100 Good Conversation Starters to Use With a Girl You Just Met

I suck at conversations. Straight up.

And even an awkward shy guy like me learned to be a magnetic love machine.

It all came down to one thing. Using the right conversation starters.

In this article, I will break down the 100 best conversation starters to use with a girl who you either want to get to know or are already talking with, and want to continue interacting with.

We will start with low risk conversation openers that can apply to any situation – and as the article goes on, we will develop into more sensual and deep conversation starters that will help you create deep connection and rapport.

Are you ready? Of course you are.

So, What’s a Good Conversation Starter?

A good conversation starter is a question or statement that creates intrigue, excitement and deep interest from the person you are conversing with. You want to avoid interview like questions, or questions that elicit single word answers from her. This leads only to awkward pauses and bad conversation.

Now, onto the list.

Good Conversation Starters With a Girl You Just Met

First up are the low risk, safe for anytime use conversation starters. These first 25 conversation starters are fantastic to use with a girl you just met. Maybe you stopped her on the street or you two are sharing a long elevator ride.

Either way, these are light hearted, yet not boring.

1-5: Compliments That Aren’t Over-the-Top

1: “I love your sense of style. Where do you usually shop?”

2: “You have a great smile! It’s really contagious.”

3: “You seem really confident. What’s your secret?”

4: “That’s an interesting necklace (or accessory). Is there a story behind it?”

5: “You have great taste in music. What’s your favorite band or artist?”

6-10: Observations and Icebreakers

6: “This place has such a great vibe. Have you been here before?”

7: “I noticed you seem really relaxed—are you always this calm, or is today special?”

8: “It looks like you’re having a good time. What’s been the highlight of your day so far?”

9: “I overheard you mention [topic]. I’d love to know more about it!”

10: “You seem like someone who knows the good spots around here. Any recommendations?”

11-15: Questions About Interests

11: “What do you usually do for fun?”

12: “Are you into any shows or movies lately? I need some good recommendations.”

13: “What’s your favorite way to spend a Saturday?”

14: “Do you have a favorite hobby or activity that you love?”

15: “What’s one thing you’re really passionate about?“

16-20: Casual and Friendly Starters

16: “Hi! I’m [Your Name]. What’s your name?”

17: “I feel like I should know you already. What’s your story?”

18: “What brought you here today?”

19: “You look like someone who has interesting travel stories. What’s the best place you’ve visited?”

20: “This event is pretty cool. Have you been to something like this before?”

21-25: Playful and Fun

21: “If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?”

22: “Quick question: dogs or cats?”

23: “If you could teleport anywhere right now, where would you go?”

24: “What’s your go-to comfort food when you’re having a bad day?”

25: “If you could trade lives with anyone for a day, who would it be and why?”

Use these good conversation starters with girls who you really don’t know yet. They are sure to keep her engaged without sounding like pick up lines and without creeping her out. This will lead to a more in depth conversation where these next conversation starters will come in handy.

Good Conversation Starters With a Girl You Know Already

This next group of conversation starters is great to use with a girl you already know but are still not that close with. Maybe you’re grabbing a coffee for the first time or sharing a bus ride together.

Either way, these questions/statements are a little less formal and will help get the conversation flowing and create some rapport between you.

26-30: Fun and Playful Questions

26: “If you could live in any fictional world, where would it be?”

27: “What’s your favorite way to spend a lazy day?”

28: “What’s a food you tried once but would never eat again?”

29: “If you were famous for something, what would it be?”

30: “What’s your favorite childhood memory?”

31-35: Creative and Curious

31: “If you had a theme song, what would it be?”

32: “What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?”

33: “If you could swap lives with any celebrity for a week, who would it be?”

34: “What’s a random fun fact you know?”

35: “If you could only eat one type of cuisine for the rest of your life, what would it be?”

36-40: Engaging and Lighthearted

36: “What’s a trend or style you secretly love?”

37: “Do you believe in luck, or do we make our own?”

38: “If you could live anywhere for a year, where would it be?”

39: “What’s something you’ve done that you’re really proud of?”

40: “What’s the last thing you did just for fun?”

41-50: Funny Conversation Starters

41: “So, what’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever done for free food?”

42: “If we were stuck in a zombie apocalypse, what’s your survival plan—and do I get to be in it?”

43: “What’s your guilty pleasure TV show—the one you’d only admit to on a first date?”

44: “If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, how long before you hate it?”

45: “Be honest: Are you just here for the free meal, or do I actually have a chance?”

46-50: Professional Conversation Starters

In networking situations, having the right conversation openers can help you establish connections and make a lasting impression while still being professional. So if you just saw the love of your life give a keynote speech, then these conversation starters are a great way to create a connection and get to know her better.

