So My Girlfriend Cheated on Me. What do I do Now?

So My Girlfriend Cheated on Me. What do I do Now?

So My Girlfriend Cheated on Me. What do I do Now?

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Every now and then, I get an email saying – “Joel – my girlfriend cheated on me, what should I do?”

As a relationship coach, I will do my best to generically answer this for any of you guys experiencing extremely painful event.

Traditionally, men are the ones who are almost, always peddled as cheaters and liars. Thankfully many women know that’s a blanket statement and not true–in most cases. And in the cases that it proves true, you can bet that there is an equal share of gals who have succumbed to the same temptations.

The research on cheating spouses and extramarital relations is a vast and, honestly, contradictory group of numbers. However, one thing is certain– if you’ve experienced a cheating spouse, you are not alone. The cadre of broken hearts has grown as the marital dynamics change with modernity and life longevity.

Although you shouldn’t feel alone, it’s no less devastating to find out your lover has loved another, regardless of your current level of machismo. It can also bring up worries and frustrations that can end a marriage if those feelings are not dealt with. Most couples find that objective, professional counseling is key in regaining a healthy relationship but for those who have been cheated on, there are initial aspects that worry you most.

Here are a few of those worries and how to, initially, deal with them. Then we’ll talk about what to do next.

1. Your Reputation

After the shock of finding out or hearing that your wife or girlfriend has cheated, it’s normal for men to feel a loss of pride. This feeling trickles into your worries about others’ perceptions of you–if they were to find out. Unfortunately, this prevents a lot of couples from talking to loved ones and getting the help they need.

How to get over it:

Let’s shoot straight here. You know what? You didn’t marry her for what she brought to your reputation; you married her because you loved her. It was enough in the good times; it should be enough in the bad times. It’s a hard thing to overcome but at the end of the day, your spouse MUST be more important than your reputation (and vice versa). Try to hang onto that notion and focus on the golden rule—would you want her to be forever embarrassed over your indiscretions? Or would you hope she’d love you enough to strongly attempt to overcome them?

2. You’re not good enough

When your significant other cheats, it’s easy to feel as if you’ve somehow lost this contest to another person. You may begin to see yourself with less worth and resort to having a down-and-out attitude.

How to get over it:

First off, cheating is rarely, RARELY about them being more attractive or more successful. So get that OUT of your head. You have an abundance of worth and perhaps this is the time to have a conversation with your significant other about ways you each can improve yourselves in your relationship. Allay the fear of losing at a competition you’ve created in your head and put that energy into working towards a better future for yourself, whether she is in it or not.

3. You’ll never be able to trust her again

In the modern age, trust is extremely rare and valuable, and most often, our spouses are the ones whom we trust implicitly above most others. When you lose trust in this person, it creates a domino effect in your life. Memories become tainted, your sex life can suffer and you generally feel as if you may not have really known her to begin with.

How to get over it:

Make sure your spouse knows that she has lost your trust and that it will take some time for her to gain that trust back. Ask her to be respectful of that and to make you feel secure in your relationship during this time. Additionally, TRY, TRY HARD, to trust again. Sometimes you may not want to, but you must. Not trusting someone you love is harder on you than it is on her. Not trusting can make you sick.

For many men a cheating spouse is the worst fear; now that you have encountered your biggest fear and didn’t keel over, take strength in that. Regardless of what happens in the relationship, your inability to trust due to the actions of someone else will inadvertently rear its head in your other relationships. Don’t give in.

4. Your marriage is tainted

For all the jokes that television and comedians make about marriage, the truth is that many of us have happy marriages. We start to think they might actually be perfect (in a relative sense). When something comes along and pops that perfect bubble, you feel dismayed and alone.

How to get over it:

Truthfully, all marriages suck and no one is perfect. Realizing that is the FIRST step in having a great marriage. The metaphor “no one wants to see how the hot dog is made” is perfect in dating but will never get you anywhere in marriage. Marriage is all about seeing the making of a hotdog (bad metaphor, I agree).

You’re going to see your wife lose her temper, she’s going to see you take a shit on your honeymoon and you’re each going to see each other act like a total loser at an event. Get used to it and let this encourage you to start seeing your marriage in a realistic light; an imperfect light—just like everyone else’s.

5. Your image of her is shattered

Your wife was a foundation for you. She was constant, loveable, funny, honest, etc., the list goes on. Now that you know she has been intimate with someone else and has crossed boundaries you thought she’d never cross, it’s hard to look at her and feel the same feelings you did before. Sometimes this can lead to discussions of divorce, which is incredibly scary for both involved.

How to get over it:

This is a good time to suggest taking a break. Stay at a friend’s in order to clear your mind so you can think clearly about the circumstance and refrain from saying things you’ll regret. Talk to a professional therapist alone and if that goes well, perhaps your wife can join you. Be honest about how your perception of her has changed, but don’t be callous. Explain that the separation is not a punishment for her, but a release for you both at this time. It would be unfair for you to suffer in silence and it would be unfair for her to live under a roof where she can have no chance of redeeming herself in your eyes. The distance can give a great perspective.

6. You’re worried she will see him again

Depending on where she met this individual i.e. work, socially, mutual friends, the threat of it happening again can be debilitating. You’re consumed with what ifs—what if you run into him in public, what if she runs into him alone, what if you have an argument and she runs back to him. It prevents you from living life as yourself.

How to get over it:

If this is someone who was a co-worker, it’s worth it to have her leave the job or find another one (if you can afford that situation). If that’s not an option, figure out a way that both of you can enjoy more time together during the workday. You can drive to work together, meet each other for lunch a couple of times a week, or have specific times to call and ask each other about your day.

Work is sometimes an escape from the stresses of home, which can result in workplace romances, especially when the office is where one spends most of their time. The trick is to try to readjust your marriage into being the escape, not the office.

If it’s someone you might see socially, it might be worth it to have a few date nights in (unless you’re positive you won’t risk running into him). If you’re not comfortable yet, the worst thing you can do is force yourself to deal with a situation with which you are not ready. Another option is to take a cheap weekend trip together; check out a new environment and give yourself time to remember why you fell in love with her.

Additionally, lay ground rules about what you expect from her. You have a right to have a few reasonable demands after infidelity, but live by those rules yourself (it’s not fair I know, especially when you’re angry) but marriage isn’t a game of fairness. It’s all giving.

7. She wants to be with him and not you

If this is happening, then my heart breaks for you. It’s a tough thing to hear. It’s happened to many people and most of them would say that it was the hardest season of their life. But you WILL survive it.

