How to Make My Girlfriend Cum Like Never Before

A couple of years back, I was watching 50 Shades Of Grey, and I had a light bulb moment… I realized the leading man knew exactly what he was doing beneath the sheets and gave all the women such incredible orgasms, and I found myself thinking, 

Man, I wish I had THAT playbook! 🎬🍿 

It was the day my life changed. I studied everything I could about the female body and sex. Fast forward, I am a sex coach who has given dozens of women screaming orgasms and has many courses in which I teach guys to achieve the same results.

Nowadays, so many dudes keep pondering “how to make my girlfriend cum”  while they don’t know what the f*ck they are doing in the first place…

That’s why I wrote this epic guide that’s going to teach you EXACTLY how to make your girlfriend cum like never before…

key takeaways

  • Focus on stimulating the G-spot with fingering, penetration, or sex toys
  • Ask her how she likes to masturbate and copy it
  • Positions like missionary stimulate the g-spot and, therefore, female orgasms

Anatomy 101: The Sexy Edition

Infographic of the female anatomy

Before we get all hot and heavy, let’s start with the basics, shall we? I mean, you wouldn’t try to build a bookshelf without knowing where the screws go, right? 😉 

Understanding female anatomy is crucial to achieving an earth-shattering vaginal orgasm. The clitoris is the star of the show. It’s not just a tiny button; it’s an extensive organ that extends into the body, with nerve endings galore. 

And then there’s the G-spot, which, despite the controversies surrounding it, has its own fan club. Some women find stimulation there mind-blowing

For now, these two areas are the only ones you need to know. It will be more than enough for you to unlock the secrets of the female orgasm.

Female anatomy; the g spot

Why Making Her Cum is a Game-Changer

We live in a digital era so if you can Google the best burger joints in town, you should be able to understand how to achieve vaginal orgasms.

Not only does it strengthen the bond between you and your partner, but it also boosts her confidence and sexual satisfaction in the relationship. After all, great sex is like that seasoning that adds an extra zing to your favorite dish.

Now, here’s the kicker. We all know that being great beneath the sheets isn’t as straightforward as following a recipe. That’s why investing time and even considering tools like sex toys or seeking advice from a sex therapist might just give you that edge. Trust me, the returns on this investment are… explosive.

So, you’re thinking, “Alright, Mr. Expert, you’ve got my attention. How do I become the master of the bedroom?” 

Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered.

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How To Make My girlfriend Cum: Easy Mode

I remember once, way back, trying to impress a date by cooking her favorite dish. Did I follow the recipe? No. Did it taste as good as I expected? Absolutely not. 

That dinner taught me a valuable lesson: It’s not just about the end product; it’s about following each step of the process. 

Now, replace that dish with your girlfriend’s pleasure, and you’re starting to get the picture.

That’s why you need to read this entire article and not just skip to the end.

#1 Slow Down, Cowboy 

First things first.

Studies have shown that women, on average, take longer than men to achieve orgasm. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. 

Dr. Alfred Kinsey, a famed sexologist, once noted that while men typically take around 5-10 minutes to climax, many women can take up to 20 minutes or more. That’s like the difference between a microwave meal and a slow-cooked roast!

Here’s a little story from my playbook. Once, during a romantic getaway, I took things slow. Reaaaal slow… Instead of diving straight in, I focused on setting the mood, engaging in prolonged foreplay, and prioritizing her pleasure. I learned that for females, it’s not about how fast you get there but the build-up towards sex
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#2 Ignite Her Outer Desires

Nature’s little magic button. 

By the way, it is not so little; research shows that the clitoris is an extensive structure that extends internally around the vagina. Now, while vaginal orgasm is great, about 75% of women report needing clitoral stimulation to climax, according to a study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

So how can you stimulate the clitoris?

I am glad you asked.

The Vulcan Move 🔥

This is probably the easiest way to make your girlfriend cum, you’ll need to have your lady taking the lead – think of positions like Cowgirl or Missionary. She’s on top, just like she’s riding the waves.

Now, here’s where you get involved. Slide your hand down your stomach with your palm against your belly. When you reach your penis, spread those fingers apart, making a “V” shape (Think of Mr. Spock’s Vulcan salute from Star Trek 🖖).

