It’s Friday night and you don’t how to meet women. Tough luck, right? Well, fortunately, it’s actually NOT as hard as it sounds.
In fact, it’s pretty damn simple once you get the basics down. What if I told you that getting lucky could be boiled down to four simple steps? Just four steps, and you’ll know exactly how to get laid. Well, here they are… study them and test them out yourself.
Introduction: The OSSE Framework
There’s a ton of different tutorials on how to get laid out there, ranging from the Mystery Method to Real Social Dynamics, to “Horny Singles In Your Area Want To F*CK!”
But the most powerful method I’ve ever seen is the one I created called the “OSSE Framework.” It’s based on a very simple premise…
To sleep with a girl, your interaction will go through four stages:
- Social Hook
- Sexual Hook
That’s it. No fancy gimmicks, no crazy tricks, and no acting like a dancing clown. All you need to do is follow these simple steps, and you’ll be getting laid tonight.
Step 1. The Open
As easy as it is to open chicks, this is actually the hardest part. Most guys get stuck in the eternal battle of approach anxiety.
“Should I approach her? What if she rejects me? Is that her boyfriend?” Countless thoughts will gush through your head like the Mississippi river on high tide.
What’s important is that you just take the first step, though.
Most people don’t realize it, but even the most experienced pickup artists and dating coaches experience approach anxiety. The only difference is that we suck it up, and take action anyway.
To ace your open, you need to get five things down:
- Body Language
If you are lacking in any one of these five criteria, you’re at a serious advantage. None of them are particularly difficult to do well, and most guys get none of them well.
The first is your opener… that’s basically just what you say to the girl.
My favorite type of PUA opener is the “observational opener,” which is where you just observe something about her. It could be something about her coat, something about if you think she’s in college, what she does for work, or even her astrological sign.
It doesn’t matter what. Just say something and open her.
Next is vibe… be sure you’re not demanding anything of her, and are in a generally good mood. You don’t have to be perfect, but just don’t be negative and creepy.
Third, is your body language—this is what most guys screw up! You almost always want to be facing her directly, unless she’s walking somewhere. You’re a man. She’s a woman. Let her know that you’re interested in talking to her. Don’t do this pussy shit where you stand side by side like you’re her girlfriend.
Next up is your tonality. This is BY FAR the most important thing, and the thing that most guys screw up. I’m going to give it to you very simple: be louder.
It doesn’t matter if you think you’re yelling. In the club, you need to speak very loudly so she can hear you. The second she can’t hear you, she will get bored and leave.
Lastly is your image. This is simply your style, your hair, your facial hair, and the overall image that you project.
For example… are you a “bad boy” or a “preppy guy”? This might seem like a dumb question, but really narrowing down your “type” is a good exercise to do.
Step 2: Social Hook
Next is step two, which is the social hook. This is where you get her at least somewhat interested in carrying on the conversation back with you.
The way you know you’re here is if she asks something in return, and starts to do some of the work in keeping the conversation going.
Most guys mess up, because they just give their opener, and act as if it’s now her job to start talking to you. It’s not. You don’t stop after you give your opener. You keep talking. You can give her space, and wait a little bit in between sentences to let her talk, but it’s important you don’t stop.
If you just stop and stare at her, she will feel pressured to continue a conversation she didn’t even initiate—and will blow you out of the water, like a fish meeting dynamite.
Once you get to the social hook, ideally you want her to start doing 60% or more of the conversation. Women LOVE to talk, and the more they talk, the easier it is for you.
Just listen, ask strategic questions, and vibe with her. Tease her, play with her, and once she seems into you, start flirting with her, which is step three.
Step 3: Sexual Hook
The third step is the sexual hook. This is by far the one that most guys struggle with, and experience the most difficulty mastering.
The goal of this step is simple. Start flirting with her, and potentially escalating things in the club (or wherever), so she knows you’re a sexual man.
Most guys are afraid to show their sexuality, but in reality, it’s actually a good thing. It shows her that you’ve got balls, and this is attractive.
Even if she rejects your advances, she will at least respect you. Do you know what she can’t respect, though? A little bitch boy too afraid to escalate.
Here are some ways you can start to escalate:
- Touch her waist
- Touch her lower back
- Kiss her
- Hug her
- Hold her hand
Any one of these things will prove fine for sexual escalation. Don’t overdo it though, because you want to keep her waiting and chasing.
If you try to escalate, and she doesn’t seem too interested, that’s fine. Keep talking and having fun, then try again in 10-15 minutes.
Sometimes she just isn’t warmed up to you yet, so don’t take it personally. If you try again a few times and she continues to reject you, grab her number and go find another girl.
Step 4: Extraction
For the fourth and final step, you want to get somewhere that sex can happen between you and the girl. This is arguably the most difficult.
I recommend throwing parties at your house, and having airtight social proof because it will make the experience of extraction go so much smoother.
For the most part, you want to slowly extract, though… and always have a reason to go home to your place.
For example, if you have a hot tub at your place, literally all you have to do is say “I’ve got a hot tub at my place, let’s go there,” and she’ll most likely be down (assuming she’s into you, and that she was fine with your sexual advances).
Other excuses to go home could be:
- You’ve got some cool type of alcohol at your place
- You have a really nice view
- There’s a great pizza place nearby where you live
- You want some water
That last one isn’t a joke, by the way… I’ve literally had girls tell me they want me to go back to their place because they want some “water.” Girls aren’t stupid. They know that if you both go back to their place at 3 in the morning, sexual things are likely to happen. They know what’s up.
Another important key is that your logistics should be ideal. Let me ask you a question… would a newbie with good logistics, or an expert with bad logistics get laid more?
The newbie will get laid more every single time. The reason why? It’s simple. If you live right across the club, you can literally walk home, bang, and be back at the club within 30 minutes and nobody will know.
If you live an hour away, though? It’s really hard to convince a girl to come home with you that far… logistics trump game almost every time.
Some Final Thoughts
Overall, getting laid really isn’t that hard. You don’t even have to be that special to get laid… you just need to put in a little bit of effort and be willing to get rejected.
Get back on your feet and try again. It’s not that hard. Just keep going.
There’s a ton of articles here to help you as well. I recommend reading the following before you go out tonight:
- The Ultimate Guide For Your Dating Life
- 5 Lessons I Learned From Talking to 200+ Girls on the Street
- How to Talk to Women in 3 Simple Steps
- Are You Magnetically Attractive? One Trait All Women Want in Men
While it’s important to read, be sure to take massive action. Taking action will get you 99% of your results in this game, so it’s important you go out.
You now have everything you need. Get a buddy if you can, and go wing it tonight. Let us know if you have any questions in the comments section below, and I’ll see you around!