How to get over it:

First, you owe it to yourself to take some time for you. Then, talk to her and ask her if she’s sure this is the right decision (try to be objective). Tell her you love her (if you still do) and that you want to work things out. If she doesn’t, then you really don’t have much of a choice. Try to move on and focus on what can make you happy from here on out. Don’t get into a serious relationship right away, but there’s no reason you shouldn’t try and have some responsible fun.

Rediscover who you are, what you like, and where you want to be. Make the gym a priority, eating well and pumping endorphins will be key in keeping a great chemical balance and feeling positive about your body and mind. When she most likely comes back to you, you’ll need to be emotionally, and cautiously, diligent about knowing what you want and if that includes her any longer.


Sadly, even with diligence, patience, and a fervent desire to, in reference–‘get over it’, many marriages end. If you’ve done what you are capable of doing and the relationship is still faltering, you can’t blame yourself for needing to let go. Marriages sometimes survive in the wake of infidelity and sometimes they don’t.

The bottom line:

Whether you stay together or decide to end things, you can become a stronger couple and a stronger man by going through this harrowing circumstance. And the actions of another person in NO WAY determine the future that you can make for yourself; remember that in ANY circumstance, not just marriage.

It’s not the end-all solution to a happy relationship, but it helps.

If you need more advice on getting over a cheating wife or gf, check out these additional resources:

1: Dating After a Divorce: The Complete Guide

2: How to Get Over Someone Cheating

3: Podcast 041: The 12 Essential Steps to Overcoming a Breakup From The Woman You Loved

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126 thoughts on “So My Girlfriend Cheated on Me. What do I do Now?”

  1. Get out of Dodge!!! If he wants to forgive her, he should forgive her. But, she should NEVER get another chance to cheat on him.

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  2. I see where you are coming from Mickey; many times the adage “once a cheater, always a cheater” gets played continually in our society and we start believing it. Hell, I’d believe it too if I hadn’t seen several relationships strengthened and matured by a husband or wife’s experience with infidelity, financial mishandling or other selfish act. As stated, it’s a personal preference as to whether a betrayed spouse wants to stay in the relationship. This article is mainly about analyzing your decision fully before you end things, just as you should analyze the decision to get married.
    The fact that you took the time to comment shows that you read the article and still feel that way. And on that level I truly appreciate your comment.

  3. My wife went to a work party the other night and then went out clubbing (much to my distain) I didn’t hear from her until 4 in the morning then I am told the next day she was in bed with another woman. I try to tell myself that it’s just another woman but my brain also goes a woman this time, maybe a guy or two next time. Argh I love the stupid woman so much and it’s doing my fucking head in!!

    • Some guys would consider this a great opportunity for you to possibly experiment with a threesome including you, your wife and other women. Just trying to look on the bright side.

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  4. My girlfriend of over a year cheated on me about a month back. She went and had ice cream with this guy and then proceeded to have a make out session in her car. After I found out what happened I was distraught, but I still loved her. We took a few days off to be alone and then got back together. Fast forward to last week. I noticed that her top friend on snap-chat was this same guy she cheated on me with, even though she told me she blocked him. I haven’t seen her in over a week and we are going to talk about it tomorrow. I was really worried about what to do, but this article really helped me get my head on straight. If anyone has any advice let me know. Great article.

    • Thanks Tyler – I think you need to portray your masculinity and make it known that you don’t need her to be happy. Love her through it but if she can’t oblige or be trusted be willing to let her go.
      But thats just me! Hope Jo sees this and has better advice haha.
      Sorry for the super late responses also!

      • I agree. She was obviously trying to fill a void with this side relationship (as innocent or no-emotional as it may be). I’d say talk to her about it and if she isn’t willing to work hard to fill that void in a healthy way then you should just walk away. Maybe time would clarify things. So sorry I saw this so late; I hope it all worked out in the best way!

  5. My fiancee has cheated on me 3 times with her ex and she expect us to marry in a month’s time…sleeping with him at night mostly weekdays because i am always away on duty and only meet her weekend…am running mad and lost on the way forward, it has really disturbed me alot and am losing focus and it has started affecting my performance at work..please help ASAP. Thank you

    • Sorry for the late response Edu, we took a vacation. I hope Joel see’s this and has a better response than me. To me, this is unacceptable and you should not marry her. Once time mistakes then I respect Joel’s article and view on things but sounds like your wife just has no moral boundaries or respect for you n this situation.
      I wish you the best in this scenario my friend. Hope Jo can comment more,

      • It might not mean you can’t marry her but I think there needs to be a serious talk with a pre-marital counselor to figure out where this desire to cheat is coming from. My heart breaks for you and you deserve better, whether it’s with a better version of her or with someone else.

  6. I been in a relationship for 10 years we have been on again and off again in the last few years but that usually last no more than a week at a time. during the 10 years I have suspected her interest in other men on 2 occasions. once was 4 years ago with a guy she met at work, they went out to eat then to his house.although this led to no sexual action she lied about it for 8 months and cut the contact off completely. the next time was with a co workers married son 7 months ago in which she attended the wedding. this time it was unprotected sex was involved. I had no idea if my assumptions were true or not all I had was suspicions. the truth can out on our wedding night last night. to be totally honest for the sake of good feed back both these times were on our off time. its just hard to find out on the wedding night. she cried all last night. what does this mean?

    • She may be crying crocodile tears but honestly, if you’re married, you should try to just forgive her, even though it’s painful. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this; best of luck!

      • Stop teaching men to be doormats, your article is toxic. Real men move on after being cheated on. Forgiving does not mean staying with the wayward wife. This is the kind of toxic beta male culture that is being promoted by feminists in this country.

        • Totally agree. This article is complete bullshit. Men and women both, if you are cheated on, 99% of the time its a lesson that your SO does not respect you anymore and its time to move on.

          • That’s not true lol. They may be the case for you but it isn’t for everyone. So you can speak for yourself and not make everyone feel like crap for their choice to stay.

  7. Sigh… it has been a little over two months since I discovered discrete photos on her phone that she did not send to me. I called her out on it and after some shirlocking she admitted they were sent to someone else.
    She claims it was a one time thing that she regretted immediately and they no longer talk… He was a co-worker that got fired from his employment.
    How can I trust her again… I love her and have been making this work but I don’t even know his name… thus I have no idea if he was actually fired.
    Do I have a right to ask his name? Would I regret doing it?
    Why is this still lingering?… I want so bad to get past this but need to figure out how to get the lingering suspicions to go away. I haven’t stopped her from going out and am extending her trust… I just can’t shake the feeling… Any help is greatly appreciated and your article was incredibly inspired. Excellent read!

    • Try to analyze WHY you want to know details. If it’s for a positive reason then ask them, if it’s for a negative reason (wanting to find out more about him and compare yourself) DON’T investigate.

