Have you ever had a crush on a girl, but she didn’t like you back quite as much? All you could think about was that one girl. She was ideal inside and out. If you could get her to be your girlfriend, your life would be complete, right?
But she’s not all that into you. If you are trying to use the law of attraction to get the girl you want, things may get a bit tricky, but I will explain that later.
The great writer, Ralph Waldo Emerson, once wrote that the ancestor of every action is a thought. Our dominant thoughts form our attitudes and drive us to take major actions in life. So, our thoughts are critical to our success in life.
Manifestation techniques and positive visualization are based on these principles. When it comes to dating and relationships, you need the right mindset to manifest women. You see, when you sit across from a pretty girl at a bar and assume, “She has a boyfriend,” or “If I approached her, she would shut me down” you are sabotaging yourself.
The right mindset stays positive and sees success before it even occurs. Even if you’re wrong, you improved your abilities for the next time. You can manifest your positive reality by starting with your thoughts. Here is how to use the law of attraction to get a girlfriend or manifest women of your dreams:
1) Affirm Your New Reality
The first tip I want to give you is how to put yourself into the right energy state. You first need to become what you are trying to attract. Condition yourself to become what you want to be rather than what you currently are. So if you suck with girls it’s because your current identity is one of a guy who doesn’t get laid.
If you start to assume the new identity first, it will be easier to take action. The incongruence between who you are trying to be and who you feel you are will start to disappear.
Here are 2 most powerful steps I know that will help you to make the transition and manifest women effortlessly:
Go to YouTube and find a good list of affirmations of your new self.
Before you go to bed, play it out loud.
Try to actively listen to affirmations, by imagining and feeling how it would be like to be this new person. See how you would walk, talk, what kind of women you would interact with and how they would react to you.
Do it every night for at least one month
Your reality will change, whether you are trying to get a girlfriend or you are using the law of attraction to get laid. As you go about that process, you start to condition your mind into believing this is a part of who you are.
Don’t get me wrong, you still have to take action and make this happen. The action from this place becomes much more effortless because it is in alignment with what you believe yourself to be.
2) Become What You Are Trying to Attract
Deepak Chopra says, “Instead of searching for The One, become The One.” Men and women alike get caught up in the concept of searching for a prototype in a partner.
That’s why lots of people look at dating sites like online shopping. You’re looking for surface-level features- a petite spinner blonde under 5’5 or a brunette with green eyes.
To manifest the women you want, go deeper and become your best self to attract your high-quality counterpart. Before you start seeking a girl who loves fitness and rocks abs, ask yourself, “Do I actually make my personal fitness a priority?”
Before you seek an intellectual female, ask yourself, “Do I partake in self-education? Love is like a mirror for all of us. We attract the qualities we possess ourselves on a subconscious level, based on The Law of Attraction.
Challenge yourself to see why you attract certain people or even lose some in the process.
How to Use Law of Attraction For Love
Additionally, The Law of Attraction does not merely state that like attracts like. It states that we attract people who are on the same frequency. If you want to be with a woman who possesses unique feminine charms and qualities, harness the core of your masculinity.
It may sound old-fashioned for some of us, but when we seek relationships with male-female dynamics, we need to dive into our identity as a man or woman. Just tap into your masculine instincts- opening doors for her, pulling out her chair, putting your arm around her.
Leave yourself with the questions, “How can I attract an elegant woman by becoming my best self?” “What qualities do I naturally possess that women want?” and “Am I currently attracting the right females? Why or why not?”
Remember, actions speak louder than words. Acting upon your responses to these questions is a step in the right direction. Realize That You Don’t Need Anyone to Feel Complete. If you come from a frame of mind of, “how do I get a girlfriend”, there is a resistance there, cause you are acknowledging that that girl is not here right now. That resistance acts as a barrier.
When you see a person you really attracted to you start to behave in ways that make her run away from you. That’s why it is so important to be firmly established in your own frame, and be happy in your own life before you set out to attract a partner. If you live your life in your own movie, not as a cameo in someone else’s, you stop being at the effect of that person and start acting at the cause.
3) Get Clear About What You Want
If you are practicing manifestation techniques to attract a woman (or multiple), you need to get specific about what you’re looking for.
Sometimes people actually end up manifesting what they think they wanted, and then they realized they were wrong! It might be beneficial for you to spend some time being single through a dating detox, and use this time to assess what you really want in a woman.
Write a list of all of the traits you seek in your ideal female, but be realistic. The perfect woman doesn’t exist, but you can find the one that is right for you!
4) Take Action to Manifest Women
Once you’ve assessed what you’re looking for, it’s time to step out into the jungle. You won’t find what you’re looking for if you’re Netflixing and chilling on Friday night. You need to take action.
Fill your life with social activities, keep your eyes open for women of interest, and take your time in getting to know them. Start initiating the pursuit. Manifesting won’t work if you stay in a bubble and live in your comfort zone.
5) Make an Energy Shift
Our bodies are actually energy fields that can be incredibly powerful. In order to attract the right people into your life, you need to shift your energy to be in alignment with what you want.
If you wake up each day feeling discouraged, thinking, “Why am I still single?” you will attract a relationship at a much slower pace. If you wake up each day feeling grateful and powerful, thinking, “My life is awesome,” you will attract the opportunities you seek.
As the philosopher and poet, Rumi, once wrote, “What you seek is seeking you.” Shift your energy through becoming the affirmations you create for yourself. “I am powerful.” “I am confident.” “I have tapped into the ultimate masculine energy.”
Taking it a step further, your energy does not say, “I want a relationship.” It says, “I’m in a relationship.” Then, people start responding to you differently, and when this is done effectively it is almost instantaneous.
6) Let Go of an Attachment to a Specific Outcome
This is by far the most important part of this article, so listen up. Are you attracted to a specific girl? Can’t you stop thinking about her? You have to let her go.
I know this is not something you want to hear, but when you let her go, you also let go of the expectation and neediness that are holding you back. You still may have an intention to be with her. But you have to get to a place where it is ok if it happens with her or someone else. When you drop all the resistance you maximize your chance of success with her.
The moment you will stop chasing and pursuing her, start having fun with your friends, and dating other people, she is much more likely to hit you up. You can’t fake this though.
As mentioned before, the best way to go about it is to focus on bettering yourself. When you focus on yourself, not only do you detach from the outcome. You also raise your dating market value and make yourself a better potential partner to other women.
When manifesting your desires through these techniques, it’s important to detach after you develop your mindset and vision. Let go of stress and detach from results, but stay with positive self-expectancy. The woman of your dreams is right around the corner.