Podcast 014: How to Sexually Satisfy Women?

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Maya 

I was a typical girl who went to bed with a monstrous cock.

Menprovement Podcast 

Ready to take your life to the next level? Then you are in the right place. Get all the information you need to improve everything and live life like a pro. This is the Menprove podcast with Sean Russell.

Sean 

What’s up guys? Welcome back to the Menprovement podcast, brought to you by Menprovement.com. The number one online self-improvement resource is strictly for men. I am your host, Sean Russell, a self-improvement enthusiast who is obsessed with taking his life to the next level. I created this podcast to help myself and men like you do just that. The topic of today’s show is damn awesome. The guest is Maya Jordan. She is a licensed psychotherapist who used to be a stripper, has dated, you know, some of the top celebrities, athletes, and a whole host of other people, and just has an amazing outlook on sex and an amazing delivery system for teaching men how to improve their dating and sex lives. And I talked to her here about what women are really looking for in a man when it comes to attraction, and more specifically, sex. She goes into really detailed detail on what women want sexually, how to please your woman, how to make them more relaxed and more receptive to touch, the truth about penis size and whether it really matters, and much more. This was one of my favorite shows. I had a great time, and I know you’re going to love it. So, I want you to enjoy it as much as I did. Without further ado, here is my interview with Michael Jordan of Playboy Radio. Hey guys, I am here with Jordan from Playboy Radio, and I was actually introduced to him by JD Dallas. So, what’s up, Maya? How are you?

introduction to Maya Jordan

Maya 

Hi there, Sean, How are you?

Sean 

I am great. Um, how do you know JD? He is a great guy. And he is like, Our fans have been raving about two podcasts that he has been on so far.

Maya 

Oh, his advice is just so sage. He is on the market. I mean, he is right on the money. He knows what he’s talking about. I know JD because he picked me up once. Okay, I was standing outside of a coffee shop when this guy started sauntering across the parking lot, climbing off a Harley. And he saunters up to me in this like gunfighter stance and leans in and kisses me on the neck, and I had never met this guy before in my life, and I was just like, You know, what is this? So, I just fell for him. And we have been on again, off again, fuck friends for about five years.

Sean 

That is awesome. So, for everyone listening, JD is not just spouting out. This is how much of his ass he uses this stuff. Yes, yes, it really does. That is awesome to hear.

Maya 

Yes. And his tactics absolutely work. And I remember thinking when I met him, You know, because he was this renowned pickup artist. After we got to know each other a little bit, I remember thinking, You know, his tactics are not going to work on me. There is no way, and then I could feel his modern male lifestyle in me. Which is his company.

Sean 

Yes, that is hilarious. And if you guys are listening to the podcast for the first time today, the last episode with JD had people absolutely raving about the advice that he gave. The second episode of the series is JD as well. So go back and check those out. So, what do you do exactly?

Maya 

Well, I am a mental health therapist, a psychotherapist, and I have a master’s in social work, which allows me to practice with the mentally ill. But a lot of my time is spent coaching folks on their dating lives. So, I talk to men and women all over the US and abroad about what’s going on with them. We break it down in terms of what is holding them back and what they want out of life. So, it expands from your dating life to your whole life. What you are trying to get out of it.

Sean 

Yeah, I love that. It is really beautiful. And if my memory serves me correctly, I checked out your website and saw that you used to be a stripper. I did. That is interesting. Talk about how you went from being a stripper to being a licensed psychotherapist.

Maya 

Well, I stripped my way through graduate school at NYU and came into it because I was doing social work at the club. You know, I am talking to these guys and listening to their life stories and letting them just go on infinitum, but I wasn’t getting paid for it appropriately. You know, so at the end of the night, it’s like I was wasted, and you know, I made a cup of Well, $1,000, but really had no professional esteem to speak of. I felt like I was, in many ways, disregarded during the day and then, at night, very much looked up to. So I wanted to eradicate that disparity between night and day. And so, I went to graduate school, and in going to graduate school, I met all of these people who had very different lives than me. So, you know, I did not necessarily tell them that I was going to the club every night. I remember taking one of my friends over to the club and just informally introducing her to everyone, and her eyes got big like you actually work here. Yes, she was very academic and very studious. And, you know, glasses and a pencil skirt—the whole nine yards. So, it was a very different world for her. But those two worlds could exist simultaneously. It is kind of like speaking two languages. So, you can speak stripper and you can speak therapist, and it intermingles and is interesting.

