How to Keep Your Wife Happy (6 Tips She WANTS You to Know) [From Her]

How to Keep Your Wife Happy (6 Tips She WANTS You to Know) [From Her]

How to Keep Your Wife Happy (6 Tips She WANTS You to Know) [From Her]

how to keep your wife happy

With 40%-50% of nuptials ending in custody battles, financial disputes and ridiculous questions such as “Who Has to De-Worm the Dog?” many young adults are rightly turned off by the idea of choosing one person to be miserable with for the rest of their life.

However, just like the single scene, married life has its perks. In fact, research shows that a happy and successful marriage is often synonymous with a happy and successful career. And a lot of husbands out there want to know what they can do to make, and keep, their wives happy. It may seem like a daunting task, but it’s not.

Here are some simple tips on how to keep your wife happy, and ultimately you happy:

1) Listen. JUST listen. That’s all. Don’t fix it. Don’t worry. Listen.

The reason most men get this wrong is that they are trying to do the right thing. That’s commendable.  They immediately sense their woman is unhappy and they want to fix it, but sometimes listening is not an action verb. If you’re empathetically fuming, asking questions, and touching her shoulder a lot, you’re doing it wrong. If you’re nodding along while she waves her arms around like an air dancer in a hurricane, you’re doing it right. It’s cathartic for her, that’s all.

So the next time your wife yells or throws a dish against the wall because someone stole her thunder at work, just say “Babe that sucks, I’m sorry” and nod along.

Word to the Wise: If your wife vents to you and not to her best friend, count yourself very, very lucky. That means she trusts you, and talking to you makes her feel better. Congrats You! 

2) Help her with the little things.

A lot of husbands forget this because the tasks you engage in with chivalry when you’re dating, don’t necessarily exist in marriage.

For example grocery shopping; I can’t count how many times I’ve seen a husband and wife grocery shopping and the husband gets in the car without taking the grocery cart back to the rack. If you went to the grocery store on a date (which would be weird) you can guarantee that guy would take that cart. See what I mean? Just because marital tasks don’t often exist in the dating world doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be approached with the same chivalry in the wedded world.

Word to the Wise: Refrain from doing spontaneous cleaning around the house. Many women (myself included) tend to see un-requested household help as an insult to our skill as a homemaker (even if we never wanted to be a damn homemaker to begin with). I digress. The point: don’t run the risk of insulting her by saying “The Kitchen was dirty so I cleaned it”. You’ll also run the risk of doing it wrong. Instead, ASK her if you can help with anything around the house.

3) Let her interests be HER interests

You and your wife were single folks before you met and married. This means you both had some interests apart from each other. Interests that you still have. It’s tempting to want to show love by being a part of those activities, but DON’T, unless you’re asked. Everyone needs a sanctuary, whether it’s the gym, a movie theater, or writing behind a closed door all day.

Word to the Wise: If she doesn’t ask you to join in these activities, DON’T take it personally; think of it as her time to re-charge her love machine.

4) When something incredible, fun, or exciting happens. Tell her first.

This is HUGE. HUGE. We, women, rank our loved ones and best friends by who we call first when we have good news. More than likely your wife tells you first because that’s how she shows you that you’re the most important person in her life.

Start returning the favor. I guarantee she’ll be feeding you chicken wings while wearing a negligee.

Word to the Wise: If you’re only doing it for the chicken wings and negligee, you need to reassess your goals as a husband.

5) Praise her, even when she isn’t around

Okay, Okay. I know you don’t want to just randomly blurt out “My wife is a great rock climber!” at your next public outing. That’s not what I mean. Casually working little spousal praises into conversations can go a long way in showing your spouse how much you respect and admire them. WHY? Because the next time she runs into your friends, they’ll treat her differently than if you had just complained about her nagging and bitching all the time.

Word to the Wise: Focusing on the good, even when you don’t want to, also helps you build positive connotations with your spouse. It’s a good way to keep the love alive.

6) Stop looking at sex in quantity

A common myth in marriage is that there is less sex. In fact, studies show that married couples have more sex than unmarried individuals. There are a lot of theories as to why. Here’s one: When you’re dating you see each other much less than when you’re married. So it only seems that you were having more sex before marriage simply because each time you saw each other, you boinked!

Studies have shown that men prefer married sex because quality is better than quantity. Focus on telling your wife you love the sex you have, not complaining about the sex you don’t have.

Word to the Wise: Would you rather have a dozen slightly inhibited, awkward, decent bangs a month or an uninhibited, stress-relieving, costume involving, multiple-orgasm-having shag once or twice a week?
I thought so.