46: “What is your source of motivation?“

47: “Do you have any secret tips for introverts to fit into extraverted territory?“

48: “Your speech was amazing, what is your source of inspiration?“

49: “Do you often visit such events? Which ones would you recommend next?“

50: “You are a very interesting person. What do you do for a living & what do you do for fun?

These convo starters are perfect for the start of a first date or any time you find yourself in a conversation with a girl or even just a friend. The next ones will take things to the next level.

Deep Conversation Starters For a Girl You Are on a Date With

Now things are starting to heat up. If you’re on a first date or back at your place with a girl then you’ll want to get a little bit more deep with your conversations. These conversation starters are sure to do just that.

51-60: Personal and Reflective Questions

51: “What is your biggest dream in life?“

52: “What inspires you the most?“

53: “If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?“

54: “What do you value most in a friendship?“

55: “What motivates you to keep going during tough times?“

56-60: Continued..

56: “How do you usually handle stress?“

57: “What is the most important lesson you’ve learned so far?“

58: “If you could relive one moment from your past, which would it be?“

59: “Who has had the greatest influence on your life?“

60: “What does success mean to you?“

61-70: Love and Relationships

61: “What qualities do you look for in a partner?“

62: “How do you know when you’re in love?“

63: “What’s the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?“

64: “What’s your idea of a perfect date?“

65: “How do you handle disagreements in relationships?“

66-70: Continued..

66: “What’s your love language?“

67: “What do you think makes a relationship strong?“

68: “What’s the most important thing in a relationship to you?“

69: “Have you ever had your heart broken? How did you heal?“

70: “How do you balance independence and togetherness in a relationship?“

71-75: Dreams and Aspirations

71: “What’s your ultimate life goal?“

72: “If money wasn’t an issue, what would you do every day?“

73: “What do you want to be remembered for?“

74: “Do you believe in destiny, or do we make our own paths?“

75: “What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try but never have?“

Use these deep conversations when you are in an intimate situation with a girl. Maybe having a drink at a lounge or sitting on your couch after a nice dinner you cooked her. It will be sure to help you create a deep connection with her that will lead to the advancement of your physical relationship together. Just make sure you make the first move when the time is right.

Intimate Conversation Starters

The last section we are going to cover, goes into more sexual conversation starters to use with women who you are in a more intimate situation with. Definitely do not use these women that you just met. Respect boundaries and use your emotional intelligence. 

These are perfect for a third date or when you are back at your place and you feel like it’s time to make the first move. For more help with making the first move out the end of this article.

76-80: Playful and Flirty Starters

76: “What’s the most romantic thing someone’s ever done for you?”

77: “What’s your favorite way to be kissed?”

78: “What kind of compliments make you feel the most special?”

79: “Are you more of a slow-burn or instant chemistry kind of person?”

80: “What’s the sexiest thing someone could say to you?”

81-85: Exploring Preferences

81: “What makes you feel the most desired?”

82: “Do you prefer sweet gestures or spicy surprises?”

83: “What’s a little thing someone can do that completely turns you on?”

84: “Do you like being in control, or do you prefer someone else taking the lead?”

85: “What’s your favorite way to unwind after a long day?”

86-90: Hypothetical and Fun

86: “If you could plan the most romantic night ever, what would it look like?”

87: “If we were stuck on a deserted island, what’s one thing you’d want us to have?”

88: “If you had a secret fantasy, how would you describe it?”

89: “If tonight could be perfect, what would that look like to you?”

90: “Do you believe in love at first sight, or is chemistry something you build?”

91-95: Teasing and Personal

91: “What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?”

92: “What’s something about me that you find irresistible?”

93: “Do you like it when someone whispers sweet things in your ear?”

93: “What’s your favorite place to be touched?”

94: “What’s one secret about yourself that you think would surprise me?”

96-100: Setting the Mood

96: “What kind of music puts you in the mood for something intimate?”

97: “Do you prefer candlelight, dim lights, or something else entirely?”

98: “What’s your idea of the perfect night in?”

99: “What’s something simple that makes you feel excited?”

100: “What’s the best way to make you feel completely relaxed and happy?”

Again, use these starters wisely and make sure that you’re not overstepping her boundaries, and always back off if she gives you any signs that she is uncomfortable or not into it. Expressing your desire to a woman is a normal and healthy thing to do so if the feelings is right then enjoy.

Putting it Into Practice

Using good conversation, starters with a girl is essential, but it’s only a small piece of the puzzle.

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If you have any good conversation starters that you like to use with women, then let us know when the comments below. Would love to hear what works best for you and will help other guys who are reading this as well.

Be well and get conversing.