Sean 

Yeah, and I am sure it gives you a completely unique perspective on everyone out there based on your life experience. And now your educational experience

Maya 

Absolutely, it equips me to have some unique insight because I know fundamentally what men want. And I am not necessarily afraid of that. I know that men are very attracted to the physical aspects of a woman. and that is what initially draws them in. And that is what the stripper gradually undresses to reveal—the physical aspects of herself. So, we are not dressing it up at all. It is just what it is. But then, when you look at the psychotherapy aspect, it is getting inside people’s heads and understanding what it is that makes them tick.

What’s holding guys back from dating?

So yes, there is that fundamental attraction between a man and a woman. But there are also a lot of drivers that just, you know, you got fucked up as a kid by your Mommy or your dad, and you have major complexes as an adult that are inhibiting your dating life. And we get to break those down a little bit. And I can be a little bit more straightforward with those folks about their issues because I’m coming at it from a mental health perspective.

Sean 

Yes, absolutely. And you mentioned that there are a lot of things holding guys back in terms of their dating lives. You just mentioned one of them there with past traumatic experiences, but what do you think are some of the main things that are holding most guys back from getting what they want, which may be just a hot girlfriend or just to get laid?

Maya 

Wow, good question. I think for a lot of guys, it is just simply not knowing who they are, fundamentally, where they begin and the other person ends, and not knowing their boundaries. And you know, I was coaching a guy the other day; we had him on the show. And it was so evident that the fundamental issue with this guy was that he had been in an 18-year marriage and left his wife of 18 years to fall for some woman who lived cross-country. So, he picked up, sold all his stuff, moved cross-country to be with this other woman, and then the other woman ended up leaving him. I mean, it is like the attraction just fell apart as soon as he gave up that for which he stood. So, uh, not knowing who he was and what he was about, he just totally sabotages the relationship, which is not going to be attractive to a woman to get exactly what you want. You need to have the dance going a little bit. Like what JD talks about in the attraction between the sexes? You need to have that going on to have interest on both sides.

Sean 

Yeah, I think it’s, you know, most people at a very core level want what they can have, you know, yeah, unless, obviously, you find that one that you truly click with and love, which I haven’t done yet, so I can’t speak up. I am sure it is a little bit different. But I’ve always been the kind of guy who, you know, wants the girl he cannot have, and then when he gets there, it is kind of like, No one, you know?

Maya 

Yes, no, I absolutely hear you on that. And it is tough because, you know, how do you, as a guy, go after what you want while keeping all of the parts that make you unique? We end up selling off bits of ourselves to get what we want sometimes. And when you do too much of that, you lose that core sense of self about which you were talking. And you are just like every other guy in the room.

Being true to yourself and your purpose

Sean 

Yes, so what I am drawing from what you’re saying—correct me if I’m wrong—is that being true to yourself and your life purpose and not changing to impress anyone or seek validation from anyone is what is really attractive.

Maya 

Oh, it absolutely is. There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a guy who has a lot going on. It spells out that he is successful financially, and other Wise, it spells out that he has a loving family, a loving friend, and lots of support. He is not going to drain her emotionally. It spells out that he is interested in the world around him. He is not cut off; he is accessible. So, all those qualities—you know, if you are moderately good-looking and have those qualities on top of them—you are just going to hit the ball out of the park and get a great girl.

Sean 

Yes, absolutely. I mean, I really, really love that I did not know where we were going to go with this advice. But that is something I never really thought about. Instead of, you know, saying you want to meet women, instead of going out and directly trying to meet women, work on yourself and become more interesting. And, you know, build your purpose and have a value and a direction in life. That is the first step. Would you agree with that?