      • I try to appreciate other points of views when it comes to relationships. However, I cannot stomach how you’ve responded to most of the issues these men have faced. Any woman who needs to seek excitement and acceptance or physical/sexual excitement from another man other than the one she has chosen to be with/marry is goddamn child. If you make a commitment to someone and go behind ther back to send nudes or sleep with someone or emotionally cheat on them then you don’t belong in a fucking monogomous relationship.

        • Absolutely agree. This article and most of “Jos” responses go against the vast majority of information you will read elsewhere on the internet.
          See “Ex No Contact ” on reddit, or any other infidelity sub reddit. DO NOT be a doormat for your cheating spouses people. Its weak and pathetic and you all deserve better. There is someone out there who will respect you, love you for who you are, and have a conversation or break up BEFORE they cheat on you. Cheating is unacceptable, 99% of the time. Again, there is probably a 1% exception to this, but it is NOT the rule

  8. I found out that my girlfriend had a conversation with her ex last week. They talked, and she ended up sending nudes. She said she had a relaspe of him. I’m so torn on what to do, she is my everything, she says that she truly loves me and will do anything to prove it. Any help please!

    • Sometimes relationships gets stale and women want to know their bodies and minds are appreciated by other men. That attention is intoxicating and yes, it can lead to mistakes. I say forgive her and move forward, don’t hold it over her head but definitely let her know if you don’t feel she’s trying her best to make you feel stable again.

  9. What about sex after she cheated? My gf cheated on me and we are trying to work things out. After I found out she cheated sex just isn’t the same for me. I cant get the image of them doing it, while we are doing it out of my head. Any suggestions on that?

    • This is a pretty common thing. I would suggest taking some time apart; if that’s not possible then I would suggest taking your sex life up a notch, trying something new only between the two of you. It might give you more stability and a reconnection and help get those images out.

  10. I am a week into my girlfriend cheating on me. We were high school sweethearts and she found herself attracted to one of her coworkers. I guess that I trusted her much more than I should have. She admitted to me that she kissed him on the neck and hugged him and held his hand, but said that what she did wasn’t a big deal. I know that our relationship hasn’t been perfect, and that I am dealing with my own demons too, but just as I was turning my life around and opening up to her and trying to be honest with her regarding my own past. She had the grace to forgive me, and I have tried to forgive her. The only thing is she isn’t sorry for what she did, but she was sorry for hurting me. As of today we are done completely, which is the hardest thing for me to take, considering the 10+ years we were together.
    I have to figure out how to define myself without this relationship, and reading this article, I have definitely felt like a worthless loser, and am trying to build a life that has nothing of her in it. Not easy I know, but I will get there eventually.

      • Thanks Sean. Today I am figuring out my routine. I got to walk my dogs and they were happy to see me so I guess life isn’t over yet.

    • I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing this. I hope things have been getting progressively better. It can be tough to end a relationship that was your first real love. I will say that if you can, you should try to build at least a friendship with her. Sometimes cutting things off completely leaves a weird void with no closure. Sometimes people are just young and need to figure out what they want. I personally don’t regret some things I’ve done but I regret the hurt it caused people. It’s hard to regret something that you learned from or discovered more about yourself during the process. Try to understand that side of things as well. We all grow up differently and in different ways and circumstances.

  11. Yesterday I experience the worst thing that I may encounter in my life, my girl want to broke up with me then i found out the reason why she want to end our relationship, She cheated on me, I don’t know how to express my self to her that time, I don’t know what should I feel, that moment I feel so empty and ask her why she do that to me? her responses ” you are not the same guy and I don’t feel you anymore” in that moment I realize that its not her fault then I ask her to fix the problem and we agreed to stop talking about this thing and try to fix our relation.
    Did I do the right choice?
    sorry for my letter i’m not good in writing

    • I think if you truly lost yourself as a man and partner then maybe you did have some blame. She should have spoken up to you first, and clearly not cheated on you. But if you think you can mend the relationship by mending yourself, and can fully trust her, I fully back you.

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  13. The other day, I found out that my wife of 21 years has been sexting with one of her high school classmates. She was supposed to meet him for “drinks and possibly more.” She claims that nothing actually happened between them besides the exchange of some nudie pictures. I love her with all of my heart and we have been through a lot together. I don’t think that I can ever trust her again. What would you do? Is sexting cheating? Right now, I am so confused and hurt by her actions.

    • It is cheating, but honestly it can be and is forgiven everyday. Search your heart and see if there is enough love to try to trust. And don’t be afraid to go to counseling; an objective viewpoint is always helpful.

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  15. I caught my gf cheating on me twice since she worked at the new place since last 2 months. The guy had a girlfriend and they make out during office party and went out again a week after that (just kiss, no sex involved). She had lied to me in the past and i have forgiven her. However this time it involves cheating which i find unacceptable. However i loved her so much and after i talked to her, we decide to try again. I’m not sure if im making the biggest mistake of my life or the right thing. I love this girl but I’m afraid that it will happen again.

    • Hey brother,
      As hard as this is to say, if she’s fucked you over twice, you need to get the hell out of that relationship, it will only lead to heart break.

  16. So I was gone for the military for a month and come back to find out my fiance had cheated on me 4 times with her ex. In my bed in my house. I can’t get it out of my head. She may be pregnant but idk. She treats me as if I’m the victim. She will text him about the pregnancy and ignore me. What the hell do I do?

    • Hey man,
      To say that that sucks would be the biggest understatement I could make. I can’t tell you what to do but I will say that you need to ask yourself one question: Do you want to create a life and a future with someone who would cheat on your while you are away serving our country?
      Being cheated on is one of the most painful experiences you can go through, and unfortunately most guys will go through it, but don’t allow your feelings to cloud your judgement. If she will cheat on you now, she’ll cheat on you once the knot is tied, once you have kids, and once you are out of the military.
      I’ve made the mistake of allowing women who cheated on me to stay in my life, and the emotional shit that I went through and utter disrespect that they showed wasn’t worth it, no matter how much I was in love with her.
      I wish you all the best while you go through this bro. Know that we are all here for you
      Thank you for your service

  17. I read this article and it really helped in alot of ways,
    Here is my situation:
    Me 29 and my girlfriend 27 had an up n down relationship for 4yrs, we were in luv but things slowly changed . a year ago i left the country to deal with personal matters she understood and was supportive. The times before me leaving we where in a normal state not great not bad but we trying and working things out. After i left i started to work on myself improvement and getting things done, she was trying too, anyway before i left we were clear our relationship is what we both want. And i asked her not to be alone and feel lonely i wanted her to go out with her friends and have fun, also i asked her if anything comes up for either of us we dont lie to each other and just break up! Of course she said no she wants this.
    Anyway so she started going clubbing with her girlfriends alot, flirting , dancing , having fun, she told me about it, we fought a couple times she lies to avoid a fight, i would be jealous about it but no resented towards her, so i told her to just talk to me about things that happen and not lie about the flirting and it went fine we laughed about what she tells me, i never wanted to stop her from enjoying her time with her friends, i was far! We text all the time, and i call. After i came back she told me:
    the last two months before i came back she started friended this guy from fb ( a couple years younger than her) and soon after started to go out with him to movies and one particular restaurant all the time, then they started to sleep together till a week before i came……….