Your pinky and ring fingers will be on one side, while the index and middle fingers land on the other. As you push down, your knuckles should ideally graze her clitoris. With the natural hardness of your knuckles, it’s like turning the pleasure dial-up when she leans into it.

Jakub’s Tip:

Some ladies might find your knuckles a tad too rough. In that case, adjust your hand a bit, so she’s grinding against a softer part.

It’s a straightforward trick but could be the ticket to bringing her that clitoral pleasure during the main event. 😉👌🏼

Rubbing the Clit

Another one of my favorites is to simply rub her clit. When it comes to the clit, it’s your artist’s canvas. You can rub it up and down, side-to-side, or freestyle it. 

fingering technique: rubbing the clit

Now, a word of advice: ALWAYS keep things slick. 

Lube is like the secret sauce to avoiding the burn of friction. If nature’s got you covered, you can use her natural wetness as your in-game lube. But if things get a bit Sahara-desert dry, keep a lube bottle handy on the nightstand.

Not sure how she likes her stimulation? Don’t worry, Sherlock; it’s all about observing and adapting. Does she prefer direct contact or a tease around the edges? Maybe she likes a light touch, or perhaps she’s all about the pressure? Slow or fast, or a mix? The secret is tuning in to her signals or, better yet, having a good chat.

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If you’re in the mood for some back-door action (talking about the doggy style, gentlemen), you can mix this technique

Next move? 

Gentle Clitoral Teases

It’s like painting a masterpiece. Start at the base of her vagina, slide up to her clit, and let her guide you in rhythm and pressure. This move not only feels heavenly but is also a natural way to wet your finger with her juices. Experiment with your strokes – try different pressures, and speeds, and even reverse the direction.

fingering technique: gentle clitorus teases

As for the number of fingers? 

Start with one and work your way up, depending on her preferences and what feels right so I suggest you keep the lines of communication open.

Vibes on Her Hotspot

Using a vibrator on her magic button is like giving it a gentle tickle with your fingertip, similar to the pro move I mentioned earlier. Here’s your cheat sheet on the vibes:

  • You can gently press the tip on one side of her clit (almost like a delicate game of tag)
  • You can give a mini-massage by moving it back and forth over her clitoris.
  • Or go on a merry-go-round by swirling it slowly or rapidly around her clit.

But remember, every lady’s preference is as unique as her fingerprint. Some might just want that buzzing buddy to stay put while others might think the battery is dead.

Oral Sex is Your Best Friend

If people ask me how to eat pussy I always tell them to use the pancake technique since it is ridiculously easy.

The essence?

Keep that tongue of yours relaxed, spread out, and flat. Imagine it like a pancake (hence the name). Start by positioning the base of your tongue at her vulva’s bottom. Ensure it’s wet (think saliva-soaked) and then, using your head, move up from her vagina’s base to the top, making sure your tongue goes from its base right up to her clit.

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Now, and this is vital – let your tongue chill out. Don’t make it do gymnastics; keep it wide and flat. 

Your head? 

That’s where the magic happens – it leads the movement. This technique guarantees that a large part of her vulva gets the loving attention it deserves, pushing her closer to that girl orgasm.

Two big questions often pop up:

What’s the tongue game plan while my head moves?

Keep it as flat as a pancake. No fancy flicks, no curling – just nice, flat, and relaxed as you’re giving her the time of her life.

How hard should I go?

Start gentle, almost like a feather. Contrary to what some believe, more pressure doesn’t necessarily mean a better woman’s orgasm. 

Start off light – barely there, really – and feel her reactions. Listen for her moans, her quickened breath, or even how she grips those sheets. If you sense she needs more, slowly increase the pressure. 

But always remember: aim for the least pressure that’ll send her over the edge.
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But always remember: aim for the least pressure that’ll send her over the edge.

#3 Spice Up the Sex Positions

You know, it’s funny; I used to think the Kama Sutra was a type of spicy Indian curry. But turns out, it’s all about steamy sex positions.