Maya 

Oh, absolutely. I mean, I can think about my own life; I was not always this cool. I mean, I was just horribly, horribly nerdy as a kid and had a lot of issues just with my own physicality. I was very nervous about what I looked like and thought that I just wasn’t as attractive as the girls around me. I grew up in the Midwest, where everyone is short, curvy, and bodacious. And I was this tall, skinny, angular-looking thing. So, I stood out. I mean, I just did not blend in. And as a result of that, I didn’t have a lot of early dating experiences and didn’t get to relate to a lot of guys that Well, I was terribly, terribly afraid of them and thought that they were out to get me because I had had some early life experiences that taught me to believe that men were predators, that they weren’t out to help women or love them, that they were out to prey upon them. So, my perspective was totally skewed. And it wasn’t until I became a stripper that I started on my sexuality in a real way, in an independent way, not in the way that I thought I was supposed to be when I was a little girl, which is, you know, this bodacious, curvy, broad, that’s just not me; I’m a little bit out there a little bit. ballsy. I am definitely what you would consider an alpha female. And I am looking for an alpha male in my partner as well.

Sean 

Yes. And that is what I love. That is what I love about JD: his teachings on becoming an alpha male. And he totally swayed my perspective, because a lot of people now see being an alpha male, because of a lot of the trash that is out there, as, you know, being a douchebag and degrading women and that kind of thing. But it is really the complete opposite.

Maya 

It totally is. It totally is. I mean, you are talking about attraction on a very primal level. You know, women want men who are strong, and they do not need their men to be sophisticated or easy to talk to. They want them to be strong and well-defined, physically and otherwise. And everything else just kind of falls into place. When you know who you are and what you are about. You know, it is easier to talk to women; it is easier to approach them. It is easier to get that number when you know where you end and the other person begins.

Sean 

Yeah, I really, really love that advice. It is incredible. So, for everyone listening, if you are struggling in your love life, maybe look inward instead of outward, trying to fix it. That is exactly where you should begin.

Maya 

Yes, absolutely. You know, when I was in college, I went to school for an undergraduate degree before I started stripping and majored in theater. So, it was very big, ostentatious, and theatrical, I would say. And, you know, during that experience, I started drinking a lot and became uninhibited. So, I had these two aspects: this very inhibited little girl versus this very extroverted young woman. And by bringing those two together, that kind of fusion is created. The person that I am today is married to those aspects. I am not all good. I am not all bad. I am not looking for all good or all bad. As for my partner, I am looking for chemistry. I am looking for some sort of intimacy that is beyond what I have ever experienced before. I want to want my man like he has never been wanted before. And I want him to want me like I have never been wanted before, and there should be a genuine primal sexuality between us. That is what Alfa culture teaches: that there’s value in that primal sexuality. It is not something that we need to skate over with a bunch of books and a bunch of euphemisms. It is not something we need to be afraid of that we need to dress up in feminist terms. It is something that is very accessible and that is absolutely going to take your relationship to the next level; it just knocks it out of the park, as I said before.

Sean 

Yes, absolutely. That relationship you described You know, it sounds amazing. And I am wondering, you know, you teach a lot of guys; do you have any applicable steps or life changes that people can make to become this guy who’s kind of self-reliant and more attractive to women, more of that alpha male?

The swot analysis

Maya 

Absolutely. There are a couple of things you can do. And the first thing is what I call a SWOT analysis. And it is something that suits us a lot in boardrooms all over the world. And it is something that analyzes your strengths, your weaknesses, your opportunities, and your threats. And you start to look at your life and really break it down into concrete terms. And you put it all down on pen and paper. So, when I was looking at my life, I just moved to New York and was having trouble supporting myself economically. I was looking at my options, and I got this job dancing at Scores. I looked at my life and was like, What am I doing? I did a SWOT, and through doing a SWOT, I came to realize that I had a lot of strengths going for me: I was gutsy, and I was intelligent. I had nice legs. In terms of my weaknesses, I drank too much. So that was a major weakness. In terms of my opportunities. I had this incredible guy who was coming into the club every other night; he was ridiculously famous. And I saw him as an opportunity to exploit. And then, in terms of my threats, I had this group of high school friends that were just hanging around me like crazy. It was like stink on shit; I could not shake them; I could not get rid of them. And so, they were a major threat to my dating life and to getting to the next level. When I broke down that SWOT and started looking at things, I started applying my strengths, and my opportunities, and minimizing my weaknesses and my threats. That is when life started to get good. That was when life started to get fun. I noticed that I was not living in a shitty apartment in Brooklyn anymore. I was living in Soho. Yes, across from the Soho Grand, you know, this little girl from Ohio was living across in the Soho Grand; it was brilliant. And I was dating a major basketball star. And I was, you know, again, a little Podunk from nowhere. And I was spending time with all these people who were from all over the world and had all kinds of experiences and things to talk about. And it was not just talking about how we got drunk the other night; you know, it was not just talking about the person that we had been obsessed with for the past five years; it was talking about art and culture in the world. And it just blew my life apart. And it really has not been the same sense.