    • ……..when she picked me up from airport it felt awkward for both of us the kissing and the hugs….coz distance i guess….so when we got home and she told me everything. That first night, She could see how hurt i was hearing this but she was honest, says she couldnt tell me when i was far and waited till i came back, also she said when i left we were a bit distance towards each other! Which is true and me being far increased the distance. She never cheated only with him all this time,
      Anyway i was angry and we fought and i stormed out she came after me appologizing i asked her if she wants to end this and be friends or whatever, but she said she still wants me. She crying saying she doesnt want to lose me! I slept on couch was sick looking at that bed, The next day i saw a messages between her and her girlfriend she was telling her that she misss the guy but she knows theres no future there! And now im back she wants to forget about him and be with me. But i dnt see her trying i feel shes trying to fight me abt stupid things makes me feel and think she doesnt feel anything for me anymore and i genuinly believe that she has no feeling for me. (Confused)
      So i talked to her and she said she needs space to figure things out, i told her after this we both need space but if u like this guy and still talk to him then theres no need for space u made ur choice! We. Fight she says shes not choosing him but something makes her txt him,
      she just repeated she needs space. so i started looking for a different place to live , its been 5 days im still looking to move but she never stopped texting him asking how he is!! And calling him and hiding it! So i really dont understand whats happening i want her but how she is being since i came back is confusing!!!
      Her friend told me , She called him and asked him to say he wasnt real with her to make it easy to forget him but he said i cant do that you know if its real!
      She says she wants to distance her self from him and forget him but she still texts him, so i told her if ur still chasing after him with these calls and txts then be with him!! But she says she doesnt want to!! She says what she had with him was something for her!! It wasnt nothing!
      So i say if its something then leave!
      She told me that A couple days before i arrived back she meet him and they talked and said there goodbyes and told each other they gonna miss each other , he told her she should work on her relationship with me!
      and from what i understood and found out is he wasnt really special! Meaning he wasnt any better than me in anyway.
      I dont want to throw this away, but how shes being since im back , also she feels awrkard when i touch her.!
      But i dont knw what todo!
      Isnt it obvious she moved on and holding me on as a plan B ! Or am i blind missing something?

      • Hey brother, this is definitely a tough situation, and one I’ve actually been in before. As painful as it is, from my experience it’s not going to be the same as it was before the other guy, it just won’t. I know it sucks, but I would recommend that you go ahead and end things. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Spend the extra time you have working on yourself and finding a girl who is willing to stay faithful regardless of distance.

  18. Thanks for the reply your thoughts are mine exactly,
    Today she called me and wanted to talk, so we met, i could see it was hard for her to speak but eventually she said i dont want to lose you and dont want this to end and she wants to try and work on this!
    i told her that she ended it the moment she started seeing this guy,
    Then she says that she doubts she has any real feelings for him. And whatever feelings she had were at that moments and now they were fading away,
    I told her it doesnt matter because the feeling you had for me will never come back even if we wanted them too. Once your feelings for someone are less they never come back.
    Am i right about that?

  19. Today my girlfriend told me she cheated on me about a week ago, but didn’t had the courage to tell me until now. I knew she met her ex recently and i thought maybe they kissed, so i didn’t want to get too angry about it. But the thing they had is much more than just kissing. My gf and i has been dating for 3 years now, we even have plans for marriage next year, but i guess everything is meaningless now. I know i spaced away from her the last period (became jobless and family issues), but, is that a reason to cheat on me? i am not the best person on the earth but i would never do that to her.
    i don’t know why i am even writing this but i just wanted to share what happened to me today with someone. thank you dear reader and sorry for bad English (English is not my first language)

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  21. So I just found out my girlfriend cheated on me. We have been together for almost a year, but we have known eachother for almost 5. I love her so much and would do anything for her but its hard to overlook the idea of her with someone else. She said it happened once but the text I saw that confirmed it was her saying that she fucks him occasionally (he words). She said it was just bad wording and admitting to phone sex but I dont know if i believe her. It’s just really hard to wrap my head around all this. I had an engagement ring and everything. Just looking for help.