Even with these tips marriage isn’t a cakewalk. However, if you focus on the bad, you’ll miss out on all the good. While it may take a while to turn these tips into habits, the reward will be worth it. Don’t be surprised if exercising these habits results in some surprise shower sex; wives love payback.

Sources and Resources:

1) How to Keep Your Wife Happy in the Bedroom

2) Sexual Fantasies Many Women Want FulFilled

3) Bonus – Keep Your Wife Extra Happy – Learn to Give an Expert Sensual Massage

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10 thoughts on “How to Keep Your Wife Happy (6 Tips She WANTS You to Know) [From Her]”

    • Hey John – Sorry for the late response.
      First off, congrats for having a smoking hot wife ; ) I am not married, so it is hard for me to say, but I think you should be fine as long as you are a confident guy and are not afraid of losing her because of her looks. Relating to having a really hot GF a while back, that fear of her being “too good” for you or having to impress her to keep her around in the end is what really turns her away. I find that it is the men who are so comfortable with themselves and have such trust in their relationships/women that they don’t give a fuck when someone hits on their wife who usually have nothing to worry about because that is attractive.
      I don’t know anything about you so I cannot make any assumptions, but if you are looking for articles to keep your wife happy beware of that line of becoming the needy guy who is just trying anything to keep her around. If you trust her and you believe in yourself, you have nothing to worry about.
      But I wouldn’t be over protective or anything, just proud.
      I will get Joe’l on here, who is married to comment as well.

    • DO NOT APPROACH WITH ANGER OR JEALOUSY! SIMPLY acknowledge the fact that she is the most desirable woman on the face of the earth! (that is why you picked her , right?) Well anyway,unless she is having sex elsewhere(and not with herself) The short answer is just ENJOY when she comes home to fuck the snot out of you. AND MAKE SURE that you tell her just how beautiful AND sexy,passionate,intelligent,loving……. she really IS. GET WITH THE PROGRAM, PAL! oh! maybe(DO)LET HER KNOW when she is around, how she arouses the Animal Passion in you. (she does doesn’t she???) she obviously does in the BOZOS (OTHER GENTLEMEN HAH?) THAT HIT ON HER…. PS IF you don’t the next time she just might be fuckin the snot out of Bozo.

  1. John, I agree with Sean on this. I would like to add one thing; women love to be hit on by other men. Although, we are in a committed relationship, it makes us feel good to know that we are still desirable (personality-wise or looks-wise) to the opposite sex. Try to find satisfaction in the fact that you have a woman that is thoroughly desired by other men and still wants to come home to you; you’re lucky. However, if she is crossing boundaries, or not being truthful about being in a committed relationship during these flirtations VOICE your concerns to her, while remaining confident in yourself. Sometimes women go overboard and what they are looking for is a way to resurrect their self-esteem through others. I don’t know your relationship personally but I would say if you don’t feel threatened by her actions then try to enjoy your smoking wife’s assets; if you do have a problem with them, analyze WHY it’s bothering you. Best of luck!

    • Thanks for reply . I have for 20+ years taken men’s flirting as a complement to my wife. This mans wife is best friend with my wife we arnt really that friendly to each other not to say we arnt friends just not like our wives. For the past 7 years we along with two other couples always go somewhere for a short vacation . He hits on my wife all the time but only when.he thinks I’m not watching he is scared of me due to my past fighting as a young man not now tho. I can’t stand to watch it anymore his wife just accepts his many extramarital affairs so she dosent say a word and I don’t feel it’s my place to tell a man how to treat another mans wife . So what do I do. His own wife says he’s a snake I’m the grass but she’s my wife’s best friend. I trust my wife she gets hit on all the time but it’s different when the supposed friend contiues to hit on her behind my back. My wife is nice to everyone and some men take it the wrong way as matter of fact most men are stupid and thinks she’s hitting on them when she’s just being herself and I love her just the way she is. So there’s my dilemma . Thanks for response.

      • That is a more interesting situation.
        It sounds to me like your friend is trying to sleep with your wife, if in fact he has already had many extramarital affairs. What would I do? He would no longer be a friend of mine. At the minimum I would say something to him if it continued. If he is actively trying to make advances on your wife, not just jokingly – It is way over the line.

        • Thanks for reply I’ve already told my wife I’m done with him of course it crushed her because they are best friends with his wife but she agrees and is going to tell her why we can no longer be around then . How ackward for my wife to have to do that but she said that would be best way. I should of never started the friendship I knew his background I don’t know what I was thinking but it’s handled and it sounds like I’m doing the right thing. But of course his wife wouldn’t of noticed his advances ! Ha she’s playind stupid and I’m tired of playind it’s fix into get serious if I don’t put an end to it . I’ve always taken men hitting on my wife as a complement. But not when a friend and is really trying but I let it go too long for my wife and her friend. Thanks again


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