Sean 

Well, yes, that’s absolutely incredible advice. I think I’ve once heard of that SWOT analysis, but I have never had it explained to me, and I love it. I absolutely love it. I think that everyone can do that immediately after listening to this. And as you said, play your strengths, take your opportunities, and eliminate your weaknesses and threats. It is beautiful. I appreciate that so much.

Maya 

Oh, absolutely. You know, there is something else you can do. And that is a sexual inventory. And this is something that JD advises guys to do a lot. And it is looking at all of your relationships, again, getting out that pen and paper, looking at all of your relationships, from the first kiss you ever had to the latest relationship. However significant or insignificant it was, whether it was committed or one nightstand, you look at all of them, and you start to break out patterns that emerge. You know, a fear of commitment might emerge, or a lack of intimacy skills might emerge; sexual fears might emerge; inadequacy might emerge. This guy that I had the other day, you know, picked up and left his wife of 18 years for some slot halfway across the country. You know, that emerged when we did his sexual inventory. It is like, How do you not know who you are?

Sean 

Yes, no, that is awesome. I have never heard of that. But that is definitely something I’m going to look into. It is so funny how almost everything has to do with what I’m learning about self-improvement and growth. It comes down to a lot; a lot of things just require taking out the pen and paper. You know, I thought, I talked to big gurus and millionaires about their goal setting, and these guys get up every morning and they write down their goals on a pen and paper. They write down in a paragraph who they want to be. They write down what they are grateful for, and then it applies the same to their love life and sex life, but it is something that nobody does.

Maya 

It is tough. You know, it is like getting up at 5 a.m. to go to the gym every morning. It is like, Who really wants to do that? Well, nobody really wants to do that. Everybody wants to sleep in. You know, do I want to go down on my boyfriend tonight when I am feeling tired and just spent? No, I really do not. But it is the right thing to do. gift that keeps on giving, especially when I want it reciprocated tomorrow.

Advice on sex with a woman

Sean 

Absolutely. And that is one of the topics that I really wanted to dive into because we have talked so much about dating on the podcast, but we have never really talked about sex. And wow, I would love to hear a woman’s point of view on sex and what guys are typically doing wrong and how they can improve.

Maya 

Sure, you know, the biggest tip I can give for sex with a woman when you are just a straight-up man is to be aware of her anatomy. The vagina is the whole area, and the vulva is the whole area. It’s everything. So, when you are touching her, you are actually stimulating her vulva. When you open the lips and look inside, there is her clip, and you have to evaluate it like it’s the world’s tiniest little penis. So, if you punch it in the head like you are releasing a nuclear warhead, that is going to overstimulate her and totally shut her down. You have to approach the clip with the greatest reverence in the world. And that’s just knowledge of her anatomy and knowledge of how things kind of work down there—that when you are looking to get a woman off and into the next dimension in terms of her sexual life, you have to have complete reverence for her clitoral, for her anatomy, and for the ability to work her up into a lather. And that takes a number of steps to get her there. But that is like the airplane view of all of it.

Sean 

Yes, it is. It is incredible advice. And as soon as you said it, I thought, You know, 90% of guys who are listening to this do not know shit about the female anatomy, myself included. You know, like, it is just one of those things I just overlooked, I think, with, you know, how much people watch porn and everything. sexual encounters. Yes, a guy can go through twenty sexual encounters without ever really looking face-to-face out of his vagina.

Porn is not entertainment

Maya 

Yes, it is so true. And I believe, you know, that I am completely sex-positive. I am all for whatever gets you off. You know, as long as you are just staying safe, I am just for it in a big way. What happens with porn is that a lot of guys look at it. It is not entertainment. It is an instructional video. And it is just not the way that porn is filmed. I have been on porn sets. I know, porn stars were close. We trade war stories back and forth. The way that porn is shot is completely different from real sex. The way that the cameras are involved, yes, the techniques that are used, especially cunnilingus on porn, you know, I have something called porn tongue that I tell guys to be wary of. It is when you just stick your tongue out like a rod, and you do not have any circulation going to it. And you just jab at the clip. You know, it is a baseball with a baseball bat. Just beat the hell out of it. That is very, very bad. And we get that perception from porn.