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I could not confront her when i knew nothing because growing up we learnt before pointing a finger at family you must to bent sure about the situation and i was not sure or at least i nothing really that told me my thought are true. All my effort went south and my private investigator got nothing at all don’t know how that even happened. I explored all other option that failed also. But then ,for the first came across some comments in a lot of forums talking about an enchanter Obudun Magonata and the things he had done to help people and how it all worked out for them, contact him and pleaded with him to help me out. I needed to know what my husband and sister were up to. He confirmed that they were not only having an affair but she wanted my husband to leave me to be with her leaving me her sister heart broken in so may ways. He told me how they met and where they met that made my private investigation fail. #And upon what Obudun Magonata told me i cut and their affair was all out in the wind.It broke my heart to know my husband and mostly my sister could really get involved with my husband. I mostly my sister i mean out of all the men in Chicago you pick your brother-in-law? i was hurt sad and mostly mad at my sister. #Cos i love them both unconditionally how hard was it for them to love me back. Even with all that was going on my husband told me he was not sure if he still love me after 6 years o our marriage. I knew he was leaving me for my sister he thought she was a better love than i was and there was nothing i could do about it at least that was what i thought. After so many hours of talking on the phone with Obudun Magonata tell him how i still want to save my marriage and wanted my husband to love me as i do him,he asked me put my hopes on him he was going to do an enchantment for me to fix all my problem. I provided some materials was needed for the enchantment as i was directed to do. He did the enchantment and i got a package from him its content was of how i as going to make the enchantment work and become effective. I follow every instruction and just after four day they ended their affair and grew this kind of dislike for themselves it was all over the place everyone could see what happened and as surprised as i was, i was also glad the enchantment also made my husband love be back selflessly just as did and still do. #Obudun Magonata change my husband, made him mine again and help me fix my life. Obudun Magonata is my hero i mean i am forever in his debt but still he did not ask anything from me. 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  23. I write this post to possibly help others in a similar position, so here goes.
    My wife and I were together for about 7 years before we got married. We had 2 toddlers together by then and we both worked full time. Although I was a fairly good looking guy, she was a great looking girl and I always felt I was punching above my weight. My life was great. I had a gorgeous wife, 2 great kids and a nice house. One day when I came home after work, the house was empty. I called out to her thinking she and the kids might be playing a hiding game. I soon came across a note she had left for me saying she had taken the kids to her mum’s and she was so sorry. I was numb and stunned. We had only got married a few weeks earlier.
    We met up several times over the next few weeks, and she finally admitted to seeing another guy. Over the next few weeks I asked her if she was certain that this is what she wanted. She said yes. A few days afterwards, she told me she wanted a divorce. I was devastated. My friends wanted me to go out but I couldn’t. 2 months passed in isolation. Eventually, I released this was indeed final and I had lost her. I had to accept it and move on.
    I eventually met someone else too and she had some great qualities, but deep down – I missed my wife and my previous family life. Playing with the kids, playing chase games, tickling them, reading bedtime stories, big cuddles, etc, were all just memories now. I continued to see this new girl and our relationship started to grow. She fell deep. She treated me to a weekend stay in a fancy hotel, we went out playing pool and having a few drinks, and I introduced her to my brother. We went out walks, we went swimming, we went out for dinner, etc.
    One day, my wife’s parents came to the house. They told me my wife had finished with her boyfriend. She wanted me back. My wife and I met up and, after asking, she told me nothing sexual had happened. After much debate, we decided to give it a try. I now had the job of ending my new blossoming relationship and it broke both our hearts.
    10 years passed and by chance I found out that my wife did indeed have a sexual relationship with her boyfriend when we broke up. What happened between them was important, but more important was that she kept this hidden from me. She had lied about the extent of their relationship and didn’t tell me, her husband, the one person she should tell everything too. She had kept this a secret, just between her and her ex lover. I left the house and stayed in a hotel for a while. How can I trust her again? I thought of suicide but didn’t attempt it.
    After much discussions with her, we eventually talked things through and really opened up with each other. This was vital. Only upon knowing what each other likes and doesn’t like about our relationship could we understand and make changes. I wasn’t perfect either and I committed to changing too. We became a couple again and are slowly are moving forward. We discussed and have made changes in our lifestyle, drinking, work, social, exercise and bedroom too. Only upon knowing what each other really wants can we meet each other’s needs. 8 months on, I still am haunted by occasional visions of my newlywed wife performing sexual acts with another guy, and sometimes this happens when I’m sleeping too. I guess they will lessen in time. Trust is the number one thing for me, and its slowly coming back. After my trust has been broken twice before, and being lied to for years, I know I’ll never fully trust her 100% again. I can’t help this, I suppose it’s just the way I’ve been re-wired.

  24. me and this girl were talking for about almost 3months now and she said she would be faithful to me even tho we are just talking but we told eachother we love eachother im 21 and she is my first love ive had sex with other women before but was scared to get in a relationship she told me yesterday that around august 5 she had sex with an old friend she had sex before and she started crying I didn’t like it at first but I kept my cool cause she was crying but I told her it already happened and I forgive her but now its all ive been thinking about but should I leave her or stop talking to her

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  27. After 4 years and 5 months she cheated on me with some dude from my gym. He is 27 years old, I’m 21 and she is 20. The dude is so dumb that he wanted to fight me haha.
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  33. Hey, i’m sorry but i can’t even put my name up. (and sorry for my weak english too). I just need an advice, I had the best relationship in my life it was for 1 year and 4 months, during the last month i was away from the country and my gf cheated on me with our friend. later one month after i came back she told me and she was crying the hell out of her, i just left and we talked few times after few days, eveytime i see her i see how miserable she is these days, she is crying all the time and she keeps telling me that it was the biggest mistake in her life, it has been 3-4 weeks now and she keeps begging me to forgive her, she keeps telling me how much she loves me and how perfect we were together and remind me of all the good memories we have, am i stupid for believing that she still loves me?? i mean all the messages and the things she says shows A LOT, she promised that she will change, she will do whatever it takes to make our lives better. but i can’t take the picture out of my head!! its killing me everyday and i hate whatever she did to me, i seriously had the best days of my life with her and now i’m having the worst days of my life without her.
    and to be honest i miss her like crazy and i love her so much. but i don’t know if i can forgive her for what she did or not.

  34. Recently found out my wife cheated on me after just 1 month of marriage. I have tried to forgive and move on with our lives but the thought of everything plays in my head every time and her sister even adviced her to cheat on me.

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  36. Look, if she cheats on you she threw so many signs your way. Chances are you will and have missed them completely.
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  37. My wife cheated me, after 16 years of relationship and two kids.
    She kicked me out of her life because I was not that good as the “new” adventure. She has sex with him and that’s makes me very angry.
    I can’t understand this and I think I never will. The next thing is that he is more than 15 years older than her. I know her exactly, know how to touch her. I would love to hit him if I ever will met him on the sidewalk.
    The biggest Problem is that I can’t interrupt the connection to her because of my lovely kids. I always get hit again every day I catch my kids.
    Every time she has this shine in her eyes that tells me I had sex with him.
    I think I will never trust a women anymore.
    a Helpful commentary would be great ! THANKS