Different positions can enhance sexual pleasure, especially for your lady. Scientifically, certain positions can lead to better clitoral stimulation and, thus, increase the chances of a female orgasm. 

For instance, positions that allow for pelvic grinding against the clit, like the Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.), have been backed by sex and relationship therapists to increase the odds of orgasm during penetrative sex. 👇🏼

Another position to consider is the missionary but with a pillow under her hips—elevation can be a game-changer.

missionary sex position

And if those two won’t do the trick, here are a couple more sex positions that focus on stimulating the clitoris

  • Woman on Top (Cowgirl)
  • Reverse Cowgirl
  • Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.)
  • Butterfly
  • Lotus
  • Grinding Missionary (with pelvic grind)

#4 Worship That Booty 🍑

Okay, gentlemen, let’s venture into a slightly “behind the scenes” topic if you catch my drift. 🍑 

Now, not everyone’s into anal play, and that’s A-okay. But for those curious or interested, there’s a world to explore. 

Scientifically, the anus has a dense concentration of nerve endings, making it highly sensitive. When done right (and with consent), anal sex or even just a little external play can heighten pleasure for some. 

Some women I know told me that clitoral stimulation with some light external anal play can be quite the explosive combo.

But, and this is a BIG but(t), always ensure you and your partner are on the same page. Won’t want to give her any… surprises…

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#5 Keep Those Lips Busy 💋

Couple kissing on yacht

Let’s put it this way: imagine watching your favorite action movie, but every time there’s about to be an epic explosion, the scene cuts. 

Frustrating, right? 

That’s how some women feel when the kissing stops just as things are getting steamy. Maintaining the act of kissing is like keeping the engine running – it’s what fuels the fire and intensifies the connection. 

Think about the electrifying feeling of a passionate kiss; it can be the very bridge between sexual tension and a woman’s orgasm. I once heard a woman say, 

“If he kisses me as he fucks me, I’ll definitely cum” 

So, whether you’re aiming for the clitoral climax or hoping to see your woman cum from other forms of stimulation, don’t underestimate the power of a sensual kiss.💋

#6 Dive Into G-Spot Magic

Ever heard of that legendary treasure hunters dream about? No, I’m not talking about the Fountain of Youth or the Lost City of Gold. I’m talking about the elusive G-spot. You see, the G-spot is sort of like the X on a treasure map. 

Hit it right, and you’re in for some gold – metaphorically speaking, of course…

Research, like the one done by Dr. Beverly Whipple (yeah, she’s the cool scientist who actually gave the G-spot its name), suggests that stimulating this area can lead to strong, profound orgasms for many women. Located a few inches inside on the front wall of the vagina, the G-spot has been described by many as a spongy, coin-sized area.

Female anatomy; the g spot

Tease her G Spot

As you can imagine, fingering a girl and hitting her G-Spot can be a bit difficult.

Her G-spot is like a hidden treasure, located about two inches inside her, on the front wall of her vagina. Think of it as a sneaky backdoor to her clitoris from the inside. Yes, mate, it’s the double whammy of pleasure – hitting her clit from the outside and accessing it internally through the G-spot.

Now, if you’re diving in there thinking, “Where the heck is it?” – look for a slightly bumpy or ridged area, kinda like grapes, flanked by some smoother areas (think of them as the “gutters”) Bingo! 

That’s her G-spot. 

And a quick tip from a bro to another, if she’s super turned on, that G-spot swells up a bit, making it easier for you to find. It’s like the universe’s way of giving you a helping hand! 

A lot of women do enjoy a little backdoor entrance — no, not that one! I’m talking about being fingered from behind, specifically on the opposite side of her G-spot.  👇🏼
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So if you have never done this before, I recommend trying the technique shown in the picture above.

Fingering techniques 3: teasing the g spot

Aim & Pleasure During Sex

I’ve drummed into your head about firing up the G-spot when you’re getting handsy or aiming for that grand finale squirt. But how do you nail it during sex?

The magic trick?