Sean 

Yes, absolutely. And I imagine it would be difficult to describe over a podcast, but how can guys engage in, you know, pleasing their partners orally? Better, because I think the only way to learn is to practice makes perfect, or

Maya 

There is definitely some practice involved. But there is also like we were talking about before, knowledge of the female anatomy. And then there is something called the clock exercise that I recommend to a lot of guys. And that is when you are in a committed relationship or relationship where you are having sex regularly, you know, whether it’s a fling or what have you, but a relationship where she’s going to allow you access to her clitoral. And what you do is pretend like there is a clock on her clitoral area and stimulate all the areas of that clock. So, you stimulate the twelve; you stimulate the one, the two, the three, the four, and the five all the way back to twelve. And you are going to notice that she is going to have the most sensitivity right around 10. And two, because there is the greatest number of nerve bundles right there.

Sean 

Yes, that is what I was going to ask you.

Maya 

Yes, so she is going to be just giddy when you hit those two spots. There might also be some other spots that are just unique to her. and having that knowledge, just stimulating with your fingertip, your wet fingertip, will guide your efforts to go down on her because you are going to know where she is the most sensitive and go after that rigorously.

Sean 

Yeah, I learned that from Tim Ferriss. In his book, The Four Hour Body, he has a guide in there on giving a woman, you know, a 15-minute orgasm. Nice, and it is literally nothing else. But you know, getting in the correct position, getting her comfortable and able to relax—I feel like that is very important—getting your partner to just, you know, relax and not have any expectations of having to reach climax? Definitely. Yes, definitely. Yes, he talks about getting them to relax; you know, there is no pressure. And then he just stimulates the 10 o’clock, you know, upper left part of the clip that he says for just in a circular motion at a constant speed, picking up speed, just like for 15 minutes. And it is like he said, he has experimented on and got women who have never orgasms in their lives to orgasm for the first time just doing this alone. That is so phenomenal. Yes. So that is a really powerful tip and technique for anyone who wants to, you know, blow someone’s mind tonight.

Maya 

Yes, no, I mean, that is just so valid. We have so many perceptions of sex as being naughty and forbidden. And that is cool. Like when you are into sum and stuff like that, but it is not cool in your day-to-day sexual life. I mean, sex needs to be accessible. There needs to be some education involved. And you should have fun with it. I mean, it is meant to be fun. You know, I came across this hilarious website called Sex and Christ.com. And we were talking about it on the show the other day because it is nothing against Christianity at all. I was raised Catholic; I have just enough Catholicism in me to be naughty, but nothing against them. There is on sex and christ.com. They have biblical reasoning for going down on somebody. They have biblical reasoning for shaving your pubic hair. They even have the biblical reasoning for fisting. Wow. So, it is out there; the education is out there, in whatever form you want to get it. If you’re coming at it from a Christian perspective, it’s out there; if you’re coming at it from a Buddhist perspective, it’s out there. If you are just coming at it from a horse’s perspective, like me, it is out there.

Porn is not entertainment

Sean 

That is hilarious. I am definitely going to check that out. But, um, yes, you mentioned that being relaxed and enjoying it is so important. But I think a huge problem that a lot of guys have is that they are self-conscious. And they have a lot of sexual anxiety because they think they have a small dick. Based on excessive porn use and things like this. What would you say about that?

Maya 

I have encountered a lot of small dicks in my life. And I have encountered a lot of raging cockroaches in my life. And I have encountered everything in between—all the permutations in between. And I can say that one of the best facts of my life was meeting a guy with a tiny, tiny, tiny little dick. And the reason it was so good was that he knew how to work it. He just did. He also—I mean, this is funny. He had tattooed flames down the length of it and pierced it. So the first time we had sex, I think I came just for the novelty of it. And then, after we kept doing it repeatedly, he became my boyfriend. It was like, Wow, I am really enjoying the way this guy moves. I am really enjoying the confidence that he exudes, his knowledge of my body, and his ability to bring me to a climax by just asking me questions. He had a great question. Asker would ask me, Does this feel good? Does this feel good? Does this feel good? And then he had this amazing technique where I had to ask permission to come. And it was just so hot. I mean, it was just such a typical top relating to a typical bottom that it would just blow my mind away. I mean, it just blew my mind away. So there’s really nothing in terms of anatomy. I mean, there’s very little variation; I would say the majority of guys are dealing with five to six inches. And everything on either side of the spectrum is just whatever; you know, they are the outliers.