  38. My wife since 1.5y cheated on me 4 years ago. We have been together for 7.5 years now.
    During this time of 4y she convinced me to become friends with him (I call him M), since he was such an important part of her life. She invited him to our wedding as a VIP.
    The event those years ago went something like this..
    She went to M after lying to my face when I asked if she was going there. Spent 5 days there. Claims she went there for our sake. She wanted to see if she could resist M.
    Went by her own rules of what was ok even she knew that I wasn’t ok with it, slept beside M and cheated.
    According to her rules she had done nothing wrong when she came home. But still lied about it. Broke into pieces out of happiness when she came home since she had resisted the temptation.
    During the coming years she would get angry when I asked about the time with M. Stating that I’m destroying her accomplishment by grinding things that have not happened or exist.
    Brought in a friend of us both and asked the person to help her convince me that I was destroying the relationship.
    Wanted to get nude photos taken by M and got mad when I said no. She does not see a connection between taking the photos and her cheating with him. “They are two separate things!”.
    She confessed about this the day after she told me “I don’t trust you”, which made me snap and went to my brothers place to sleep on things. Stating that “this is not going to work out”. Her reason for doing it was “Well, I can just as well tell since It can’t get any worse now..”. That was ~5 months ago. So she does not trust ME? I have been there for 7 years through depressions, tantrums and everything else.
    Here is a few things happening over these years.
    All years:
    After trying to bring up cooking, economy, worries about cheating she reacts with anger and/or sadness which escalates into self harm and even suicidal thoughts or a catatonic state with silence for hours. Forcing me into comforting her even if I wanted to talk about my worries.
    I have been cooking dinner for 7 years, even with full time work and her being home not working. Taking half the burden when it comes to cleaning. For the first 2 years I gave her a massage every day while receiving nothing back. When brought up she got upset with “You really want millimeter justice? 1:1 for everything?!”.
    She once told me “You have to take out the dogs first thing when you get home, it’s animal cruelty to only walk them 2 times a day!” (She did not take them for walks even if home.) in addition to the cooking. I worked ~12h a day then.
    She have had a horse during this time, any attempts to talk about selling it was shunned with “I need it for my mental health”. She paid costs for the horse, leaving me to pay everything else more or less.
    She was diagnosed with BPD, she does not take medication since it makes her “weird” accoring to her.
    Before cheating:
    Her stating: “Whatever I don’t get in a relationship I will find elsewhere.”
    Her stating: “Don’t force me to chose, I will leave you if you do” regarding friendship with M
    Her stating: “I can destroy this relationship with just a few words.” or “I could destroy this relationship this quickly *snaps fingers*” during arguments.
    After bringing up that I felt hurt after a friend of us groped her.
    “He has just the same right as you to do that!”
    After cheating :
    Her stating: “I have changed so much for your sake!” But have a hard time pointing out what.
    Her stating: “You don’t take my needs seriously! I should just stop caring!”
    After her telling me and talk about divorce initiated :
    Her stating: “If you leave me I will kill myself, now or later. My life would be ruined!”.
    Her cutting herself, in front of me. Asking me how I can do that to her.
    That phase lasted for a month or so..
    Then she.. Flipped?
    Now she cooks, cleans, sold the horse, walks the dogs. More or less over a night this happened. She wants to stay together and is upset at me for not being sure. She wants to work on things. I just get kind of paralysed when trying to process everything. For me, that lie also dug up everything else that had been going on earlier.
    Well, yeah.. Can I can some input on this?
    I want kids, I’m 28 she’s 31.
    This is my first relationship, first love really.
    She have had ~8 relationships. 3 loves of her life (me being the latest, second was M). She have a history of cheating in earlier relationships.
    Everyone I tell says that she’s an abuser and I should leave. But there is something that pulls me back and makes me doubt.

  39. My girlfriend cheated on me she’s been eating lunch with her client. Just found out I asked her about that and she said that it was just lunch and just 3 times. What should I do?.

    • My girlfriend cheated on me she’s been eating lunch with her client. Just found out I asked her about that and she said that it was just lunch and just 3 times. What should I do? I found out that they’re going out.

  40. Hello, I have a girlfriend that I have been dating for almost 4 years. Before her I had a child with another woman and my current girlfriend has always been supportive of my daughter even to the point where she is basically a second mother to her. She has always come to family events and for the most part my family really likes her. I should also mention we live together. Recently (in the last 2 months) we’ve been having a few arguments (although it didn’t seem anything major to me) about our future and what’s next. I’m never very good about getting my feelings out and I never told her of my plans to propose and start a family with her eventually. Last week my sister and brother and law saw her publicly kissing another guy. My brother in law told her she had to tell me or he would so she came clean and told me. I kicked her out of the house that we live in together and have been having a truly hard time getting my emotions together… Two days ago she called me crying and said she made a horrible mistake and can’t eat or sleep and to be honest I feel the same. She said she wants to try again and promises to win my trust back. She claims she doesn’t truly care about the other guy and that she made a huge mistake. I truly love and want to forgive her but I’m really hurt by all of this. I’ve always had the utmost trust in her and I want it back but I’m not sure what to do. Any advice would be great thank you.

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  42. I cant stop thinking about suicide since i was 7 years old, im almost 40 now, when i was used to sleep every morning was a pain because i was still alive. I grew up on a disfunctional family, my father always very violent with my mother, cheat on she, many times as a children i have to told [everything wanna be ok] to my scared mother while my father walk next us with his gun telling there is a bullet for each of us, since i remember, i think 5 year old, i listened he telling when i grew up i will be a homeless and eat trash to survive. I got a degree, almost got a master degree on software engineer on the best university on my country, the sadness of every second denied it from me, i was so sad i leave the course, i was getting good grades without having energy to study, just with the teacher explanation, i was sleeping 3 hours day that time and working a lot, my job, my university and my home each on different far cities. I have a really really serious ilness that is eating a vital organ on my body, there i no cure, its autoimmune. After all of this, because all of us still lived on a very poor house i started building a new big one where us live today, i got debht, and stay on almost for 5 years, that time i found the miracle i never think was possible, one to love me, at least told me it, but i wasnt able to marry without be against Jesus commandment on [1 Timothy 5:8], to marry that time was need leave they with a debht they wasnt able to handle and for that i was responsible, my love told me sex just after marriage, she was a very religious person, i respected it but she was a cheating one, she call me on end of day to tell me what men she rub her ass while working that day, she was a nurse, it was very painfull, some womans asked me for sex but i dont cheated on she, some take pants off and i was burning alive but dont cheated, i fogive she so many times, today im unemployed, for almost 2 years cant sleep more than some nightmare hours by week, my sickness is much worse, she destroyed me, she archieve make me more sad, take the little health i had, the little hope. I see so many bad people being happy, she is one, so happy with her new boyfriend. I want to die but havent guts.

  43. I have been dating this girl for about 6 months that was just divorced and she had an abusive husband. My brother just got out of prison a month ago and she kept asking about him all of the time and wanting to invite him out everywhere we went together. I knew something was going on in her mind because there was absolutely no reason for this interest other than she must have been attracted to him but he’s my BROTHER. My brother and Iive in the same house and my girl and I share a room here but she has her own house. It was late one night and we planned a huge day the next day only she wanted to run some errands in the morning and let me sleep in and so we went to sleep and I awoke and she was gone but so was my brother. I had already warned her before that she seemed very interested in him and that she was not to hang with him without me and she promised me. Anyways when I awoke they were both gone and found out that they were out together and she wouldn’t answer my calls or texts. Finally I got very angry because they ended up out all day long and she forgot about our plans. I finally lost my cool and told her it was over and to not come back to my house and I waited for a response or text but there was not one. I got into my car and raced over to her house to see my brothers car and her car there and I disturbed the act and kicked the door in. I chased him put and they admitted they had sex and she just did it because of meosing my cool and cussing her and I was more angry with my brother for initiating it. I just think it’s terrible of her to act on sex so quickly after she broke the agreed rules because I yelled at her. Now of course she has been begging me to forgive her and crying yada yada. What should I do? Any suggestions?

