The First Date Gameplan: 20 Steps to An Amazing First Date

The First Date Gameplan: 20 Steps to An Amazing First Date

The First Date Gameplan: 20 Steps to An Amazing First Date

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First dates are the exciting beginning of a potential relationship. They can set the stage for future interactions and determine whether a connection is worth pursuing.

With so much at stake, it’s no wonder that people want to make their first date memorable.

In this article, we’ll explore tips and tricks for making your first date stand out.

Part 1: Mindset Preparation

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Having a great first date begins before the date even starts.

If you show up (overly) nervous, needy, or with the wrong attitude, things can get weird real fast. Here’s what to do:

Step 1: Eliminate Expectations

Disappointment comes from needing to experience a certain result to feel successful. You can go into the date expecting her to fall head over heels with you. Just go in without any expectations and have a good time. No matter what happens you get to have night out with an interesting person.

Step 2: Get Your Nerves in Check

It’s normal to be nervous, but you need to realize that she’s nervous too! Once you eliminate expectations, it will take the pressure off. You don’t need to achieve anything. All you can do is be yourself, and if you hit it off – great! But if you don’t, great! There are so many amazing fish in the sea. Relax and enjoy connecting to and learning about a new person, that you might love or that you might not.

Part 2: Choosing the Right Location

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The next step to planning a great first date is to choose the right location. It’s not the deciding factor, but it can really make a difference. Here’s what to do:

Step 3: Prioritize Comfort and Atmosphere

The venue you choose for your first date can greatly influence the overall experience. Opt for a location that is cozy and inviting, allowing you and your date to feel at ease.

Consider a local coffee shop, a park, or a museum – places where you can engage in conversation without distractions. Avoid noisy or crowded locations, as they can make it difficult to get to know one another.

Step 4: Consider Your Shared Interests

When deciding on a location, consider the interests you have in common with your date. By selecting a venue related to your shared passions, you create a natural conversation starter and increase the likelihood of an enjoyable experience.

If you both enjoy the arts, perhaps a visit to an art gallery or a live performance is in order. For nature enthusiasts, a hike or a botanical garden might be a perfect choice.

Part 3: Make a Good First Impression

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Alright so she just texted you, she’s here! Time to meet. It may be the first time you’re ever seeing her, or maybe your meeting a few days after getting her number. Either way, this is a pivotal moment to make a great first impression and start off your first day right. Here’s what to do:

Step 5: Greet Her Right

So she walks in – you see her for the first time. Wow, she looks amazing. Whatever you do, don’t shake her hand! Just kidding, but in most cases don’t.

The only time I think it’s ok to greet her with a handshake is if it’s a blind date and you have never made any contact at all. Then this is a normal introduction, even for a first date.

A great way to greet her is with a hug. You may feel awkward wondering if she’s down for that, but a great way to create that energetic understanding is when you see her and you two are walking towards each other, look at her and hold your hands open – palms up.

This body language says – “There you are. I’m so glad to finally see you.” and signalsw safety in her (palms up), and implies a gentle hug.

After that, tell her how incredible she looks.

Step 6: Lead

After the greeting, be a confident guy and lead her to the next part of your first date.

Don’t say, “So..what do you want to do?”

Take charge. Be decisive while still valuing her wants and needs and being open to anything.

Say something like, “I thought we would take a walk around the park and then grab some lunch at this really cool cafe down the street, how does that sound?”

Or, “I got us a table inside – let’s grab some food.”

This will show her right from the first date that you’re a confident & decisive man who can take care of her. It’s also very sexy.

Part 4: Engaging in Conversation

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The next part of the first date is the conversation, which for most guys is the hardest part! We’ve got over 2 hours of HD video training on how to have great conversation in our dating program on Menprovement X, but here are some tips to get you started.

Step 7: Be Curious and Attentive

First dates are an opportunity to learn more about your potential partner. Rather than sticking to surface-level small talk, aim to delve deeper by asking open-ended questions that encourage meaningful conversation.

By showing genuine interest in your date’s life, opinions, and feelings, you can foster a sense of connection and make the conversation more enjoyable.

Step 8: Share Your Stories

While asking questions is important, don’t forget to share your own stories and experiences. By opening up about yourself, you demonstrate trust and vulnerability, which can lead to a stronger connection. Be honest and genuine, and don’t be afraid to show your personality.

There are a variety of topics that interest women and men, which you can easily explore by conversing about your favorite books, films, or hobbies.

Part 5: Creating a Positive Atmosphere & Minding Your Manners

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On the first date, there are a few more things to keep in mind.

Step 9: Be Punctual

Arriving on time for your first date is crucial. Punctuality demonstrates respect for your date’s time and sets a positive tone for the rest of the evening. If unforeseen circumstances arise and you’re running late, be sure to communicate this to your date as soon as possible.

Step 10: Practice Good Etiquette

Good manners go a long way in creating a positive first impression. Be polite to your date and to the staff at the venue, and practice good table manners if you’re dining out. Remember to say “please” and “thank you,” and be mindful of your body language – maintain eye contact and avoid crossing your arms or slouching.

Part 5: Thoughtful Gestures

You don’t have to appear needy to go the extra mile on the first date. Here’s how to do it:

Step 11: Dress to Impress

While it’s important to be comfortable, putting effort into your appearance shows that you value the occasion. Dress appropriately for the chosen venue, and ensure that your clothing is clean and well-fitting.

A well-groomed appearance can boost your confidence and make a positive impression on your date. Menprovement’s style section can help you with this.

Step 12: Plan a Surprise

A thoughtful surprise can make your first date memorable and show your date that you’ve put thought into the experience. This doesn’t have to be extravagant – a small, meaningful gesture can be just as impactful.

For example, you might bring a favorite book for your date to borrow or suggest a detour to a hidden gem in the city that you think they’ll appreciate.

Part 6: Navigating the End of the First Date

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Okay, so you made it this far. Well done. Now the date is coming to a close. Here is some advice on how to navigate these waters for a powerful and lasting impression.

Step 13: Be Genuine in Your Feedback

If you enjoyed your time together, be honest about your feelings. Express your appreciation for the date and mention specific aspects that you found enjoyable. Being genuine in your feedback can leave a lasting impression and pave the way for future dates.

Step 14: Respect Your Date’s Boundaries

As the date comes to a close, it’s important to be mindful of your date’s personal boundaries. Be attentive to their body language and respect their comfort level.

If you’re unsure about whether or not to go for a hug, handshake, or kiss, it’s always better to err on the side of caution and ask for their preference.

Step 15: Follow Up After the Date

Following up after a first date is an essential part of building a connection. Sending a message or making a phone call within a day or two shows that you’re still interested and provides an opportunity to discuss your shared experience.

Keep the conversation light and, if appropriate, express your interest in seeing them again.


In conclusion, planning an awesome first date involves a combination of thoughtful preparation, engaging conversation, and mutual respect. By considering your date’s preferences, being attentive, and going the extra mile with a personal touch, you can create a memorable experience that lays the foundation for a blossoming relationship.

Remember, the most important aspect of any first date is to be genuine, authentic, and true to yourself.

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