How to make up for a small dick

So if you’ve got a decent amount of girth, you can make up for length. If you have a decent amount of length, you can make up for girth. And if you have malleable fingers and dexterous hands, you can do anything you want.

The importance of telling your man you’re beautiful

Sean 

Yes, that’s incredible advice. And I think I just want to Repeat because what I took out of it is that this guy’s sexual confidence was one of the best things about your sex life, and his arm technique, you know, so it’s not really about sighs, and guys are so obsessed with it. It is, and it drives me crazy. I have people who email me all the time asking about that, like, What can I do? This, like penis enlargement, is such a huge topic. And it’s really, because, you know, guys watch porn and every other guy has a 10-inch stick. And it is going to make everyone feel like sh*t about themselves.

Maya 

But it does. Yeah, and I can say from the woman’s perspective, the tenant check is not fun. I dated a guy who was very well-endowed. And the first time we had sex, it was crazy. He could not even get it inside me. And I tried going down on him, but that was not effective. I tried jacking him off, but that was not effective either. There just was not enough lube to cover this thing. It was just too massive. And I was not woman enough, for lack of a better term to deal with it. I was a typical girl who went to bed with a monstrous caulk. And it just did not work. It did not flow. And he had all the confidence in the world and a lot of things going for him in terms of his ability to relate to me, but that big police officer just got in the way. And I have heard that from other women that the big, big, massive COC gets in the way; it’s painful. It is not fun, there is not a lot of play, and you can’t do a lot of positions because it just hits you the wrong way. There are women who like cervical stimulation; most women do not. So a big cock entering and rubbing her cervix is not going to make her day.

Sean 

Yes, and that is, you know, incredible, incredible advice. I am sure I am sure 1000s of guys listen to this, or, you know, have their eyes open right now, because you don’t hear about it. And when you do, you never know what to believe when you hear it in the media. So it’s great to hear from the source—you know, from a woman herself who’s been through everything—and to know that you’re one of your best sexual lovers. You know, it was a guy with a small dick who just knew what he was doing, was confident, and had a great time with it. That is everything. That is why That’s what everyone should strive for: to be completely free, relaxed, and sexually confident and just enjoy it. If you are not enjoying it, then what is the point?

Maya 

Yes, we are supposed to have fun. And that is one great aspect of the Alpha lifestyle: it is fun. And just to kind of piggyback on what we were talking about before with the relaxation, For a lot of women, the way that they smell is something that just freaks them out. And they think that they need to do all this crazy shit to their policy to make it smell good. And a flower. Smelling pussycat is just wrong. In my book. I’ve been with women, and it just doesn’t work. And so, with her misconceptions and her hang-ups about the way she smells, sometimes the best thing you can do for a woman is to tell her she smells great. And to tell her you love the way her body moves, because then she is going to kind of step back from some of those misperceptions about the way she lines up next to a supermodel. Yes. You know, I hear so often from guys that they do not care about the cellulite. They do not care if the boobs are not, you know, Double D’s. They just want someone who is proportionate and with whom they can move. And I think the same is true with women. They want somebody with whom they can move. And by move, I mean, like, get it on. Yes, absolutely.

Sean 

And this is something that just popped into my head. You know, I owe this to JD; he gave me a great question. When I was interviewing another girl, Kezia Noble, who is a female dating coach, And he told me to ask her if all beautiful women, no matter what they look like, are, at some level, self-conscious about their looks.

Maya 

All women are, and it does not matter how beautiful or how unattractive they are. All women are, and that is just the world we live in. You know, to get really heady and intellectual on it. I would say that it is the way we are socialized. It is based on social and historical norms. But for every woman growing up, especially in the United States, there is a heavy emphasis on the way that you look. That is something that men are really only starting to experience. I mean, it is only recently that guys have begun to have plastic surgery, and everyone is working out, and guys are becoming so conscious of the way that they look physically. That is Something that women have always carried throughout the centuries. It is just a burden. And it really ties down a lot of women and allows them to get really nervous. And they do not know how to have fun anymore. So sometimes the best thing you can do for a girl other than tell her she smells good and moves well is to tell her how much fun she is. How much do you love being around her? Yes, how much she just stimulates the hell out of you.