  44. I feel i’m really gonna be helping someone out there thats why i made the decision to write this. I was seeing signs that my fiancee was having an affair, i confronted her but she kept promising me she would never cheat on me. She made strange calls at night, whispering in my balcony and some other things.. I saw her delete a message right in front of me few seconds she read it. I eventually met a man through my brother, Thomos, who helped me, by letting me have access to my fiancee’s locked phone and also retrieved her deleted messages.. Although i felt bad doing that but i knew my stand in her life.. if you feel you also having the same problem i faced and you feel your spouse is having an affair but keeps denying, well you can contact CLARK via his email or cell number, Clark: [email protected] number : (916) 546-5301 I really recommend him. I would have posted his direct home contact but he keeps it discreet. Good luck people

  45. my gf of two yrs cheated on me 3months after she herself revealed the same to me, wth that she confirmed to me that relationship ended, on the way she told me on how all that happened, i realised a week ago all were lies; for example; she told me they had sex once with that guy infact they guy forced her, i forgave her, but when i knew she lied that thing hurted me most, cause the truth was they used to meet severaly wth the guy even when she was on her periods she still slept in this man’s house. Yes i admit i overraected alot and wth all the love i had on that woman i almost commited suicide if not for my friends, now my request is, should i forgive this woman and continue with our relationship? Because she admitted and promised to change.

  46. At the point your partner decides to sleep with someone else it marks a turning point
    Just make sure the way you turn is not backwards !

  47. Me and my fiance have been growing apart from each other for the longest,back and forth back and forth and nothing seems to get better SHITS DRIVING ME CRAZY BUT I CONTINUOUSLY PUT UP WIT IT.

  48. I saw her naked pic on a guys bed and the kind of text she exchange with the guy. Spending over night with him mean while I have not done that with this lady.I realize all this when she gave her phone to go and repair for .one funny is she refused to give her password to me but at long last she gave it to the phone repairer and I got all this information and I could it her attitude but I love her too!!!

  49. My advice to anyone that has a cheating girl friend is to break up with her. There are millions of good women. You will find someone better, guaranteed. A cheating girl friend like a cheating wife will only compromise your confidence, well being and health. There is absolutely no reason to go further with a cheating girl friend. You date to see if someone is worthy for marriage. You need to establish RED FLAGS – When you hit a red flag in your relationship you move on. In my case, I broke up with a girl friend that yelled at me at the top of her lungs for calling her ten minutes past the night time she found acceptable. Her screaming like an insane nut was a red flag. I didn’t want that kind of marriage. Likewise someone cheating on you is something that will ever forget and you will never trust her because the fact is she did and will do it again.. She has no respect for you and your relationship. Move on….. the best lady for you is out there, but you just haven’t met her yet.

  50. I was so unhappy in my relationship with this guy for about 2 years. I thought i was going to get married to him, until i found out he suddenly changed towards me. He stopped caring, doesn’t have time for me and kept late nights. I knew something was wrong, so i inquired around and found out Mr. James who helped me uncover what was going on with my so called boyfriend. Mr Seb only needed his phone number and email address to let me know he had been cheating on me all through our relationship. I’m so glad and free from his torture. If you need help concerning relationship issues or possibly other issues, contact [email protected]. i guarantee you 100% he gets results. Bless and good luck.

  51. Hello sir/mam
    I m in lots of painmy girlfriend cheating me…i cried whenever i m free my tears rolled out anytime ..its impossible to survive …i love her lots see wake up mid to talk her new lover …wake up whole night talk him met him ….i m lived long distance from her what should i do plz tell me ..leave her or wait for her ….which is better for me

  52. KINDLY HELP ME…iam in a relationship since last 3 years but as i work in abroad v hardly spent time together. since last one year i found out that my gf is least interested in me n was not communicating with me properly..i felt somethimg is wrong but couldnt do anything as i was in abroad. last month when i came to surprise her i got to knw that she is enjoying and having fun with a guy since last one year (she had everything). she lied to me all this time and fooled me. but now she cried a lot ask for forgiveness and says she really wants me loves me n wants to marry me. she has completely stopped talking to that guy n started loving me more than ever. but m still confused n do love her a lot..but the thoughts r hurting me. she promised me she ll never ever do such things she just got in flow with that guy n never to c his face again. what iam i supposed to do now????

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  55. I need to do something to let my boyfriend understand that I made a mistake . About a month and a half ago . I was drinking , and ended up getting to comfy with his cousin in the back seat while my bf was driving . lust got the best of me but honestly nothing more than just holding hands and thigh grabbing went on . I don’t wanna lose my bf over a meaning less moment . Please I need your guys advice

  56. been married 20 years. 4 kids one which will have to live with us for good.8years ago my wife had a boyfriend who drove over 13 hours to see her on several occasions.she swore they never did anything but kiss. being pissed I called him and he contradicted that story. but I love her so I tried to believe her. present day I find text messages in her phone with pictures attached to over 10 men. I go in block them all confront her with the evidence I had.she swears she is just talking to them because she felt lonely. her mom and dad passed the previous year. then I start receiving messages detailing a long list of infedelity. I love her deeply but now feel I can’t trust her to even tell the truth. if she can’t tell me now, how am I to know she’s feeling this way again “if” I try to make it through this time.

  57. I have just gone through this article and found it very realistic.
    I went through the same experience as my fiancee cheated on me right after our engagement and didn’t admit it until I gave her the proof (showed her nude pictures with the boy who happened to be a friend). At that point I came to know about that not only she was fooling around with this boy for the past 5 years but was just rejected by the boy after having various wild nights (within two months of the engagement). Now she has to marry me just because she has nowhere else to go (remember I live in a muslim society where even having a BF is considered a blasphemy let alone sleeping with one!!). She begged me to marry her cuz now whomever she marries would find out that she is not a virgin and typical things. I decided to marry her (I know that’s crazy but that’s how I am!!!). Like it is suggested in this article I did 4 things straight (ground rules. even out with the one who screws you. works out every time!)
    1. I told her that there will never be anything called love between us ever again. So never expect any such thing from me. That stands true for life! (pretty darn rude but that was the reality)
    2. She has to stay good to my entire family including my parents and my siblings. To the extent that if my parents need attention, they are not going to any old home. They are STAYING WITH US! And she has to take good care of them. (again pretty bad of me but a wise man gets the best out of every situation! can you really find such a wife EVER!!! EXACTLY!!!)
    3. She has to make sure that my children are brought up perfectly. She can’t neglect them at all and make sure they are good citizens. In return, I will make sure that I provide for my wife and kids. She wouldn’t have to work (nice bit of me still lived somewhere inside me. thank God I am not entirely a villain!!!)
    4. Since she cheated on me AND gave all my rights to someone else, this gives me right to do the same whenever I want in life (you never know when you meet the right person). BUT I will NOT use my right so long as she do not spend a night out of our house. Not even at her parents. Meaning she would have to stay and practically live in my house without any complaints. The moment she spends a night out, I will simply go ahead and use my right (Showed her the seriousness of my intentions! I wasn’t marrying her cuz I was out of options but just cuz now I am getting the best out of the moment!!)
    Guess what! She agreed to it!!! Eureka!!!
    These GROUND RULES have set the life on to a perfect course. It’s been 6 years since we are married. Blessed with two beautiful kids (whom I love a lot!!!). She is good to my parents and even living with them from the very first day. She is so grateful to me for marrying her that she even polishes my shoes (that really embarrasses me and I really try to stop her but she keeps insisting on doing that). My breakfast is ready even before I wake up and I am normally served in the bed (I wonder if it could be any better!). The only thing lacking, is LOVE in my life. Till date I haven’t been able to force myself to fall in love with her but who knows in future this might happen as well!! Also I have convinced myself NOT TO HATE HER as well. Besides, my kids love me like crazy and I love them! That’s good enough for me (kids make my life as good as heavens!). I don’t know whether I took the right decision or not but the outcome IS PERFECT. The best gamble of my life!
    Do share your thoughts on this! (Every word of this story is true! I swear on my life!!)

