“You are entitled to know that two entities occupy your body. One of these entities is motivated by and responds to the impulse of fear. The other is motivated by and responds to the impulse of faith. Will you be guided by faith or will you allow fear to overtake you?”
– Napoleon Hill
#1 – The Struggle Within
If you want to master anything in life there are two things you need to get a hold of:
- the practical skills of the thing you are trying to master.
- mastering your mind, being able to control your emotions, and regulate your behavior
It’s the second one that most people struggle with.
Whenever you set out to do something that is radically outside of your comfort zone, you will often be met with resistance – the destructive force that wants to pull you back into your place.
While there is one part of you that feels constructive – that wants to move forward in life, build a business, make more money, get an amazing girlfriend.
It may also feel like there is another part of you that is destructive.
Whatever progress you make on your way to those goals, you will find a way to smash it down so at the end of the day your net result is 0.
How can this be? And how do you escape that constant cycle of building things up and smashing them down?
#2 – Escaping The Pattern
Here is the good news, everyone goes through these cycles so there is nothing wrong with you.
This is homeostasis at work – something we briefly touched upon in previous articles, but I wanted to elaborate on this further.
Remember, your mind’s main objective is to keep you alive right now. It doesn’t understand the concept of the future. It only cares about surviving in the present moment.
Homeostasis is a self-preservation mechanism. And it does its job so well, that it doesn’t want you to change… even if the change you want to make is positive.
It brings you back to your set point without knowing whether the setpoint is good, or bad.
“If you’re used to being depressed and that’s what got you through the day – depression will always be your setpoint – no matter what the external circumstances are.”
#3 – Your Mind as a Thermostat
The thermostat’s main job is to maintain equilibrium.
When the temperature in a room reaches a certain peak, it switches off, when the temperature goes below a certain level it kicks back in.
There is no randomness to how the thermostat functions, and there is no randomness to how your mind operates.
Therefore, the problem is not with the thermostat but with its setting. So following this analogy, what are the current set points in your mind?
In every facet of life, you have a predefined setting, that governs what you are comfortable with.
When the temperature goes below a certain level it kicks back in.
Let’s take money as an example. You likely have a “peak” number and a “panic” number when it comes to your bank balance.
You have experienced your peak number anytime that you have had a surplus of cash. Let’s say your bank balance is typically set at $1000 and you make an extra $500. Now you find yourself spending unnecessarily until you, very quickly, find yourself back at $1000.
Let’s say that your panic number is $500. When your bank balance reaches this number, all of a sudden you find yourself being more productive. You start saving and coming up with creative ways of making money.
If you average those two numbers (panic number and peak number) – this is probably where the majority of your time is spent. But if you want to go beyond that, you must change the settings in your mind.
Also, remember that I used money as an example. This pattern is present throughout all of your life. From the cleanliness of your room to the state of your sex life.
#4 – Action Item: Breaking Out of Homeostasis
That will help you to zoom out and get a more truthful perspective about where you’re getting stuck and how to get past that hurdle.
Identify your panic and peak number in every area of your life that you are trying to improve, that’s your first step to actually getting unstuck in life.
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Speak soon, man!