Sean 

Yes, absolutely. It is incredible advice. You know, there are probably so many couples out there that the last time they told their wife or girlfriend that she was beautiful may have been a month ago, and they wonder why their sex life is just not where it used to be. So I think that’s something great to take away from the show.

Maya 

Yes, it is just completely valid on so many levels. And I think that women can apply it to their dating lives; it is very important to say to your man, You know how sexy you are, and how much I love that ass, and how much I want to hit it, to talk dirty to them. Because men respond so well to dirty talk. It is like we are getting ready to have a show explicitly about dirty talk. Because we have so much of it, so many people get the biggest kick out of it, especially guys.

Sean 

And that is on the Playboy radio. Yes,

Maya 

The show is called Head Games. And it is on Wednesdays at, I think, three o’clock, but you can always access it by podcast. With the Playboy radio membership, which is like $499 a month, it is insignificant.

Sean 

Yes, it is nothing. And you know, after doing this podcast, and I am sure people are listening to it, I am definitely interested in hearing what you have to say about everything. You know, I love your attitude; you are very open; you sound like a free spirit, and it’s beautiful. Oh, thank you. And you are knowledgeable. So it’s kind of like, you know, you know exactly what you’re talking about.

Maya 

No, I try not to shoot, you know, too much out of sight of my neck. You know, it is good to know what you’re talking about when you’re talking about dating because it’s something that is so specific. There are such specific tools to use that you need that toolbox; you need somebody to guide and mentor you as to what goes in the toolbox and what you use in what situation. I was talking to a guy yesterday who was saying that the most helpful thing he ever had in his life was when he was about nine years old. He had a mentor who was just a total pimp. And he was like an old-school pimp, and he taught him everything he knew about women. And this little nine-year-old boy is learning all this stuff about women. He said it shaped the rest of his life. It shaped the course of his life. And he ended up becoming a renowned pickup artist. So you know, there’s really only a couple of, like, just perfect moves. And you can learn those that can be taught.

Sean 

Yes, absolutely. And we definitely hit the nail right on the head with what I want us to achieve with this podcast. I learned so much. And people are going to be able to really change their sexual lives based on this alone. So I’m just so grateful for it. Thank you so much. Oh, of course, anytime. Yes. And why don’t you go over where people can find you and listen to you more, you know?

Maya 

Yes. Well, I have my own website. It is Maya Jordan.com. And you can pick up all kinds of tips and tricks. JD also writes for that website. So there’s lots of stuff on there. And then you can check me out on modernmalelifestyle.com, which is the JDS website. We have a number of products that we’ve done together, one of which is called the perfect date. And there are audio CDs. There is another one called Interview with a Stripper, where I go into some of the finer points of taking your clothes off for money. And basically, it’s all out there for the taking. And it is only a couple of bucks. And then you can also catch me on Playboy Radio on Wednesdays or the BI podcast 24/7. So I’m always there for you guys.

Sean 

That is awesome. How do people find the Playboy Radio website? Yes, it is

Maya 

playboy. radio.com. Okay. We are all over Facebook and Twitter. I mean, they have just as great a social media presence. You can Instagram me, you can Facebook me, you can tweet me—there’s all kinds of stuff, and you can get me through Playboy or you can get me on my own.

Sean 

And this is affiliated with Playboy. Yes, that is awesome. I mean, since now I am friends with JD and you, I think I deserve to get to some Playboy Mansion parties.

Maya 

That is its goal.

Sean 

Yes, just yes. See what I can do. Have you been there?

Maya 

I have not, but a lot of the radio people have, and I am pretty new to Playboy. So it’s all up in the air.

Sean 

Yes. Yes, it is definitely on my list, though. Definitely one of my goals is getting No mention. Yes, but thank you so much. This has been impressive. It has been a pleasure. I appreciate it so much. Oh, of course anytime, Sean. Great talking to you. It was great meeting you. I hope you guys enjoyed this episode as much as I did. And if you want to learn more about how to improve your life, make sure you head to www.menprovement.com and check out all of our articles on everything from sex and dating to health and fitness. And get your free eBook on how to triple your testosterone in three months.

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