  58. My fiancee cheated on me during six months before our wedding (I am studying abroad). She wanted to cancel the wedding and she has told me that she doesn’t love me anymore. I discovered many things about her behaviour two weeks before the wedding and even on our first night together, she told me all the truth. We are married (for over one month), but she’s not happy and still likes this guy. I came back to continue with my studies, we talk and chat but she’s not same person. I love her, but she doesn’t love me anymore. What should I do to recover her? :/

  59. My wife of 12 years cheated on me a while back ago and when I found out she left me for him weeks went by and the guy didn’t want her anymore so she came running back to me being the fool that I’m I took her back things were great for the next couple of years then she started to distance herself away from me I found out she was talking to another guy and soon as I confronted her she left me again for this other guy months went by and they broke up so she came back to me I was still in love with her so I took her back years went by and recently I found out she’s been talking to a guy they talk on the phone for hours and text each other all day and when I ask her about it she says that I’m over reacting and that they are just friends what should I do

    • You’ve been so linient and trust me she’s taking you for granted.
      She cheats on you every single moment she gets a chance and run away knowing that you will eventually forgive her and have her back..
      Set properly your priorities and determine so hard the limit of your love..
      She will soon destroy you. You are simply not good enough for her

  60. I have been suspecting my girlfriend is cheating and I confronted her in a way that she couldn’t deny it. She told me she’s been sleeping with other two dudes and now she is all emotional and asking so much for forgiveness.
    I feel so much broken, betrayed and I have lost the love and trust I had for her.
    She seriously wants be back and she’s getting affected by the situation. I need advice, how do I solve this cos I honestly don’t want to be a murderer…

  61. I always knew my wife was a cheat. Her movement was always unpredictable. Then I came across a guy who sells gadget and he introduced me to a hacker online. I sent a mail to him immediately. He is the best hacker you can ever imagine. He helped me hack into my cheating wife’s phone and provided me full access to her messages, calls among various data on her phone. He only asked for a few information about my wife’s mobile phone. I gave it to him and in less than I could believe I started receiving all my wife’s text messages,her social network activities and her call logs. What amazed me the most was the retrieval of the deleted messages on her phone. Although I still feel bad that she cheated on me, I am glad that there are hacker like this that help people. If you have any problem involving hacks, contact CYBERHACKMANIAC50 GMAIL COM

  62. my girlfriend is cheating on me since we first met he’s her ex bf .my gf sends to mesages that were not for me she accidently send to me i felt torn after that she admit that she is in a relation ship with him but not intentionly she told me that her mother forces her to spend time with his ex bf but when i talked to him he said she love him so much then i called her and her ex in confrenc she does not admit that she loves me but after 2 days she sent me a message that her mother forced her to say that o forgive her but a week later she was comming out from his house alone with him at night around 2 and now she claims that she loves both of us what should i do i even cant move on i love her so much

  63. I disagree with your opening statement about, “people can do what they want with their body”…maybe so. Unless of course they are in a relationship, then everything they do from the time they wake up until the time they go to sleep becomes “a joint decision”. There is no way around it. So I couldn’t bring myself to read the rest after reading that nonsense. For the record… Violence solves most of everything. Believe otherwise and you will fall…

  64. I would dump any woman ASAP who cheated on me in every circumstance. I would never speak to her ever again. For one thing, before entering into any committed relationship, I make it clear to my partner that there are zero second chances. You can cite me every evolutionary psychological article in the book, but ultimately, the decision to cheat or not for humans is a moral and ethical one. Nothing is forcing your partner to unzip her pants. As a famous actress once said, “animal nature is what we have been put here to rise above.” If you are in a committed relationship with a woman, you have done enough things for her – acts of kindness, presents, a kind ear – to where she has an obligation to keep her pants up if you have done so yourself. I am a believer that no one ever gets over a cheating episode. I don’t care what anyone says. Its hurts your ability to trust women in future relationships. Your female partner has an obligation to not inflict this awful blow on you for the rest of your life. You have done enough good things to not receive that level of punishment. She should break off the relationship, end the marriage, but never cheat on you. Period. I don’t care what her reasons are. She’s gone. Our society is becoming too accepting of cheating even to the point where some self help gurus blame the cheating on the person who has been cheated on. It’s garbage, and a sign of a corrupt society. I am not saying once the relationship has busted up that you shouldn’t examine what may have gone wrong, but you should never feel guilty for your partner cheating. Another thing….when she comes back after her “rebound partner” proves to be a womanizer or whatever – 95% of all partners your girl cheats with will never end up having a relationship with her because people need time to recover from a relationship breakup – tell her out of my life. You just cannot change a person who is unethical and immoral in her actions. That is something she must do on her own. Just wish her well, or hope she finds a slice of happiness in life, because being a cheater is heavy karma.

  65. My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex so I am just going to get laid with another woman and see what comes up. To be honest, I don’t think we should work things out with a girlfriend who has opened her legs to another man. It’s ok. I am going to make love to another person too and I don’t care if she gets hurt. She crossed the boundaries.

  66. I’m single father of only son, I have been single for two yrs and I can tell you I was married for 16 yrs till I divorced two yrs ago after I caught my wife several time cheating on me,I know shit happens but I won’t tolerate that

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  69. you guys need to get it together, I never heard such a whining bunch of pussies in my life. Show her the fucking door, but ensure you fuck around her family , and daughter, ex boyfriend and everyone else involved. pull up yor pants and send her packing.

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