It’s all in the angle. Like shooting hoops or getting that perfect selfie angle, the devil’s in the details. The G-spot isn’t hiding in the deep end – it’s just a few inches in. So, no need to think you’ve got to go “deep-sea diving” or have a monster-sized dick to hit the mark. 

infographic explaining how to stimulate the g spot during sex

Heck, you can even tease it with your fingers. 🖐️

Your goal should be to skim the surface, not dive to the ocean floor. Focus on those shallower thrusts, letting your dick glide past her G-spot each time. And hey, if she’s craving more, all you need is a little tweak in the angle. 🎯🔥

#7 Whisper Those Naughty Thoughts…

Here’s a page from my playbook that has never let me down: talking dirty. I remember the first time I tried it – felt like a cat trying to bark. But once you get the hang of it? Man, it’s like having a secret weapon in the bedroom.

Words, my friend, can be a POWERFUL aphrodisiac. Think of it as setting the mood through sound, instead of lights and music. Saying things like, 

“I love the sounds you make when I’m inside you.”


“I want you to drain every last drop of come from me.”

Can ramp up the sexual tension faster than you can say “Netflix and chill.” 

If your girlfriend likes rough sex and wants you to be dominant you can try  to take it even a step further with lines like:

“I’m going to show you who owns this pussy.”

“Don’t you dare come until I tell you to, understand?”

So the next time you’re between the sheets, don’t just let your body do the talking. Let her know how much you’re into it. You’ll be surprised at how much she’ll appreciate the soundtrack. 

#8 Slide Smooth with Lube

lube for during sex

Many women, even those who experience high levels of physical arousal, sometimes need a little help in the lubrication department. It’s science! 🧪

A study showed that direct stimulation, especially during vaginal penetration, can be enhanced significantly with the aid of lubrication. It minimizes friction, maximizes pleasure, and can even help many women reach orgasm more effectively. 

Believe me, no one wants a ‘dry run’ during a sexual encounter. 
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A dollop of good-quality lube can be the difference between a good time and a great time. 💦

#9 Bring Out the Bedroom Gadgets (Sex Toys)

Ever tried using power tools for a DIY project? Game changer, right? Now, imagine that kind of upgrade in the bedroom. Yep, we’re talking sex toys.

Contrary to some old-school thinking, introducing toys isn’t a sign of inadequacy. In fact, research indicates that couples who integrate toys into their routines often experience heightened satisfaction

Whether it’s a vibrator, which can deliver unparalleled levels of stimulation, or other toys designed to enhance pleasure and arousal, it’s all about maximizing the experience. And trust me, there’s nothing like the thrill of discovery when you’re trying out a new gadget with your partner. It’s like Christmas morning, but 100x hotter. 🎁🔥

#10 Let Her Take the Wheel

Sometimes, in the pursuit of sexual pleasure, letting your partner steer the ship can be the smartest move you make. Remember, she’s got the ‘user manual’ to her own body.

Research has shown that many women achieve clitoral orgasm more easily when they’re guiding the stimulation. So, kick back and let her show you her favorite ways to rev up that engine.

By allowing her to take control, you not only boost her confidence but also amp up the sexual tension in the room. It’s a mix of vulnerability and trust, and dude, that combo is dynamite! 💥 Plus, it can be super enlightening to see firsthand how she likes her G spot or other areas tended to.
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Wrapping Up

Getting your partner to that peak of pleasure is about mastering the art of the right positions, like the tried-and-true missionary. 

But if you’re looking for a direct route, nothing beats a well-executed finger technique combined with some skilled clitoral stroking. Keep experimenting, keep communicating, and you’ll get there. 👌

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  • Watch her become addicted to the orgasms only YOU can give her.
  • Guaranteed to work on ALL women.


Yes, many women often find it more challenging to reach orgasm than men due to various physiological, emotional, and situational factors.

The most effective way varies per individual, but consistent clitoral stimulation, open communication, and a relaxed environment are key factors.

Yes, women can experience multiple orgasms in one session, but the frequency and intensity vary among individuals.

Yes, orgasms can provide physical relief, reduce stress, and enhance emotional well-being for many women.

Absolutely! Many women are capable of experiencing multiple orgasms, though the recovery time can vary.

The refractory period varies for everyone. While some may be ready for round 2 immediately, others might need hours. Communication and understanding your partner’s needs are crucial.

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