level of “game” have to struggle with a problem that might be hard to imagine for some people. Namely, they are so smooth, that girls can sense that this guy have done it a lot of times already, and it will take away the uniqueness from the experience from her point of view and the way it should make her feel. Unique and special.

     This is an article about empathy and understanding that higher levels of your skill with women is heavily predicated upon your ability to empathize and not “pick them up” so to speak, but go and express yourself and spontaneously take things further.

     I guess understanding that subtle difference requires some experience under your belt and if you’re just beginning, it may simply not be relevant to you… yet.

     For where you’re at, I’d say stick to fundamentals, if what works for you right now is just sarging and “approaching” and you feel like this is the way, then that’s exactly what you should do. Every self-improvement resource has to be reconciled with your own judgement, there is a lot of information and some of it does not apply to you yet.

     World is quite a complex place and there are some paradoxes (things that are true on one level might not be true on another level), but huge part of self-improvement is understanding those paradoxes and ability to keep both of those maps in your mind without being freaked out by it.

     So in a way there is something to it when you are presented with conflicting ideas. When that happens you have to use your own judgement and let it be your compass and know that the paradox will eventually cease to be a paradox once you have enough reference experience under your belt.

     And BTW. NEWSFLASH : Approach Anxiety never goes COMPLETELY away, at least not in a way you think it will disappear… and that’s ok. But once that’s ok it’s no longer a problem, once there’s no problem there’s no reason for approach anxiety.

     Welcome to the “red pill” thinking.

     Thanks man and enjoy the journey!

     Artur Kot

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